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Archived questions from: April, 2014 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

For the grown folks, what advice would you give to your adult child who is about to move out?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3641 days ago

30 April 2014 (F) - Hey everyone, I just graduated from nursing school and I'm 18 years old and I got a job as a licensed practical nurse, it's feels great and I make a decent pay check :) but I'm thinking about moving out of my former guardians home because I'm not ...

Am I too pessimistic about relationships?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3643 days ago

28 April 2014 (M) - I went out yesterday with some friends and I was looking around me. I kept seeing all sorts of couples hugging, holding hands, kissing, looking happy, etc. There were really a lot of them and I felt a bit sad and awkward. All this was kinda weird ...

How do I get my old friend back? She has turned to God and her personality has changed.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3644 days ago

28 April 2014 (F) - Hello. So I have this friend. She was great in high school. Fun, friendly, happy to go out all the time and try new things. Well, she ended up with a few boyfriends (none which lasted very long and hurt her terribly) which made her go back t...

Retrograde Jealousy: After 4 years of marriage, out of nowhere, I have begun to play out the STI image and what went on in my wife's life

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3640 days ago

28 April 2014 (M) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, Please let me share my question with you which I have discovered by reading up on articles, is labelled as ‘retrograde jealousy.’ I am 47, (male) and my wife 52. We have been married for just over 4 years since 2010. We...

Over 30 and single - what did I do wrong?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3296 days ago

27 April 2014 (F) - Every girl dreams of the happy family and nice man that they will one day marry. We are taught from an early age that the Princess always ends up with the Handsome Prince. The scatty girl in the Rom-Com always finds her true love. Your best friends ...

I'm scared of my ex and feel extreme fear, panic, anxiety and pain yet I cant seem to get over her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3636 days ago

27 April 2014 (M) - Don't know if this in the right place for this? Anyone who has been through something similar your advice would be gratefully appreciated. Sorry if I'm a bit candid. My ex is a psychiatrist. She was controlling, abusive, cheated on me. She psyc...

Sex/Intercourse with a partner versus Head/Fellatio with a partner? Why can't I orgasm from the latter and prefer Intercourse instead?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3643 days ago

27 April 2014 (M) - So is something wrong with me that I can't seem to come from getting head? I've only ever gotten it from my girlfriend (she's my first) and I never come from it, I got close once but generally it doesn't feel as good as sex. Is this normal? I me...

The elderly lady who lives just down the street from me indulges in nasty gossip and its making me very uncomfortable

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3643 days ago

26 April 2014 (?) - Hello. There is an elderly lady who lives just down the street from me. I walk past her house every day. She is friendly and talks to me - in fact, she talks to everyone - and I am happy to chat to her. However, she gossips about people and is often ...

Is it awful for me to wish my mother was nicer to me? And bad to wish my father would leave her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3647 days ago

25 April 2014 (F) - I live with my mum and dad and two brothers. My mother has never been the loving type toward me. One of my brothers is older than me and my other brother is younger than me and when we were younger they both used to team up against me when we'd get...

Too Good to be true? Yet he can be VERY controlling. To the point that he scares me sometimes. What to do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3647 days ago

25 April 2014 (F) - I would like some level-headed unbiased advice on this please. My boyfriend is so good in so many ways but a few traits let him down and I don't know whether these should be deal breakers. We've been together 2 years. I have two children from a...

I want to keep this private. What should I say if classmates ask about my absence, without sounding rude and mean?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3647 days ago

24 April 2014 (F) - Hi I'm 14 and need advice on what to tell people when I go to the therapist. I will go on Monday for the first time. It is weekly and will fall on the same day, time and lesson. The teachers know but I'm unsure about what I'll say to my 'class...

My life is a mess! How do I tell my parents that I've failed my degree and won't be graduating after all?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3647 days ago

24 April 2014 (F) - Hi Everyone, I've been following this website for a few years and always been impressed by the advice given so thought I would give it a go. Please don't judge me in my problems, I need help. So nearly 4 years ago, I was in a relationship, my...

I imagined having a boyfriend would be a nice experience, but I find myself alone, fighting to be by the side of a person who is thinking about someone else

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3648 days ago

24 April 2014 (F) - Today is my boyfriend's birthday, we've been together for one month and a half (we were friends before becoming a couple). I baked a cake, bought candles, made a card, bought tons of presents, I just want to make him happy. First thing he ...

My husband is having an affair. Am I stupid for staying with him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3641 days ago

24 April 2014 (F) - I discovered when I was 8 months pregnant that my husband of 10 years was cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover in a text message and was assured by both that it would not continue. I had several times where I caught him texting her but her ...

We are both virgins in a LDR together. How should I initiate touching her chest?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3648 days ago

24 April 2014 (M) - I have been in a long distance relationship with an amazing woman for over 2 years. We are both virgins, and I just wondered how I should go about touching her chest? Should I ask her first or just go ahead and try? I really have no idea what I s...

I'm gay, but my family are worried about possible abuse I might get. Any advice? Should I try to ease their concerns?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3647 days ago

24 April 2014 (?) - I quickly want to point out that this is not a complaint about my family, I completely understand what they're saying and why, but just wanted to hear some other views on the matter. I am gay, it's no secret, I've always known and my friends a...

Should I be worried that my friend dates underage girls?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3649 days ago

23 April 2014 (M) - Hi. I am a 31 year old male. I have a friend who is 23 who dates a lot of underage girls who are maybe 16-17 years old. In fact, it has become a running joke in our circle of friends that his girlfriends are teenagers. However, in the time I have k...

I hate the fact that I am with someone that carried on an affair with a married man in the past, and I actually know this guy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3530 days ago

23 April 2014 (M) - Recently I found out that my girlfriend has (in the past) dated and slept with a married man. I happen to know him too. We're not close, but we've hung out before. I had no idea they had that type of situation in the past, and even though it is in ...

Which of the two guys should I choose?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3648 days ago

23 April 2014 (F) - hello, I'm stuck between two guys and I need an advice. "guy no1" is the "good looking", "im perfect" kind of guy and I dislike that but at the same time he doesn't act like that around me, in fact I pushed him away so many times and he still ma...

Are women too independent for men these days or have they been so mucked around by men that they have lost interest?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3647 days ago

23 April 2014 (M) - I was in a relationship for 20 years, it ended nearly 2 years ago. It seems woman these days are less wanting of a man in there lives, is this right or are my values a little dated. I like to spend time together watching movies and going out to all...

My landlord's staring makes me uncomfortable!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3635 days ago

22 April 2014 (F) - Hi, i need a mans point of view on this, my landlord always flirts with me, and i noticed him staring at my chest more than my face when he speaks to make, i now put on jumpers to make sure i don't encourage him, but he still does it, just there i ...

I'm a shy, quiet person and wonder what volunteer or other opportunities I should explore?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3642 days ago

22 April 2014 (F) - I am on Jobseeker's Allowance, which are benefits that we have here in the UK. I get these benefits from the jobcentre. I have been told my advisor at the jobcentre that I have to do some voluntary work soon. She said that I can choose where to ...

Would it bother you to learn that your bf/gf had smoked weed in the past?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3647 days ago

22 April 2014 (F) - Hi Everyone! Quick question here: When I was dating my ex-bf I told him that I had smoked weed with some friends a few times before we started dating (I was 21 at the time and had smoked a total of 7 times in my life) and he FREAKED out, and sa...

My life has been shattered. Where do I go from here?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3649 days ago

21 April 2014 (M) - Where I begin I have no idea? Some of you my find this unbelievable, but I assure you what I am about to tell you is true. Before 2008 my life was really good. I had a great job. Had at the time what I thought was an amazing woman. I had just...

He's quiet while I'm confused....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3652 days ago

20 April 2014 (F) - Guys, please please tell us why so quiet? I have a boyfriend who is extremely quiet when we have sex. I like to make noise but have to be more subdued for two reasons, 1.his roommates and 2.he has told me once that it was one of the reasons why he ...

I'm at a crossroads: Career or Relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3652 days ago

19 April 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I'm at a crossroads at this point in my life. I need some advice on how to deal with this situation I'm in where I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 7-8 months. We are in love with each other and have i...

Any Easter traditions or ideas we can partake in?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3655 days ago

17 April 2014 (F) - I started dating a Jewish guy (I am Catholic) 6 months ago. We have moved in together recently. Things are going great! With the upcoming holidays (Passover and Easter) we find ourselves spending time with each other's family and taking part in each ...

I've found my soulmate but I'm not ready for the commitment just yet.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3656 days ago

16 April 2014 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and I know I wanna spend the rest of my life with him, something that I've known since I met him, but only recently hit me. I got with my boyfriend when I was only 17 so I had never experience...

When men watch porn, are they pretending it's happening to them?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3646 days ago

16 April 2014 (F) - When men watch porn are they pretending it's happening to them? Are they pretending they are the male actor? I'm told they aren't, I don't understand what they get from it if that's not the case....

What's worse? Being in a relationship with a cheating coward or an arrogant know-it-all?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3657 days ago

15 April 2014 (F) - What's worse? - Being in a relationshpip with a cheating coward or a arrogant know-it-all? Or are both types equally undesirable? Any related comments or thoughts would be very helpful. Thank you ...

How can I stop feeling so lonely all the time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3657 days ago

15 April 2014 (F) - To make a long story short, I've always felt very lonely. As a kid my parents moved me around a lot and to different schools and I never really made any friends. High School was pretty bad because I was bullied. I have always been on the chubby side ...

Does a girl have a right ask for a Bf stay in some Sundays instead of going out every week

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3657 days ago

14 April 2014 (F) - Hello aunts and uncles. My problem relates to my boyfriend of 4 years as we had a bit of a disagreement earlier today. Basically, he is good friends with my best friend's boyfriend. They have just moved in together, whereas me and my bf sti...

What else can I do to lift my self esteem? Feel down and that I'm going no where in life, lack motivation and feel unattractive

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3657 days ago

14 April 2014 (M) - hello, i have quite low self esteem and im not a very confident guy, i dont know if this has anything to do with the size of my penis, i would consider it small , but that may be just me underestimating my self. Its just short of 6inches erect an...

Which woman do I choose?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3657 days ago

13 April 2014 (M) - Hey. I basically need a bit of help and guidance on which girl I should choose to have my future with. So the 1st girl I am in a relationship with, she is amazing. She is like the good wife, she is traditional and can love and look after her ...

Feeling like I will never have a boyfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3659 days ago

13 April 2014 (F) - Hi, I am having a problem I'm only 21 which I know is considered pretty young, but I feel like I will never have a boyfriend. I've had a couple of 'boyfriends' back in high school that didn't really last long and they weren't that serious about me...

I feel out of place.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3660 days ago

12 April 2014 (F) - Does anyone have problems with the changes that happen in your life as you get older? When I was younger I was pretty happy in life. In middle and high school I had some close friends and eventually had a first long term boyfriend. W...

There is tension at work but I can't quit!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3659 days ago

12 April 2014 (F) - hii i work for two guys in a restuarant and sometime back one of them asked me if i can sleep with him and i said no..so from that day he has been treating me so bad and showing me an attitude so the other one seems so mature so i talked to him ...

A difference in values and attitudes about money. Was I right to be honest about my feelings re his attitude to money?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3660 days ago

12 April 2014 (F) - My boyfriend (of 4.5 years) and I were talking today about the fact I'm doing a postgrad at uni as well as working full time. He said he doesn't understand why, because it's not going to increase the amount of money I earn, and I told him I enjoy...

If he feels he can't be with me, then why did he tell me he likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3619 days ago

12 April 2014 (F) - Hello. Feelings just happen, and have for me been like this for quite some time. I have a crush for a man but he is married. I kept my feelings to myself. I guess he also feels the same. We have always been professional. Recently while he ...

6 months pregnant and my dog has started waking me up every few hours! Why is she doing this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3659 days ago

12 April 2014 (F) - This isnt a relationship question but i would like some advice if anyone can give it to me. My problem is my dog....shes 3 years old so not a puppy and we have had her for almost 2 years..so she is very settled in the house. No routines have cha...

How am I supposed to feel less useless if my mother shouts at me and criticizes me all the time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3661 days ago

11 April 2014 (F) - I've decided I am going to try to get counselling because I feel very horribly about myself because my mother is very harsh on me and treats me like everything that goes wrong is my fault. She snaps at me all of the time when nothing has happ...

Work with my boyfriend at big ambitous company or fun risky independent?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3662 days ago

10 April 2014 (F) - Hi People, I really need some urgent help. I've been offered a job at two places and one of them is with my current boyfriend of 10 years. I've many factors to consider and i'm at a total loss of what to do. Job one: Increases my profes...

I found two long blonde hairs in my room and am worried my husband is cheatig again!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3659 days ago

10 April 2014 (F) - Found 2 hairs that aren't mine. My husband of 5 yrs used to cheat on me via Internet and once I found out he apologised and continued it for 2 long years and perfectly made lies although I found them all out. The other day I found 2 blonde long hair ...

Dream wedding and budget woes, am I asking for too much?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3661 days ago

10 April 2014 (F) - My fiance and I will be together for four years the end of June. We got engaged the end of this January and I wanted to figure things out with my education before we got into the thick of wedding planning. I'll graduate with my Bachelor's in English ...

I feel so low after the abortion, how do I get out of this rut?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3663 days ago

9 April 2014 (F) - Heya, sorry to ramble on in advance but i feel so alone. Well to start off i have recently had an abortion, and i regret it so much. Im not in a realtionship but had been sleeping with this guy on and off for two years. When i found out i wa...

I love studying architecture and am in my second year. But due to set backs should I abandon this study or keep on trying harder?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3663 days ago

9 April 2014 (F) - hello, agony aunts. I'm currently an architecture student in my 2nd year. In my 1st year I failed a major class and I had to extend another year, I passed that class now but I failed in another major class this time. I love this course, but shou...

My friends are getting married and starting families while I'm still chasing casual sex and other cheap thrills.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3643 days ago

8 April 2014 (M) - A really good friend of mine just announced to me about a couple of days ago that he's getting married. Obviously, I'm really happy for him but strangely enough, there's also another part of me that feels a little nostalgic and wistful. I remember ...

A bridal shower the second time around?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3664 days ago

7 April 2014 (F) - Ok, so if you have been widowed young and get remarried again, is it improper to have a bridal shower if you had one the first time?...

My daughter's boyfriend stands too close

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3661 days ago

7 April 2014 (?) - My daughters boyfriend is getting too close for comfort, he seems to stand too close to me from behind...at first I didn't pay any attention but now he does it all the time!! I feel stupid, am I making something out of nothing ...inside I feel ...

What do people think of Facebook and people who post endless photos of their children?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3664 days ago

6 April 2014 (?) - Good evening everyone, I have a friend on Facebook - I do know her in the "real" world - who is posting endless photos of her children. Her little girl is maybe 5 or 6 years now and her new baby boy is under 1 year. I find it very odd that sh...