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Archived questions from: January, 2016 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

What can you advise in this situation? It feels like I am option two.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3008 days ago

31 January 2016 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks and it's been amazing. The connection is unlike anything I've experienced in such a long time. I started to fall in love with him the second I first saw him. Magic. We love each others company, the sex is t...

Should I encourage him to take the job? Can our marriage survive as a LDR for 3 to 5 years?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3008 days ago

31 January 2016 (F) - Dear Cupids, I am a 35 year old woman, married with no kids. I love my husband and I love our life together. Yesterday he told me that his firm is considering sending him in a remote country 10hrs away by plane and he would have to work there fo...

I feel trapped. Is changing my identity and starting afresh an option to deal with my wish to be single and free?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3007 days ago

30 January 2016 (F) - Ok so I think there is something really wrong with me. I have never had any desire to get married or have a family-I'm 36. For the past couple of years in been fantasizng of changing my identity and leaving my life and starting fresh.... I just...

I'm not sure if this co-worker lied to me. How should I deal with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3009 days ago

30 January 2016 (F) - I'm involved in a delicate situation and I may have been lied to and now I'm not sure what to make of it all... There's a girl in my office, she is 19 and a temp- she's been with the company for 5 months. She is quite and just gets on wit...

How can I secure myself financially?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3008 days ago

30 January 2016 (F) - So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now... 3 of those we were saving up to buy a house. Well really he was the one doing the saving, as he served in the military and I was a University student on a tight budget. After finishin...

What can I do about my overbearing controlling sister in law? She also has power of attorney over my husband

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3010 days ago

29 January 2016 (F) - Should I give up on my marriage? my husband s oldest sister who is power of attorney to him and was power of attorney for his mom before his mom died still wants to be in charge of everything. No way in hell does she want to let go of this. ...

Help me beat my fear of violent sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2990 days ago

29 January 2016 (F) - I have a problem that's seriously interfering with my sex life. When I was 11, I learned about how sex worked by looking up naughty videos. These videos and games were hentai, and often portrayed sex as bloody and painful and that the woman di...

I've found love but is it too soon?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3007 days ago

29 January 2016 (F) - Hello everyone. I am going through a pretty complicated situation right now and I am in desperate need of advice. In April of last year, I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 and a half years. I knew about a year before the break up that I was done,...

I am mentally dating myself--am I crazy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3003 days ago

29 January 2016 (F) - Hi agony aunts, my story stems from when I was 9 years old. I had just freshly moved out of my dad's house to live with my grandmother after him and my mother separated. So I was very bored and had this second world of thought where I usually ...

Why does an extra marital affair last 3 years and still going strong?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3010 days ago

28 January 2016 (F) - What are the reasons an extra marital affair lasts going on 3 years?? Do most of them not end sooner? And realistically how much longer can it continue? Why does a married man stay this long with another woman? Surely it isn't a lapse in j...

I broke his heart because he said No to exclusivity. What causes fear of commitment?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3007 days ago

26 January 2016 (F) - I met a wonderful man online (26) and we dated for two months. We were basically BF and GF without the title, and it was the perfect relationship. We never established or assumed exclusivity but considering all factors it’s highly unlikely he was ...

Is it normal for a person to have crushes on other people while in a relationship and do nothing about it in the sense that they don't act on it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

25 January 2016 (M) - Hello, I've been classmates with this girl for around three years now in college, and she intrigues me quite a bit. Let me explain: during our first year she seemed to be a rather shy and socially awkward person. Cute, but very weird. She was ...

Do I need help (depression) or am I just complaining?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

24 January 2016 (M) - Hi, I don't know why I'm writing this - I'm not paying too much attention to what I'm writing, it's just kinda spewing out. I don’t know what I should do, or if I feel up or down about what I am these days. I don’t feel as depressed as I u...

I want to improve my English but can't stay focused for more than 10 minutes

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

24 January 2016 (F) - I am a lazy girl. I want to learn English well to get my life better. But when i open my book or my laptop, i just learn for about 10 minutes, and then i do other things: surf the internet for facebook or youtube funny video. How can i change ...

Do you think he was flirting?(Is my friend on to something?)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

24 January 2016 (F) - A while ago I went to the gym with my friend. When we get there we're greeted by a personal trainer, he asks what we came for. He offered to show me what to do. I'm a stickler for not paying for anything, so I asked about payment. He said no, won't ...

Our marriage is falling apart. I ask myself, 'why am I with him?' What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

23 January 2016 (F) - My marriage is falling apart and has been for some months. We aren't close and don't have a marriage in the true sense. We are more like friends now. Trust issues years ago regarding my husband haven't helped either. We've been married nearly 24 y...

I finally got a call for a job but now I'm feeling like I just want to stay unemployed. Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

23 January 2016 (F) - hi Dearcupids, my problem is not about relationships or love etc... I am an engineer I was unemployed for last 2 years. I always kept trying to get a job, I was very keen to be self-dependent. I often felt so insecure when my college mates got a ...

Why do people string others along?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

23 January 2016 (M) - My problem isn't romance or relationship related, but at this point the stress I'm feeling feels like a rejection. I seek advice here. Last year October I met with a mentor of mine and I expressed to her that I was looking for a job in a parti...

Have you ever had feelings for a guy who works at a store?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

22 January 2016 (F) - Okay so I've been going to a store for months. I used to go there, buy my stuff and then head to my home. The past few months I've been having feelings for the guy who works there. Maybe because of the way he talks to me, but really im suddenly ...

I've come to absolutely detest my husband's mother and his family because of her behavior towards me

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3015 days ago

22 January 2016 (F) - I got married almost a year ago to a wonderful man. Trouble is, I’ve absolutely come to detest his mother and his family. I met my husband at my place of work; we had a fairy-tale romance and finally a dream wedding. When my husband used to t...

Can't turn back the clock on what I saw

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

22 January 2016 (F) - Hi Aunties A few weeks ago I walked in on my boy friend masturbating in my bedroom. He has a key to my apartment, and I let him sleep there during the day when he works nights and I am at work. At the time it happened, he didn’t know that I ...

Is my friend telling the truth? Is it possible for a man to not be able to fall in love?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3015 days ago

22 January 2016 (F) - Before you read this, I wanted you all to know that I have no intention of doing anything with this man. I am looking to get advice from people who are kind enough to give it. I have lost guy friends due to them having feelings for me and so wh...

I keep bombing on the Statistics exams! Help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

21 January 2016 (F) - Advice please? I only need ONE class to graduate with a Bachelors, and that would be Statistics. This class is kicking my behind not because the material is hard, but the exams are timed short and I simply cannot compute that fast and so I failed ...

Has anyone ever had an experience that felt like they met their soulmate?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3017 days ago

21 January 2016 (F) - I know that it is scientifically impossible to state that there is a such thing as destiny, but it would be the same bias to say that merely freewill exists as well. I'm wondering if anyone here has ever falling in love with a person beyond the ...

Using the word "love" in greeting, birthday, or holiday cards.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3020 days ago

19 January 2016 (M) - Hi everyone, I'm curious what women think about this question. Now that the holidays are over Ive gone through all my Christmas cards again as I usually do before I put them away for the year. I keep every card I receive because if someone took ...

He Named His Song After Me But We Never Dated, Is This Normal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

18 January 2016 (F) - I was flirting with this guy whos a bit older (in his late 20s). We met recently and stuff moved really fast. We were about to start dating but TBH he was starting to be a dick so when he asked me out I said no (nicely) and when he pressed me I ...

Was my boss stepping over the boundaries?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

18 January 2016 (F) - The other day my boss joked that he wanted to delete his diary because he was fed up with meetings. Then he asked me if I had ever thought about doing something I shouldn't do. I made a joke and said no never because I am a saint. Then...

Can I have independence and still keep my marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3020 days ago

18 January 2016 (F) - Can someone tell me what's happening with me? I am in my mid 40 s, been married for 25 years, one grown up child that is independent and lives on her own. I have a hard time staying in this marriage the way my husband wants it to be. I have a...

I don't know how to label myself!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

18 January 2016 (F) - So I'm confused on what to label myself as and how to take a step towards my sexuality and getting to know people. First of, I'll admit that I'm bi. Yet, when I was looking at some types online I found the butch/femme lesbian type relationship and ...

Why do I get these feelings? I have no desire to be with a girl!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

18 January 2016 (F) - Im very confused. Ive always had feelings for guys and crushes on guys but often times i often look at girls butts and get "tense" in the area if u know what i mean. I hate these feelings and im still very attracted to guys. What do i do? I have no ...

do my feelings indicate actual gender identity issues?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

17 January 2016 (M) - Hi, I ticked male as my gender because there was no option to ignore and it said gender not sex, however I appear female and was born with female sex organs. So, basically I am "female" and refer to myself as a girl in most contexts, but deep dow...

Should I reveal all to the wife of my ex? My Bf will leave me if I fail to tell her

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3022 days ago

16 January 2016 (F) - Hi, I recently started dating an amazing guy, everything has been great and we are thinking about getting married. While talking about our pasts he found out that up until the day I met him I was still friends with an ex boyfriend. The...

Are people really ever not looking for a relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

15 January 2016 (M) - Dear All Firstly, thanks for reading this. I was just wondering, partly inspired by past experiences but also mostly just out of curiosity. Do you think people are ever really just "Not looking for a relationship"? I'm the type of ...

Am I missing out if I never date anyone else besides my girlfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3022 days ago

14 January 2016 (M) - Hello all. I think this question might make me seem ungrateful, so first of all I want to say that I realise that I'm very lucky to have a beautiful girlfriend who I really care for. We met when I was 18, and I'd always been too shy to ask a girl ...

I took care of her and she made me happy. Now she's terminally ill and I don't know what to do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

14 January 2016 (M) - I am a 25 year old guy. When I was young my parents weren't very supportive of me. They questioned every decision I took and every action I did. They were abusive. Nevertheless I was thankful of them for being there for me, for at least paying my ...

Long term affair has me shocked

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

14 January 2016 (M) - I recently found out that the affair my wife had about 30 years ago had been going on for almost 3 years... I was shocked. Back then after her affair was discovered, and came to an end, I never thought that it had lasted THAT long. My question is ...

Should I be lead by my dream life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

13 January 2016 (F) - I have had most of my dreams not all come to pass. Over 10 years ago, I had a dream that I had an operation on my breasts and I wasn't happy. About 4 years ago, I discovered a painful lump in my left breast and both my breast have been hurting ever ...

Am I a shopaholic?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

13 January 2016 (F) - Anytime I feel bad or stressed, I go out and get new clothes. And I have felt bad a lot of times last year and just had my first bad feeling today. So out I am to get new clothes. I can't help it. Does this make me a shopaholic. I am currently...

What's a reasonable degree of involvement with your in-laws?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

13 January 2016 (F) - I'd like to have opinions from the Dc community about what's a reasonable / sustainable degree of involvement with your in laws. ( I have my own opinion, and I am also pretty sanguine about it- but, although I hate to admit it :) I can't al...

Can't make head nor tail of this on/off friendship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3026 days ago

13 January 2016 (F) - I had a strong crush on an old colleague of mine. She and I use to be so close when I first started working at my old job. We use to laugh, flirt, chat and she would stare at me and smile all the time. She came to me one day and asked me for my ...

When is right to ask her over?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

13 January 2016 (M) - Hi, is four dates, too early to ask to come over to her place, bring a movie, and popcorn so we can be alone, and snuggle. We have been out dancing, out to eat, talking on the phone, that is texing. I have ask, she says its too early. I don't dr...

Why would a married man keep in touch with his mistress while on vacation with his wife?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

12 January 2016 (F) - Why does a married man who is on vacation with his wife keep in constant touch with his mistress while he is away? And tells her he misses her and can't wait to be with her again?...

Sex is good but he's gone cold

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

11 January 2016 (F) - I met a guy at uni a few months ago and i guess we sort of became fuck buddies having mostly drunken sex. It hasn't been constant but before Christmas it was happening regularly and it turned into a more friends with benefits as we spent more time ...

What are your thoughts about me dating my boss?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

11 January 2016 (F) - Hey There is a guy who wants to give a job. He has a tech business that is booming and has a lot of Franchises. He likes me a lot and we have only known each other for 2 months. I like talking to him and sharing jokes but am not in love and more...

Are my dreams trustworthy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3028 days ago

11 January 2016 (M) - I am a 39 yr old married man. Few years ago I was abroad for 3 years with my wife for a work assignment where I met this single woman of my nationality who was working in the same organization as me and 10 years my junior. We became good friends, ...

Moved in but should I move out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3028 days ago

11 January 2016 (F) - my bf of 3 yrs (on and off) and i just moved in together and he is a weird one. we do not sleep in the same room let alone the same bed. he hates my dog. we do not communicate and sex has become boring and almost non existent. he ignores me for ...

Was it the right decision? To not have child by him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3028 days ago

11 January 2016 (F) - Over 30 years ago I met a man who became my first love. Cutting a very long story short, we met through music. In the 80's he got a break and was signed to a major label. Our relationship suffered due to other women and the fact that my life was at ...

Did my boyfriend intend to send this email to another woman?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

11 January 2016 (F) - I have a very big problem and it's been eating away at me for the past few hours but it's been ongoing. I know the fine people of DC will be able to provide me with the best possible advice and that is why I am here reaching out to you. My boyfri...

She complained against me. Am I justified in being cold towards her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

10 January 2016 (M) - I have a weird situation. I'm taking a tennis class, and I got an odd phone call from the person who runs the tennis classes telling me they had a complaint that I (and a few other people) weren't good enough to be in that class. I spoke to the ...

Should I risk it all admitting my love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3027 days ago

10 January 2016 (F) - Last year,this guy came into my life, and i don't know how to tell him i love him. If I tell him how i feel it might wreck the friendship. If i don't then i will suffer my feelings. What should i do? Please help me....