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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

One for the guys... what kinds of things can a woman say to you or do to get your attention and keep it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I've lived around guys all my life; my dad and my two brothers, and I still don't have them figured out. So now I'm asking you, the random internet males, what kinds of things can a woman say to you or do to get your attention and keep it?...

Would I be overstepping the mark with a birthday card?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5245 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi! I just have a bit of a small issue. I am friends (very close friends, but I want it to be more) with a guy, we are like two peas in a pod, and it is his birthday soon. I really like him a lot, but he has a girlfriend. Would it be inappropri...

How do I stop blaming myself for masterbating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5277 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Hi Cupid, i feel blame whenever i masturbate and am trying to stop this but is hard. i feel sexual sometimes. i masturbate in order to to get satisfaction. is there any way i can stop this. i don't want to wasting my sperm and I don't want to have ...

Should I just break up with my boyfriend and live my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years now. We have a good relationship, but I'm no longer sure about if we should be together. The reasons why I doubt the relationship is that he can be really aggressive and (in my opinion) selfish and ...

How do I sort my head out and get back on track?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hello, i would be very grateful if you could read this and not judge. I just dont know whats wrong with me, my head is so messed up. I am 17 years old and i am currently studying my A2 levels (loads of work), i just recently passed my driving ...

Victim of love...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5290 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - hi. I never had problems with women, but I've always trusted too much and let myself vulnerable at every step of all my relationships. I've been cheated on, hurt, used, robbed, insulted, and pretty much abused. now I feel as tho I have been hurt so ...

What could it be?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5289 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hey, Me And My Boyfriedn Was Having Sex And He Said it Hurt When He Cumed But He Dont Want 2 Get Checked Out :/ But a Few Weeks Later i Had a Yellow Liquid In My Nikers And It Smelt Really Bad i Just Wanted 2 No If Thats Normal Because We Did Use a ...

On the one hand I love my wife and want to take care of her but at other times I want to move on...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - DearCupid, My wife and I have been going through some rough times for sometime now. There is no doubt about my love for her. Actually, sometimes I feel I fall in and out of love. Whenever I'm with her (she is going through difficult time b...

Will I ever meet someone I'm truly attracted to?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5268 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Have you ever saw the movie Becoming Jane with Anne Hathaway, who plays the role of Jane Austen, the English writer who never got married because she couldn't marry the one she truly loved. Well, I feel just like her. I'm 32 years old and never be...

If you can afford me 2

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - This is for women to answer, since men can't know the answer, unless they got it from a woman already. A woman who used to be a prostitute (so I figure she was low self esteem), told me all men who pay for dates are paying for sex/relations...

Should I go the whole way?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Me and my current bf have been going out now for about six months and are thinking about going the whole way, and having sex. He asked me to do it about two months in and I said no but now it's been playing on my mind and I feel like I really am not ...

Is it wrong to have a leather glove fetish?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Recently whilst watching videos on the internet, i have found myself looking at leather glove fetish videos. Is it wrong to have a glove fetish? Is there something wrong with?...

Would this letter make her reconsider our relationship???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Do you think the following letter would make the person it was sent to to reconsider our relationship: Hey, You are right nothing is more important than God or family. The pictures I have attached are of Alex. Alex moved in to the house that I l...

My girlfriend is accusing me of being unfaithful when I've done nothing wrong...How many accusations should I put up with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, I've been dating a girl for a little over a month now. She has never been in anything you could call a "serious relationship" before, so the whole thing is new to her. She has been with some nasty guys in the past, so she has some tru...

Was she afraid I would turn out like the other boys she dated?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - well she's my ex now but before we started dating she told me that she had been hurt by alot of guys and all she wanted was for me to give her a chance which I had no problem doing because I truly liked her. She seemed different than alot of girls I ...

How can I forget him? Pleeze help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - hey everyone!!! im 16 year old girl in love. the boy i love, loves me too, but we're both too shy and we never could tell each other how we feel. he tryed million times to talk to me and he did. we were finally gonna be friends but few day...

Can I Do Anything to Resolve?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I'm sad. Can I do anything to resolve? We have been together for a year and a half. My ex gf and I took a break about 2 months ago because we've been bickering. She's been stressed out at work, sch...

How do females get labeled?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - hey ok question most girls seem to think because your not having sex guys wouldnt call u a slut...or any sexual preference of any kind... is there anythi ng else females can do that they can get labeles as a slut?...

No guy will like me, they all just want sex. I just want to crawl into a black hole and not come out. Can someone help me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Okay so me and my well now ex have been dating for about a year and a half. I was 16 when I met him and we started dating when I turned 17. I'm 18 now and he's 21. We recently broke up for I don't even remember, but he "joked" that he wants to get ...

Hes a wonderful man but is it possible to find a Prince Charming?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I have been married for just over a year. I constantly think about whether my husband is the right man for me. I was never really sure about him, even when we were dating and engaged. I can't decipher whether this is part of the process, or if I am ...

Can we fix this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I have been with this man for a long time. He cheated on me and i cheated on him in the pass. How can we rebuild what we have and moved on with our lives with kids and marriage soon. After the hurt we put each other through with the question. I ...

I really love her but I'm bored and she really gets on my nerves. What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - So im an agony aunt new to this website and i need some advice. Ive been in a relationship with my girl for almost four months now and I feel like im bored. I know its not because we spend to much time together because i go to school and work and ...

Am I giving off the wrong vibes that I cannot get a man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I've never had a boyfriend before but in college i've had my share of interactions with guys that only consisted of sex. Last month I broke it off with this guy who turned out to be untrustworthy. I completely put my all into making it work with ...

Should I go through with it or keep him as a friend and nothing more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5292 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - i was a teachers assistant my whole senior year for this art teacher and he was young looking i always tought he was cute since my sophmore year so i became his t.a because he insisted me to be his t.a. so we would spend allot of time together ...

Am I the right size?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5093 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - What is the right girth for a 16 year old?...

Help, my parents wont give me any freedom. What can I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5277 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My parent's wont give me any freedom. Im 16 and Im getting my license in a year which means I have to rely on my parents to drive me places the problem is they wont let me go anywhere without them. I can't go to the mall alone. I can't go to the ...

Has anyone tried the kegel master?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Has anyone every tired the kegal master if so does it really work? I am tryin to get a tighter vagina! help ...

Whats happening?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Does sex make your areola darker and bigger? Cuz mine are darker and bigger......

How do you sustain a relationship once the guy considers you his girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I'm at a stage where I don't think I know how to sustain a relationship. I've been too busy with school and college before to pursue relationships, and when I did finally start 'dating' none of my dates turned into actual relationships. ...

What are some specific kinds of birth control that make boobs grow?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - What are some specific kinds of birth control that have made boobs noticably bigger. Me and my best friend want to know. we both have been on birth control for over a year.. and no boob growth.. we need help!!! ...

Who do I chose? He divorced his wife to make me his.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - please help..to make this story short here it goes..i had a relationship with a married man...we parted went our seperate ways painfully he broke it off...he said that i deserved better and that if he got divorced he would come back to me because he ...

How can I be more assertive, to people outside of my family?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - How can I be assertive to people outside my family. At school people pick with me a lot and I don't do anything because i'll get nervous and scared. With family people I can get mad and assertive fast. I tried to act like the people at school are my ...

Should I beg for a second chance, and hope its all a phase on her part?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5289 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - Im just here to vent. It's prolly obvious that it's over and nothing can be done. I fell in love with this girl years ago... gave her everything I had, planned my future around her, would do anything for her. I looked forward to spending the rest of ...

How can I stop myself being so nervous about everything?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I'm 15 and i get so nervous about everything. When im at school i get so nervous that somebody will talk about me or hit me or just plan mess with me. See im a quiet person who doesn't say much in some classes because or certain students.In some ...

If you can afford me...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - Women with healthy self esteem (not narcisissts) - What do you think of the 'You must pay to get with me' attitude of Katy Perry in 'If You Can Afford Me'?...

Since I lost my job my marriage has gone downhill...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I lost my job 10 months ago and since then my marriage has gone down hill. We have been married for 15 years and have 4 kids. We have lost everything we have worked so hard for. We just filed bankruptcy and our home is in the process of ...

How do I get an exit strategy underway?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My husband has been burring us financially for years now. I cannot understand him at all. I gave him till Christmas and me and our children (5 and 1) are going to leave. But now I need a plan. I cannot go on with his lies and selfish behavior. ...

Opinions gratefully received. Should we stay together for the sake of the kids?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I met my fiance a few years ago after a divorce. I was working at a tattoo studio and was "making up" for all the fun I missed out on in High School and College (I had "saved" myself for marriage). When we met, it was her intention to hav...

She does not understand why I am upset. Should I be upset?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - My wife slept with my best friend, no sex, no touching. I was not present. The sleeping accommodation was not the best. First nite she called me and told me he invited her to the bed, there was only one. She was cramped where she slept. She told me ...

Should I get a friend to arrange a date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I saw this girl in my friend's birthday party but I could not speak to her, because this guy kept sticking to her all the time. I don't think she likes him more but he was just the guy who kept tracing her! I don't think she likes me or dislikes m...

I wonder where this is going?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I've been dating this girl in college for about a month now and I've been spending a lot of time with her since we both are in the same program. We've already kissed and stuff and we are very comfortable with each other. My question is when I i...

What can I do about the rumors being spread about me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4854 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - hi am 15 and i have been having a hard time at school a girl has spreaded a rumor about me, the rumor is that am a lesbain it was ages ago but ever since then everyone has been shouting names at me like lesbo lesbain it really upsets me my mum and ...

I fancy my driving instructor...does he think I'm stupid?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Hey, I've been having driving lessons for a while now (over a year - embarrassing - I was crap at first). My driving instructor has been really supportive... But I really fancy him! I know he's married and I'm engaged but I can't stop thinking ab...

I want to escape, but is it love or fear?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I wanted to get feedback from the readers. I'm seriously thinking about splitting up with my wife. She and I have problems even though she may not admit she does anything wrong. She claims she is always very patient and loving, obviously her Mo...

Is this the beginning of physical abuse in the relationship?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5289 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had a fight. It was bad, I would not give up without talking, he wanted to sleep (had a test the next morning) so he ignored me and my tears (I am extremely depressed lately and feel like I have no one to turn to, so there is a ...

To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...

Do girls draw a line between "it doesn't matter" and "too small" for a guy's size?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5289 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - Girls, would you think that there's a line that separates when a guy's penis size "doesn't matter" and when it's "too small"? Some girls have told me that it doesn't matter to her, and some just flat out told me it's never gonna work. (mine meas...

Should I try to chill will her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - Hey everyone. Well school started not that long ago (2 months or so). So she sits two seats away and her friend sits in the middle between us. So I say hi here and there. I ask her how she is. I am always nice. And not to long ago maybe last wee...

Should I go to his party? And if I do, my two dress choices may make me look like I'm dressing to impress!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I'm going to a formal dress party on friday night, hosted by the guy I like. Things have been eventful lately with us - we got together and then he freaked out a little and said it was all going too fast and we should just be friends, get to know ...

What can I do to get girls interested in me? And when do I go in for the kiss?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - So this may sound like a familiar topic but I am a male who struggles with women. I have struggled my whole life but it seems like women just have absaloute zero interest in me. I can talk to them, I joke with them usually in a sarcastic form (not ...