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Archived questions from: May, 2014 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

I cheated on my long-term girlfriend after we became long-distance. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3619 days ago

30 May 2014 (M) - Dear Cupid, I'm a 24 year old male and I've dated the same girl since high school for over 7 years. Words can't describe how much I love this person and I still do. Almost 2 years ago, she moved to Europe for medical studies because she didn...

Engaged to be married but afraid to do so because I do not want sex

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3616 days ago

28 May 2014 (F) - I am 21 years old and engaged to be married. Let me explain some of my background to you so that this makes sense. I went to a very small Christian school all my life (16 kids in a k-12 school) that is attached to my church. I grew up reading ...

Does it take time to fall in love?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3620 days ago

28 May 2014 (F) - I have a question about love. People who are in love, did you fall in love right away or did it take time? When you met your love, did you ever have doubts in the beginning or were you confident he or she was the one? I recently met someone I ...

How to cope with losing the girl AND watching her love someone else?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3621 days ago

28 May 2014 (M) - Well, after a year of being with her as great friends, I finally confessed my feeling. She didn't feel the same. The friendship didn't last. Only a week after our friendship ended, I see her with another guy at school. They both are always in each ...

A letter to those struggling to find a job: be your own support system!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3620 days ago

28 May 2014 (M) - Just about one year ago I graduated from college and was so excited about my future. I had the world in front of me and all my close friends and relatives were telling me I’ve accomplished something great. Flash forward through that year and all the ...

What's wrong? I never get invited back ! I invite them, and they never reciprocate after that.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3619 days ago

27 May 2014 (F) - My question is: Do you expect people to reciprocate your invites to dinner, brunch, lunch or a mere cup of coffee? I don't do it because I expect it, but since I have a particular taste and healthy diet needs, I tend to invite people over if the ...

What is more important: being comfortable in a relationship or having a similar level of attraction to each other?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3620 days ago

27 May 2014 (F) - I wanted to share my point of view on attraction in relationships. Obviously there has to be attraction for a relationship to work. But in my opinion, go for someone you're moderately attracted to over someone you're insanely attracted to. Me...

What sort of relationship is this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3620 days ago

27 May 2014 (F) - I have a situation that which I know I should run for the hills and be done with this relationship but I am struggling. My boyfriend and I met 3 years ago during a LDR. We met up half way every 2-3 weeks and eventually he met my kids and would co...

Help me get the girl

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3622 days ago

27 May 2014 (M) - Hey, guys. I'm here asking for advice on getting the girl. It's not a specific girl but just someone who I can settle/be with. About myself: I'm 6ft, shoulder length tidy hair, semi-muscular and I do get quite a few women saying I'm cute. The pr...

He was my first love. But drugs rule his life. How can I stop loving him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3622 days ago

26 May 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am a 27 years old female, when I was 15 I met a boy who was 16, just one year older than me, he was my high school sweetheart, we spent many years together after, we went to different universities I studied engineering and ...

I am fit and petite but I have no boobs. He's a boob man. Is there any chance that he'll consider me attractive?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3621 days ago

26 May 2014 (F) - Would you find a woman with a squatting bum, defined stomach/ faint abs and slight thigh gap attractive, even if she was basically flat chested? I only ask because I'm going to a pool party with the guy i'm dating this weekend and I don't want him...

Is my Bf's outlook on ever or never having children normal?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3621 days ago

26 May 2014 (F) - So my boyfriend loves kids, and he's so cute playing with them etc. however we've talked and he's on the fence about actually having kids. He's absolutely fine with having them if I want em but he just can't see where people find the time for it. ...

I feel betrayed, and I want to be happy again. How can I get over her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3621 days ago

26 May 2014 (M) - Ok my question is how do i get over a relationship that i just got betrayed and put all my effort into. i feel heartbroken and miserable every night i have been drinking every day and i still cant get over this. i look on social media and she is p...

I obsess about how others think I look

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3624 days ago

26 May 2014 (F) - I have a few concerns in my way of thinking. I care way too much what others think about me. It's specifically what they think of my looks. Sadly I obsess about it. I think this may stem from my childhood. I was called ugly practically ever...

Am I being unfair by being annoyed at the situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3620 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - My flatmate's boyfriend had been here Every. Single. Night. In. The. Past. Three. Weeks. Occasionally, after a braai or two (she likes to host parties on weekends), even his brother will stay over for the weekend!! When the boyfriend would start ...

He was so eager to see me. Then we had sex. Is he now fobbing me off? If yes, then why?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3621 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - I want an honest opinion, please don't judge me. I met a guy on a night out a month ago in a different city. We talked every single day via messaging/phone calls ect. a significant amount. We agreed on a date for him to come and see me at my pla...

New workplace for me. Guy there is married, attractive and older. What's my next move?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3621 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - hi.theres this man whos pretty elder to me but is ravishingly handsome,at my workplace. i just started working there 2 weeks ago and he makes frequent eye contacts and shows many other signs of attraction.it makes me feel really awkard to gaze back ...

I don't feel loved and I think he is cheating again.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - I have been married for 24 yrs I have two kids, one just graduated from college the other from high school. I caught my husband cheating on me in 2010. He admitted the affair and said he was so sorry and would never do such a terrible thing to me ...

I feel like I am his enterainment while his wife is waiting for him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3624 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - hi. i am dating this guy. i am a foreign living in USA for 7 years. he just got here as a refugee. we met 3 months ago. his english is very little but somehow we can communicate, we liked each other so we became friends first. now we are kind of ...

He's gone fishin' and I'm here all alone ..... again!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3624 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - Hello I've been with my boyfriend of two years. We have a great relationship until summer comes around. Every summer My boyfriend loves to salt water fish and his summers are filled with tropical trips to the islands and lots and lots of fishing. I ...

Alone and too scared to meet or trust

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3624 days ago

24 May 2014 (F) - Let me say this 2 yrs divorced and doing ok as for my career but life outside of work for me doesnt exist . I have no life ! In sept I went on a health kick and lost from size 26 to size 14 and look ok and proud of myself even but Still No Life ...

What is your "Ultimate Love Song"?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3625 days ago

23 May 2014 (F) - Ok, totally frivolous, recreational question here... Recently a poster asked suggestions about love songs,.. I'd like to extend the question to know which is for you ,fellow Dear Cupiders, the Ultimate Love Song. Not the best, the most original...

I'm about to serve time in prison, so how do I tell my new interest, and how can the relationship survive?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3626 days ago

23 May 2014 (F) - A few days ago, I met this really great guy and even though it's early, things have been going really great for us so far. Yes, I know it's only been a little over a week, but he's been in most of my thoughts and I'm really confident about our ...

Bad impression of company after first job interview. Do I send a thank you note or leave it behind?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3626 days ago

22 May 2014 (F) - I recently finished my last semester of university and will be taking just one more class this summer. After that, I will be officially graduated. I had my first professional interview today with a small company. The company has been around for 20 ...

How can I help him quit pot?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3628 days ago

21 May 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a month now. We have a past and just happened to come back together and fall in love again. He's 16 and he's been smoking pot since he was 10. He used to sell, too, but stopped for me. I used to ...

This isn't a crush but she is my role model! Is this normal?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3629 days ago

20 May 2014 (F) - There's a few 'teacher' questions on here already but I just wondered peoples opinions on my situation:) There's a young, female maths teacher at my school as she's basically everything I want to be in life, which sounds a bit weird. She's bee...

Should I tell my neighbour I had sex with his wife

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3628 days ago

20 May 2014 (M) - The other night I was having beers with a few mates, on my back deck .Being a single male there is always people at my house they come and go as they please pretty relax and social atmosphere My neighbour came over with a drink as her husband ...

I'm having a hard time processing the sudden break up. What are ways that I can cope?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3626 days ago

20 May 2014 (F) - 2 weeks ago I found out that my significant other had several profiles made on those seedy sex websites you click on by accident while watching porn. I stumbled upon it really not wanting to find it. His youtube channels username is some how linked ...

After ten years we will be getting married ... IF we can agree on a venue!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3628 days ago

19 May 2014 (F) - After 10 yrs of being together we finally have decided to get married this year but the problem is I want a church wedding and he wants a civil one. All girls dream is to walk along the isle with everyone watching and all he ever want is a simple c...

I fall too hard and too fast

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3631 days ago

18 May 2014 (F) - I think I have a problem with men which is really affecting my life. I'm hoping someone will have some good advice as I really want to break free of this! I've been single for quite a few years, but during this time I've had numerous 'flings'...

Is it normal to fall in love with someone else while you're in a relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3632 days ago

17 May 2014 (F) - This is going to sound depressing but... Is it normal to fall in love with someone else when you're in a relationship? I see it happen ALL the time...Where one partner stops loving their partner and falls in love with another person. In fact,...

Should I walk away from these friendships or try to save them?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3630 days ago

16 May 2014 (F) - This is more of a friends question than relationship advice but I hope you can help. I introduced my married female friend to my single male friend on a casual night out before Christmas (along with other people I might add). Fast forward 2 weeks ...

I want to plan our future but his timeline doesn't match

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3633 days ago

16 May 2014 (F) - Myself and my boyfriend spoke a while ago of greeting married next year. He was planning on setting up a business this year with the hope of getting on his feet so it would be more viable for us next year. However he was finding that he had to ...

Moving back home has changed the relationship with my Mother

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3633 days ago

16 May 2014 (M) - Hi, I apologise for what might be an essay-length post in advance. In 2011 I left home to attend university and spent two years living away. Without overemphasising its importance too much, this was an enjoyable and changing experience for m...

Married to a man but confused about my sexuality!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3634 days ago

15 May 2014 (F) - I've never felt as troubled as recently. I'm married for about more than a year and a half to a loving man. He's one of the greatest thing ever happened to me. He loves me, makes me smile and always gets me the best things. I think i love him...

I broke off the flirtation because we're both committed to others, but how do I move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3632 days ago

15 May 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been on and off in friendship zone with a married guy for over 3 yrs now. He likes me and i like him too. We are very attracted to each other but we can't do anything about it. I haven't seen him for 2 years now coz he moved...

I feel too intensely

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3634 days ago

14 May 2014 (F) - Anyone else wish they couldn't feel emotions? I feel like everything hurts me. I'm an intense person, I get close quickly and they end up hurting me. I've never been able to have a relationship for more than a year. It takes me ages to get o...

What to say to this inquisitive but kind work colleague?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3635 days ago

14 May 2014 (F) - a woman at my workplace similar age to me (35-40) may at times asks me what I think of my colleagues, she has only been working at my workplace a few months and I dont know her well and dont work everyday with her, but I do li...

BF won't show me his phone

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3634 days ago

13 May 2014 (F) - Here is a brief bit of background to shed some light frist. My current boyfriend once lied to me and I forgave him but I am finding it incredibly hard to forget in the way that he wants me to. This is most difficult when it comes to his behaviuor...

Anxious about retaking my driving test

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3635 days ago

13 May 2014 (F) - So first of all I should begin by saying that I suffer from mild depression and moderate-extreme anxiety depending on how I'm feeling. A couple of months ago I failed my driving test. I'm a very competent driver but the moment the driving proctor ...

He found a smudge on the wall .........

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3635 days ago

13 May 2014 (F) - I have been living with my partner for 10 years. We have 2 kids. My name is not on anything because I am trying to up my credit score (bad credit). He is an ocd neat freak. I am messy. The house isn't a nightmare, but it's not pristine either. He ...

How do I react to my daughter dating a non-Jew?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 3635 days ago

13 May 2014 (F) - I have a daughter who is in a relationship with an atheist man. In order to be with him and out of our disapproving sight she moved far away. Now she wants to reconcile with us and come back home. We are willing to reconcile with her, but not if she ...

He and I have a mutual friend who is a girl he once had a crush on. Should I allow what our mutual friend said to so unsettle me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3637 days ago

12 May 2014 (F) - I'm in a curious problem and don't really know what to make of it. As it goes, I've been besties with a guy over the internet for nearly four years now. We've spent hours talking to each other about practically everything, fighting, arguing,...

On being a University student and an unpaid Carer for family member. How do I cope with the stress?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3636 days ago

12 May 2014 (F) - I'm a university student, but I'm also an unpaid carer for a family member, it means I can't get a job as I have no time to. It's already resulted in my having to leave uni once, and I'm scared I won't be able to get a job after uni, or that the ...

I am seriously questioning myself as a man

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3631 days ago

12 May 2014 (M) - I am a 46 year old married male who has been married for 24 years to the same way too beautiful wife, I have a type 1 diabetic since age 3 and I have been physically disabled after getting hurt on the job and needing dual knee replacements and a ...

Sick leave means trouble paying the bills

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3637 days ago

12 May 2014 (F) - Hi all. This isn't a relationship problem but it involves my partner, so here it goes... Basically, I moved in with my boyfriend of four and a half years about three months ago. Everything was going great. We both had jobs and although both of...

What does proposing mean for a man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3637 days ago

11 May 2014 (F) - Hi agony uncles What does a proposal mean to you? What is it like to propose to your longtime girlfriend, if she was waiting for it for a long time and sent A LOT of hints? Do you want to surprise her with the question even she is really expe...

How to handle rude neighbours?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3636 days ago

11 May 2014 (F) - Hey Cupid family! I've got this question that I have to get off my chest. I live in this neighbourhood with my family(sister, brother and mum), and apparently It's like most of the people dislike us. We mind our own business but every other day ...

How do I comfort my grieving boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3637 days ago

11 May 2014 (?) - My boyfriend just lost his father to cancer (with whom he had a strained relationship) and his way of dealing with it is ignoring his feelings and brushing off the topic. I see that he is shutting himself down emotionally - he's short tempered w...

Am I breaking the "girl code" ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3615 days ago

11 May 2014 (F) - Okay let me start from the beggining. When I was in year 8 I became friends with this boy and we talked but it's wasn't on a best friend level. In year 9 we started getting closer and I introduced one of my close friends to him, and like 5 months ...