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Archived questions from: September, 2013 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

My mom doesn't think I should take my expensive purse on vacation with us! How do I address this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3860 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - I recently purchased a $400-valued Coach handbag and I carry it everywhere with me. My family and I are visiting relatives in east Asia this winter, and my mom is concerned that my handbag will attract unwanted attention and thieves. While I ...

Did Karma use me for sex because I tried to use her for sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3860 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Is Karma with merit? I ask this because what I did to another person seems to be happening to me now. I'm bisexual and I was trying to use a nice woman for sex but it never panned out. She found out what I was really about as far as only wanting to ...

Travelling helped me realize what kind of rut I was in at home

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3861 days ago

29 September 2013 (M) - This has built up over the years. I am not the confident person I want to become and deserve to be; this has involved caring too much about what people think, not believing in my ability to achieve things at times, letting some things and some ...

Yells, screams and is needlessly hostile to me. How do I deal with my BF when he is like this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3855 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Needlessly hostile boyfriend, hard to deal with. I'm on my last nerve with my boyfriend, and I feel like I have no one else to turn to. We've been dating for over a year, and we're both 21. This weekend was supposed to be a good, fun couple of days ...

Why do men stop talking in mid sentence?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3861 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - What does it mean when a man stops talking in mid-sentence? A few times he has stopped talking in the middle of his sentence.. I do not know if he was trying not to hurt my feelings or he was trying to keep from speaking his true feelings...

Is it safe to go to a music festival alone?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3859 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Would you go to a music festival alone? I moved to a new city a few months ago, and haven't made any close friends yet. Since moving here, I have missed out on a few events that I've really wanted to go to, but have ended up just staying home ...

My home life is hell but I can't leave my mom. My life is not what I want it to be. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3863 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - This situation at home is making me so miserable I can't stand it anymore. Ok, I'm not a kid, but I can't move out of the house right now (I'll explain). I live in North Carolina with my mum and her adult son (who is a few years younger than me)...

Is it wrong to move my child away from the father who has little to do with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3863 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - Should I move for the man I'm falling for? I think I'm falling in love with a man I've reconnected with online after many years not seeing each other. It wouldn't be anytime soon, but I wonder if I could/would move to be with him. The prob...

Ideas for special person stuck in hospital?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3864 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - I need some nice ideas to do for someone close to me who has a diagnosis of terminal cancer and stuck in hospital? ...

She had a breakdown when I was her advisor and now 6 years later, she's sending me very strange emails. What do I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3865 days ago

24 September 2013 (M) - About six years ago I advised a graduate student from China who didn't do well in the lab and failed to complete her project. She left with a Master's degree but also went a little nuts when she was here. I had to take her to the Psych ward at the ...

Is it against the law to save photos from facebook?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

23 September 2013 (M) - I have taken to saving pictures of girls in my class wearing bikinis from Facebook or Twitter. All I want to know is if it is first of all legal and secondly if its creepy to do so. I've never shown anyone this and nobody knows I do it. I am ...

Can't stop cheating on my boyfriend -- why?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3866 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - I'm 25 and have been with my boyfriend for 9 years, but I can't stop cheating on him. Our relationship is really good and we love each other so much, he isn't romantic but he is such an affectionate guy. I've been looking on line to try and ...

Fiancé antsy about marriage worried about step kids

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - Engaged to be married but my fiancé reqlly would prefer we live together first but (1) I don't want to - i don't think it guarantees you anything and (2) n my state you can't with minor children (your ex can take your kids away). This saddens ...

Why do guys pretend like they are looking for a great personality when it's really just physical attraction they are looking for? Why don't people just admit the shallow truth?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - From experience and observation, I know for a fact that a huge majority men do NOT give a crap about a woman's personality. They just instantly know whether they are going to put up with a woman's crap or not. If you find someone physical...

What's a good way to bring up the topic of living together?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - How can I talk to my boyfriend about wanting to get a place together? We both currently live with our parents but spend a lot of time together. We have been together for almost 8 months an have known each other since childhood. I want us to get a ...

Burdened under high expectations.....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3870 days ago

20 September 2013 (M) - I am 37 year old self made married man with wife and kid. I had a poor living and have been fulflling all responsibilities since years without any expectations and demands even from my wife. Result of this everyone including my wife and ...

Moving my boyfriend into the house I own - what is the best way to split the bills?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3870 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - Hi. My boyfriend and I want to move in together. I own, he rents. If he moves in with me what is the best way to split the bills if we earn about the same but he has child maintenance for 1 child which I don't have. Thanks for the advice....

This guy seems to know too much about me -- could he be tracking my online activity?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - Hi. I was wondering if there is anyone on here who knows enough about computers to tell me something. How easy is it for a person to track your IP address? I ask because I suspect someone of doing it to me. He doesn't know me very well yet se...

Need more money making options after maternity leave.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3868 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - I have had a wonderful 9 month's off work with my beautiful baby and in 8 weeks my maternity leave ends and I have to go back to work. Before my daughter came along I enjoyed work but now I feel so depressed about it that every time I think about it ...

What's a woman with all this new-found time on her hands to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3871 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - I suppose this isn't really a relationship question but more a guidance of career choices. I am unsure of what to do, however, so please read. Thank you. I've been in a loving, committed relationship with my partner for 15 years. She is the hard ...

How to Deal with a Toxic Person

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18 September 2013 (M) - The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...

Do I go on doing my job without justifying? Or do I try confronting her? What's the best strategy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3872 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - Hi I started a new job and before we signed the contract, I asked my boss that I do not to wish to do particular tasks at work - which we have discussed at the interview but he forgot all about them once he handded out the tasks...I remind...

Due to religious differences, our friendship can go no further. Do I bring it up with her or let it remain unspoken?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3854 days ago

15 September 2013 (M) - OK, I am wondering if you can help me. To make it short and simple, there is this young woman at my job who I have become friends with. I like her very much, as she is very smart, reflective, and has strong values, and we have a lot in common. ...

I love my best friend, but he causes me pain; is he mysterious or a psychopath?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3875 days ago

14 September 2013 (F) - Hello everyone 3 Things are getting out of control here and I could really appreciate some help! I’m painfully in love with my best friend. He is fun and at the same time he’s conservative, he is sometimes gentle and some other times really cynic...

Would you give him another chance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3874 days ago

14 September 2013 (F) - At work this man use to look after me, he was older and use to flirt etc. At first I liked him. But i told him i didn't fancy him because people were talking and i get shy. At that point, this kind helpful man became two-faced and nasty. He trie...

Boyfriend says he wants to get married, but his actions don't match his words. Are we compatible, or should I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3876 days ago

14 September 2013 (F) - Hi, I'm trying to understand if my boyfriend and I are not communicating or not compatible. He says he wants us to get married as soon as possible and he is going to work extra to buy an engagement ring or even look for another job if possible...

I masturbate about my colleague every night and I'm tired of it! Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3873 days ago

14 September 2013 (F) - I have a crush on someone, a coworker. He has a girlfriend. I know I have no chance in hell with him. However, no matter how hard I try, I can't get him out of my head. I've felt like this about him for the past year, and the feeling is as strong as ...

Girlfriend wants to move in with a guy

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3877 days ago

13 September 2013 (M) - Hi all, I am 28 and my girlfriend is 26. She is a traveling nurse so she moves pretty frequently. We have only been dating about 2 months and only official for one month. The way her job works is that she will work in a city for 3 months then go...

Does she want to fire me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3875 days ago

12 September 2013 (F) - I started working at a doctor's office as a medical biller last week. This week I made the mistake of giving someone the wrong insurance card. The owner of the insurance card became quite cross and said she might not return to this office anymore. ...

How can I deal with my looks? It hurts that strangers stare at me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3878 days ago

11 September 2013 (F) - Im an Average, if slightly odd looking person, Im female, im not "ugly" but am a little odd looking, Im slimish build,very pale and have long neck which I hate hate... and bony collarbones wich i always cover up, I wear glasses at times,( as I ...

I'm trying no contact with my Gf. But she is anxious and acting up. How do I handle this situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3879 days ago

11 September 2013 (F) - Need some advice. I am doing this program where I don't have any contact with my ex for 30 days. I am on my 20th day of NC; Well I would've been on my 28 but I decided to extend it longer. My ex has been sending me random ex, like Do I don't ex...

Asexual or not, either way help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3880 days ago

9 September 2013 (F) - I am about to turn eighteen and have been questioning my sexuality for awhile now. I have had only 3 relationships in my life, one i am currently engaged in, and the previous two have ended because i showed no intent on a sexual relationship with ...

Can I trust a marriage counsellor to keep my confidentiality or will s/he tell my wife everything I say?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3879 days ago

8 September 2013 (M) - My wife and I have been going through a rough patch lately. I think we need to see a therapist, counselor, or psychologist. I am not sure if the rules regarding confidentiality are different for each, but I am wondering if what I say will ultimately ...

What is it about me that makes me unapproachable when I'm alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3882 days ago

8 September 2013 (F) - I had a comment from a stranger in a bar that I have an aura around me that it's hard for anyone to approach me. He said, despite the fact that you are very pretty, your face is the most unfriendly. That was an eye opening for me. I started to...

Opposing work schedules! How do we make the best of it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

8 September 2013 (F) - I work as a teacher, Monday through Friday, and am up 6am and get home around 4pm. My husband works as a casino dealer and works weekend shifts and weekdays that he can pick up from 9pm-5am.....Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays guaranteed. ...

Why would you women wear a ring on your wedding ring finger if you aren't married?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3876 days ago

7 September 2013 (M) - Totally confused over here right about now......... I like a woman who I thought was married because she wore what looked like a wedding ring on her wedding ring finger. At first I thought it wasn't, it looked too plain not a band type ring then I...

How to deal with girl always staring at me at work.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3883 days ago

7 September 2013 (F) - What is this girl's problem? I actually hate her.? I got a new job a few months ago and the girls I started all became really good friends and left me out and they don't speak to me at all but that's okay with me cause I love my job and...

I'm finding it very hard to deal with an unplanned pregnancy. Counselling service didn't help at all, and my fiancé's mother is overbearing.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3859 days ago

7 September 2013 (F) - I found out I'm pregnant and it's unplanned. My fiancé is happy. I tried to go to counseling to a major clinic. All their contacts were on holiday, except one, who had the audacity to charge me $300 to tell me he couldn't help me! Should I complain? ...

Does "trauma bonding" ever go away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3882 days ago

6 September 2013 (F) - I left an emotional and physically abusive relationship, but still i am experiencing "trauma bonding" I moved to another town so he wouldn't find me, so i never see him Does the trauma bonding ever stop? Please advice on how to cope......

I had my android phone stolen and there were compromising photos of me on it. I feel sick!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3882 days ago

5 September 2013 (F) - Hi, i know this is a relationship forum. but this has literally been killing me inside. i recently lost my android smart phone. It was stolen because after i called it, it rang a few times, after 5-6 calls, it stopped. So i'm assuming the thi...

I want to have children with a man who is experiencing it for the first time too

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3885 days ago

5 September 2013 (F) - I recently met a lovely man off a dating site. We chatted for around two months online before we met, and we've been dating for around five months. He's a little older than me, I'm 24 and he's 32 but the age gap doesn't bother either of us....

Is he just being playful? Or flirting?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3885 days ago

5 September 2013 (F) - Hey everyone, There is this married handsome guy I see around,we work in the same place but in different departments..we don't see each other every day! So whenever he sees me that would be once in like 2 or 3 weeks,whenever he passes by he wou...

My boyfriend lied to me about his past and his sex life and I don't know how much to believe him now.

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3873 days ago

5 September 2013 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. Things have been fabulous, we’re looking at getting engaged soon. However, there are some things which are bothering me and I need some men’s opinions on this. I was a virgin when I met him b...

My grown son wants to be independant. My ex is the one digging his heels in. Can anyone give me some good advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3885 days ago

4 September 2013 (F) - My only child is a grown man, but with a mental illness. He was on his own and became severely ill and unable to care for himself. His healing team told me this was a unique situation and he needed to come home. I was engaged and living with my ...

Has anyone been in therapy and tell me how long it took before they saw any positive results?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3885 days ago

4 September 2013 (F) - Has anyone been in therapy and tell me how long it took before they saw any positive results? I suffer from severe depression. This particular episode (which has lasted nearly 4 years) has been really hard to shift. I have been seeing a therapi...

Happy to be on my own -- is it because my standards have risen?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3883 days ago

4 September 2013 (F) - I'm quite confused at the moment. 5 months ago my long term relationship ended. It was an abusive relationship (not extremely abusive, but definitely, some verbal abuse, emotional, and a bit of physical abuse). After the relationship i did turn to a ...

Teenager is going to study and live alone in Canada

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3887 days ago

3 September 2013 (M) - I have a daughter, she is 13 years old. We are divorced with her mother. Mother wants to send our daughter to the secondary school in Canada to study. She plans that our daughter will stay alone and study. I don t agree with this plan, as I thi...

Should I pursue a relationship with a man who feels down most of the time?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3885 days ago

3 September 2013 (F) - Hi guys ; I need some advice.I have known this guy for four months.He is 31 years old. He is a really funny person, always makes me laugh, sensitive and kind caring soul.We are friends at the moment and we have met up few times, every time we me...

Rhetorical question: is this true love?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3887 days ago

2 September 2013 (M) - Imagine a situation: An average-looking guy meets a girl that suffers from some light physical handicap (that also includes some dis-figuration like a scar on her face). Supposedly, the girl does not get any attention from other guys becaus...

I think I am straight but hate that I am emotionally attracted to men also.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3888 days ago

2 September 2013 (M) - I wrote in originally at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-a-male-and-hate-that-i.html but I'll clear up a few things for you to make it more specific: I'm emotionally and sexually attracted to women - normally, anyway, have dated women al...