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Archived questions from: April, 2009 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

Should I stay in contact with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 205 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I was seeing a guy i really really liked. But it ended when i found out he was a player. I cut off all contact. Which was hard to do, as i missed him so much, (even though he didn't treat me right). Then after a month i got a call from him out of ...

Vacation troubles

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 206 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Should I just let him go on his own or join him for half of the trip? My boyfriend and I had talked about taking a trip together. The problem is I only get a week paid on vacation leave. He gets (2) weeks..since he didn't use his week last year, ...

Is it a good thing to go for a man who isnt the type you usually go for?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 188 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Is it a good thing to go for a man who isnt the type you usually go for? Im asking this because i have met a man who is everything i want emotionally and mentally..basically the personality i have craved from a man for many years but he isnt the ...

New Colleague keeps inviting herself along to everything we do!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 206 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I need some advice with how to deal with a new work collegaue. She has only joined the team for 3 weeks and already she is making everyones business hers...she is very cocky,and nosey and the worst thing is that she keeps inviting herself along to...

I think we are still in love but he is getting married! Help please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 204 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I have a question that I really need help answering. I have been in love with this man for almost 4 years, we dated for about 2 years and then we broke it off and decided to remain best friends. Trouble is I am still in love with him and I t...

My daughter is taking drugs how can I help her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 206 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi i dont know if any of you will be able to help me with a problem i have with my daughter here goes. A few weeks ago my daughter went away for the week end and she was not back in time for the baby sitter to go to her exam they spoke on the pho...

Loving two women

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 207 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - Is it possible to truly love two women at the same time? If so,what suggestions do you have if intimacy with both is involved? Is there a way to work out trust between the two women? They know each other. This may not apply,however one is 40 and th...

I was raped by my sisters husband

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 186 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi am 18 yrs old and just over a year ago I was raped by my sisters husband. One night I was at a party and got drunk (yes I know I am under age and stuff but it happens). Most of my friends were drinking so I called him ( my sisters husband) to ...

Can someone give me ideas on how to perform better to either save my job or to build a relationship with the big boss?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 206 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - This time it is a work issue. I have been with this company for 8 months. I have just received feedback from the executive boss, who wrote very harsh words that left me feeling distraught.... This is a mid-management position. it is the first tim...

Can't stop thinking about this other guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 205 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I can't stop thinking about this other guy. Ive been with my boyfriend 4.5 years and were going through some problems, i met a new guy 2 weeks ago whos so handsom and charming and i gave him my number, we have been texting and emailing everyday...

Is he playying with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 205 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I met this guy and we hit it off from the begining. His marriage was broken down a few years ago and he has not been dating anyone since. We are close and I care for him. After talking for months, he said last Wednesday that he liked me and I c...

Views on sex based abortion

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 206 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - This is a question for those who are pro abortion or against it. I know of a person who has been pregnant 3 times and each time she found out she was having a boy and decided to have an abortion because she wanted a girl. Do you think this is ...

Don't think I can have a baby that's a product of rape

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 206 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I have an issue I hope you can help me with.I am currently pregnant with my second child. My first is almost 7 months old-I am about 2- 3 mo along. Dilemma #1 I am seperated from my husband and divorcing him as soon as the papers get thru...it's not ...

I've been done wrong so often I'm thinking about same-sex dating.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 207 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Every person I've been with has did me wrong so I'm thinking about dateing my own sex should i do that or just stick it out??? All my boyfriends I've had has cheated on me and used me 4 sex and money so I'm tired of it help me ...

I need your advice. What would you do??? Life changing situation.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 208 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I know questions on this site are usually relationship based, but I feel that I am in a big dilemma and really need advice from outsiders. I am 23, American and for the past 2 1/2 years I have been spending my time completing a documentary over...

How do you ask a guy where your relationship stands?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 208 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - How do you ask a guy where your relationship stands after 2 years?...

How can I come out to my parents?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 203 days ago

28 April 2009 (M) - i first realised i was gay when i was 17. i had a brother who was gay as well who lived in london but died of aids in 1995. which made it difficult for me to come out to my parents, subsequently i have never come out to them as they blamed ...

Another Porn, LDR question

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 208 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - Hello all, I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I see him every three months or so. I just got back from visiting him. I spent 8 days with him. We hardly made love. Maybe 4 times. Four days before I was about to leave, I was asl...

Which make up would suit my skin type?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 208 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - From the age of about 13 i've had trouble keeping my skin clear and it's been really bad for my confidence.But lately my skin is doing quite well for once it's mainly just marks where they've been.but i'm finding it quite hard to find makeup or ...

Best friend love, or something more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 207 days ago

28 April 2009 (M) - I have a female best friend she means the world to me. She the only person that can make me feel ashamed of the things I do. When I'm away from her I hurt in side and miss her so m uch I know I love her to a point but i like to think of it as a big ...

Guy A or Guy B, I've called off the wedding to B but I need to chose once and for all.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 208 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - So, my situation is a tough one and a little confusing but here goes! Theres a guy (guy a) that was my high school sweetheart. We were crazy inlove but didn't work out because he had some growing up to do. We continued to talk every so often to stay ...

I'm worried about my brother.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 208 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - My big brother who is a year older then me has came home with a big bruise on his lower back. I'm very worried and I don't know how to ask him how he got that bruise. It's because we aren't really close so if I were to ask him he'd probably wo...

My boyfriend said he loves me, but doesn't know what love means. Huh??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend said he loves me, but doesn't know what love means. He also then said to me, "I want you to know you are the only girl I have ever had love for." These two lines hurt. How can he not know what it means; we've been together for almost ...

How can I stop hypocritically obsessing about this girl ??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - How can I snap out of obsessively observing this girl. So long story short, and I say Very short.. god but it will still be long. My old friend must have proposed to me about 5times. I was in a relationship at the time and had no feelings for the...

He mentally abused me, how can someone do that?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - Crying my eyes out as i write this. Ive just found out my boyfriend of 3yrs has slept with 10 women behind my back! We dont live in the same town and i always new deep down something was wrong! Nights out with the lads getting drunk not knowing how ...

Should I tell my straight best friend I'm in love with her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 189 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I know this is a bit of a cliche but I could really use some advice. Here goes. I'm an 18 year old female. I met my best friend at school when we were in y7. I first realised I had feelings for her when we were about 13. I've tried to ignore m...

I want to have a baby with him but he's just been sent to prison.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - Is 40+ too old to have your first child?? I am in love with a man who I recently got together with and we both would love to have a child but he suddenly got sent to prison and won't be out until I am in my forties!! I am so sad as I love him and w...

How do I pluck up the confidence to talk to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 208 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - How do you pluck up the confidence to talk to a guy in the first place, because it really really scares me. I have to say something soon or it'll be too late but i find it so difficult to start up a conversation with him because im so nervous....

Fear of the rain. Anyone heard of this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I was wondering if anyone has ever heard of a fear of the rain before? It started a year ago, when I was walking to work. I had just walked down the road from my home when it poured down with rain. I was soaked in 5 seconds flat. The sky was blac...

DID I MARRY A SERIAL CHEATER ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts My husband who is 49 had been having an affair with a younger women(28 years old)he said he was going though a mid life crises i belived him and gave him another chance,he is no longer seeing this women but i have found out that this was...

Emotionally Hurt......should I send the letter?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 206 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - My man and I had an nasty breakup for reasons unbeknow to me. He just stated that I was very disrespectful towards his feelings. We are both adults, and I wanted to talk but I was blamed for something I never did, he went through a terrible event ...

Would a pregnancy test come back inaccurate at this time of my cycle?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - my period is late. usually my cycle is about every 42 days. after taking the morning after pill twice, my period came faster and i had it within 28 days. it's been more than 7 weeks now since i have had my period. my boyfriend and i had sex about a ...

Do you think counselling will get us through this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - My Husband of 15 years and 3 children has told me 6 months ago he had a short fling with a very good friend of mine who has since left to live many miles away and has never been in touch with either of us and now I know why? He is been treated for ...

I've been told I'm too shy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 208 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - Heya everyone, I sorta have a problem. I find it hard (understatement) to find a special someone. Either I ignore the odd girl that has liked me or I fall for someone I get rejected by. I have plenty of friends (that are girls) and most of them ...

Will she ever be more than a friend ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 210 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - I wonder if there is any hope, or is that shred of hope I am holding onto just me fooling myself. A friend I have known for ten years recently filed for divorce. About five years ago, our relationship became intimate, then I had to move for work...

Getting even to match up on sex partners

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - Hi all, I know I might get bashed for this, but I still want to know how you all cope with the following scenario: Let's say you have met somebody whom you really love and loves you in return, but he/she has had more sex partners than you. Have...

I want to leave him for another guy, but I'm afraid of what he'll do

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 210 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for a year. He was nice at first but he had gotten meaner over the months. He makes fun of me, says negative things about me and make me feel bad all the time. I have tried breaking up with him several times. I even ...

Insecure over the casual sex she had before me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now and have a great relationship, a month or two into our relationship, we were walking down the street and this guy grabbed her from behind in a friendly sort of way. When he left, she casually ...

My 14 y/o daughter wants to have sex with her b/f

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - My 14 year old daughter has just told me she wants to have a sexual relationship with her 15year old boyfriend. What should i do?...

A boy at school makes lewd expressions at me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 193 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - Hi I am extremely scared because this boy at my school keeps sending me looks like, he licks his lips whenever I look his way we used to be best buds like 3rd thru 8th grade grade and now I am in eleventh and he had changed school districts and came...

Does he like me? Or am I just going out on a limb.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 210 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - So I'm really into Drama. I do it all the time. I love the stage. In the middle of August of 2008 I auditioned for a show. That's when I meet this guy. We made a little bit of eye contact and I told him I really liked his tee-shirt. I'm pretty sure ...

Will objectivism interfere with my relationships?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 209 days ago

26 April 2009 (M) - Hello. I am a very strong Objectivist. I really beleive in it, and have an attitude of "If the world does not care, screw them" and "No people, no welfare, no emotions". I end up hating myself for loving/liking people and becoming attached to them, ...

In a foreign country; the only person I can lean on is drifting away from me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 211 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - So I'm in a really bad place right now. I'm 24, and when I left university, I taught English abroad to make money and met a Canadian guy who I really fell in love with. Long story short we stuck together from then on and I eventually came to Canada ...

Does my teacher have feelings for me?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 181 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - Hey guys, I know I've asked this question before but now with a few more leads. I think he has caught onto me used to liking him so he has been giving out the same signs aswell lately. I can't bare to look at him during class anymore because ...

Raped -- what can I do?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 208 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - I have a rather strange question. I am pretty sure I was raped. I question it becasue I don't think I can do much about it. I knew this guy since forever..he gave me a ride home, and next I know we are out in the woods and he parks the truck. Next, ...

I feel so lost, and it feels like my life is a mess. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 207 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - hey to the person reading this, i need some advice and hope you can help once i get this off my chest as this place has been helpful in the past.. okay, so up until last year i was a happy, confident girl. yes i had things i didnt like about mysel...

Am I immature and difficult or just another common misunderstanding?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 212 days ago

24 April 2009 (F) - Well, my boyfriend and I are filling in applications for college, and since he's been putting off doing his personal statement for a few weeks now, I offered to do it for him... I looked up some things that might be important to mention and asked ...

I want to thank you all for helping me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 212 days ago

24 April 2009 (F) - I was on here several times in the past not knowing what to do or how to break away from a husband that was so mentally abusive to me that I can now look back and easily say I was being tourchered and the life was being drained from me on a daily ...

Does is feel it or does he not know?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 212 days ago

24 April 2009 (F) - So I posted a question a few days ago and everyone who responded was sooo sweet. So I want to ask something else about the same guy...like I said we have been friends for about 3 months...we decided not to date but that we wanted to have sex, so the ...

Self conscious and wondering about the boy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 212 days ago

24 April 2009 (F) - I,m a 17 year old girl in secondary school. I have never had a boyfriend in my life and i kinda get upset about it so i,m very self concious. But now I really like a guy who is two years below me. He,s 15 he,s really sweet and friendly.Recently we ...