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Archived questions from: January, 2013 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

How can I help my husband have better communication skills?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4099 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - I post this question if anione know of any service s that help with communication skills. My husband is a very nice man, and most of the time we get alone. The way he communicates with people around him and his customers needs improvement. He is a ...

My husband bought a necklace for a random waitress. I find it inappropriate, he thinks it's charity. Thoughts please.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4098 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Mod note: I added she was the waitress to make the question more clear. I found a receipt for a swarovski necklace in the sale in my husbands week day apartment. When I asked him about it, after a few laughs, he said that he goes to a chinese ...

Is it a waste of money to see an exhibition of my favorite band's pictures? Should I save my money to see them in concert?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4103 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - I know this isn't much of a problem, but i would appreciate some advice. There will be an exhibition of photographs of my favourite band next month. I'm not sure if any of the band members will be at the opening night, but it's possible. One of them ...

My fiancé wants to become a surrogate through artificial insemination for her friend. What do I say?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4103 days ago

30 January 2013 (M) - This is going to be weird but here it goes. My fiance brought up a weird question to me. Her long time friend because of a health condition her window to have a child is closing fast. My fiance came to me and asked me how I would feel if she would ...

What is the time frame in moving on from a broken heart?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4102 days ago

30 January 2013 (M) - How long it takes to move on from a broken heart in a relationship when you plan to stay single for some time (atleast a year or more) . A relationship which wasn't always perfect but it had its good sides! and how to make it easy to move on?...

Why do people have to make comments that are hurtful?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4100 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid, The other night I was talking to this guy that I know fairly well but is still considered an acquaintance. We were texting and he asked "why do you wear so much makeup? Not to say you look bad but i'm sure you're pretty naturally...

Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4104 days ago

30 January 2013 (M) - How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking ...

Did I over-react? I thought we had a connection. Maybe not? I feel he's messing with my mind!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4101 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Hello I just wanted some views on my situation. I met a guy on holiday and we kept in touch. I went back to visit him and we spent lots of time together. I met his family and his friends again. When we were apart we always have arguments ov...

Hate my toxic work place, where cheating is the norm. How can people cheat and not feel guilty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4105 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - I am really hating my workplace at the moment I feel that its really poisoness. Everyone seems to be cheating on everyone else and I am the only who seems to think its disgusting. One girl at work was giving me all this relationship advice with my ...

My ex is threatening me by saying that unless I get back with him, he will assassinate my character and ruin me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4105 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - i am from India..i am in a major trouble. i broke up with my boyfriend because he was so manipulative and controlling. he made my life like hell.In the initial days of our relationship i gave him my gmail and facebook password.Not even in my dr...

Your thoughts on this? He's verbally abusive, spends time online gaming and watching porn. Have to ask him for his % share of bills. Is this relationship working or is there an answer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4105 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - hey guys i am writing this because i am at the end of tether with this man who is supposed to be my husband. We have been married for 4 years and it was long distance. I moved to the US about a year ago and since coming here my relations...

Is 22 too young for a man to really settle down? Do we know each other well enough to make this decision?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4105 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - I am 21, I went to school with this guy, that we will call GUY. So..we have texted and talked via facebook/text for a while, off and on, but for these last few weeks we have talked heavily. All day everyday. We can't hang out at this moment ...

Any tips to help me get over this and move on? I am about to break up with him. He's happy I'm leaving. His teenage children rule the house. He refuses to back me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4105 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hi, I won't make this too long but would really appreciate some of your views. My partner has asked me to move out of his house. We have been together 5 years and i moved in 3 1/2 years ago away from all my family and friends. He has 2 kids tha...

I've been offered treatment for my bi polar disorder...Will it help me and should I sign up for it and postone my career.?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4105 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, this question is for anyone who has experience of BPD, and the best available treatments. Please only answer if you have specific experience in this field. Basically, I have recently been offered a place on a three day a week trea...

Do I follow my dreams or swallow my pride?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4106 days ago

28 January 2013 (M) - I have a problem concerning my education and ex-girlfriend. A few months ago we broke up - knowing that we would see each other at our new school for a half-year semester. 3 weeks have passed at the school and it has been very problematic for...

How can I move on without him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4106 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - My bf and I broke up last year and I still can't get over him. Our relationship was very complicated and we both had issues. Still I go to bed every night wishing he would call/text or email me something. I have never felt this way. I feel alone ...

He's spoken about getting married and our future together, but he isnt sexually attracted to me! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - So me and my boyfriend have dated for a while now and have been pretty serious. He's started bringing up moving and getting married- I previously got out of an engagement with someone I was with for a few years and it makes me nervous. But wi...

My grandaughter has been taken into care and it looks like neither me or my daughter can have her! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4106 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - Last year my 6 month old granddaughter got taken into foster care because of a suspected broken rib. Her dad was charged with assault and neglect and my daughter was charged with neglect though I am not sure what is going to happen with the both of ...

Is my G/f still in love with her ex? Why is she keeping their sexual photos and is she just using me for the life I can provide for her ?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4106 days ago

28 January 2013 (M) - Hi there, I just need some advice I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years n it's really good, we're both in our early 40,s Before me she was with someone just for sex she said but she got attached to him but he left and lived hundre...

Help! Priorities? My health? What the NHS demands? Attend the 8 year paediatrics programme and lose contact with friends? Find time to do things I enjoy? Which should I choose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4106 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - This is about my life. I gave up teaching English as a foreign language to go to medical school aged 30. I knew it would be tough. No money, starting at the bottom, my peer group all being 10-12 years younger. I went from having classes of mainly ...

I went through a divorce and want to change my surname but don't want to go back to my family name either!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4106 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - I have a really difficult decision to make pretty soon regarding changing my surname and I need some help!! I am now 40 (got divorced last year) after 19 years of marriage. I don't have children. When I married I took my husbands surname. So f...

What can our recurring dreams mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months and both us have been having reacquiring nightmares. His is that i leave him for someone else and mine is that i fall in a hole and he sees me fall and says he is going ot help me get out but ...

I can't provide the storybook life she wants.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

27 January 2013 (M) - Hey folks just wondering what everything thinks. myself and the other half have been together for four years and have spoken abt house, marrage etc. Everything is great but she is always trying to change the type of person i am and traites i.e s...

Caught fiancee cheating whilst I was pregnant now I am sleeping with his boss

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4099 days ago

26 January 2013 (F) - Me and my now EX fiance where dating for 1 and a half years and i became pregnant and we were excited but 6 months into my pregnancy i came home early from my part time job as i wasn't feeling to good so i come home and i hear him shouting out my ...

Move on, but how? Lingering in the past... Guilt?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

26 January 2013 (M) - hi I need help regarding my relationship. Just be fair and honest.. I had been in a relationship with a girl for over 3 years which ended recently but I still think of her. she was my first girlfriend n spending long time really made m...

Is her faith a problem for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

26 January 2013 (M) - Hello, My name is Cody and this is my fist time on dearcupid. I'm a college student, English major, and I have been seeing another English major from my class. We seem to have a lot in common, we can talk openly, she is the kind of woman I go for. ...

How importants are breasts to a man

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4108 days ago

26 January 2013 (F) - Hi, I was wondering what the general male opinion on boobs is- how big is too big? is there a limit? are small boobs really that bad? how important are they to a mans sexual arousal? Thanks...

I think my wife is cheating on me. We have 3 children together. What's my next step to deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

25 January 2013 (M) - born in 1981 met her 1996 married her in 2004 we have three kids oldest is 11 years old it is now 2013 next month is our meeting each other anniversery. I suspect and i think she's cheating on me. Anyone care to conversate on the matter? i ho...

At 17 how would guys view me if I chose to have an 'open relationship?' or is it just time breakup with my Bf?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

25 January 2013 (F) - Hi guys. What is the male view of an open relationship? I'm 17 and although I enjoy the company of a 'boyfriend' I'm not ready to become monogamous just to one boy. An open relationship where we have the companionship but freedom sounds perfect t...

How can I convince my Boyfriend that his smoking weed is a deal breaker for me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

25 January 2013 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. When we first met i didnt know he smoked weed, but as time went on he seemed to smoke more and more to the point where i said it was bothering me. His personality has changed and the smell drives me ...

I met one of my students at a bar and now I can't talk to her

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4106 days ago

25 January 2013 (M) - Hi i'm 24 years old and just got a job as a history teacher. Over the summer, I met this amazing girl. I met her in a bar so I just assumed that she was over 21 so I never bothered to ask for her age. She's beautiful, smart, funny. The most gorgeous ...

14 and confused about my sexuality

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4110 days ago

24 January 2013 (M) - Im 14 and in the Past few months I have been masturbating and suddenly feel an attraction towards gays and orgasm more quickly. Yet at the same time I have never had a crush on a boy and have had many over girls and regularly get erections thinking ...

Can I fix this job interview mistake?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - i went for job interview today for a guest room co ordicator and they asked me about my goal in five years and i said it would be to open my own salon. now that was really stupid and not realistic as i should have said it would be to excel in the ...

Unexpected death of an acquaintance has got me thinking--whats the point?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4109 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - I've just found out that a colleague of mine with whom I used to work a some 4 years ago had a mortal car accident this morning while he was driving to work: the road was icy, he lost control of his car and crashed against a tree- he died. We wer...

Why is all this negative thinking taking over me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4110 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - Hi I just got done with my final year of university,gave my final exams abt 4 days ago,and now I'm waiting for my results which wouldn't be out in another 3 weeks,I'v been sooo anxious,I get nightmares about it,I can't think straight,its very ...

He's confusing me. Not sure what he's signalling. Is he thinking about popping THE question?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4110 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - Is he thinking marriage? He's constantly is talk our future hes slipped and called me wife he refers to my daughter as his he's called my mom MIL and said he might as well call her that. We've talked about it a few times and no i didn't brin...

Do these questions sound ok to ask a musician?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4111 days ago

23 January 2013 (F) - I want to write to two musicians who are members of the same band. Do these questions sound ok ? I want to ask both of them if they have favourite songs by the previous bands that the drummer was in ( he's one of the members that i am writing to ), ...

My lecturer has been flirting, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4112 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - Hello. Im 17 and I go to a college and recently one of my lecturers has been acting weird towards me. I mean weird as in flirting with me. Firstly he is 28. He is in nearly every one of my lessons and because college is so relaxed we sit around a ...

Is this friendship worth trying to save, or am I wasting my time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4110 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - I have been friends with this guy for about a year. We're both in college. We used to stay up all night on the weekends, doing silly things or just hanging around watching movies, and we would talk on Facebook for hours. I am very solitary by nature ...

My father wont allow me to marry the man I love and wants to force me into marrying someone of his choice, is there any way to escape this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4112 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - Dear All I am in a state of dilemma these days. I am in love with a guy since past 3 years, we both are settled doing private jobs, he being at a senior position, me at mid level in different companies.We were together in our last organization whe...

Nightmares are preventing me from moving forward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - I broke up with an ex over 3 months ago now, but I keep having vivid nightmares about it. I wake up regularly in a cold sweat and can't get back to sleep.I am now actually glad that turd of a relationship is over and I just want to move on and ...

I need a break from him but I'm scared of breaking up our family, and worried what will happen if I decide I want him back....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4112 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - Hi I am 26 years old and my and my boyfriend (also the father of my daughter) have been together for 6 years we have a 2 year old daughter... Hes a great dad and we get along just fine... We dont aregue very often normally if he gets upset or mad he ...

Did I sent the wrong text message in regards to a job?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - i walked into a salon yesterday for a job and got a position for a receptionist. i knew her from before and I was really excited for it as i was looking for it for a while. the manager there told me first i can come in from tomorrow but then said ...

Have you ever felt like you are out in the outside just looking in but not participating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - Hi. Has anyone else ever felt as if they are just watching things happen from the outside and not actually participating in the moment? Like you are at a great distance? For the past few weeks I sometimes look at my boyfriend cooking or laughing and ...

Does my older fitness instructor have a crush on me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4113 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - I am starting to wonder if my fitness instructor is crushing on me? He is 15 years older than me. Lately he has been trying to strike up conversations with me more. He is always smiling at me and laughing at everything I say. I always catch him ...

A girl at work told me that she's been having an affair with my dad, she's pregnant, and that she wants to marry him, and they're in love!! How will I ever cope?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4114 days ago

20 January 2013 (F) - Recently I found out off my friend [a girl in work] that she's been having an affair with my dad. What she said next was the kicker - she told me she's pregnant, and that she wants to marry him, and they're in love!!! I feel sick, disgusted and up...

Why can't I keep a friendship going? When I get closer the friendship falls apart.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4114 days ago

20 January 2013 (F) - I seem to have trouble keeping friendships. In the past year alone i have lost two close friends whom i did consider to be bestfriends. I feel like the longer i spend time with a person the farther we drift. I have friends who are not so c...

Why is it that straight men don't take two gay womens relationship seriously?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4115 days ago

18 January 2013 (F) - so i have a very sincere question that i've been wondering for years. it's troubling me greatly. i have been out of the closet for over ten years now, and have dated nothing but really feminine women who don't "look gay" (despite being VERY MUCH ...

Moment of silence for Dear Abby

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4115 days ago

18 January 2013 (F) - I think we should have a moment of silence for the passing of our fellow agoney aunt Dear Abby....

What are the right and wrong things to say to a friend who is depressed?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4102 days ago

18 January 2013 (F) - I live in a place where there are some small private hospitals and that is where my friend is now. My friend is getting wonderful support from her Doctor so I know she is in good hands. We have been friends since school and I have supported her many ...