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Archived questions from: August, 2013 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

My girlfriend has cheated on me several times. Is it acceptable for me to have an affair of my own to show her that there are consequences to her behaviour?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 3888 days ago

31 August 2013 (M) - My 28yo GF has been with me for 5 years. This is the best relationship either of us have ever had. Its not perfect but we enjoy each other and we are good for each other most of the time. My GF openly says she used to be a huge cheater. Then...

A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3862 days ago

31 August 2013 (M) - A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...

I hate this job but don't want to be seen as a quitter

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

30 August 2013 (F) - Would you quit a job you've been at 4 months if you hated it? I know it hasn't been long but I feel myself wanting to give up and walk out the door some days. I work with infants who are very demanding at a daycare. The crying babies, high ...

After I quit my job because my boss was furious, I have lost interest in my career choice! Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

29 August 2013 (F) - Hi guys!! So this really isn't a relationship question, but i don't have anyone else to turn too, so i'm just gonna ask you guys! Last july I passed my last year in college (studying culinary arts) with flying colours, and will be graduati...

Why do people assume it's just for a green card?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3891 days ago

29 August 2013 (M) - Why is that a foreign guy leaves his family , his country , where he has spend his childhood, his friends and everything for American wife and relocate to US but still he will get this taunt of getting married for green card? Why American girls ...

Am I right in thinking I should be cautious about marrying him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3893 days ago

29 August 2013 (F) - Hi. I have just found out my boyfriend has court judgements. (Not sure of the term) for unpaid bills. He says his ex wife named him as liable as the expenses were for his child, and he says he never received the bills until it ended up as a legal ...

My boyfriend is pushing me to have a baby with him, but I don't feel for him.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3893 days ago

29 August 2013 (F) - Hi everyone. I've been with my boyfriend for a little under 3 years (I'm 25 and he's 28) and things haven't been too good of late. I say of late, probably about a year..! From the moment we met he made it clear to me that settling down and sta...

I'm so frustrated because I can't pass my driving test!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3891 days ago

28 August 2013 (F) - What do you do when your so frustrated? I'm so frustrated and depressed!!!!! I can't pass my driving test. It may be a small matter, but right now it's big to me. I was in college, I have a 3.0 gpa but I have to push it back because I'm so tired. I...

What should I do with an old jealous ex I shared 6 years of my life with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - I dated my ex for a little over six years before I'd had enough of his pessimism and serious lack of a sex drive (believe me, I tried everything to keep him happy and satisfied). Honestly, there wasn't a lot of give and take involved. Clearly, he ...

I now have an erection whenever I kiss my gf. How can I stop this awkward reaction?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

27 August 2013 (M) - My girlfriend and I were making out and it went a little further. We ended up doing oral. Now I every time we kiss I get an erection. Even just regular "goodbye" kisses. I didn't have a problem with this before. How can I stop it from happening? I ...

I'm not the funny, entertaining person whom I want to be.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - I really want to make the guy I like laugh, but I can't. We're friends and have known each other a while. I'm not sure if he feels the same but if not thats cool I'd like to be good friends. Thing is I've never been a very funny person, I don't ...

My husband blames me for all the damage caused to our relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

26 August 2013 (F) - Hello this is going to be a long question but I need advice. Me and my husband have been together for 5 years now. Married for 6 months. We have a three year old son together. He is my first everything and we've had a lot of ups and downs througho...

My wife came back to me after an affair but she's pregnant and I don't know if it's mine

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

26 August 2013 (M) - My wife left me for another man last year, she was carrying this hidden affair for a while. I was clueless or chose to be blind about it. She broke my heart because I really do love her, I tried really hard to get her to come back and she did. She ...

Should I just not talk to random girls?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3896 days ago

26 August 2013 (M) - I am the type of guy who can easily have a friendly chat with strangers, both male and female. Once in a while, after it, I may ask a female out. The other day, I was waiting for a bus, and there was an older lady and a young girl there. As I was ...

Attraction: a one-time thing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

26 August 2013 (F) - If a guy has a 'red hot' desire for a woman and for whatever reason it can't be met - maybe she moves away it just isn't available - can it ever come back again after fading? Can it come back even stronger? Or is it only ever a 'once in a lifetime ' ...

New mom and I'm going a bit stir crazy.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3897 days ago

25 August 2013 (F) - I'm a new mother of a 6 week old. She's wonderful, but exhausting. I'm breastfeeding so she's on the breast all the time. She's not much of a sleeper, day or night, so I don't sleep much. She's very needy of me, mostly because she's hungry, so to ...

How can I reconcile my idea of love with reality?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3896 days ago

24 August 2013 (M) - Hey folks, this post might be a bit long and unorganized so stick with me please. I'm 23 year old male virgin currently studying philosophy. As you can easily guess, my problem lies with women. I never really had any intimate contact with women, n...

So how can I find motivation when deep down I think I'm gonna get no where in life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3896 days ago

24 August 2013 (M) - If any could give advice it would be appreciated.. right I have come to a stage in my life where I realised I'm going no where fast.. and I'm unhappy and want to do something about. I've been smoking cannabis for 10 years and want to stop, I also ...

My boyfriend is either the eternal batchelor or has cold feet!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3891 days ago

24 August 2013 (F) - How soon is too soon to have a conversation about moving in, or the next step? (marriage) My boyfriend and I have known each other for 3 years and been dating for 9 months. We are both in our late 30s. I have to move (lease is up) - so I men...

My Bf, while still a child, suffered sexual abuse by a male pedophile. Can this affect the relationship between my Bf and I, long term?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3900 days ago

21 August 2013 (F) - My boyfriend recently told me that he was sexually abused by his male coach when he was 8. I am the only woman he has ever had sex with and he says loves making love to me. He says he feels very loved and complete afterwards. He said that he does...

Did the fortune tellers mess with my mind or do I truly want to change careers?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

21 August 2013 (F) - Hi guys,you've always given me great advice on love so now I need some career advice. Before I start, I want to say that I have some form of ocd called pure o, where I over analyze thoughts to the point where I have become mentally ill and anxious. ...

I want to be professional, not petty, about this work situation

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3902 days ago

20 August 2013 (F) - Hi, i have a colleague at work who at the moment is putting people's noses out of joint. She is taking the initiative which is good to see, but lately she has been undermining two managing staff, myself and another. She does not refer to us, and...

Why do some people have so much more pain than others?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - Wondering what are the major causes of distracted , painful lives? I feel, I have unquestionably more pain im my life than others. I now, pain cant be measured, but I know, my challenges are only happening to low number of people. Like losing a ...

My ex and father of my child has disappeared across the world and does not pay any child support at all. How can I proceed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3902 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - I have a 2-year-old son and my ex has not paid child support at all. He disappeared into obscurity once the baby was a year old; it makes me depressed that he just fled from his child, he was a good, decent reliable man before we got pregnant (he...

Are boobs that important to guys?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3882 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - Hello! Ok so I am a 17 year old girl, and very small and thin... If any of you know who Ariana Grande is (singer/actress) I basically have the exact body type as her. Short, petite, and thin. Unfortunately that also means I really don't have boobs ...

Career struggle after college

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3904 days ago

18 August 2013 (M) - Hello all, This is a question on career options. But I am posting a career question here as my experience with this site has been good so far and I get the most sensible answers here. This is slightly long. So please bear with me. So I grad...

Am I doing the right thing for my son?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3904 days ago

18 August 2013 (F) - I got pregnant with my son at 18 by a guy who told me I was a whore and the baby wasn't his. He was my first. He didn't talk to me for four months after that. Then he decided to contact me at which point he basically used me for money and rides when ...

I accidentally said something I shouldn't have at work, now my younger colleague may think I'm weird!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

18 August 2013 (F) - I work with many younger colleagues, 95% my workplace younger, which is fine, I have NO issue with my younger boss or working with 22-34 yr old colleagues, half are under 28, some are managers which is fine,they are good at it, im just an average ...

Married and having feelings for someone else

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3898 days ago

17 August 2013 (M) - I am a senior executive in a company but I have a problem: I feel that I am falling in love with my administrative assistant. I am married with children and she lives with her boyfriend. She is much younger, very beautiful and reports directly to ...

Is there a way you can sucessfully date a player?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

17 August 2013 (F) - Is there a way you can sucessfully date a player? The guy who is super attractive,The kind of guy who is after one thing (sex).This guy is single and has alot of women chasing after him but he doesnt pay them attention, which is what attracted me to ...

I've been mourning my dog for two years -- is that normal?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

16 August 2013 (F) - Hello Aunts, It's really difficult to describe your feelings when they run deep, at least I really struggle with it. I honestly suck at expressing my deepest feelings in words and I am heartbroken to the core. So, I apologize in advance for my p...

I've lost sight of myself in this relationship and don't even like my boyfriend, who treats me with didrespect. How do I leave him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3907 days ago

15 August 2013 (F) - I want to leave my boyfriend. We've been a couple for 2 and a half years and the relationship has been going nowhere for most of that time. We argue a lot and when we don't argue, we hardly talk to one another. We had a lot of pro...

I feel I'm addicted to having this married man with me, even though he proved to be a liar and a cheater. How can I snap myself out of this?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3907 days ago

14 August 2013 (F) - 2 years ago I met a man whom I fell in love with. We started seeing each other until I found out he was actually married with children (his wife read his messages and contacted me). I was devastated and things ended right there. Since we live ...

He never wants to get married but I do. What to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3908 days ago

13 August 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, I really need your help and advice. About 3 months ago when I was living in France I met a guy coincidentally just a week before moving back to the UK. Long story short, we have seen each other a couple of times since we met, talked e...

Your first love: Do you ever really get over them?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3906 days ago

13 August 2013 (F) - Do you ever truly get over your first love? It has been almost four years and I have been in a relationship for a while, but I still catch my self remininscing of the past. We were together for 2 years. ...

She said I need to date someone my age. What does she mean really?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3909 days ago

12 August 2013 (M) - Dear Savants of Dear Cupid, You all have given me sage advise the numerous times I've ventured forth. You've saved me from wrecking my ship against the rocks, for which I thank you. A question: "What does this mean?" The tennis player conta...

He stares at my lips while speaking. Does this mean anything?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3909 days ago

12 August 2013 (F) - So there is an older man.. about 10 years older, I am 21... He is my superior at work. He's really smart and I find myself really attracted to him. Every time he is explaining something to me he looks at my lips while he speaks. And when he is t...

Nearly two years after breaking up and I'm still not over her

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3907 days ago

12 August 2013 (M) - Why do I still cry now and again over a break up that happened 20 months ago? We were together 5 years then she ended it saying she wanted to be on her own. Within a month she had someone else. Only after the break up did I discover she had...

My parents gave me up to foster care and it seems no one is on my side

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3902 days ago

11 August 2013 (F) - I want a normal life style but yah right! I'm not a normal kid like everybody else. My parents gave up on me! 7 years ago me and my brothers and sisters got taken away by foster care. I had to grow up fast and see and hear things that a lil one ...

Should I have confronted a married man in a restaurant who kept staring at my pretty daughter?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3910 days ago

11 August 2013 (M) - My 19 year old daughter is very pretty. She along with my wife and I went to a popular restaurant for dinner last week. As we were being seated I see this middle aged guy sitting with his wife and kids staring at my daughter, he didn't take his eyes ...

Do I give up trying? Want to hang out with her. Are there better ways to interest a girl? How should I approach this situation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3912 days ago

11 August 2013 (M) - There is a girl that I really like and have very strong feelings for. We have talked every night and have become very close. We have also hung out numerous times. One night I kissed her and she was completely on board. I like her and she likes me...

If someone likes you does it show in their eyes?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3905 days ago

10 August 2013 (F) - Hi all, Hope you are all enjoying your weekend! My question might sound really dumb to many of you who are from countries with races with blue and green eyes, but for me who is from a country of people with black eyes is a new thing. I would l...

Stretch marks make me very self-conscious

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3911 days ago

10 August 2013 (F) - I got LOTS of strech marks (arms/legs/back) when i was 14 years old. I wasn't thin but wouldn't call myself fat. I think it was perhaps growing too fast and maybe not realising i was putting on a little too much weight. The thing is, for all my ...

I'm 34 and never have had a "proper relationship". Is there something fundamentally wrong with me?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3909 days ago

10 August 2013 (?) - Hi, I'm writing this questions as my confidence in having any proper relationship is pretty low. I am wondering where I am going wrong. I'm starting to wonder if there's something fundamentally wrong with me. I'm 34 and never have had a "p...

Why this man is acting like this? Jealously? Stupidity? Or am I at fault?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3912 days ago

10 August 2013 (F) - Hello, I was wondering if male and female readers would be able to tell me why this man is acting like this? Jealously, stupiidty? or am i at fault? A colleague at work lead me on to think he was single (found out he was married) then lead me on ...

I overheard someone make a rather unpleasant remark about my appearance and now my confidence is at an all time low!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3888 days ago

10 August 2013 (F) - Hello there. I just need a bit of help guess. The other day I was walking on the train and I walked past this boy with his girlfriend and I heard him make a rather unpleasant remark about my appearance. Now I know I’m not anything special, but I’ve ...

Why did he let me go if I was so good for him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3914 days ago

8 August 2013 (F) - I posted a few days ago in regards to my boyfriend not sure if he saw me in his future. I'm 23, and he is as well. He told me he wasn't sure he saw me completely and he was completely confused. The day before yesterday, he came over to talk. ...

Why would he go through all that trouble just to ignore me at the last minute when he became serious with this girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3913 days ago

8 August 2013 (F) - Okay, so here's my situation. My first boyfriend of 5 years who is now my ex has a girlfriend. Him and I have known each other for 12 years. Our relationship has been an on and off thing because he always told me the same thing (I want to explore my ...

I cant accept the fact that my boyfriend lost his virginity to some other girl

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3915 days ago

8 August 2013 (F) - I'm 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend just over a year and he is my first boyfriend. It wasn't because i was raised in a very conservative family. I just couldn't find a guy that likes me back and I also like. I have rejected couple of ...

I cheated on my boyfriend and told him, when I suggested splitting up he cried and begged me to stay, but the thing is I am much more attracted to the other guy than to my boyfriend

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3914 days ago

7 August 2013 (F) - Guys, I need help, I think I'm going mad. I've been in this relationship now for around 9 years. We love each other, but many a time during the first few years I slipped and cheated on my excellent boyfriend. I told him and we managed to work ...