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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

Can you lie to the court house about being married before?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Ok i just want to know do you have to tell the court house that you were married befor?...

How can I accept he loves/likes me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for just about 2 weeks with my boyfriend, but we had been hanging out for about a month before that. Before all of this we knew each other years ago and then he moved away, came back, but we never got back in touch til ...

My girlfriend was drugged and raped and I blame myself.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 43 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, We have been dating since high school. I go to college in a town that is 4 hours away from our home town. Last April during our last week of school I invited (begged) her to come down and attend the last class bash ...

Is it normal for attached guys to flirt with other women via email?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I need a mans point of view please. My question is: Do guys write/email etc.. other girls in a flirting/even inappropraite way even when your in a relationship with another? Is it an ego thing? Do guys usually intend on something to happen or...

Got busted for shoplifting!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I GOT A SHOPLIFTING CHARGE N I DNT WANT THIS TO MESS MY LIFE UP..WHAT CAN I DO TO GET IT EXPONGED N HOW MUCH DOES IT COST? I USUALLY DNT SHOPLIFT BUT I NEEDED SOME STUFF AND I DIDNT HAVE MONEY! CAN YA PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE...

Should I go back to the books and graduate, then try for university again?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My question may not have any relevance to love... But ill give it a try, back in 2007 i did my matric but i failed so i didnt graduate from high school,i was gonna study neurology, since i had a grade 10 certificate i could go to college and opte...

Isn't reality better than fantasy when it comes to sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My Psychiatrist BF who is 41 has a 'collection' of over 100 DVD's almost ALL of which are about hetero anal sex, and a few male sex ones. He says he is only "curious" but this 'seems' different to me. I think in the past he had turned to it to ...

Like father, like son, in sexual habits! Should I talk to him or be worried?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 51 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and have since the very beginning been very comfortable and sexually open with one another, more so than any of our previous relationships. He has several unique fetishes and I've never thought much of ...

How do I get over my insecurities about (not) dating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I used to joke a lot with my best friends about growing old together as cackling cat ladies, and how we'd all live in a string of houses on adjacent properties and sit on our porches with shotguns in our laps, terrorising the neighbourhood children. ...

My ex is sleeping with his girlfriends best mate

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone Well my ex bf is now like my best friend we get on really well even if we do have are little tiffs, But basically he has a gf who is pregnant and i slept with him once after that and it hasnt happened since as i felt guilty even th...

My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?

This question has 37 answers - newest was posted 44 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...

Has he changed his mind about getting married?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for about one year. A couple of months in (when we started talking about exclusivity, etc.) we discussed what we were looking for. I'm 29, and I don't want children and haven't really thought much about ...

If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...

Do you think this girl is still attracted to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship with a girl for about 2 months now but we have been hanging out as if we were a couple for about 3 months. I have known her for about a year and have always been attracted to her. Our relationship started out with her ...

Cheaters: how do you know if they have changed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Do men that cheat ever genuinely change??? if they do how do you know that they changed?...

Dating 3 weeks, when do I shave my pubic hair, before we get married or before sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - i've been dating this guy for 3 weeks. i don't know if i should shave my private area before he and i get marry? or before we have sex? ...

Is this a sign I should just let him go?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend of almost 4 years told me yesterday that he needs a break because he has not slept with any other girl. He said if I don't want to wait than we can break up. I don't know what to do. I know he loves me more than anything else and on ...

Is it normal to feel dirty after fooling around?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I recently started dating a guy. This is my first relationship. He was my first kiss, etc etc. We haven't had sex yet but we've been slowly moving forward. A few days ago, we were messing around, to the point where i took off my shirt. I was...

I regret the name I gave my baby! What can I do now?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Dear all, I have a problem that is in my head! I know many of you wouldnt think its such a big issue but i just delivered my baby girl on july 14th and called her a name i really liked at the time.. and we agreed on... on the 6th day he went to r...

Should I pursue it and give him signals back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I am 25, a single mum and rescently gone back in to education. I think my teacher fancies me. He focuses on me in every lesson, he asks me questions through out in front of the class and quietly asks my opinions on things when the rest of the clas...

How should I apologize for accidentally touching her breast?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - So, theres this girl in my 9th grade english and P.E. classes, and we been hanging out alot. I like her, she likes me, and we get along really well. I hug her almost every time we have to leave eachother for classes/ bus, although were not actually ...

Am I going to have to start fighting in order to defend myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - I have 2 problems. In my gym class i have boys that like to pick on people. They don't mean it but they play to much. Its this boys who hits on me constantly real hard and i let it slide and ignore him but he will keep doing it. I'm a person who ...

What makes a man lose his hard-on during sex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - What makes a man lose his hard on during sex?...

Why do girls look for robot guys?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 45 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Why every girls hate emotional guys? Why they look for robot in guys? Would anyone like to guide me on this? Zahir, Pakistan...

Pubic hair yes or no?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - I'm a boy of 18 years the problem is that i hav lots of pubic hairs, actually i have hairs on my hips and lots of hairs on my legs although i have no or very little hairs on my chest. I want to know will my gf or any other girl like my hairs on hips ...

Can anyone give me advice on my singing voice and vocal range?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Hi i was wondering if someone could give me some advice on my singing voice and my vocal range. I have just really started to grow in the last few months so obviously this shows that i'm a bit of a late bloomer. I don't think my voice has broken ...

Can I be pregnant if I got my period?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 50 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I had sex about two weeks ago which links to my previous question two days age. I had unprotected sex whch I'm not proud of at all!!! It was my first time having sex period. Anyways I was wondering if I could be pregnant if my period came. My period ...

How do I cope with turning 30?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I am stuggling about turning 30 this saturday. I dont know why but i cant get excited. Im kinda sad and feeing down about this situation. I guess a part of me doesnt want to grow up. I am so used to being in my 20s and im not looking forwa...

Why don't guys like to talk about feelings or their exs?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - why don't guys like to open up and talk about their ex or talk about feelings in general? My guy recently broke up with his girlfriend of 8 months (i think it was because of me and the fact it was a long distance relationship) but he still say...

My ex is claiming that I raped her and was violent towards her, what is my best course of action?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Ok,I had been dating this woman for around 9 months and things seemed fine. I then found she had cheated and lied throughout our time together. I took it really badly and shouted at her. We took a small break and I decided to forgive her. We rec...

My wife's pubic hair is a turn-off!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 48 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - This is a bit embarrassing but by wife has a hairy vagina that I find quite a turnoff. I don't know how to discuss the issue with her without hurting her feelings. I trim and shave myself but my wife seems to prefer herself untrimmed. We've been ...

How can I deal with girlfriend's past

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - My girlfriends past bothers me alot. I know so much about her past and I always get these images that pop into my head of her doing things with other guys and its all I think about. Just looking at her kills me sometimes. The one time that has ...

I'm so cunfused with this girl, help....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Hi everyone I'm going to try to make it as short as possible. Ok I met this girl she was really into me I can tell. She would come down and hangout even though she live 1 hr away. We hung out in groups so it wasn't like a date but I like her s...

Was our relationshp sabotaged?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My guy and I dated for a year and were about to commit exclusively to a long-term relationship Without any warning,and perplexed by his sudden change of heart, I knew something went wrong. Just before he abruptly broke off with me, a male co-wo...

I talk to him and fear what might happen if I stop.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - how can one tell what to do when they're so confused? sometimes, i just want to remain friends with my ex boyfriend, because i can talk about anything with him. sometimes, i start to trip out on how far he can go with things...he never physic...

How do I tell my parents I'm pregnant again?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 48 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Im pregnant for the second time and how do i tel my parents,my first baby is three years and my parents are pastors and wel knwn people they wil b ashamed of me wat must i do...

Tatoos and where to get them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Ok, so this isnt a realtionship question or anything but i was wondering if someone could help me with this decision. i have a tattoo on my back towards my neck and its fairly decent size tattoo about 7 inches in length and about 4 inches wide. now ...

Questionable relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for 3 months.He is a widow, and I am divorced.We seem to really like each other, but I am still wondering what to make of the relationship.I travel to see him, and we email everyday.But, I am still wondering how he feels ...

Are there any devoted and patient guys still out there?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - frustrated...im 19 years old and i think i am attractive the thing about it is ive never really been serious with a guy... and im wondering if theres any good guys out there that is still devoted and patient to wait for a girl who is only gonna ...

Boss wants a relationship, but I don't like him that way!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - my boss wants a relationship with me but i dont like him like him in that way. im at college til march and then i will be able to get work in the trade that i am learning. i am trying to get an alternative job at the moment but i just cant get one ...

Are these Red Flags serious? I don't want another abuser.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hello, I've just recently gotten out of an abusive relationship. Therefore, I'm very sensitive about people's intentions. I recently met someone, and he seems very nice, but there are two red flags I want to address: After our first date he's ...

I've had fictitious allegations made about me at work! Any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I am totally devastated as a work colleague, who I thought I got on well with, has suddenly reported me to management insinuating some serious allegations about me that have supposedly occurred when this individual and I have been alone together. ...

Was it weird that my husband asked me which of my previous sexual partners had the biggest penis?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 33 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My husband of 2 yrs asked me who I'd slept with in the past had the biggest penis. Now, I know he's not insecure cause he's well endowed himself. My response was to laugh and asked him why the hell he wanted to know! he said he was just curious. ...

Can anyone help me with the Centrelink system in Australia?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Getting treated unfairly by centrelink in australia and wondering what i can do about it. Im 19 and am on independant youth allowance. I have been diagnosed with major depression and am taking avanza. The doctor has said i can not work for another 3 ...

Is this rock bottom?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - ok so first off I dated a girl for a while bout a year. I thought I was in love. in fact I knew I loved her. she told me she loved me. we didn't get to see each other so I arranged to take a trip to cali. about two weeks before we left i was at work ...

Is my fetish a way of coping with my troubled childhood?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - In my early teens I always thought submissive women were weak, forced into their situations and probably beaten by their boyfriends/husbands. I did extensive research on the subject; it truly interested me. I could not understand "these people" for ...

Should I leave him and start my life over again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 49 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Please help. I am so confused. I don't know what to do now. I date with this guy for 2 years now. He is 8 years older then me and he said I am his first girlfriend. He said he use to date before but nobody take him serious. He is kind of plain (ugly ...

Was she just behaving like this because she had just woken up? I don't know why she is treating me this way!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - hey my girlfriend treats me really bad when i try to help her still or at an time tonight i woke up and said i love you to her quietly so she wouldnt wake up but she did, and she was wearing some hair curlers or something. it one became ...

If she really does love me surely she would be telling me more often?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - i told my girlfriend i loved her a couple of nights ago in bed. She replyed " do you? I love you 2". she said she had been thinking it for a while. i was thinking maybe it was too early to tell her as wev only been together about a month and a ha...

Everytime I try and help someone something bad seems to happen to them!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - this is weird, but i'm beginning to develop a phobia of trying to help other people. the most recent time i encouraged someone, they completely sabotaged their life...my friend/ex boyfriend was wanting to apply to a volunteer program/internsh...