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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Need A Confidence Booster?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4330 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - There are times in our lives that we humans get into a depressing mode which resulted from us analyzing our downfalls and what we seem to lack. It seems to become apparent to us one way or another- and we start to questions ourselves, or abilities, ...

Do I tell my boyfriend that I want an abortion? Or just go ahead and do it anyway?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Well... I am 28 years old and have been with the same guy for 10 years... Yes, 10 years. We're not technically married, but do plan to stay together for the long hall. And, I just found out I was pregnant. Obviously we've been being careful over the ...

We plan to meet for the first time soon but he is very ill and I'm worried if I see him it will make it harder. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - im 22 years old and been in a relationship with this 46 years old canadian guy online,there no exact words to express how happy i am to have him. I know deep inside my heart that i do love him more than anything in this world..and he also does for ...

In Turmoil. How can I resolve my Commitment issues? my girlfriend has given up on me :(

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - Hi Folks, Commitment issues of my own have caused my girlfriend to give up :(! I'm after some advice, not sure if anyone can help, but basically the story goes like this: My girlfriend and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We had a long ...

Are my concerns about my daughter's mental health valid? How do I suggest she get help? She wants a sex change for vocational reasons

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - My 16 yr old daughter told us she wants a sex-change. She said it's the solution to all her problems - she wants to work in the motor industry or the logistics industry, and said both those industries aren't really accepting of women working ...

After 2 bad break-ups I don't want to get serious with anyone because I don't want to be in love again, is there something wrong with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - This post won't be very long, I just need a little input and help. I've had two VERY bad break ups within the last 4 years (I'm over them, by the way) and I've been sitting here thinking about why I'm not in a new relationship. I've been on man...

How can I break up with my boyfriend? I'm not in love with him anymore

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - How can I break up with my boyfriend of 2 years and 4 months? I love him but I'm not in love with him anymore. This year was his 1st year of college but I could feel us drifting sorta. He even told me that for the past 2 weeks he's been wanting to ...

Were we never really anything? Was I a fool to believe this was something special? I don't know how he could have done this....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4562 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - knowing someone online for over a year now. thought we were in a real relationship and now its all over as if it never existed. I deleted all my accounts I could not bare the pain. all I kept seeing was him posting away about a life he didnt have. ...

My bf is convinced I'm in love with my friend (which I'm not!) and now he wants to speak to my friend's pregnant and emotional wife to see how she feels about our friendship!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend (I will name "Ned") for about 17 years. "Ned" broke up with me about two and a half years ago saying I wasn't "the one" and he wanted to find her and didn't want to waste more time with me. I had wanted to get ...

Solutions please to reduce panic attacks? old school? New school? Or other options?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4545 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Hey, yep its me again so thanks for taking the time to read my question. I haven't been at school for about a year now and now and my family and I are making the necessary changes for me to go back to school. Only problem is many schools round my...

Worried about my sexuality!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I think i am bisexual or i could even be a lesbian. I do think i lean more to be bisexual as i do like men but as time has gone on ive been getting more and more put off them. The only problem is, i don't want to be bisexual...

Can this happen? My Sex drive is gone, and I'm only 20 years old

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I have lost my sex drive completely. I have an amazing fiance of four years, and we never have sex anymore, b/c I don't want too. I'm only 20 years old, and I don't care for it. As of right this very moment, i don't care if i EVER have sex again. At ...

Can anyone help me with my confusion? I was positive that I was straight, now I'm not sure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - i'm here because i'm confused about my sexuality and i don't know what to do. For awhile now i have been thinking about men, specifically kissing and having sex with them and even having a relationship with another man. I try not to but when i g...

My Gf has major self esteem issues. will she ever change or go back to the way she used to be?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - my fiance of 4 years has always suffered from self esteem issues, an eating disorder and was raped when she was 16. now because of this she dated men who treated her like crap because she thought she deserved that. she has had no support from her ...

Should my husband go out to bars so often without me? Or should he consider me more?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - For the past year my husband has been going to the bars with his friends about twice per month. He stays until the bar is closed. I was ill for a few months and never wanted to go out when he asked (not that I could, because we don't have a baby...

Is my proposed celibacy solution workable? And any tips on helping me get over this intense amount of regret/shame?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I am 15 years old. I have given two guys bjs, and I am soooo ashamed. I regret all of it, and i feel sick whenever i think about it. I feel like i am a bad kid. However, I am in a relationship right now (although he says he doesn't care about phys...

I am afraid that if my boyfriend works with his old friend we will relive past issues!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4562 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - so this is it : my boyfriend of 6 years has put me through alot... but we have overcame and grown from these expierences,, and now we are expecting our first baby.. he has grown and changed (enough) but he is those types of people that have no will ...

3 problems- money worries, my boyfriend who doesn't want to commit and my family who never visit or consider me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4562 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - hi sorry.. this is abit of a long one! I have 3 problems.. money worries, my non-commital boyfriend and my family who never visit or consider me! I live in a small house with my 17 yr old son and am finding life very hard! I came out of a lo...

I enjoy going out. But guys, in error, think I'm ready for one night stands. Nooo.! But am I missing out ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - i enjoy going out and having a good time with friends, but often guys assume this means that i'm down for one night stands. i've only slept with one guy in my life and he was my ex boyfriend, but now i feel like guys are not even interested in you ...

Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...

Friend is making racist remarks and says I don't face reality! I am getting sick of him...am I right to feel this way?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Hello everyone, I have a friend who is a little older than me, his dad works with my dad and we have become quite good friends. Recently we have been spending a lot of time together and one night when our parents went out for a meal to discuss ...

He has been violent to me in the past but now is being a dedicated husband. Do I believe him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - So I sit here in what is seemingly the "good times" I should see,"the changes he's made",but I cant help but feel,just stupid for believing him. This started 7 years ago although I didnt realize it until it was too late. He was so charming he ...

When will I ever feel able to talk to women confidently?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) - Has any guy ever been to my position;being a virgin and never dated any girl because insecurity,being scared of approaching or talking to girl you like,or even not knowing how tell her how you feel.This is something I just can't figure out how to ...

My boyfriend has a timing plan set out for when we should have sex but I'm worried I wont be ready by then!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - I am worried my boyfriend is going to get tired of waiting to have sex. We are both 16. Both capricorns ;) . I love him n he says he loves me but i know how fast feelings can change so far we have been together for 2 months but we have known ...

What to do to stop feeling so lonely? I haven't felt like I've done something fun for a long time. It's getting me down.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - It's been a while since I've had a good conversation, it's been a while since I was sure I'd make plans and they would actually follow through. It's been a while since I've had this feel as I've started college. Everyone in my class is 2 years yo...

What if I don't ever become happy and live unfullfilled? Age isnt on my side and its so hard seeing my friends getting married and having kids

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - Im 29 and im at that point of life where im worried that things wont turn out they way I had hoped! I have a 7 yr old daughter which I had from a serious 5 yr relationship. Since that ended 5 yrs ago I just have had so bad luck with men, all the ...

Is this world only for beautiful people with good fortunes?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) - I am not good looking and have no confidence in myself at all. When I was 14, pimples started appearing on my head and lost my font hair. Since then, I have been shaving my head to make it look decent but I know girls get turned off my look a...

Inspiration needed....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4383 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - ok first of all i should say the admin that i am not suicidal. I just need some inspirational words from you aunts. I am in my early 30s. had two boy friends who cheated on me when i loved them with my heart and soul. last year I started doing a ...

It turned out my online guy was a fake.....how do I meet the right guy? I'm losing faith!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - Dear all aunts, I wrote months ago to seek for insight if a guy i met online is real or not, he claimed a US military service man, well the result is, same as all aunts had reminded, this is a fake guy! Althought i had take alert but still i even...

My dad doesn't think he has much time left and wants to see me married with kids, am I ready for this? Should I talk to my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - Please help and offer me your advice. What should or can I do? My dad spoke to me once about his death. He said he was afraid of never seeing his granchildren, really afraid. He said 'We don't make old blood' with a serious, sad face. (It means ...

What exactly constitutes a "first move"? And how can I be sure that I have not made the first move?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Hi, I was just reading another post and one of the answers was to NEVER make the first move and I suddenly thought "S***! I don't know if I accidentally made a first move or not!" I understand the psychology behind this idea - that some guys l...

I think my night shift wages are inadequate

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Hey everyone, this isn't a relationship question, at all :s sorry, but I've gotten good advice on this site numerous times so I was wondering if I could ask peoples opinions on this please... I've recently started a new job doing an overnight shi...

Please help me figure out the female mind

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) - Why do girls act so strange? I have a huge crush on one of my co workers and I have been told by 2 of the girls we work with that she likes me too. We hang out all the time at work and even recently outside of work. I month ago I asked her out and ...

Did I do something wrong by refusing to pay for my wife's new dress?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) - Hi, I really got to get this out as I don't know what I am doing wrong, maybe there are some factos which I am not taking into account. My wife and I are both young working professionals, my salary is higher than hers by around 30%. We bough...

Is it true that A Man can't win? Why does it seem that women are ALWAYS right? Feels like that to a guy !

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) - We've all heard the saying that a man can't ever win. But no-one ever explains why! So, quite simply, here it is. Women make the rules. And even if the man makes the rules, Women enforce them. For example, Have you ever had a situation that spa...

Nearly 25, rare culture, education, job, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Hi, I recently had my 24 y/o bday a few months ago (I’m female). I have been feeling a bit down off/on since (realization I’m nearly 25) and not anywhere I expected to be. I’m just now finishing an Associates. Due to cultural reasons, my fa...

I wait for her to be online but she rarely contacts me. We love each other. How can I make this Long Distance Relationship work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - My girlfriend,studies in india,and she is now here back to own country.. Out of thirty five days vacation now only ten days remain. Recently we 've not met much.. Don't know what I shall do. We love each other, but i'm not satisfied with her. She ...

I broke up with her when she demanded I propose, now she's emotionally blackmailing me!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - I've had a very turbulent relationship with my girlfriend of the last 2 years. We've been long distance for most of our relationship, and that's made things tougher. At the start, things were fantastic, we got along perfectly and we couldn't wait...

Should I confront her husband and let him know what his wife has been doing with me for the last 2 years, or let nature take its course?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - well , where do i start , was working with this girl for a couple of years , we became the best of friends , would talk about every thing and any thing , she is married , im single , and has kids , i knew all this before any thing had happened , ...

We go through weeks of being really in love, then weeks of feeling really distant! What should we do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4566 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Me and my boyfriend a year and a half together, there were always periods of detachment. A week ago we felt really in love. And suddenly now I feel an extraordinary distance. We talked about it and he feels the same. I'm afraid of losing him. I d...

Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...

Am I weird for not wanting to sleep around or cheat on my boyfriend? All my friends seem to be doing it!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Why are my friends doing this? am I weird to think is wrong? My friends say am boring and I should change my rules when it comes to guys. I've always been the kind of girl to only kiss a guy or have sex with a guy when we're in a relationsh...

Why do men have affairs despite not being ready to leave their partners?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4566 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Why do married men like to have affairs with other women, though they are by no means ready to leave their legal wives? What is this mentality? Don't they have any fear for the consequence? Don't they feel anything bad about other parties (both wife ...

How can I make my wife accept financial help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - I am 33 right now and my girlfriend is 23. 8 years back, when she was 15 , I fell in love with her and within 2 weeks she accepted my proposal of being her Boyfriend but I acted more like a friend than boyfriend since she was too young th...

Trying to make a teenage LDR work....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - ... So I have a girlfriend she lives in Texas and I live in Illinois were both very young and were in an LDR , it's gonna be like that for at least 3 more years . Longer for her I should say since she's graduating next year as to we're I have two ...

Why do people complain about their LDR relationships when they are not really that far away from each other?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4566 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Okay, now I don't know if I'm going off topic or something just tell me why do so many people I know who are in LDRs always complain when there only two or 3 hours apart from each other while me and my gf are 18 hours? It bothers me with a passion ...

We've gone ring shopping -- but he still hasn't proposed! How long is too long to wait?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

26 October 2011 (?) - My boyfriend and I will have been together three years as of this coming February. We have talked about getting married and have even gone to look at rings on multiple occasions. To my knowledge, he has not gone back by himself to look again or make ...

My classmates are sexually active or in relationships. Is there something wrong with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Im 15 and Im in ninth grade. Half of the kids in my grade had already lost their virginity (Im not one of them of course), and 3 of my 5 best friends have a boyfriend. Ive never had a boyfriend in my life, never been kissed etc. Im not a lesbian,or ...

Is he just leading me on for fun? How do I approach it with him without offending him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

25 October 2011 (M) - Hi, i'm not sure where to go with this situation. My best friend knows i'm gay, and is completely fine with it, as in it's something we talk about daily. He's not got a girl friend anymore and hasn't had sex for a few months so i know he's desp...