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Archived questions from: January, 2017 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2633 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...

I feel guilty and pathetic because I know there are people worse off than me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

30 January 2017 (F) - Sorry if this sounds whiny, but I think I need some advice from some non judgemental people. Basically, to say my life hasn't turned out how I imagined it is an understatement. I've done nothing with it literally. I don't know why, but when I was ...

My manager wants me to cancel my nonrefundable vacation for work!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

30 January 2017 (F) - Long story short, I back up one of my colleagues whenever she goes on vacation. We're in different departments. I'm happy to do so and she always only takes one day off at a time anyway. Anything that requires her expertise that I cannot handle ...

Should I dump uni' for a small screen role?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

30 January 2017 (F) - Hi everybody, I have a difficult decision to make. I am a student at uni studying accountancy. About half a year ago I suffered a nervous breakdown and was allowed to take break from my studies. I was experiencing a deep depression and took this ...

Why do men say they need porn?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2638 days ago

30 January 2017 (F) - Why do people so often say men need porn when it's clearly a want not a need. No man has ever died of lack of porn and although men may prefer porn to masturbate with porn , men for thousands of years masturbated without the hardcore porn available ...

Why would my co-worker buy me coffee and a muffin?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - Today one of my coworkers that I'm friendly with surprised me with coffee and muffin from a fast food place. I normally get to work an hour early because parking spaces are scarce--first come first serve. When I arrived, he came to my window and...

What should I do? Is this normal behaviour or is there more to this than she's letting on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2618 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - So, I have loved my best friend of over 5 years basically since I met her. We just had one of those instant connections and became best friends the second we sat next to each other in class. Both of us went back and forth about liking each other but ...

I'm 39 weeks pregnant and my husband is causing me anxiety as he prefers drinking and socialising with his friends. I feel unsupported. How should I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - I'm 39 weeks pregnant and married for less than a year so we are pretty new. We are currently waiting for the D day and I'm extremely anxious as this is our first child. The problem is that he just isn't there for me. He prefers hanging out ...

I want to move and live with my partner in Colombia but afraid of losing my job

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2643 days ago

29 January 2017 (M) - Hey There, Perhaps this is not the right platform to ask such a question, but I am going to try I am a gay person who is planning to move to Colombia in order to live with my Colombian partner. We thought that we could get married once i arri...

I am over chasing men. But without a man in my life, then how can I be happy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2459 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - It seems since I have been 17 years old I have been chasing men. 13 years later an two bad relatiosnhios and a broken home(my parents are miserable together) I have had enough. A little back story ( since my early twenties I have done everythi...

My girlfriend is in hospital and her family are keeping me in the dark

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2632 days ago

28 January 2017 (M) - I have no idea what to do to deal with this situation. I have been with my girlfriend since 2011, she was 18 at the time we started. We have had a great relationship, typical ups and downs, but all in all great. Her family has never warmed up ...

I feel I am just not good enough for anything, its affecting my life and future!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - How do I get over this overwhelming feeling that I'm just not good enough? I'm going to be 18 this year and I'm just sick of always feeling this way about everything. 1) I'm the middle child in my family, and this may sound really cliqué but it's...

Affair with my best friend but I have a partner of 18 years and a one year old that we had after years of trying. What do I do now?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - I've been with my partner for 18 years I do love him and we have a one year old which we tried for years to have. But for the last 3 year I have been having an affair with my best friend who's showed me so much love , a lot more love than I seem to ...

Our marriage is totally devoid of all physical contact!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2641 days ago

27 January 2017 (M) - I am writing to you because I feel I have no one to tell. I have been married for 20 years to a woman who is the mother of my three children (19, 17 1nd 12). We haven't had sex since before the birth of our youngest child and its killing me. In f...

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? My first serious girlfriend has since come out as a lesbian.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2645 days ago

26 January 2017 (M) - I was a little bit of a late bloomer but in college I finally met a really amazing girl who became my first serious girlfriend and by that I mean that she was all my firsts: first kiss, first love, first sexual encounter. She had been with one...

Why would my husband delete his porn history, when it upsets me even more than the actual porn usage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2647 days ago

26 January 2017 (F) - My husband deletes porn from his internet history so that it doesn't upset me. It's not that it upsets me a lot, I understand his reason for watching it is for quick release, usually his stress. And it's not ALL the time so... But I do sometimes g...

Is this an emotional affair? ?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - Is this an emotional affair? ? ? Last March- my husband of 27 years (M) was working at a customer's house (he's a contractor), and one day a woman (T) who lived across the street came over to bum a cigarette from one of M's workers. She a...

Should we talk things over or let him go ? His lies and his baby Mama have helped drive us apart.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2648 days ago

24 January 2017 (F) - MODNOTE: two near identical questions combined with additional material from the second question combined below with the first question . . . . . . . . . Dear Cupid Am a 40 year old female with two children from my previous marriage. When I los...

Does being rich make a guy sexier, or does he just offer more security?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2647 days ago

24 January 2017 (M) - Does being rich make a guy sexier, or does he just offer more security? What is better in a guy who is 20-30 years old.. Being super rich (through inheritance or the lottery), or having an $US80k job?...

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront him?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2648 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2649 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

I feel inadequate!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

22 January 2017 (M) - Here I am..again. Now trying to stop loving my wife. During the last 6 months 3 of her former FWB have written e-mails to her remembering their pleasure moments...I found out reading those e-mails (not spying , given we both have open access t...

Was he wrong for hitting me or am I being dramatic?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2651 days ago

19 January 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together 8months, I was pulling a silly face he didn't like and to stop me doing it he slapped my face, not hard by enough to shock me a little. He knows how I feel about face slapping (from previous bedroom antics) ...

We had a social scheduling conflict so my boyfriend cancelled his plans with me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2653 days ago

19 January 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I used to set up social events for our large group of friends as a pastime. However we became busy and stopped, and finally set one up for this weekend which we had been planning to for awhile. 10 said yes and 10 more said maybe ...

I love my partner but we've been having sexual issues and I'm starting to develop feelings for a colleague

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2649 days ago

19 January 2017 (F) - Hi all, I am having a bit of a problem at the moment. I have been with my partner for just over 5 years and we have been extremely happy. We are best friends and have been since the start. Very recently I have started developing feelings for ...

Is it my fault I got put into the FWB category?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

19 January 2017 (F) - I've always been a woman that holds myself with dignity and believe that I have a lot to offer a man in a relationship. I am in no way saying this to brag or boast myself but my personality has always shined and others have told me so as well. ...

How can I find out if I am fertile ... or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2655 days ago

17 January 2017 (M) - dear cupid im worried about my fertility im 35 years old mals i dated a lady 28 year for 3 years relationzhip.staying together.she got preg and i went for dna with her and found that im not the farther.it happened to me on past i get a girlfriend ...

He says my body is his.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

16 January 2017 (F) - My partner of 3 yrs and i have a beautiful little girl who is 1. Lately my partner has been trying touching me and trying to penetrate me whilst we are playing with our daughter which i have put a stop to. He has started sayimg he can touch me ...

Entitled Flatmate Won't Pull His Weight - What Should We Do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2657 days ago

14 January 2017 (F) - Moved in recently, I replaced another guy who lives here so didn't know the flatmates that well. The day I move in, the girl who lives here tells me that she hates the other guy, that he won't pull his weight in the flat, left a stain she ended ...

Should I just quit the job I hate?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2656 days ago

14 January 2017 (F) - I have been working for the same company as a CNA for 5 years and I absolutely hate my job. I went back to school for dietary aide and I just got a offer in different facility to work in the kitchen.I went for training and I must say I like the job ...

Should I listen to my heart or to my mind?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2658 days ago

13 January 2017 (M) - Hi, i have fallen for my assistant. Its just that we are so different. We come from different strata s of society, different upbringing and different religion. We have different tastes. But we get along very well in office. Now i cant stop thinking...

Should I try to win back my friend after criticising her uncle?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2658 days ago

13 January 2017 (F) - My best friend's uncle is making me feel uncomfortable. He is an older unemployed man who might be in his late 30s. Everytime I go to my friend's house he calls me names like "my baby, sweetie" which he normally does not use with any of the females ...

Why guys appear to disappear?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2659 days ago

12 January 2017 (F) - I was talking to this guy for 9 months. We argued after and hurt his feelings. He did not forgive me. Then i gave it a time. I did not text him for a while. All of a sudden, he texted me as if nothing happens for 2 weeks. He lives in San Diego an...

Why do men disappear? And should I reach out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2658 days ago

12 January 2017 (F) - Why do men suddenly disappear? And should I reach out or let it go? Here's the situation : I met a guy a year ago. I gave him my phone number. He lives in a different city but for one year, casually kept in touch (maybe one text a month). Then i...

Am I wrong? Is she being unreasonable? Would be unprofessional to tell her what transpired, when I was asked not to by my management?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2659 days ago

11 January 2017 (F) - I was called into a meeting today at work to discuss something, which wasn't a HUGE deal but which was asked to be kept confidential until he other people involved had been informed. My friend at work asked me what the meeting was about and I sa...

Am I over reacting to husband's online interaction with another woman?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2664 days ago

8 January 2017 (F) - me and my husband are having some problems, maybe its all me i dont know but anyway.. few yeas back i caught him deleting messages from a co worker he said it was nothing but just didnt want me to get the wrong end of he stick so thought he would...

Present employer could jeopardise new employment

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2664 days ago

8 January 2017 (F) - Not a dating/relationship question, but would really appreciate any input from anyone who has any ideas/thoughts on this problem, as it could turn out to be a big problem for me. I have worked for a number of years for a small, family-owned com...

I am finding it increasingly difficult to deal with my in laws!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2664 days ago

8 January 2017 (F) - I am finding it increasingly difficult to deal with my husbands family . He has several family members who beliefs and behaviour are very challenging and they sometimes stay with us as they live interstate . Some are currently or were in the past ...

Do women daydream too?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2662 days ago

7 January 2017 (M) - I have to admit, that when i see a beautiful woman, i sometimes start to daydream about her. What might happen if we got to know each other and where this may lead... Do women do this too when they see an attractive man? Please let me know a...

Suspicious of what's going on at work.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2651 days ago

7 January 2017 (F) - I would appreciate your opinion on this. I left my previous job for a better opportunity. I work in finance department and my new job hasn't offered any training. So far I'm doing well. Just my manager doesn't realize that I started last month. ...

Is it just the sex he wants?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2650 days ago

7 January 2017 (F) - I have been seeing a guy for 3 months now, but we don't meet often, only once per 1 or 2 weeks, depending on our work schedules. We do go on dates when we meet, not just sex. He remembered my bday even though I have only mentioned it once and he ...

My life looks pretty discouraging!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2665 days ago

5 January 2017 (F) - I have just turned 30, and that has caused me to evaluate what I should or should not have acquired/achieved by this age. And my self analysis looks pretty discouraging: Dead-end part-time job with no health benefits ,and no PTO I have just gradu...

Why do men insist on commenting about other women's looks?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2666 days ago

5 January 2017 (F) - I was wondering if anyone could shed some light in this for me . A guy was seeing went out of his was to make a point to me how beautiful his ex wife was. I have also noticed before that men seem to do this when on dates sometimes . They seem to ...

How do I get my friend interested in the dating scene?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2550 days ago

5 January 2017 (M) - Hi everyone, this is surely going to be a very long question and I'd appreciate any genuine answers as I'm doing this for a friend I care about. So my friend has had a pretty straight yet unusual growing up. Went to a boarding house for 6 year...

He promised to change if we got married ....

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2666 days ago

4 January 2017 (F) - I am currently married 5 moths this January, we where engaged for a year and dated a year and 1/2 prior to that. Well now I want a divorce! My husband is the man I married and he swore that after we got ,arrived things would change, but still 5 ...

I don't like feeling so alone!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2666 days ago

4 January 2017 (F) - I need some advice on being lonely. I posted his question once before and would really appreciate some more help pleasseeeee I've been feeling so lonely that I cry myself to sleep every night. I feel that I have nothing to live for. All I do is...

Why did he tell me about his ex wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2666 days ago

4 January 2017 (F) - I like a guy I work with and have been getting closer to him. We've known each other for a few years now but before I was very shy. We have a bit of an age difference so that made me a bit more hesitant as I wasn't sure if he would be interested. ...

My married lover wants me to move to his country with our son

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2433 days ago

3 January 2017 (F) - Dear readers, I am in a really complex situation. 8 years ago, I met a man - we were both married at the time. I didn't have any children, because my then husband did not want any, despite my wanting a child desperately. The other person (OP) has ...

My boyfriend didn't include me in his birthday plans

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2667 days ago

3 January 2017 (F) - Is my boyfriend trying to distance himself from me? Or is he trying to break up with me slowly? My boyfriend is acting like a jerk and didnt invite me to his birthday celebration. We spent NYE together and everything was normal. He was ...