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Archived questions from: August, 2009 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

Too much in love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I have been married a little over a year after a divorce from a 35 year marriage. We are both madly in love with each other and spend every minute we can together, we just can't seem to get enough of each other. I moved to a new city to enable ...

If a girl says 'thank you' after you've been on a date, does it mean it's over? And how do I ask a girl from school out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - [Mod note - two seperate questions were from the same poster, so I have combined both] Q1: im gonna ask this girl out. im 15, shes 16. I know her from school. Ask her out at school? If I do ask her out at school it cant be nothing super huge o...

Where do I fit in with him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I dont get it.... There's this guy who asked me out and asked was I single etc... I said I was and he met up with me. I knew him just from being in a club I'm a member of. He obviously took a shine to me. He then tells me he has a gf away he had i...

How can I make myself look hot?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I don't feel confident at all when I realize that I'm an ugly one. It's hard for me to talk to a girl because girls like hot guys. I don't have blonde hair and blue eyes too. What should I do to make girls look over my appearance ? Thanks.... ...

I am 33 with four kids, can a relationship with a 21 year old work?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I’m a 33-year old mother of four, who is dating a 21-year old man for about two years. I have always been attracted to younger men. He is very compassionate, thoughtful, financially supportative, and he always goes the extra mile to prove that he is ...

How do I improve my social graces, I am sacastic, self-degrading and don't fit in, any suggestions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - i feel socially screwed, like a real life larry david or a woody allen...sad thing is that those guys have social graces (i'm assuming), in real life that i do not have. everything that comes out of my mouth, in retrospect, seems sarcastic, self-...

How do I reconnect with all the people I knew and liked in the last decade?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - what are you supposed to do when you feel totally disconnected from all of the friends you had in the past, and the ones you currently know? i've been through some stuff within the last year that brought me somewhat back to myself, and now ...

He's kind, loving, but never says "I love you," should I say something?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 86 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - When is the right time to say I love you to someone?? I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months but he has never said he loves me. I don't know if its too early to bring it up or if I should wait. When he's drunk he tells me how special I am and ...

He's 17, has two kids and still talks to his babies mothers, should I try to have a relationship with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I talk to this dude with Two kids he's only 17 n I no he still talks to his babies mamas but I really Lik him, and we was talk awhile before he got the pregnan.! What should I do?...

I'm desperate to have a kid, but I can't find the right guy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 86 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - i want to have kids so bad...but i'm always attracted to or i attract guys who have to have control over every aspect of their life. i have a feeling many children in this world are conceived unplanned, but i don't meet guys who are even remotely ...

I try to be like those who I care for, how can I be who I am instead?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 86 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - when i'm alone for a long time, i know what's 'right' and 'wrong' at least for myself. when i'm with someone that i love, i lose my sense of this somewhat. it gets worse if they're highly critical. i almost become like them, or like how they want me ...

We have a sexual relationship only, should he at least have sent me a birthday card?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I have a sexual relationship with this man. We have been seeing eachother for a while, mind you mainly just for sex. It was my birthday the other day and he did not call to say Happy Birthday. I did not expect a gift but I was expecting a phone ...

Two people deleted me from their Facebook, am I not cool enough, how do I get over this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - two people deleted me from my facebook. I never really talked to them but I don't understand why they would do that. It really hurt my feelings. How do get over this?? I feel like i'm not cool enough for them. It affected my self esteem ...

If you take a bath with your girlfriend or boyfriend, what part of their body should you view first?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - If you have the chance to take a bath with your girlfriend or boyfriend, when she/he get nude, what part of her/his body do you view first? ...

In love with my teacher. He is single and I want to get more involved

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 64 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I've had feelings for my teacher for a while now and I;m pretty sure he feels the same way by the way he talks to me, approaches me, and we even hug and slightly touch sometimes. Anyway, he's single and I want to get more involved but im not sure ...

I want to be with her all the time but I don't want to stifle her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - I am recently married (1 year) after a divorce from a 35 year marriage. I am totally in love with this woman so much so that I am anxious when I am without her, even when she is at work(I am retired). I totally trust her, we have an unbeliev...

How can I get motivated with doing things in life, and how can I get a new boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Ever since my ex boyf of about 2 years dumped me (about 3 months ago) I've had almost no motivation for life. Don't get me wrong- I'm not seriously depressed and suicidal or anything and promise myself I never will be- but I have been leading a very ...

What do you make of this guys mixed signals toward me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - What do you do when a guy doesn't make things clear. He says one thing and then does another. He acts like he wants a full commitment again and then when I agree he hides out again. I did not call him at all and he came running back and then when ...

When in a relationship do people usually hit third base?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I am a 17 year old girl, with an 18 year old boyfriend. (Canada) We've been going out for three months, and we hit 2nd base a while back. He started testing for 3rd, like carressing upper thigh, butt, etc. But he made sure I knew he'd never do ...

There's this guy that has asked me out, but there are a few things in the way, and I like someone else! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 86 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Men are definately like buses!! I met this 21 year old throught my sister about a year ago and we've been talking on msn and such ever since, we've also met up a few times recently. He has now asked me out. However i have a number of proble...

What are the signs that a guy likes you?!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Heyy=] I finished school and I am 16years Old,I be going College and I just wanted some Advice about guys!! I want to know? 1.Do they get Butterflies when they Kiss a girl 2.when they like someone what do they do any hints or signs 3.Wh...

How do I know if a girl is interested in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 86 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - im butch and i have problems guessing who would really be interested in me.. and in a place like india its very difficult.. its highly taboo to be gay! i have never had a steady relationship at all.. and its been over an year i do not have a ...

Can you be friends with someone who doesn't talk to you much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - Can you be friends with someone who doesn't talk to you much? My friend ignores me a lot and doesn't talk to me but were always ok with each other! Its like a distant relationship! We see each other at school and when we talk he jokes around with me ...

Is it possible to be in love with someone even though you're not in a relationship with them?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - is it possible to be in love with someone even though you"re not in a relationship with them?! ...

Knowing whether to use advice or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - I have asked a e few questions on here now and always got mixed answers though I think its a great site just to air your feelings. . . . . My question is with the fact you get so many mixed messages is a case your just getting what people are ...

How can I overcome this regret?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - You know how everyone goes through life saying...no regrets....well i was like that until i was dealt a regret that im not sure I'll ever be able to live down.. long story short... I became addicted to drugs 6 months after i married the girl i n...

If he is sent to prison, should I go and visit him? I still love him and feel bad about all of this...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - hi i have just won a criminal court case, against my ex for stealing fraud and driving offences whilst banned. he was an alcoholic, he pleaed guilty to all 5 charges against me. at first he tried to blame my by pleading not guilty, but come...

What can I do to drop hints that I'm ready for marriage, without making it obvious?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - Heres the thing ive been dating this guy for acouple years now we live together and have a daughter together. our relationship is good but i want to make then next step in our relationship, i wanna get married. i thinks its the right time we baught ...

Why do guys always make comments about your friends when you're dating them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 87 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - A couple of months ago I was seeing this guy who used to always comment on my girl friends. He never called anyone ugly, but he would always say something if my friend was gorgeous. He would say: Wow, she's so hot. After he did this a bunch of ...

It's been 12 years, I still love and want my ex boyfriend and still regret breaking up with him. How can I make peace with myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 79 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - I was in love with a boyfriend 12 years ago, we dated for 6 years and were best friends. He was lovely, caring, everything I wanted in a life partner. However, I was young and naive and thought that the beginnings of a relationship (when it's ...

Sorry that I couldn't give you your life to live

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - I promised myself that if I got one wish that I'd spend it on you. I know I couldve done it, I would of struggled but I would of gotten through. It's my fault, I know: that I'll never watch you grow. It's my fault you aren't here but I promise I'll ...

Is there still a point in saving it?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 67 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - I hope I don't get made fun of for this. I've only had one girlfriend ever, so not much relationship experience. Im 20 years old and I'm still a virgin; and I'm saving it for the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. It's difficult though, ...

How much "pocket money" should I give him while he doesn't have a job?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 88 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - Hello everyone, I haven't been on his site for a long time but I hope all is well for everyone...my boyfriend of 2 years has just been let go from his job of a few years today and I just happened to just geta promotion...I don't know how to deal ...

If someone withholds love because of pressure from others, isn't that a type of punishment?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - If someone suddenly withholds love from you and intentionally becomes distant, because of pressure from other family members whom she loves, isn't that like a punishment? In religion, the definition of excommunication is: "A form of censure b...

I can't stop thinking about this girl I saw on youtube!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 88 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - llatelly ive been spenduling alot of tim on youtube and once i stumbled on this beautfull girl who i instantly fell in lve lwith. i think of her all the time . shes like my perfect match . we share alot of intresst and with alot i mean ALOT ! i ...

I laugh, I cry, I love just like normal people, so why do I end up unhappy?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

28 August 2009 (?) - im in such a mess. ive posted here before and i cant find the question but i asked about a family problem. i will reexplain it. everything has seemed to get worse since then. its a long story but intersting, so if you cant help me then well, at ...

Why hasn't it ever worked out with someone I've dated?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - Theoughout all my experiences with men I always find myself in the SAMe situation. The first few weekS are great, they won't stop texting,calling and trying to spend time with me, but unfortunately after those few weeks it All stopS. They all have ...

What does it mean when our eyes get 'misty'?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 88 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - In the past I some times looked really close at the eyes (more precisely, the irises) of my former girlfriends and I felt my eyes going sort of "misty" and almost immediately their eyes did the same. What causes this and what does it signify? T...

Will my relationships never survive without me sacrificing my friendships and career?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of three years yesterday. He is the only man I have ever loved and he made me feel more loved than anyone could possibly explain. I broke up with him because even though our relationship was so fantastic, other aspects ...

Was I right to break my girlfriend's ex's leg and jaw because he used to hit her and cheat on her?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 67 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - look im a 15 year old kick boxer. i been with this girl ever since elementry i really like her. I broke her ex boy friends jaw and leg because he cheated on her and he hit her a couple of times. am I right or wrong....

How do I give someone a hickey?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - How do you give someone a hickey? My boyfriend wants me to give him one but idk how. Like I know you have to suck and bite on their necks but like is that all ? And how exactly do you do it ? ...

Since I miscarried my periods have been irregular, if and when will it get back to normal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 89 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - i had a miscarriage jan.30 09 and ive been ttc ever since the odd thing is my periods r way outa control b4 i get it every 35 days now it any day when will i ever b back normal .any body with similar experiences? ...

Now he wants to go out with friends by himself, am I right to be suspicious?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - my husband and i have been together for 8 years now. we have always been the kind of couple that went out to social events together, whether it was with his friends/family or mine. in the last year he has not joined me to most social events that ...

Why do I attract men who want to change me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 71 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - am i focusing on this too much, or is it more of a reality? i feel like i'm always attracted to or attracting men, and people in general, that want to change me. i'm not saying that there aren't things i shouldn't change about myself, but the ...

Who is going to give me away at my wedding? Should I walk down alone

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - I'm getting married. I'm really excited, but when I actually got down to think about the wedding and started to plan...I realize...who is going to give me away at my wedding? My stepfather since the age of 2 had passed away, I considered him as my ...

I've tried it all to get over her death! Help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - Hello, I got married at 22 and when 4 years passed, my wife had a problem and she died, it's been 3 years I can't get over it! Knowing she's dead keeps me awake all the time rendering me always afraid, worried, I love her that much that words can't ...

How do I be more social? I feel like I'm living under a rock!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 89 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend suggested me to improve my social skills. This weekend we went on a trip with some of his friends. Well, I'm not a wallflower per se, but I've never been that social. Anyway, I talked with them and had some fun. Although sometimes it ...

Why do women flirt with me and then think I'm a loser for asking them out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - Hi. I have a question about flirting. Why do women do this and then seem so surprised to be asked out? I've asked out a few women over the years, thinking they were interested. In the majority of cases the women have then proceeded to completely ...

She's filed spousal support papers, does anyone know what could happen?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - Ok here it goes my bf is getting divorced and the papers have been filed. She did not contest the papers now she has served him with spousel support papers. Does any one know what can happen? This is a never endidng nightmare. It's adding stress to ...

How long before you know it's love and not just a crush?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 89 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - How long before you can tell that its love and not just a crush? I have loved someone for over ten years now, and I am very sure it is not, or has never been a crush. If it has been a couple of months and then you find you no longer feel as s...