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Archived questions from: July, 2012 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

How did you pick you wedding bands?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4279 days ago

31 July 2012 (F) - Hi! This is a very shallow question but here it is. So, I'm getting married soon. Fiancé and I are going to pick up wedding bands this weekend. We both agreed we like them platinum, but I think I'd rather have it gold, you know, real yellow gold ...

Dad will disinherit me if I marry my guy. Is my Dad just being paranoid about my Fiance? Or does he have a point?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4279 days ago

31 July 2012 (F) - Hi! Last night I told my estranged father I'm getting married in the Fall. He threw a fit and said if I do he will disinherit me and we won't talk anymore. When I asked him why he said that if we got divorced I'd have to support him financially ...

She lost the baby and she is crying and very upset. How do I comfort and support her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4278 days ago

31 July 2012 (M) - When we found out she was pregnant, it was a shock, she was excited but i was not so keen as i didn't ever see myself having kids. I got used to the idea and got excited and we went to look at baby clothes on the weekend and we had our first 12...

Do I continue seeing this new guy or wait for who I believe to be my soulmate?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4279 days ago

30 July 2012 (F) - My best friend and me are falling in love with each other, he said he is in love with me. Hopelessly I've waited on him for months. But little things make everything unclear and makes me unsure. Like him kissing and flirting with other girls ...

If I don't fall in love with a girl does that mean I'm gay?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4280 days ago

30 July 2012 (M) - hello there guys im so confused right now because i recently liked a girl and then just stopped suddenly. this is not my problem. my problem is that now im starting to think i will never fall in love with a girl and i really want to and have chi...

I don't know how to find my soul mate

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4280 days ago

30 July 2012 (M) - hello onliners and dears my question goes like this...am now 26 year old middle height length boy i appreciate cute girls, i frequently get such kinds of girls do not get along with me for a long time just because they might love sex or money or sth ...

Do posters on Dear Cupid frame their questions in a way that would lead to them getting answers which they unknowingly want?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4279 days ago

30 July 2012 (F) - This isn't a question about myself, it's about all of us in general who post questions here on dearcupid. I think it's an odd set up because, like with any agony aunt site, the only information the answerer has to go on lies with the questioner, and ...

I feel miserable after I ejaculate/Orgasm

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4280 days ago

30 July 2012 (M) - I feel miserable after I ejaculate/Orgasm. I have never been satisfied with masturbation and now I have started being sexually active again after some time I was hoping I would enjoy orgasm more but I get the feelings of being loved up with the ...

The only thing I really have here is a job. Should I give it up and move where I could be happy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4276 days ago

29 July 2012 (F) - I am a 33yrs old female, separated but not divorced yet. Living on my own for almost two years, independet, not kids., free drama. I made a trip like 3 months ago..I met a guy..younger guy..I fell for him..we continued the comunica...

Tw guys head over heels in love with me.Torn loyalty to each. What should I do? One has been in jail.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4280 days ago

29 July 2012 (F) - I've got a huge dilemma. I have 2 guys pretty much head of heels in love with me. I was with Guy A for 4 and a half years. 3 of those years were spent getting beat up, abused and treated like a dog. Within that time, I gave birth to his 2 childre...

Fallen in love with my teacher. What should I do? She looks at me too.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4280 days ago

29 July 2012 (F) - i am 13 year old girl and have fallen in love with my new german teacher ( she is female) i think she knows because in an asemberly all my frends said she was looking at me and when me and my freinds and i were sat out side and she kept lookin at us ...

I didn't have money so I stole formula for my baby, am I going to go to jail?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4281 days ago

29 July 2012 (F) - I am a twenty three year old female, I got caught for shoplifting yesterday and now I have to go to court. I am very scared, I've never been to court before or in the legal system at all. I didn't have any money and my daughter needed formula. D...

Don't want to cheat. She doesn't want sex and I love her. So how can I get rid of this desire on my part for intimacy and also affection?.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4282 days ago

29 July 2012 (M) - o.k. here is the jist of my situation. I will be married for 20 years come next year to the same woman. And I love my wife so much but intimacy has never been the same. now a days, since the kids are older she likes to go out with her girlfriends ...

Is this possible? Could I do it? Want to cut verbally abusive brother out of my life but family frown upon it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4279 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - prior to a question id asked the other day http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-brother-is-verbally-abusing-me-and-ive5.html Well i took the great advice , thanks guys for that, decided to cut my brother out of my life. However in doing so, i've h...

My feelings for him are strong. His actions indicate he doesn't care. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - I know i need to split up with my boyfriend, he is constantly out with his friends even though he has no job. We have a child together and when he is out im stuck in the house myself with no one to speak to, it has gotten so bad that it has driv...

Can't understand his reaction. Why did he make out nothing happened? We did cuddle. Did I do something wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - Hello Aunts. Recently Ive been spending a lot of time with one of my male friends, I guess at this point in my life he would be my best friend as I spend all of my free time with him. We both have feelings for another but until recently neith...

Do you think this Work colleague likes me, after he said my husband, "would be crazy to not love me"?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - I'm a 35 year old married lady though not happily and on my way out of a marriage. I just got chatting with a collegue and as part of a conversation i said 'i dont thing my husband loves me' and he said 'He'd be crazy not to' Do you think he has f...

What's he on about? Wedding called off, he's moving out, but doesn't want to split !?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4281 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - Okay...so I'm feeling heartbroken and I don't know where to go from here? My fiance and I have been together for 4 years and we were supposed to be getting married this September. We've lived together for the last 3 years and we bought a new hom...

Why ask? Should I comply? My married lover wants to know about any other women I sleep with

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (M) - I have been sleeping with a married woman for over a year now. She has an open marriage (within some limits) and we get along great both inside and outside of bed. She and I were talking and I asked her if she'd be upset if I slept with other...

Religious differences. Parental interference. I love him so much and I know he loves me too. What do I do!?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4265 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - I'm in love with my guy friend who has been brought up in one religion and me in another religion. I have started to question my beliefs about 2 years ago... now I identify as agnostic. A few months ago I told my parents about my love for my frie...

My boyfriend has suddenly up and left me for an unemployed drug addict

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - My boyfriend of just over a year has finished with me for someone else. The woman he has left me for is a drug addict and alcoholic, has had her 3 children taken into care, is dirty, rude, violent, and unemployed living in an extremely run down and ...

He's committed to me. FWB without the sex. So what do we have? And am I being too clingy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - I have been with a guy for 5.5 years now. We are both 21 right now. we dated the first 2 years and then we broke up because of something one of my friends at the time told me he was doing. I later found out she lied. He said sorry many many man...

To me he is perfect. We plan to marry. But do you think he is gay? What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years. He told me approx a year ago that before we got together he had two sexual encounters with another male. He said these two occasions happened within a few weeks of each other. They didnt h...

My wife likes acting flirty sexy with other men. Should we consider the threesome offer my friend has made?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4267 days ago

28 July 2012 (M) - My wife has a sexy body and a real cute ass , she loves going 2 pubs and clubs with me and sitting fully clothed on other mens laps. She gets really turned on feeling their erection sticking into her private parts and we never make it home afterwar...

Where do I go from here? I seem to have lost my "friendly colleagues" in the charity shop I helped.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - I live in a fairly small area (an island) and worked in a charity shop which I enjoyed however for the second time one of the managers decided to open his own shop. The first manager and one of the workers opened their own shop. The second m...

Is he cheating? I love him with all my heart but I'm now caught and lost in his deception

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - my bf is always lying and taking off for hours or days without saying he is leaving and doesnt call while hes gone. then lies about where he was who he was with, etc. then i find out from other people he was kicking it with other broads. he alwa...

Seems the same guy is trying to steal another girl away from me. How should I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly three months now, and lately, a guy has started trying to steal her away from me. This same guy has already taken one girl away from me and I know that he's heartless enough to do or say what...

Why would my boyfriend behave like this? He was most insistent about wanting sex.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - Hi, I really need to know that you think is going through my boyfriends head because this has never happened to me before in any relationship I have been in. I was getting ready to go out with a group of girlfriends one evening. About an hour bef...

What should I do? We broke up but he wants me 'on hold' but in his life? Yet he is talking to other girls already?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - Hi all, I have recently (2 weeks ago) broken up with a boyfriend of 4 months. The circumstances of the break-up were as follows: He stopped showing me any affection, he was cancelling plans to see me and he has avoided calls, simply texting m...

Sex only 4 times in 5 years? But no affection? Gives his Aunt more affection. Should I leave?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4274 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - My bf of five years has only had sex with me four times He also only shows affection to his aunt I'm staying with him but his aunt is the one to get the kiss when he comes home Is it normal he does kiss hold or touch me and I sleep in his bed I c...

We broke up last week. With No Contact, his idea. But can I still text him to wish him good luck with exams? Or wait?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

28 July 2012 (F) - Hey Me and my bf broke up last week. I met him after 2 days asking him to be friends he disagreed for any contact. I maintained the no contact rule and today is the sixth day. He has exams on monday therefore, can I text him to wish him good lu...

How to flirt with women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

27 July 2012 (M) - I'm a 29 year old guy looking for advice on how, where and when to flirt with women. I stopped trying after my early 20s and I've become pretty clueless and insecure. I'm looking to get back in the game. Any suggestions? ...

I've lost interest in a great guy because of the way he looks! Am I just scared of comittment? Or am I a shallow jerk? Or both?!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4280 days ago

27 July 2012 (F) - I think I have lost interest in someone that I would like not to lose interest in, for shallow reasons. I'm not sure if I'm suffering from commitment phobia or if I'm just a shallow jerk, or both. I had a crush on a guy that managed a local ...

Depression is holding me back in life, any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4281 days ago

27 July 2012 (F) - im 32 year old lesbian and i do get depression which i have been to the doctors and done counselling and will be doing again. i do try and have hobbies i go swimming i like to read and i see friends sometimes and i have even been to see courtcases ...

Is my Gf a compulsive liar? Can I or should I trust her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4283 days ago

27 July 2012 (M) - Hi everyone. I've been together with a girl for around 2 months now who I met online. A few months before we got together, she told me that she lived in Japan and was studying at a college to draw Japanese comics. She also told me that she grew up ...

If my ex Gf breaks No Contact, is she just checking up on me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4283 days ago

27 July 2012 (M) - Been in a relationship for 8 months. Month ago we got into heated discussion over something silly which resulted in break-up. Over next two weeks I tried to talk to her. It was not on a daily basis but rather every 3-4 days with no contact in ...

Why would a girl get scared off and shy away from guy if he's never had a Gf before?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4283 days ago

27 July 2012 (M) - A question for you girls. If a girl ask a guy when was your last relationship and the guy replies he never had one why would the girl get scared off and not give that person a chance? Though he is very nice and friendly why do women shun away ...

I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4268 days ago

27 July 2012 (F) - Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...

Bad girls, let me sign up. Guys, why are the sweet girls never enough for you?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

26 July 2012 (F) - I am sick of being the good girl. We do finish last. 26 years is quite enough of believing fairytales, giving your all in love only to get burned, cheated and dissapointed... And watch how other women, who only think about what they want get aw...

Now I'm in this predicament. But does he still love this other girl? Or is he just a player?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4280 days ago

26 July 2012 (F) - My boyfriend (21) has told me he has had 3 past girlfriends (N, G, M) and that he's had sex with only 2 of them and he doesnt even remember who he fucked G or M. Those supposedly are the only girls he has had sex with and also the first girl he lost ...

Love, virginity, scared. How do I deal with my fears about losing my virginity with my BF?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4269 days ago

26 July 2012 (F) - So I'm a virgin a complete utter virgin, but I think I might be too childish or I am thinking too childish about sex. My body is telling me it wants to but my head is saying different. I'm not scared of having sex, I'm just scared of what my ...

He's unwilling to commit to me. Any suggestions or ways to encourage commitment from a guy?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4283 days ago

26 July 2012 (F) - I need help... I love this man and he loves me. We do really care about each other trully. I want to be with him only. We've been "dating" for 6 mos now. But he wont make any commitment to me. Im not asking for a wedding ring just a standard re...

Should I consider this other man? My husband is not intersted in me. Does this other man only want sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4275 days ago

26 July 2012 (F) - Hi, iam 25 years old married and have a kid,my husband is not interested in doing any sex with me... Nor will he discuss any matters to me. I saw some SMS in his mobile , which is related to a girl. I think he has another affair, if i ask him, he ...

Do I continue to put up with his behaviour? Or not? He's Flirting, but not to me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4284 days ago

26 July 2012 (F) - hey :) small question i hope, so my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 10 months. Urm.. hes never been much of a flirt but we've both had some trust issues however i had a reason not to trust him because he betrayed me before, not ...

Is it too much fir me to want my wife to wear a little make-up?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

26 July 2012 (M) - I really need advice.I have been maried for 18 years.my question is we have one dissagrement I would really like it if my wife would wear a little mascara, eye shadow and lipstick.Not everyday just like three or four times a year.l love her she is ...

Does he deserve to be forgiven?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4284 days ago

26 July 2012 (F) - Dear advisors, this is my situation. me and my ex bf were perfectly happy together and i loved him very much and i felt that he did too. at that point we had been going out for one year. he is 26 and i am 21 years old. and at that time we both went ...

Would it be bad of me if I went away with my friend and told my girlfriend it was a work convention?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4285 days ago

25 July 2012 (M) - I took her away to Florida in June and we are booked to go back next summer. She is going away with her family for a week in August and i was invited but i cannot get the time off work. I was thinking about going away for a week in September with...

Shall I just see how things go even though I don't want a casual relationship, or do I risk telling her how I feel and potentially scaring her off?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4285 days ago

25 July 2012 (M) - So, I slept with a girl drunkenly the other day. She also happens to be a friend/colleague. I wasn't sure whether my feelings for her were anything but friends but now after what has happened I am definitely developing feelings for her. I am ...

She's my Dream Girl. But I'm consumed with jealousy over her past. Can someone help me resolve this huge problem?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4269 days ago

25 July 2012 (M) - how do I stop thinking about my Girlfriends past and make sure its not the end of our future? I looked at many sites about guys on this subject but Wow all these dudes think they got it bad with like girlfriends having 3-4 partners more then th...

Did I do the right thing? He cheated, and he asked me to tell him when I do forgive him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4285 days ago

25 July 2012 (F) - I found out today that my boyfriend of two years has been skyping another girl, calling her 'sexy', 'love', 'cutie', all things that he calls me, telling her she's 20 times hotter than me, that he'll think of her when he's in bed with me, etc. ...