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Archived questions from: January, 2020 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

My fiance is feeling insecure after a burn accident. How can I help him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1545 days ago

31 January 2020 (F) - My fiance has always been self-conscious about his acne. Bad days are occasional, but they do happen, and it causes him social anxiety. A few months ago, he was in an accident that burned his arm, chest, and face, and it has affected how he looks. ...

Did I say something I shouldn't have? Boyfriend got offended by a remark I made

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1545 days ago

31 January 2020 (F) - MOD NOTE: DID YOUR BOYFRIEND GET OFFENDED, WHY ARE YOU ASKING HOW THE VOLUNTEER AGONY AUNTS WOULD RESPOND? I was looking for honest feedback without me possibly swaying what they felt with the outcome. Yes, he was offended. His response was, a ...

My boyfriend doesn't know what's expected in a relationship.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1544 days ago

31 January 2020 (F) - Hi, What do I do if my boyfriend (Who is an adult.) was never been taught anything about woman/Being in a romantic relationship/ Has never had any experience in a relationship? Details: (Dating for 5 months, I'm his first relationship) My boyfrie...

Was it my fault that we got into a mess?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1548 days ago

30 January 2020 (F) - I’ve been with my bf for 5 years now. I’m 22 and he’s 25. We live in the city in sort of a sketchy area, so sometimes I have to park my car down this creepy alleyway because our complex doesn’t have assigned parking. Annoying, I know. So last night, ...

No matter how much of an effort I put in, my husband looks at me like I'm am old dish rag

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1548 days ago

28 January 2020 (F) - I feel my husband is not attracted to me . He shows very little interest in me . I could walk around naked or in lingerie and he wouldn’t bat an eyelid but with other younger women who he clearly finds attractive he definitely pays attention . If we ...

I just need another person's perspective on boyfriend's attitude when we are gaming.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

27 January 2020 (F) - Hello everybody. I would like peoples honest opinions on the way my partner sometimes speaks to me, as I feel he could be more tactful with his words sometimes. I will give one recent example from the other night. We were playing a two player g...

He cried more over his old dog dying than he did over us splitting up.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

27 January 2020 (F) - Hi I’ve just ended a 6 year relationship he preferred being at work and spending time with his dog than with me and his twin daughters who are 3 years old the problem is he is still living with me until he finds somewhere we split up 6 weeks ago I ...

My father feels I betrayed him when I was a child.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1546 days ago

27 January 2020 (F) - My father has been mad at me for years and will hardly even speak to me. He and mom were divorced when I was 7, my brother was 9, and my sister was 4. Mom is old school about certain things. When I was 10, I had stayed out past dark playing at a ...

Is it possible for this to happen?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1548 days ago

27 January 2020 (F) - My boyfriend was married at twenty years old, he is now forty. He has said he was naive, manipulated into getting married and knew he didn't love her. Is it possible people do get married when they know they don't love someone and know it wont last ...

Is there such a thing as "harmless flirting"?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1551 days ago

25 January 2020 (M) - I don't have a girlfriend at the moment and I don't date older women. There is this attractive lady in her early 30s. I think she is about 7 or at most 10 years older than me. A few years ago when I first got to know her, I used to flirt wit...

How can I stay positive, I know I will never be slim and trim.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1551 days ago

23 January 2020 (F) - Can some people give me some ideas on how to stay positive . I suffer from a hormonal endocrine problem that Menander my body holds on to body fat . I’m medicated for it and see a specialist regularly but it will be with me for life . I follow a ...

My step father is abusive but wants my mother to take him back.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1551 days ago

22 January 2020 (F) - My dad passed away in 2009 by suicide. I was 13 at the time my sister was 2.. In 2010 my mum met this guy -let's call him Jay. They dated for awhile until my mum fell pregnant and the family forced them to get married -she had a miscarriage. D...

Is my One Night Stand acting normal?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

21 January 2020 (F) - I joined plenty of fish in August last year, and swapped numbers with a guy, he lived in a differnt town then me , but had family members in my home town, Anyway new years eve he was down and we finally got to meet, i knew from day one that whe...

I don't know how to be alone.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1557 days ago

20 January 2020 (F) - I split up with my ex of 8years 7months ago but only stopped living with him 3months ago. Since splitting up I had a few casual dates that meant nothing and then met this guy I really liked him and I thought everything was going great but he just ...

Is there a cruel free way to break up?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

20 January 2020 (F) - Hello agony aunts, I've been with my bf for 1 year now, it's been a year full of ups and downs. The first few months of the relationship were great, well he's my first boyfriend, and I felt on cloud 9 with all those emotions and the love I felt, but ...

What is the ideal male body type?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1556 days ago

20 January 2020 (M) - I have been lifting weights for ten years and had a bodybuilder type of body. Most other males envied me. I assumed women found my type of physique attractive too. So I was surprised that my girlfriend didn't quite like the way I look and wanted me ...

I've lost the desire for sex with my boyfriend.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

19 January 2020 (F) - Me and my bf have been together for 5 years. I really do love him so much but in the last year I've felt little to no desire to sleep with him. I feel terrible but when it does happen it just doesn't feel exciting. Usually he is the only one that ...

I feel like I've wasted my 20s, and its hard to be optimistic!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1557 days ago

18 January 2020 (M) - I'm looking for peoples personal experiences with this if possible please. Has anyone ever wasted 10 years of there life and manged to not let it get them down? I've wasted a lot of my 20s as I've kind of been stuck in life. So no love life a...

How do I stop looking back and get busy building my future?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1560 days ago

17 January 2020 (F) - I’m at a bit of a crossroads in my life. I left a great job about 8 months ago - for all of the right reasons - but, my new role is not really great (or panning out). My family situation is OK but not where I want it to be - especially because I ...

I'm trying to put myself in my boyfriend's ex's shoes and wonder why she's behaving the way that she is, but I can't imagine why

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1559 days ago

17 January 2020 (F) - My boyfriend's ex is still in the picture but on the peripherals, and I'm finding it hard to understand why. I have tried, so I'm just going to put the facts, coupled with my thoughts, and would like anyone to give me their feedback on what they ...

I feel lost in life.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1558 days ago

17 January 2020 (M) - I’m really lost in life. I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t find any work and I’m just passing life by. I have wasted my 20’s trying to work hard but I just get used by companies and thrown. Now I am trying to find work and I have resorted ...

I've not met this girl, but we talk and I'm smitten!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1561 days ago

16 January 2020 (M) - I want a lot of advice so I'm not sure this question will fall into a single category. I'm a 34 year old virgin - something that I'm not proud of but I guess that's life. I've been with girls and done stuff before and even without the sex I think ...

Is it possible to have healthy relationships with family with mental issues?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1559 days ago

16 January 2020 (F) - It has only been recently I’ve realized just how toxic my relationships are with my immediate family members. I’m having trouble knowing how to proceed with them now that I’ve had this realization. I’ve always been aware that our family is ...

Is it wrong that I loaned my b/f money because I wanted to help him?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1546 days ago

15 January 2020 (F) - Hello everyone. I need help figuring out something. My boyfriend and I both in early 40s. He has a full time job, teaches at a university but financially in trouble because of divorce and some business investments. He has a potential as he is an ...

My live in boyfriend is allergic to my cats.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1560 days ago

15 January 2020 (F) - Hello and thank you for any advice and opinions. I have a beautiful family of 5. My bf 3 cats ( midnight, xena, and princess) and a dog ( max). I have had my first cat midnight for about 4 years, my cat xena for about 3 years, my cats pri...

I'm so embarrassed at the enormous crush that I have on my colleague!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1559 days ago

15 January 2020 (F) - I'm so terribly embarrassed and I just need to get this off my chest. I can't tell any of my friends so I'm really just looking to confide in someone and for advice. I've had an enormous work crush on someone for about 9 months, who I've actuall...

I think my boyfriend lies about what he does when out with his friends.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1563 days ago

13 January 2020 (F) - I suspect my bf is lying to me about his activities when out with his friends. We had a discussion before where he mentioned the sort of antics they get up to but he doesn't take part. I'm mostly concerned about his activities when they are going to ...

My wife will not take a bath.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1563 days ago

12 January 2020 (M) - wife will not take a bath it has been a month now,I have said in past, time to take a bath, she says leave me alone. I am tired of it, no sex cause of this, she smells leave the room and the sink stays, what to do other then leave....

I hired a PI who tells me my wife has been cheating on me.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1244 days ago

12 January 2020 (M) - I recently found out that my wife has been having an affair for the past two years with a single male friend of ours who we had a drunken threesome with two years ago..that threesome which i initiated wasnt so fullfilling for me, since i had ...

I feel lost and miserable around my long term partner

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1565 days ago

11 January 2020 (M) - Ive been trying to make my relationship work for many years and Im tired. I lack the motivation and positive outlook for our future anymore. I am not depressed but my partner has been for many years, up and down, but the last 3-4 years half been ...

I can't seem to get over that my partner cheated on me last year. How can l reconcile this and move forward with life?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

10 January 2020 (F) - I found out my partner cheated when he was out of the country last year. But he continued to call me every evening, said the I love you's, and the I miss you's. He was still plugged into the relationship. I've struggled since to get over it. He has ...

Work team of three, yet I am feeling excluded.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1568 days ago

10 January 2020 (F) - I entered this new workplace about two months ago assured that the new girl and I would be trained equally since she was only there two months prior to me starting. What was withheld until my first week on the job was that she was another managers ...

I'm losing myself in the process of raising my child and feel completely trapped

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1567 days ago

10 January 2020 (F) - I am stuck in a rut and don't even know where to begin. I am 36 years old and have an advanced degree in computer science and engineering. I've been married 4 years and have a 3 year old. I am a full time stay at home mom, not my preferen...

I'm uncomfortable with the thought of my boyfriend having lap dances with naked girls.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 1565 days ago

8 January 2020 (F) - My bf of 5 years recently went on a stag do and went to a strip club. I didn't have a problem with this as he was open about it and stayed in touch whilst away. We have a strong relationship and I trust him due to the honesty. However on a recent ...

I'm a single mother unhappy at having to live with my parents.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1567 days ago

8 January 2020 (F) - I’m in desperate need of help, I’ve been with my baby daddy for 5 years. On and off he’s put me through a lot We have been through so many things. The reason why I keep getting back with him is because I wanted to give our 3 year old son the best ...

I quit a job with bad work environment, so why am I missing it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1569 days ago

8 January 2020 (F) - About 6 months ago I changed jobs. I left a role I held for seven years to try something different... but, I also left because of a terrible work culture that gave me anxiety regularly. The company’s C-suite were men and very immature men who...

My foster child refuses to attend school.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1567 days ago

8 January 2020 (F) - I have a 10 year old foster child who refuses to got school. I work in the day and cannot leave the child home alone. The foster care agency I am with allows youths to refuse school at any age. I don’t want to give her back she’s a sweet c...

What does it mean when a woman calls a man "doll"

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1570 days ago

7 January 2020 (M) - Can someone help me understand the meaning of the world "doll"? I am not a native English speaker. My grammar is good but I have trouble understanding some slang. Maybe someone here can help me. When I was backpacking in Australia not long ago, I ...

I like to sleep naked. Is there any concerns I should have?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1569 days ago

6 January 2020 (M) - I enjoy sleeping completely naked. Is there any concerns I should have? I keep my bedroom window covered up and I know not to near my front windows without putting clothes on. So there is no chances of my neighbors accidentally seeing me naked....

My family knows of my affair and my lover has distanced herself but I don't think I can return to my sexless marriage

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1571 days ago

5 January 2020 (M) - I'm in my 40s. Been with my partner for 20 years and married for 17. We have a 15 year old daughter. My wife hasn't wanted a physical relationship with me for a long time. It's been around 10 years since we had sex. She has made comments in the ...

I'd like to have some fun with my sibling's friend, but don't know how to ask him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1568 days ago

5 January 2020 (F) - Please no judging, my sibling has a friend who I fancy the only problem I have is the age difference I am 42 he is 25. He has admitted in the past he liked me and this has gone on for the last 8 years. A few year back he actually sat discussing with ...

My husband acted like he didn't care, so I left him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1571 days ago

4 January 2020 (F) - I am hurting deeply. My husband of 6 years has a barber and beauty salon on the same compound of his mother's home. I work 12pm-9pm and my parents helps with our three children. My husband usually leaves his place of work at a reasonable time to go ...

How do I stop feeling like I'm not good enough?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1573 days ago

4 January 2020 (F) - I need advice on how to stop or control the feeling of not feeling good enough. I’ve been with my partner for 5 years and I’ve always felt this way, I feel like it’s a bad trait to have but I can’t help but feel this way. My partners friend ...

I have never put myself first and I'm at a time in life where I'm exhausted

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1574 days ago

3 January 2020 (F) - Is my tactics going to work? I want to stop doing the chores and paying the bills, cooking, feeding the cat, cleaning his litter… because I’m the only one doing that. My husband is lazy and he doesn’t even see it because he’s ADHD and does ONLY wha...

My friend runs her mouth off and ruins everything.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1573 days ago

1 January 2020 (F) - Hello Aunt's and Uncle's this is about a friend and I'm going to use my real Aunt's and Uncle's names instead of the real names. Hopefully Amy or my parents won't get nosy and look at my phone! My (only) friends at school are: Amy, Laura, Matt, and ...