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Archived questions from: January, 2014 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

After premature ejaculation with sex workers, I'm worried I wouldn't be able to satisfy a future girlfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

31 January 2014 (M) - I have never been in a romantic relationship with a woman due to the fact that I tend to be painfully she around women in general. I can only attribute this to the fact that I suffer from a learning disability which has greatly impeded my social ...

How do you feel about social media? It seems to cause problems for me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3731 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - How do you guys feel about social media, especially Facebook? Do you think it's worth it to have one? Has it ever caused any problems for you? I'm asking this because it seems to cause a lot of insecurity within myself and other problems. I am n...

I want to take some of my family to Disney World, but would rather not invite everyone

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3732 days ago

31 January 2014 (?) - I'm in the process of planning a trip to Disney World for myself, my husband, and five of my cousin's children. I've budgeted it all out for the 7 of us. The reason I wanted to take this trip is because their father, my cousin, died recently. T...

Ashamed I wasted 18 months with someone who puts me down

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3732 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - Yet again my boyfriend of 18 months has ruined another special occasion. Yesterday I left work early and made a real effort to make his birthday special. I bought him lovely gifts, dressed up and booked a table at his favourite restaurant. We w...

I feel I'll never attract someone of the same religion because of my looks and personality.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3729 days ago

30 January 2014 (F) - hi... I am really a lost soul at the moment... I come from a Muslim family. My mom is moderate-liberal Muslim and my dad is relatively conservative. So I've been brought up with conflicting views... Anyways, so I'm at uni and I feel too conservat...

Specific online help from an expert...does it exist?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3726 days ago

30 January 2014 (F) - I have noticed that there is a lack of UK online counsellors/psychologists who can help with a specific problem and answer really quickly. Have you found that? There are forums such as this one where someone can answer and be really helpful but ...

Trying to get a balance between working and spending time with my health-challenged grandparents

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3734 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - Hi everyone. I'm 25 with a stressful job and a relationship that's all over the place. My family are very important to me, especially my grandparents as they pretty much brought me up from the age of six months old for my parents to go ...

I'm happy to be practical but I don't want to insult him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - Should I offer to let him use the diamond from my previous marriage? I know my boyfriend plans to propose, probably sometime this year. Neither of us make a lot of money. I still have my wedding/engagement rings from my first marriage (only b...

I know I'm just being jealous and my friend is just having fun but I feel like I'm being cheated

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - Last night my friend and I went out on the town, I dressed up, put on a nice dress, did my makeup properly and for once made an effort. My friend came out in jeans and a t-shirt. She's put her boyfriend back in the dating zone (he still loves ...

Dating a man for 2 months - should I ask him if we're in a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3734 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - Hello, Have a quick question, I have dated a man for about two months. He texts me good morning everyday and we talk on the phone 1-2 hours on average a day. We also text a little during the day. He also canceled his online dating accoun...

Uncomfortable with ex putting naked photos of our son on Facebook. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - This is a question concerning my ex, and our child. Hi Aunts and Uncle's, thank you for reading this, I hope to find some help. My ex and I are on good terms..kind of. We have a two y/o son and he has a 2 y/o daughter. My issue is, I'm so...

His Facebook has 300 women and no men on it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - Hi. I'm having a hard time with my jealousy over my boyfriend and it has caused a huge fight between us and he is really mad and so am I because I feel he does not understand where I'm coming from and insists that it has to do with my previous ...

My parents sic evangelists and drug testers on me while I'm at college

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - So I went to college for a year and that didn't work out - I couldn't get myself out of bed to go to class, I really wasn't partying much (I went to about four parties the entire year and at all four I blacked out drunk and made an ass of myself and ...

How does chemistry work?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

28 January 2014 (M) - I want to know how it works for example when you're with a girl and you're looking into her eyes and she's also looking into yours you start feeling that chemistry between you and her, my question is, is she feeling it too? Or is something that you ...

Anyone know about student loans in South Africa?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3724 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - Hi! I don't know where else to ask this, but I thought I'd give it a try here. It's a finance/school question. So I'm starting University next week. I need R32 000 for tuition (excluding books), then another R30 000 for renting a room, all for this ...

How am I supposed to learn from my mistakes if the lecturer cant be bothered to explain it to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - I have a feeling that my lectures in college dont like me. I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed but I do work, put in a lot more hours than others with study and attend every single lecture unlike the rest of my class. Last week we had to do an ...

Why do girls suddenly distance themselves from a guy, when things seem to be going great?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

27 January 2014 (M) - Dear cupid I have experienced during my dating that sometimes girls suddenly distance themselves without any warning or explanation whilst you are dating a girl. (She doesn't like anyone else and she's single ). Why the sudden change in attitude w...

Was this saleswoman inappropriate??

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3736 days ago

27 January 2014 (F) - I was recently in a gas station on the way to work, quickly getting a drink, it was 12pm and I was in my work uniform. I dont often go to this station but it is close to where i live. The woman behind the counter (40-48) approximately I...

My boss is not as friendly as he used to be!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

26 January 2014 (F) - I'll keep this brief. I started working for this company about 9 months ago. A friend of mine is the executive there so he helped me out. The boss of my department showed me around the first day, normally it's another person that performs the tour...

I'm not sure if he's "the one".

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

26 January 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, just looking for some advice. I'm 25 and have been meeting a guy aged 27 for about two months. We were initially friends, as when I met him, I was meeting somebody else. He made it clear he wanted more, but friends was better than ...

How much help do I provide an ex who still isn't over me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3737 days ago

25 January 2014 (F) - So me and my boyfriend of 5 years broke up May 2012, and whilst now I can say that I have completely moved on, I know that he is struggling really bad. Tonight he asked if he could talk to me on the phone (the first time we have actually spoken ...

How can I learn to be more assertive?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2947 days ago

24 January 2014 (M) - I want to be more assertive - to be able to express my needs, ask for and state things clearly without feeling guilty or being whiny. Please give me suggestions for how to learn and especially how to practice/build up to this so it becomes a ...

Is it inappropriate for a woman to give fragrance as a gift to a man who she isn't in a relationship with?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3736 days ago

24 January 2014 (M) - Is it inappropriate for a woman to give fragrance as a gift to a man who she isn't in a relationship with? I had an argument with my girlfriend when she saw a type of aftershave that I wouldn't normally buy at my place and asked where I got it. I ...

Why do men cheat?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3736 days ago

24 January 2014 (F) - Why do men cheat?? Ive had thought my partner of 4 yrs was cheating on me ... in November he moved away 50miles to work saying he qohld come bk every weekend. Well he sumtimes came bk bit also only for a day or one nite ans half the day I kept ...

First time sex and I didn't bleed... should I see my gyno?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

22 January 2014 (F) - Please i need an explanation i just had sex with my fiance for the first time,and he knows i am a virgin but the problem now is i didn't bleed at all just excruciating pains...please i don't know if that is normal or should i see the gynocologist ...

I hate my life but love my kids!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - I am a 41 year old woman married for 22 years now with 2 kids. I have spent 22 years with a man that cannot love,care or give affections. I live a cold and lonely life and spend it fighting with him all the time to acknowledge this. He says he is ...

Unplanned pregnancy after 1 month of dating and my baby's father isn't staying in regular contact with me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - I am a 28 years old and pregnant for the first time. The pregnany was unplanned and came as a shock as it happened exactly after a month that me and this guy had started dating. I was living in a muslim country and since I was unmarried I had ...

Why would my Facebook friend make this comment?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - I am in my 40s and the question I want to ask is not actually a love question but I am querying a comment someone put to me on facebook. A friend posted about cheap travel on facebook and I replied about how cheaply I had travelled as wel...

Tired of my boyfriend's crap!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - Not sure where else to post this but hoping for some advice. My boyfriend, who is 34, and I have been living together for 3 years and I have asked him to clean up after himself in the bathroom many times. Specifically, he sits on the toilet in su...

Comfort zone or a rut?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

19 January 2014 (M) - Over the years, I have put up a bit of a wall to a lot of things that could lead to growth. I am the confident guy (that I know I can be) that has avoided certain people that I want to get to know or a general crowd. I have shut myself off from the ...

My girlfriend storms out after an argument instead of talking it through

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - I don't know what to do. When my girlfriend and I fight, she stays so mad for so long, and I don't know how to deal with it. We had a fight last night that somehow caused her to drive off mad. We didn't speak for 24 hours, til I called her tonig...

Does anyone know how to control their emotions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - Does anyone know how to control their emotions? I find that I get overly emotional a lot. And the majority of the time I don't know why. I cry a lot. Whether I'm angry, sad, hurt, or just plain frustrated. But for some reason I can't control ...

How do I learn to relax around him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - So im trying one last time to save my family ny cool child's dad is single and so am I... but ive.been.putting my foot in my mouth often sending king emotional text, calling but losing my words which make awkward silence.. I've been annoying him... ...

I'm so lost. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - A guy I really liked asked me out over text but i got scared and said no. After that i got depressed and as a sort of anti depressant talked to a guy. i fell in love and i was sure he loved me. He didn't. He felt nothing for me, i was just his ...

Ever been stuck on someone who's bad for you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3745 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - I'm stuck on my ex of almost 7 months. He only just convinced me to try the relationship again this week, and he was back yelling at me again within 24 hours. He hung up like always, will pretend not to talk for like 2 weeks but I don't really doubt ...

How much should you tell a new partner about past relationships?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - When embarking on a new relationship how much should you tell your new partner about your "relationship past" I ask this not because I've had a problem with this nor am I embarking on a new relationship but simply because I see on this site that t...

Is he committed to marrying me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3745 days ago

17 January 2014 (F) - hi all. I just want to understand this. I have dated my boyfriend for 7 years and in march 2012 he asked me to bought a house with him and I did because he promised that we are going to get married in that December of 2012. when December came he ...

She told me she didn't want a serious relationship, then turned around and started dating someone else!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3745 days ago

17 January 2014 (M) - So this girl was dating for a few months ended things with me over Christmas. She at least seemed to be a really down to earth and nice girl but broke up with me after SHE missed one of our dates. So a few days we talk and i tell her that i'm...

Self esteem in women:is it biological, is it cultural, is it our upbringing, ,... is it a jinx ?!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3746 days ago

16 January 2014 (F) - DC community, please help me out in figuring this : why is it that lack of self esteem , at least in relationships, is such a pervasive FEMALE problem ? I mean, just look at the posts on DC and a huuuge quantity of them basically says ...

I've been advised to get a mortgage on my own, and I feel guilty for in essence changing my mind about putting him on the mortgage!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

15 January 2014 (F) - Hi I could do with some advice please. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years but we recently broke up and got back together. The reason for this break was because he has 2 kids from a previous relationship who I love to bits,...

Should I not tag people on Facebook? What is the Facebook etiquette?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - My fiancés daughter had their first child and we went to see her and the child. I am friends with her on facebook although we don't communicate with each other much. We took a bunch of pictures of course and the few pictures I put on facebook I ...

How to find a balance between social media and real life?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - This is more a coping with stress question than a relationship one, but they're both linked. My cellphone is stressing me! It's taking a toll on my emotional wellbeing. It started after my 4 best friends created a group chat on WhatsApp. It was ...

Why on earth do women agree to an FWB situation?

This question has 29 answers - newest was posted 3739 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - After reading so many posts here and seeing what girls and women do around me, I have a question, why on Earth women agree to FWB situation?? I understand if casual sex just happens once, in a heat of a moment, once very rarely and it's not a no...

Do the good guys always finish without love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

14 January 2014 (M) - Hello, in the last two years I have been in two relationships, both were divorced, one 8 months, the other 9 years, I was both their first guy since being single. They both lasted two months,they both said the same thing about their exs, they were ...

Lately I haven't felt connected to anyone or anything

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

13 January 2014 (F) - I am a 24 year old woman living in my state capital working as an AmeriCorps*VISTA. I have no health insurance, no money, and no close family except an aging set of grandparents who live in my hometown, about an hour away. In October (3 months ago), ...

Would you be ok with your girlfriend travelling abroad with friends?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

13 January 2014 (M) - my gf and i have been in a ldr for almost two years and we are about to close the distance and move in together this year. first step before proposing ;) we asked different questions to each other to make sure we would exactly what we are getting ...

Should I contribute more than my boyfriend's room mate?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3750 days ago

13 January 2014 (F) - I am going to move in with my bf in a few months. We decided this long before he started having financial issues (furlough, medical bills, car accident), but now they have surfaced and I don't know what to do. He currently owns his home and ren...

Should I stay here or return to the Dominican Republic?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

12 January 2014 (F) - I have been living by myself for a little while now, and it has been very hard for me. I've always been used to coming home to someone and now that I don't makes me feel depressed. It's like a black cloud that hovers above me. I haven't made ...

I need to become more assertive without losing my job or alienating people

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3750 days ago

12 January 2014 (F) - This is going to seem like a great big grumble..I suppose it is but any advice would be greatly appreciated. Basically, I'm fed up with everything. I'm fed up with my job. I'm a healthcare worker and deal with different people with different health ...

My mother and I cannot afford health insurance and we're losing hope

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

12 January 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, this is not a relationship issue but rather an issue within myself. I'm 19, going to school full time and work a part time retail job. I live with just my mom and a few wonderful animals. We are really, really broke to the point where ...