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Archived questions from: July, 2016 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

Will moving to another state bring me to a happier place than all the drama I've endure here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2824 days ago

31 July 2016 (F) - Hey I need some advice Lately I've been going through alot of bad things. I know it's life and everyone goes through things some point. But I feel like it's only me at the moment. I'm extremely frustrated!!!! I've never been this frustrated bef...

He demonstrated flakiness in the past. Yet now he's given me his number? Can I trust him, this time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2823 days ago

30 July 2016 (F) - The first time he was supposed to call me after he gets off work at 3pm to finalize our plans but I didn't hear from him untill 10:00pm, something had came up on his end. He apologize profusely and asked how he can make it up to me. Subsquently,he...

Should I be chasing the romantic highs

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2822 days ago

30 July 2016 (F) - Is the fairytale real or are relationships hard work? I've been with my boyfriend 3 years; lived together for 1.5. I love him dearly and we get on well 99 per cent of the time. While I love spending time with him and get the warm fuzzy feeling ...

Is this a compliment "I chose you" ???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2826 days ago

28 July 2016 (F) - No problem just a question. If your husband/wife, partner lover whatever tells you "I CHOSE YOU" how do you receive it, as a compliment or an insult? We had the same question asked on facebook but most see it as a compliment. I don't! What's yo...

How can I believe there is good in the world?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2826 days ago

28 July 2016 (F) - I can't stop wishing badly on people that have done me wrong - I fee like I'm stuck into waiting for karma to get people back that I'm watching my life waste away. I have been wronged very wrong end by a lover and friends and I've been a pushover or ...

Nurses are nasty! I'm a nurse facing surgery and fear I'll be treated badly by other nurses!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2828 days ago

26 July 2016 (F) - Im going into hospital soon for small surgery and worried the staff andnurses will treat me badly? The surgeon and anaesthetist know I'm a nurse as my own Dr told them! so now all the staff and nurses will know I am a nurse, I cannot even hide tha...

I'm unnaturally anxious around boys

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2830 days ago

26 July 2016 (F) - Hi all, I am a 24 yr old girl, single. My mum is a divorcee, a single parent. I have an elder sister who is,now, married... I don't remember my father. I used to go to girls highschool. I had some of guy friends in my college life,but I used to talk ...

I'm so sick of the games that my husband's ex has been playing. When will this stop?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2828 days ago

25 July 2016 (F) - When do the games stop?Do we have to grin and bear it? I have a situation where my husband and I have been married for twenty years. My whole marriage the ex has been in the picture with his family. I came along 2 years after they were divorced. ...

Let go of your hate

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2576 days ago

25 July 2016 (F) - A thought for the day (or for tomorrow since it's nearly midnight) Not too long ago I was in a play. In the final scene I had to stare at someone with complete contempt. I searched my soul and into that stare I poured every single bit of hatred I ...

I'm tired of waiting for my boyfriend to come up with the dowry!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2828 days ago

24 July 2016 (F) - Hey everyone....first of all I am African, so no judging please. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. When we started dating he was so excited about our relationship. He actually told after 3 months of dating that he couldn't wait to ...

I was swept off my feet, then devalued and then discarded with no emotions

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2831 days ago

24 July 2016 (F) - Was I targeted by a sociopath? I met a 45 yr old guy online. It turned out we had many mutual fb friends. One of my exs was actually a friend of his. On our 2 nd date he'd told me he told him he'd met me. By our 3rd date he'd said he wanted more tha...

Is this stringing him along?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2832 days ago

23 July 2016 (F) - Is it wrong of me to accept help from a guy who was interested in me before? Im not sure if he is still interested or not, I have not spoken to him for two years. Just happened to run into him, and he offered to help me when I mentioned I was in the ...

Why are all the girls wearing shorts that show their butt?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2829 days ago

23 July 2016 (F) - Why are teenage girls and young adults wearing cutoff shorts so short that there cheeks hang out the back ?? I have seen this for most of the summer and is this the new fashion, to show off as much of your bottom as possible ?? I myself wear cut...

Should I give up on a girl I like?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2833 days ago

23 July 2016 (M) - I've known this girl, for what seems like an eternity, we get along great and I can always be myself around her, and I've always felt some form of attraction for her, nothing has happened between us, but in the last few months I felt I was losing ...

How can I stop caring about what people say about me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2830 days ago

23 July 2016 (F) - This is a tough question as I have spend most of my young and early adult life caring about what people think- my life revolves around other people's opinions and how to be a people pleaser - most recently I have gotten a great corporate job and it ...

How can I stop these obsessive thoughts about men 24/7

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2793 days ago

23 July 2016 (F) - I'm a 30 year old woman that has on the outside everything going for her 1.hearh 2. A family especially a love sister and a sown what great materialistic things such as looks- money- and a great job. Even though my life seems structured and great ...

I'm in a committed relationship, so how do I stop thinking about a past love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2830 days ago

22 July 2016 (F) - Hello, I am at the age where everyone I know is getting engaged, married, having kids... I am in a serious relationship going on 3 years this September. I love him, I do, and we have talked about marriage. We live together, we have pets togeth...

Is this girl suitable as a LTR girl for me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2833 days ago

21 July 2016 (M) - We've known each other for two years and we've been starting something (seeing eachothers and sleeping together) for four months. I like her really. I liked her as a person also before, when we were just friends, and she has always captured my ...

How I get back to enjoying my favourite activity of fellatio, because currently, I gag when I try it ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2833 days ago

21 July 2016 (F) - Ok first is I have been with my fiance for going on 5 yrs, will get married in 2018. I have been previously married, and the reason I say this is I love the taste of cum. My previous husband was very sweet and tasted so good I can handle swallowi...

Can't seem to unite our family

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2834 days ago

21 July 2016 (F) - I've had this problem for a long time. I left my partner 10years ago and moved back to the UK from Scotland. I left with our hen10year old daughter and often wondered if I did the right thing. It was lonely n isolated there and I don't drive he ...

How do I get a family that hires me as a nanny to accept I need to bring along my mother who has Alzheimer's?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2835 days ago

20 July 2016 (F) - Hi , Thanks for always being helpful to me. I have very complicated situation .First ,my profession is nanny . I work as nanny in family environment . I recently lost my job. I was working as nanny . I been with family more then three years. The...

Has anyone ever wasted 10 years of their life and not lived to regret it?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2834 days ago

19 July 2016 (M) - This could be very long but I will keep it short. Has anybody ever wasted 10 years of their life.. And lived enough not to regret it. This holds me down badly. ...

Why am I such a loser at 41? Where have I gone wrong?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2834 days ago

19 July 2016 (F) - I have posted a few times about individual problems and worries and have always received help from this forum. Instead of going to a therapist - and I did it 2 years ago - I'm here to ask you what I'm doing wrong. I am of Asian origin and was r...

FWB but getting emotionally attached

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2836 days ago

18 July 2016 (F) - Hi, i have a male best friend of 12 years who iv recently started sleeping with. We both don't want a relationship but i have found myself getting upset at the thought of him getting a girlfriend. I can't be with him because i know it wouldn't work ...

Is it bad to enjoy no strings attached?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2833 days ago

18 July 2016 (F) - I've been a goody two shoes my whole life. This has been partly out of my fear about making mistakes (I'm a perfectionist) and just a big worrier. I've always hated that I come across as such a square. I've been in a few serious relationships bu...

I seem to have everything but why do I still feel down an out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2836 days ago

18 July 2016 (M) - I have been feeling rather down these last couple of weeks, and it seems as if it's turning into some depressive episode. What baffles me is that there really is no reason for me to feel this way because I live a pretty stress free life, aside from ...

Emotionally affected by work, how do I move forward?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2837 days ago

18 July 2016 (F) - Thank you in advance for reading and responding to my question....I greatly appreciate it. I am a special education teacher. In the summer I work hard on course work to upgrade my skills but this summer I find I am constantly fighting back te...

How long after a break up should I find new love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2836 days ago

17 July 2016 (F) - Hello so I just ended a relationship with someone I have been with for five years. I was wondering how long I should wait until I would get into another relationship. He was my first love but I grew out of it fast because we dated young. Things have ...

Choosing Boyfriend or potential job?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2832 days ago

16 July 2016 (F) - Hi there, I hope you are all well. I am kindly seeking advice for what is for me a big issue and which I keep thinking over. Basically me and my boyfriend have been together for almost four years this December. We met in the beginning of our ...

Why does he act all uncaring?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2837 days ago

16 July 2016 (F) - So we have been going for about 2 months and 1/2 of the relationship we spent it together, then he moved. I fell for him because he seemed to genuinely care about me and was concerned about how I was doing. Lately though he makes the conversations ...

I'm tired of being the only single one in my group

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2840 days ago

15 July 2016 (F) - I'm 23, about to be 24 and have had a tricky time navigating adult life. I've joined many new groups, gotten involved in church, have a good job and my own place. I have a good group of friends, but I'm the only single one. I've explored some dating ...

I'm ready to be married and have a baby! He's feeling pressured!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2840 days ago

15 July 2016 (F) - I'm ready to get married emotionally, physically and financially but my bf for 2 years not yet ready. first issue when we're together is our religion I'm an INC member [mod note: see https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iglesia_ni_Cristo ] and his a ...

Wants a brood mare? Should I meet him? Been talking to him online but some of his questions are a concern.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2837 days ago

15 July 2016 (F) - I know this sounds silly however I have been talking to this guy online. I told him I would meet him as a friend. He has been asking some off questions like if I will be fertile when we have planned to meet. He has asked several times and also w...

I need a job. I have social anxiety. But now I have a fear of going outside. How can these issues be addressed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2840 days ago

15 July 2016 (F) - It's very hard for me to go outside. The thought me leaving the house makes me feel very anxious. I feel safer indoors. I don't go out til it's necessary for me too, like an appointment. I don'the leave my bed either. I need a job, but i'm afr...

How would you handle seeing this woman?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2841 days ago

14 July 2016 (F) - Hello I asked this question not very long ago http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-bear-this-deep-hurt.html Thank you again to those who replied you did help a great deal. I have just another question to ask and that should be my fair s...

13 years old. Some of our friends have done more than we have ever tried. How should I react if he asks to to do more with him as far as touching?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2841 days ago

14 July 2016 (F) - Errh', okay - so I'm fairly young, just turned 13 a few days ago. I have a very serious relationship with a boy, who is about a year and a few months older than me. (I'm off to gr. 8, and he's off to gr. 9.) It's extremely obvious that he absolute...

My life's okay, it just all seemed to fall into place.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2842 days ago

13 July 2016 (M) - Hi guys, I just wanted to ask whether there's other people out there in a similar situation to me. Basically, I'm 25 years old, I still live at home with my mum and brother, I'm single (not speaking to anyone serious either) no savings, I h...

I have been in a relationship with a married man for 3 years. How do I walk away from him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2843 days ago

11 July 2016 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a married man for 3 years. We have known each other for 40 years. We were together 38 years ago went our own ways and ran into each other for lunch and the rest is history. We love each other very much but I can't ...

Have my feelings changed towards my married lover?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2843 days ago

11 July 2016 (F) - I've been with my married lover for a few years. He has gone on vacation with his wife several times over the course of our affair, leaving me behind. I know it's an affair and nobody approves. But I am not here for that part of it. I am just tr...

It worries me he hangs out with students

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2844 days ago

10 July 2016 (F) - Hello all, I met a guy several months ago. We started seeing each other because we liked each other's personalities, despite the fact that we are both busy and it is often difficult to see one another. We have a good relationship besides a fe...

What I did was dangerous, & I want to forget him but I also want to see him again.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2844 days ago

10 July 2016 (F) - Hi. Okay so where should I start. Last year I met this guy online and after a few months we met up (publicly and locally of course). We...well after a little while I guess we got carried away and started making out etc (minus sex). I realised ...

Who and how do I ask what happened to my Mom and about my Mom? My Mom died 8 years ago.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2843 days ago

10 July 2016 (F) - I will make this short as I can since I'm to upset and had to keep starting over. My mom died when I was 6 and I was always told she was real sad and sometimes people get too sad to live any more so they live with Jesus. I don't know why but I a...

I do not want us to split up but how can the issues we have be resolved?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2847 days ago

8 July 2016 (F) - Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now the problem is he has no sex drive whatsoever I'm lucky if it happens once a week at first it wasn't great but was more regular than now he always stares at other women He tells me he likes blondes who ...

Will I come to regret my contented life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2847 days ago

8 July 2016 (M) - Dear Aunts, I would like to know if my current situation is normal. A few years back I was in love and I had decided to marry her, but I couldn't go through with it since her parents were opposed to it (We were of different religions). I...

Should I move to win love?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2847 days ago

7 July 2016 (M) - Most of the girls in my home town only see me as a friend by this stage of my life, Any that i managed to be romantically involved with never lasted longer than 2 dates. By logic I am clearly the problem here. I'm too nicey nice and can't be the ...

Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 2846 days ago

5 July 2016 (F) - If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...

Paper thin wall mean we can hear each other! What's the best way to deal with this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2848 days ago

5 July 2016 (F) - I live in an apartment building in which the walls are pretty thin; so thin that I can actually hear what my neighbor is watching on the tv. So, for the past couple weeks, Ive been hearing my neighbors going at it and its really awkward. I havent ...

Do I leave my new job after only one week, and how should I go about it?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2844 days ago

4 July 2016 (F) - Hey guys :-) so I hope no one minds but I have a career question here, I've been stressed about it all week and as the DC community are so lovely I thought I would ask here. Anyway I'm 23 and have been working in a public sector office job for j...

Am I right in thinking this is rude and unprofessional?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2851 days ago

4 July 2016 (F) - A friend of mine recommended me for a translating job. I was supposed to translate 30 short texts in 3 months. That was the deal. Even though the money wasn't great, I accepted the offer since the employer was a person of good reputation. In this ...

Dreams about a former professor?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2851 days ago

4 July 2016 (F) - Hello. I'm not sure why I am having dreams about another man. I am in a happy relationship and I am 20 years old. I occasionally have dreams about being with a different man emotionally and physically though. Aht surprises me is that the man in my ...