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Archived questions from: October, 2018 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

People who were once a part of my life no longer miss me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2001 days ago

30 October 2018 (M) - Hello all. I am male 33 and married, and doing fairly well in life. I feel stuck in life, stuck in my past memories, people who were near to me once upon a time I miss them so much. I feel so lonely and lost all the time, as if the world has moved ...

I'm in a messed up situation with a guy from another country

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2003 days ago

29 October 2018 (F) - Hey dear agony aunts I met this guy one month ago (B) who got my number from a friend of mine. We started talking casually. B doesn’t live in our country and he told me he while we were just talking that he had a girlfriend in a different country ...

A friend is interested in a poly-amorous relationship but how do I tell my wife?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2003 days ago

29 October 2018 (M) - I and my wife have been married for 40 years and our love for each other is as solid now as it ever has been. Our sex life up until 8 years ago was very satisfying. Eight years ago my wife sustained an injury which has left her house bound. She ...

I need your thoughts on how to sort this situation.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2004 days ago

28 October 2018 (F) - Recently with the past 2 months, my boyfriend of nine years and I ended our relationship. Our relationship had it’s good points, but overall was very toxic and tumultuous. He has a pre-teen daughter and myself an 11-year-old son. He’s been my ...

How can I make her my girlfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1981 days ago

28 October 2018 (M) - There is this girl I work with and I really, really like her. Her and I both started working together at the same time and she has been in 2 relationships that hadn't ended well. She knows I like her and care a lot about her, but she keeps saying ...

Lover wants to stay with his children for now

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2003 days ago

28 October 2018 (F) - My lover cannot live with me just yet because he still wants to live with his children who are 21 and 19.....He said they still need him .... He doesn’t love his wife... they share no interests as a couple, just stayed married for their kids sake... ...

After making him my facebook friend he held my wrist.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1997 days ago

25 October 2018 (F) - I just made a new friend via Facebook on Sunday. I sent him a quick text and he read it but replied the next day being Monday morning. The same day (Monday) I saw him as I was walking in the evening. It was dark but he recognized me. He ...

I wont to move across country and leave this life behind, but worry if I am doing the right thing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2007 days ago

24 October 2018 (F) - Should I move across the country? I have grown up in New York - originally born in Europe but immigrate here when I was 9. I am 33 now single female and for my education oout if the way and currently working 89 hours a week to pay off my debt/loans ...

Men never notice me, it makes me feel bad.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2007 days ago

24 October 2018 (F) - I am 23 and I never get hit on, catcalled, approached, or asked out. I've never even had a boyfriend before. My friends seem to get hit on and catcalled and it starts making me feel like I am unattractive. I never thought I was ugly but not getting ...

I cannot tollerate my ex husband so why do I feel angry and rejected?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2007 days ago

24 October 2018 (F) - I absolutely know that I cannot stay with my husband. We are near divorce and there are things I cannot tolerate about him. However, I still ache, I still miss the good stuff....and honestly word of his new relationship is killing me. I have ...

I think my husband is deliberately making himself unnatractive to me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2008 days ago

24 October 2018 (F) - My husband never showers or brushes his teeth when he is home with me , even if it’s a whole week . We’ve been married less than two years. The last time we had sex was three months ago , he says he’s tired from working but watches porn ( ...

I'm a finance director at a mid-size company but I’m singled out at the very bottom of the website. Should I bring it up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2006 days ago

23 October 2018 (F) - Here is my silly question! I’m a finance director at a mid size company and my bio just got added to the companies website. The team are ranked by the title but I’m singled out at the very bottom of the page. I don’t know if it sounds stupid and ...

Should I take this job I really need even though I’m over-qualified?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2007 days ago

22 October 2018 (F) - I have been offered a lecturing job which I really need - I already have 2 other jobs, but since splitting from my ex, this isn't quite enough for me to live on. The job that was offered would have been permanent ie.a permanent contract - but w...

I need emotional support which my husband can't give me.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2010 days ago

21 October 2018 (F) - Hi everyone.. its been months since my last post here. I had my 2 weeks old son now after long labor and he is perfect. Im the one who posted about trouble with my husband and mother in law. Things are not getting better. Im still living in my in ...

I have a question about porn.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2008 days ago

21 October 2018 (M) - I have a question about porn. My grandparents are pretty strict and almost never leave the house. Well, they do but Grandma works part time and Grandpa is retired and is actually a Deacon but they are never gone at the same time unless I'm in ...

My LDR guy ignores and hurts me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2010 days ago

21 October 2018 (F) - We are certainly not young in age: I'm 45 and my partner is 61 years old but both are new in LDR world. 2 years ago my partner has lived and worked in different country and we have been apart since then. He is workaholic. As a result he focuse...

I find myself wanting more but he appears lacklustre!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2010 days ago

21 October 2018 (F) - I’m seeing someone new and we’ve been dating almost a month. In that time Ive seen him about 6 or 7 times. Real dates. Dinner or movies etc. He is great about showing up and doing fun stuff I don’t feel like he’s just looking for a physical ...

He didn't disclose his real age. Am I overreacting?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2009 days ago

21 October 2018 (F) - I met a guy several months ago, when we were taking an evening class together. I was too shy to talk to anyone for a while, but then one day he and I found we took the same route home after class. We got talking. I mentioned I'd just had my 25th ...

Five years on and he is still accusing me of cheating!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2009 days ago

20 October 2018 (F) - How can I get my partner to trust me? We've been together 5 years, I've NEVER done anything that's remotely disloyal or unfaithful. When we met I had a few male friends, I'm now not allowed to speak to any of them despite the fact that all I've ev...

My husband wont discuss things and gives me the silent treatment.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2013 days ago

18 October 2018 (F) - Hello and thanks I tried writing in before but can't seem to find my question. My husband is very popular, and 10 years younger than myself. His friends are a huge part of his life and I knew that from day one. Sometimes I do get a bit a...

I kissed other men while we were broken up, now back together did I cheat on him?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2005 days ago

17 October 2018 (F) - My boyfriend and I had split up for week, his decision and I was gutted but said I would respect his decision. I went out with a friend for a night out and i kissed two men. I love my boyfriend and I was upset with it all. We have now got back tog...

I said yes when he proposed but I worry it wasnt the right answer.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2016 days ago

17 October 2018 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 12 years and live with him. I've had some problems with my boyfriend for a while, maybe a year. He stopped being romantic and didn't go on dates or ever go out to spend time at the weekend with me. He woul...

How can I keep away from my awful co-worker when I am forced to work with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2016 days ago

17 October 2018 (F) - I just started a new job a few weeks ago. Everyone has been nice to me so far... except one person. You see, when I met him I thought he was cool. He teased me a little and tried to make me laugh (it worked). But then it was like a switch flipped. ...

Girlfriend in jail. How do I handle that we have to move out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2017 days ago

15 October 2018 (M) - Girlfriend who has been living with me at my apartment for 5 months was arrested last month(drugs). Lease is up and all her stuff is here. I have been packing it up and cleaning the place to get the deposit back. So I have been there during odd ...

25, single, a virgin, and in the closet... not living my best life. How do I motivate myself to do better both personally and professionally?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2015 days ago

14 October 2018 (M) - SO... I have this master plan to come out, but I haven't made it very far through it yet... And by that, I mean that I haven't done anything at all. Lately, though, this has been weighing on me. I need to tell you a little bit more about mysel...

Will I ever find someone the same as my unrequited love or will I continue spiralling into an endless depression?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2019 days ago

13 October 2018 (M) - Over a span of about 3 years, I've fallen in love with someone who, not long ago, I decided to open up to. They told me that they only want to stay as friends, which has deeply saddened me. They were the only person I've been interested in ever and ...

Have I just been used?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2019 days ago

13 October 2018 (F) - I was seeing someone up until a few months ago, we weren’t together very long but I really started to care for him. Anyway he’d not long got out a relationship before we met, moved out and started his new life so wanted to take things slowly, he ...

I'm willing to leave my husband but my married lover isn't saying anything about leaving his wife

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2017 days ago

12 October 2018 (F) - Iv been having an affair for a couple of years now and decided to end my marriage. I'm living with a friend but my married lover is still staying put. I said it was my problem about leaving my husband but he said he was still worried for me. He ...

I am quick to accept blame and that allows people to manipulate me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2022 days ago

11 October 2018 (F) - I have come here before and I have gotten some great insight in my love problems and found the main issue is “blaming” myself if anything goes down. This blaming comes in work - in friends - in relationship sexual and non sexual .. the moment ...

Is he flirting or am I reading too much into his actions?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2021 days ago

11 October 2018 (F) - I recently transferred into a different team at work and started working very closely with the guy who recommended me for the role. I REALLY like him as as a person and we get along great. Sometimes have suspicion that he 'likes' me, but then I t...

My boyfriend is hurtful and tells me I cant take a joke!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2022 days ago

11 October 2018 (F) - I don't even know how to start. My boyfriend and I continuingly get into arguments. I think perhaps we are coming to understand that we are two people who don't understand eachother, or perhaps he doesn't understand me. I've come from a divorced ...

can anyone give me any advice and tips on how to fit all my work in and college work

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2021 days ago

9 October 2018 (F) - im in my third year at uni now and I have my dissertation coming up in which im struggling to decide upon a topic . im studying social science and up to now my main areas I want to look into are the media and sociology . The main topic I think I ...

Is it just office banter?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2023 days ago

9 October 2018 (F) - I am in my late 40s and work in an office with a group of men who liven the day up with their banter and occasional innuendo. Would you still count these as general banter and fun from one person 'a male work colleague shutting the door on you ...

My girlfriend found the engagement ring box and thinks I'm cheating

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2022 days ago

8 October 2018 (M) - More than a year ago I bought an expensive emerald engagement ring to give to my live-in girlfriend intending to propose. I never quite found the right time because of some personal problems in her family and then later on we had big fight and I re...

My partner wont make amends with my mother.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2023 days ago

8 October 2018 (F) - Hi there, My partner and I had an argument the other evening and it blew off on a tangent to him calling my mother poisonous, and he told me to tell my mother to "be less poisonous around him" I did as he asked, but tried to break it gen...

He watches porn but wont have sex with me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2021 days ago

8 October 2018 (F) - Hi me and my partner had a argument last week about him watching porn and not having sex with me we’ve been together for 4 years I’m always catching him watching porn but he makes no effort at all to have sex with me he says he doesn’t have a sex ...

What will help me feel at ease about entering a bdsm relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2024 days ago

8 October 2018 (F) - I am 25 and about to enter into my first bdsm relationship with a guy I met online. We’ve been talking for a while now and discussed everything we both want but I am a past rape victim and getting spanked scared me! He knows this but nothing he has ...

My partner is googling how to flirt sites.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2024 days ago

8 October 2018 (F) - Hi all Just seeking opinions as to whether there is a need for concern or just over reacting. Bit of back ground info. Been in a relationship for 10 years. In the earlier part there were bouts of cheating on his part. We worked through it but I ma...

Should I tell my potential mistress that my marriage is falling apart (not true) in order to increase my chances that she'll do it without guilt?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2025 days ago

7 October 2018 (M) - My question is simple. I'm married and going on a trip this weekend to meet a friend that I'd like to get intimate with. She knows I'm married, but has hinted she doesn't care that much. However, I'm not sure I trust that. Should I tell her that my ...

How do I stop obsessing over this guy and just move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2024 days ago

6 October 2018 (F) - I have liked the same person for ages now and I still have feelings for him ,we don't talk anymore as things happened mainly due to me and since then I just haven't stopped liking him . I do think I am obsessed/infatuated with him which is so ...

My wife's adult children are bums whose lifestyles I pay for.

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2027 days ago

5 October 2018 (M) - Hi all, I have a problem. First off, I've been married for over 21 years. We largely get along -- mostly because I don't complain about much. During that time, I have raised my wife's 2 children from her previous marriage. They are cur...

I'm not fitting in with my new coworkers!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2032 days ago

1 October 2018 (F) - I've been at my job for 5 years. 2 months ago, I decided to change positions to get more experience. In my line of work, it looks good to try new roles and I'd been in my previous position for 4 years. My coworkers in my old position were li...

What is it about women like this, who are seemingly very ordinary both in looks and nature, that still have their partners in rapt attention?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2032 days ago

1 October 2018 (F) - I'm probably going to get a lot of flak for asking this question but I'll go ahead anyway. I've been married for 3 years to a wonderful man. He's kind, respectful of me, a great husband and a wonderful father to our daughter. She is our world and...

My parents are trying to take my land!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2031 days ago

1 October 2018 (F) - Hi everyone, my story might be shocking to all but im desperate to find an advice. I'm a filipina. I came from the family I can called dysfunctional family. I will try to make the story short . My parents are extreme abusive not only physically but ...