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female
age
13-15,
anonymous
writes:My mom seems to hate meWe are an asian family, and, well, to be honest, because we don't live in our homeland i've grown accustomed to fast food, aka food that's not 'home-food'. today, only half an hour ago, my mum called me into the kitchen and asked, "will you eat scrambled egg or an omelette?"now, folks, i've got a very small appetite and i don't feel hungry much. i'm not feeling hungry, and i know she gets upset when i leave a bit of food so i thought of honestly telling her, "mom, i'm not hungry right now. can i eat later?" she blew up at me and the last thing seh said was, "i don't know what's wrong with you. you're getting badder and badder."and i don't even know what i did.i'm only 13. i'm not a slut, i don't talk back to her, heck, i'm pretty well behaved! there's no reason for her to hate me and my dad ... well, she gets even madder when he steps in. i remember when i was about seven or eight years old, i was crying on the way to school in the car with my dad, because my mom had yelled at me and gone nuts just because i was exhausted and was too tired to get out of bed fast enough. my own father said, "yeah, your mom's not that good at taking care of kids seomtimes. like your aunt*; she takes care of her kids so well but your mom .. i don't know, kiddo, i don't know."he seemed mad about it too.i have no idea what ive' done and she never realizes how sensitive i am and ... well ... she barely ever believes me when i tell her something.i still love her, but she's hurting me emotionally. *my mom's twin sister, she's basically my god mother. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): I think she was just having a bad day, because shse recently got a job and she's quite stressed ATM, she told me because of the kids (she's a 1st grade teacher).
thank you all. :)
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 January 2009):
 I don't think your mom hates you either. She might have a depression or generally be upset about herself/ her life. Did you guys recently move to the UAE ? Does she not like it there? She might also be a bit homesick, I know how that goes.
Ask you mom if there is something you can help her out with at home. See if you can get her to talk.
It is true, that not all women are cut out to be moms, but most of us try our bests anyways out of love. Is her behavior recent? Or was she always like that?
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (9 January 2009):
 Sometimes we never understand our parents we seem to think they are always giving us a hard time! Your Mum loves you she may well be having a bad day herself sometimes Parents have the world on their shoulders too you know! Try to be patient with her have you ever asked your Mum if everything is alright when she is like this? maybe there is times she would like a friendly chat with you just to air her views on things does no harm and you both would be having adult conversation!
I have neighbours who are Asian and they are the nicest people you could ever meet they are strict with their children for their own reason and i admire that they are the most loveable parents i have ever came accross and just want the best for their children as your mum and dad do try talking with your mum about how you feel emotionally i know that may be hard for you right now but try this at some point and honestly you will feel much better take care.
Gina
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reader, Dani28  +, writes (9 January 2009):
Ur mum doesnt hate u sweetheart, she is probably presenting her anger and frustraions the wrong way. Its not easy being a mum, i realise its not easy for u either at the min, but ur mum is ur mum, u should never forget that, no-one else will ever love u the same way, i know it doesnt feel like that right now. Try taking to ur mum, explain how u feel. message me if u want to talk xoxo
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