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*incessk17
writes:Dear agony auntIm 18 and recently started a new job, theres a guy there who is is 55 and we have got really close. He is such a lovely man and i love him and he loves me, we have had sex but recently people at work have been saying things about us and now its caused trouble with him unable to talk to me as much. We don't think were doing anything wrong and nobody knows accept us, if were happy and in love, is there any thing wrong with what were doing? and i always get jealous when he talks to other women, how do i stop this?Kind regards
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reader, Dai1986 +, writes (21 December 2010):
My view is that you are above the age of consent so you and him aren't doing anything wrong though I must admit what attracted you to him in the first place?
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reader, Pincessk17 +, writes (28 January 2009):
Pincessk17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :)
haha people say im a pretty girl so maybe i shouldnt be jealous haha
Im in love with him all that counts
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reader, Pincessk17 +, writes (28 January 2009):
Pincessk17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys thank you for your responds ;
We dont really hide our relationship, we just dont act on it during work as people are already talking but i came to the point where i have said i am not bothered, but i think he is a bit worried about it
Im sorry you've got Hugh Hefner, just because he is so famous he is alright. It was just getting me down about so just needed some advice so thank you :] and our work doesn't have a policy against relationships, he is more worried than me because he is the older man but there is no rule saying you have to be with someone with no more than a 20yr old gap
and at work he talks to everyone just chit chat, i suppose i shouldn't be so jealous because i have got him and im very very happy ! and hese not married :)
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reader, The old Man?  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 I see nothing wrong with it. I've dated much younger than myself also. I think everyone else has pretty well said the same things as I would, so I wont repeat!
We (older guys) are so much easier to talk with about your feelings, so don't be afraid to talk to him.
I really don't thing you need to be jealous either...
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reader, Kepi +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Been in a similar situation, I am 48 she is 24...... no-one sees a problem with the age difference.
As long as you are both happy, that is the main thing. People will look and some will comment, but this is their problem because they have closed minds, don't let their attitudes affect your relationship.
Hiding the relationship only serves to show other people that you are ashamed or embarassed about it. As long as your company has no dating policy be more open, so then people don't get chance to gossip.
So enjoy yourselves and don't be afraid of small minded idiots :) Good luck :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 January 2009):
 As long as he isn't married, and your company has no policies against employees dating each other then what's the problem? Why are you hiding your relationship?
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