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writes:My ex of two years split sometime ago, I found out she was seeing someone else. There have been ups and downs between us, and we have never quite had closure. She has played games with me.Anyway she recently has started to show an interest in who I talk to and turning up at places in the offices we work, where I am. She gives dirty looks to the women I seem to get close to.I know last year all was not well between them, but I didn’t know if they were still together or not. During this time I did hurt because though i made it easy for her, I never got any answer because I didn’t ask.Anyway now she is showing me interest but at the same time I have found out it is over between them two, I don’t know the detail, and there is also talk he has someone else. The talk is since the split she recently asked him if he had someone else to which he replied, well were over, you said it was over and she has replied I will always be here for you ie himSo in my mind that sort of answers why she is showing me interest, I think the girl is in need of attention maybe even an effort to make him jealous, or my other thought is she is seeing it all slip away from her.Can I get views please ?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (8 April 2009):
 Honestly, if I was you I would cut all contact with her. If she truly is an EX then let her go. There will always be times after a relationship is over that we all wonder the what-if's and have the feeling of need for closure.
However, there aren't always a clear answer to why a relationship didn't work. Take your time (if you need) to "mourn" the end of your relationship with her but also be ready to let it go. The thing is though, You don't always GET closure, but you CAN move on without it. If that is what YOU want.
She is now out of a relationship and seems to be needing attention.. badly. I must say it sounds almost stalker'ish for her to show up at your work place.
I think ( from the little you have written about her) that she is scared of being alone. I'm pretty sure she knows you still hold some kind of feeling for her and she is using the fact that you two have "unfinished" business. She might be trying to keep ALL her options open, in case the lastest BF don't want her back..
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