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writes: I have been seeing this man for a few months. Everything was going so well. We talked about making things official and moving to the next level.Which he he brought this up first and i told him how i felt about him and i only wanted to date him. Now its been little over a week and i haven't heard a word from him. this just doesn't sound like him. I trusted him and thought we had something special. I called hm last and left a message and no replies. should I try again or leave him alone. was he just telling me lies? I'm so hurt. Reply to this Question
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reader, BasBond  +, writes (28 May 2009):
well goes to show how often a simple mix up can lead to problems. hope you go the course. all the best for the future. Bas
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reader, Share Bear +, writes (9 April 2009):
 Aww, bless! You must both be so happy now! What a lovely end to the story! :-)
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (9 April 2009):
 Hello, I'm so pleased! I bet he was upset and was messaging another dearcupid site too! I hope we all helped. Hannah xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdate.. i did send him a text today and come to find out he did text me last week twice and i didnt get it. i told him he should of called. all this worring for nothing! guess we were both thinking the other one dumped us. i still cant believe i went throught the heartache for nothing! thank you for all the help!
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (8 April 2009):
Hello, Ooh I do sympathize. A week is a long while to not be in contact seeing as you had just made promises together. You have every right to feel disappointed with him. Firstly, Is he OK? Is there a way you could scramble your number and call him to see if he answers then hang up immediately. At least you woud know he is ok and not hurt. it's very odd he hasn't been in contact as trust was established, he wanted you first, and he suggested a commitment. The only thing you can do at the moment is to wait for him to contact you. (do see if he answers the anon call though) In this situation, you are right to feel hurt, upset and disrespected because simply being out of contact for a week is very poor behaviour after promising things and sleeping with someone. You have my thoughts. Shame on him. Hannah xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes u are right. talked about our future and shared a bed
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (8 April 2009):
Hello,
Let me re-cap on this as there sounds as if there is confusion....you were seeing a guy for a few months. He asked, if possible to become bf and gf. He wanted this, you agreed. Both wanted this.
Now he hasn't been in contact for a week.
Have I read this right? Have you shared a bed? Made love? booked any thing for the future?
Thanks, Hannah
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Oh, I misunderstood...Well, then disregard my previous answer! LOL!
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I don't understand, that is weird. Could it be he is a little frightened by the new commitment? If you have gone a whole week without hearing from him, you have the right to try and contact him again...your time has been invested in this as well as his! I would demand an explanation (or maybe politely request)
I wish I had a better answer for you...I can imagine how you are feeling right now. People should not get away with playing with our emotions that way!
My heart goes out to you, and I wish you the best!
Britt
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe had already been having sex
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reader, BasBond +, writes (8 April 2009):
hi, You had me confused by your initial post, which you only made clearer in your second entry.does 'making it official' mean having sex by any chance? Did he understand what you were trying to say or have you left him confused as well? Bas
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhat i meant was i told him i wanted to date him exclusely and i thought i was in love with him. i said all the right things to his response.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhat i meant was i wanted the same thing. date him exclusively. we even talked about falling in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): People can be so cruel to one another! I makes me so sad! I would chalk it up to experience, and move on, if you don't hear from him.
The thing is...we want to believe those lies so much! All we want is to be loved, and feel connected to another!
He could perhaps be hurt by your refusal to take it to another level...but my gut tells me, he just gave up because he didn't get what he wanted!
That is so painful, I know, but look at it this way...atleast you stood your ground and did not give in...the result may have been the same either way!
I wish you luck!
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