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Archived questions from: 22 January, 2009 (see latest in Sex category)

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Sex: Help and advice

She doesn't want to have sex cause she thinks I'm too young

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - hey, i'm 15 and my gf's 16. The problem I'm having is that she doesn't want to have sex cause she thinks I'm too young, but I've already had sex and she knows but she still thinks I'm too young, what do i do?...

Help! How do I get my sex drive back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 305 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I'm 23 had a baby 5 months ago to start of my sex drive was their but now it's not. I'm working so am always tied to do it then when i do i get to wet and it puts me off. How do I get my sex drive back????????...

A little advice from guys out there??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 304 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - A little advice from other guys out there... how can a woman ultimately spice up things in the bedroom? I know every man is differant, but how would like your wife or girlfriend to spice it up? My husband doesn't share his fantasies with me, so I'm ...

Hurt after being lead on and cheated on, how do I move past this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 305 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - How do I get over this guy who just wants me for sex? I fell hard for him and he lead me on with dates and gifts and texting. I found out he was seeing two other girls at the same time and when he got into a relationship over the summer, he cheat...

To trust... or not to trust?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 305 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - Well, for the first time here, I have a question non-sexual related... So, I´m dating this guy for almost a year. This is the 3rd serious relationship I´m in, but this one is making me change, I am really crazy about him. Not only because he´s my ...

How painful will first time sex be and how can I make it less so?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 305 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - ok ive been with my boyfriend for five months and hes been my best friend for ages.Im a virgin but Im sure that i want to have sex with him but im slightly nerous about two things.The first is how much pain it will cause me.From experience how bad ...

Questions about kinkiness, am I a pervert?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 279 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - I want to ask a question about kinks. I've seen some videos that's got women doing men with strap ons. I'm not gay and have got no interest in having this done to me but watching a woman do this is really kinky and gets me going. Is this freaky? I ...

Why are women sluts if they sleep around and men Gods if they do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 153 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - why is it that if a woman sleeps around she is a slut, but if a man sleeps around he is seen as a God? this is just something that my friends and i were talking about and made me think that it would be good to get a guys perspective. ...

Would asking him to get STI testing offend him? Will just a condom be enough?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 304 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I've been seeing my boyfriend for about a month now (we haven't had sex but I feel that we care about each other and trust each other enough to perhaps eventually make that step). I'm a virgin and he's had two sexual partners before, so I am ...

Have I lost perspective on my wife's sexual past?

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - Have I lost perspective on my wife's sexual past? When we first started dating, we told each other about our past. I had a 2 yr relationship. She had dated in high school, and did some heavy petting. Then just a month before we met, she dated a ...

Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 153 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?...

Suffering in silence...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 285 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm new here and well I just need to talk to someone as I don't have anywhere else to go and have tried other things the thing is this is slightly embarrassing for me but I need some advice and opinions and figured it was best to do it in an ...

How can I make him believe that I was a virgin?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 305 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - hi,after i had sex for the first time, i realised i wasnt a virgin. my boyfriend does'nt belive me when i tell him he was my first since i wasnt a virgin. i think the cause of loosing my virginity is riding bicycles alot since it was one of my ...

I feel sex is so one sided with us...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 305 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - My boyfriend and I have been having problems that have almost split us up twice. I have a higher sex drive than he does but I have never been pushy, asked for sex or demanded it or anything like that. I have backed off so much trying to make t...

Having sex with your partner when you don't feel the sexual desire to...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 306 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - Having sex with your partner when you don't feel the sexual desire to -- is it an act of care and love OR an immoral act that should never even be suggested??...

I don't feel anything during sex!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 278 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I have had sex with 5 men and it's always the same. I can feel the penis inside of me but, it doesn't really feel like anything. I doesn't feel good or bad. It's like if someone puts their hand on yours, nothing but touch. I'm married and I have one ...

Double standards about masturbation

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 306 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - Some people have the double standard that masturbation is ok for guys but not for girls. Is there anybody with the opposite opinion? It seems like many of the opinions about masturbation or porn say it's liberating for women, but sleazy for men. ...

I've pretty much lost all intrest in sex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 306 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - so... I'm not really sure whats going on... I've pretty much lost all intrest in sex.... sometimes i get horny but its rare.... im losing all intrest.... sometimes my dick wont stay hard.... what the heck am i to do? and i've read some of the other ...

Is he for real or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 306 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I really like this guy, we both DJ and we're are both Aquarius's. When we lay in bed it feels like were one and the world could end around us but we would never notice. He brings me over to his friends house and when we are together he makes me feel ...

Twisted relationship with cousin

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I have had and am having sexual relations with my cousin. He is my age. We are both 16. I have always kind of liked him but never said anything because he is my cousin obviously. So nobody ever knew. The summer before 8th grade he started feeling ...

Should I give her another chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 306 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - for what happened the second time this is the link i ended up giving her another chance but im not sure if i should give her another. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-dont-understand-her-actions.html well anyway when i first met her sh...

I want to have a relationship and it be sexual but I have problems

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 304 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - Hello I'm 30, male, divorced and I have a dilemma. I want to have a girlfriend, and I would like the relationship to be sexual. The problem is that I also don't want to upset any girl if I like her enough to be interested in her. I have n...

Sex doesn't feel good to me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 306 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we have had sex countless times. i lost my virginity to him but my problem is is that it never feels good. weve used lube before, different positions, everything. all it feels to me is pain when it ...

What does birth control actually do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 306 days ago

22 January 2009 (?) - ok,, idont understand..please explain to me what does birth control actually do for a girl.. and whats the difference between an abortion ??...

Possible sexaholic

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 306 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - Alright, so I've been wondering lately if it's possible I'm a sexaholic. My girlfriend is a psychologist and she seems to think we both may be. The only thing that makes me wonder if it's not the case is that we both remain faithful to one ...