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writes:hi,after i had sex for the first time, i realised i wasnt a virgin. my boyfriend does'nt belive me when i tell him he was my first since i wasnt a virgin. i think the cause of loosing my virginity is riding bicycles alot since it was one of my hobbies. can riding bicylces cause one to loose their virginity and how do i convince my boyfriend i had not had sex before because sometimes he brings the topic up and i cant seem to convince him enough. him beliving me is very important to me. pliz help. thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (22 January 2009):
if he does not believe and trust you, then why waste your time with him?
you should be with someone who does not care about whether you were a virgin or not. that's just petty and going back to the dark ages. he needs to get over himself! find someone more decent!
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reader, pastfirst  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Your hymen could easily have broken by physical activity such as bicycle riding.
If he was the first guy you had sexual intercourse with, you were technically a virgin.
Trust is the basis of any relationship so tell him to get lost.
was HE a virgin before he met you? Or is this a typical example of the old "double standard"?
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reader, lus +, writes (22 January 2009):
lus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for replying to my question,i feel better knowing i was a virgin and its true what you have said coz i dint bleed although it was uncomfortable and sort of painful the first time.
my question still stands,how do i convince him i had not had intercource because i feel that it will come to cause major disagreement in future
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (22 January 2009):
riding a bike does not make you loose your virginity. otherwise we would have all lost it at the age of 4.
you can only loose your virginity by having sex (intercourse)
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reader, carriebaby +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Only having intercourse with someone will make you lose your virginity. if your bf doesnt believe you when you have told him many times that you were a virgin then i say you get rid of him.Who does he think he is? its a sensitive subject and he should believe and trust you when you say it was your first time
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reader, Amethyst_Tears  +, writes (22 January 2009):
A virgin gets "deflowered" only when she has penetrative sex. Riding bicycles will not make you unvirginised. And if your boyfriend does not believe you then that is his problem and it means he does not trust you. Stop beating yourself up! He's not worth it if he calls you a liar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): hi,
first of all the only thing that causes you to lose your virginity is having sex for the first time.
however, if like u say your hobby is riding bicycles a lot this can cause the hymen to break (if this is the right word). the hymen breaks the first time you have sex which is was why it can be painfull the first time a girl has sex and it is also what causes the bleeding.
if your hymen has broken through riding bicycles it does not mean u are not a virgin it just means it may be less painfull and you may not bleed.
hope this helps
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