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writes:why is it that if a woman sleeps around she is a slut, but if a man sleeps around he is seen as a God?this is just something that my friends and i were talking about and made me think that it would be good to get a guys perspective. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emerald2000  +, writes (24 June 2009):
No, we're not, actually. LOLSorry, but it's just the way men are wired. Why does equality have to mean "sameness". It doesn't. Permit me a metaphor. Men are hunters. And if the prey is too easy it's not a challenge. And if the prey has been had too many times then it's not attractive to us, long term.I could give you many stereotypes the other way. Why is an unemployed woman just an unemployed woman when an unemployed man is a loser?Gender differences are what they are. They exist. Men don't like to get serious with girls that sleep around. Women don't seem to care (as much). Oh, you guys complain... but at the end of the day you're even attracted to guys with more experience. If I had the time I'd go look up the study.So if you're a girl and you sleep around you just have to deal with it because you can't make men like what we do not like. Go ahead and get mad. It won't change a thing. I will totally admit that I can not speak for women, but I will hazard a guess, and it's just a guess, that there are many women who are actually quite comfortable with the concept of being choosy and not sleeping around. Who think sex is something special and intimate to be shared with someone special. And who feel pressure to have more sex to fit the new "sexually liberated" woman mode when truth be told they just don't get why being a slut makes them a "freer" woman. But that's just a guess... wink
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (22 January 2009):
aunty_rach is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol uncle phil!
i do hear some guys calling girls sluts and then they cheer on their friends for having slept with loads of girls. i would like to think that guys are more intelligent then that, so maybe it's only the odd few. lets hope!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): That's a pretty antiquated view these days, I don't really know many intelligent guys that think that way any more.
It's got to do with the whole women's role thing in the past, when women had to be virginal or a wife. Roles have changed now, not fully, but we're getting there.
In my opinion both women and men that sleep around are sluts, that are playing with fire, but if thats the way people want to live their lives that's fine by me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Personally, I wouldn't call a girl that sleeps around a slut. A bloody good sport maybe, but not a slut.
Aren't most men seen as Gods? if not, they should be! (:o)
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