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*elina
writes:Well, for the first time here, I have a question non-sexual related...So, I´m dating this guy for almost a year. This is the 3rd serious relationship I´m in, but this one is making me change, I am really crazy about him. Not only because he´s my friend and we have fun together, talking for hours and hours, but also because the sex is getting better and better each time. We´ve created an intimate and wild sexual bond, and he really turns me on. He´s very open minded as I am, so we´re able to explore sex in a very kinky level.But the thing is, in his past relationship, that went on for 7 years, he cheated on her many many times. He told me the sex was really bad between them, so he cheated. But hell,that´s no reason. Were not animals... A couple must talk about everything and make things right for each other. Loving is understanding.... I think....I gave him freedom to have adventures with other women, but only if he tells me all about it before. I know it sound crazy, but I know he loves me, and I don´t think when you´re dating someone you should lose your freedom. However he doesn´t give me that freedom...So, due to his cheating past, should I trust he won´t do anything without telling me? I know he loves me, I can feel it, but is this enough to trust him?Maybe someone more experient in this love issues may give me good advice. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, didda123  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Well i think he has planted the seed of doubt in your mind now as he seems to have some track record! He has told you that he has cheated on his past relationship well he has been honest with you but now you have something to stress about.
Are you happy with an open relationship or are you just putting a safety net out hoping by you saying that he will feel more able to inform you before anything actually does happens.
I think that it is highly unlikely that he will let you know before he starts cheating because for the majority i think that the sneaking about is part of the fun!
I would be very wary but until he gives you cause to doubt him just enjoy your relationship you know he loves you and you love him. If anything untoward is going on i'm sure your intuition will pick up on it and you can deal with it then.
I hope this has helped in someway good luck x
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