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Archived questions from: September, 2016 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

Did I mess things up by not sleeping with her in the midst of all these mixed signals?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2763 days ago

30 September 2016 (M) - So, i am kind of sort of seeing a coworker but not really, we both agreed it would be horrible to date while coworkers. She is ten years older than me, kids are out he house and i have no kids. We have gone out a few times, but nothing serious....

How can we slow things down? And why does he keep slipping out?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2649 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Ok, so, After messaging and chatting to my guy, we both agreed to meet . I really like him, he likes me too. We get on so well, laughing, relaxing and enjoying each other's company. We arranged a few more dates, there is definately a spa...

I think I broke my hymen. Am I still a virgin?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2764 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - so this is pretty embarrassing??? but i was masturbating with a hairbrush handle and it was rather large and i like popped my cherry??? i didn't bleed or anything but i felt the pinch-y stretching feeling and now i'm like looser??? like is this ...

Was she hinting that she wants me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (M) - My female friend sugguested that I masturbated then openly admitted she does it. Was she hinting that she wants me or am I misreading the situation? Basically I was saying I was having trouble sleeping and she was like why don't you go masturbat...

Why does my boyfriend keep making jokes about kids?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - So been dating my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months and lately he been making jokes about me having his kids or when we do it he ain't pull out! What does he mean by this? Why he keep making jokes about babies? Do he wnt kids secretly? Where is this coming ...

Do just forgive and forget? He called out the name of his ex, twice, during sex with me. How do I deal with this? He was drunk at the time

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - My fiance (together 4 years), called me by his ex girlfriends name during sex (twice in one sentence) when he was drunk after his bachelor party. I dont know how to deal with it. This ex caused a lot of rubbish at the start of our relation...

Partner no longer enjoys lovemaking and it is becoming a dealbreaker

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2766 days ago

26 September 2016 (M) - Hey all, I've been with my partner for 2 and a half years now and for the first while our sex life was crazy good. We were both on exactly the same page with the things we were into and the high sex drive we both had. One day it was really sore for...

Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2760 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...

I want to be courted but the men seem to want to go from "hi" to sex immediately!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2767 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - How do I always get the opposite of what I want? I've always been told I should go on "more than just a few dates" before I get in a relationship. But there ARE NOT even that many dates. Men just want to go straight from hi to relationship. Or, just ...

Lots of issues... Younger girlfriend, torrid past, immature, we're not gelling sexually... What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2769 days ago

24 September 2016 (M) - So I'm 30 dating a 24 year old and I'm finding it very difficult in a few ways. One that bothers me is how many guys and the caliber of guys she's been with before me. Since we've been dating she has told me some stories and it raised some red ...

I am never going to feel better until I perform better sexually then her ex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2648 days ago

24 September 2016 (M) - Ok readers please help. Please be honest and blatantly straightforward. I am so tired of reading the answers that men want or NEED to hear as opposed to the real truth. Experienced women can surely help me out here. Ok, I'm a nice looking 38 year ...

I'm now feeling guilty about a one night stand. How do I get over the guilt?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2770 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - Hi all, I am about to turn 35 in a couple of weeks and 2 weeks ago I had my first one night stand. Before this I had not had sex for 3.5 years- mainly as I was busy and really focused on work but also because I needed a break from men after a string...

How do I take things to the next level without getting hurt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2768 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - Dear agony aunts This is part 2 of a question i have asked here before I hooked up with this guy like 2 weeks ago and suddenly while having sex i stopped midway and left, i messaged him and clarified went wrong and he only gave me an okay, he hasn...

I don't want to cut all contact with him. But he has been distant with me ever since I asked if he was interested in anything serious. What do I do now?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2769 days ago

23 September 2016 (F) - Hi everyone. I hope someone can shed some light on my situation. Recently, due to a change in jobs, my weekends are free, giving me more time to go out and socialise. Back in April, I went out to a local pub with my best friend where I bump...

Is it me? My Gf of 4 years just doesn't make any effort. Leaving me seriously unsatisfied

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2770 days ago

23 September 2016 (M) - I am really frustrated in my relationship. My girlfriend of 4 years I feel doesn't make effort. Or maybe it's me? We used to have a lot of sex, nearly daily. As routines changed this has reduced which is normal. Now in a week it's once and if I wak...

I'm starting to dread sex because it takes my husband so long to finish

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2729 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - Hello everyone.. I have a sexual problem with my husband.. It takes him too long to ejaculate, even if we have exquisite foreplay or so on.. Even if I do everything I can in the foreplay.. It has to end with him mostly taking a long time or masturba...

Why is he so fickle ? Why does my husband keep shutting me down?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2771 days ago

22 September 2016 (M) - My husband and I have been together for 14 years but, only married for 1 year. We both have careers that draw on our time together. I noticed that both he and I were preferring to jerk off instead of trying to make time for each other with our busy ...

Why would my Bf's penis go limp after foreplay? Does it suggest that he's cheated on me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2768 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He is 63. I am 45. He is not married. Neither am I. Just to clarify. We are good friends. Our sexual relationship has always been quite wonderful too. And for a man in his 60's, my boy...

My husband called me uptight and its really bothering me. I want to discuss his actions but don't know how

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2772 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - I don't know what to think of the fact that my husband called me uptight. It wouldn't have been such a big deal had he not said that I was like that all the time and that it bothered him that he had to keep his true nature in control. I don't w...

I'm having doubts that my fiance loves me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2771 days ago

21 September 2016 (M) - I feel as though my fiancée is not in love with me anymore because our whole relationship has changed. We use to make love with no problem but now it seems like a complete drain for her. I do everything for her with all my love in heart but I am ...

I need a way to get him to meet my desires

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2769 days ago

19 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I are busy people. He works 6 days out of the week,8 hours per day. I'm in school part time and works 40 hours a week. Therefore, when we are together, I want to cuddle and have sex. He just enjoys my company. I talked to him about ...

If I'm a good kisser, how likely is it that I'll also be a good lover?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2773 days ago

18 September 2016 (M) - I've made out with 5-6 girls and I think I'm a good kisser because I know women hate men who slober over them and I try to figure out what does it for them and try to make them feel good. I honestly think I get more enjoyment thinking I'm g...

She's no longer into sex. What to do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2774 days ago

18 September 2016 (M) - The problem I have is. My wife is totally uninterested in sex and lovemaking, and has been for about 3 years now. Its to hot, its to cold, I have a headache?backache/earache whatever. We have discussed it and she assures me that it is not me. I h...

Some advice please on how to ensure that things do not go any further and do not lead to sex? Because I don't want that until I'm older

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2775 days ago

18 September 2016 (F) - I am 13 years old, female and is currently in a relationship of 4 months. My boyfriend and I haven't gone any further than straddling and French kissing until yesterday. No clothes were removed but there was grinding involved. And to be complete...

Is it right to take a lover now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2778 days ago

16 September 2016 (F) - I am a twenty two year old married Indian woman. My husband has been working overseas for the last four years. He last visited me in August 2014 when we spent two weeks together I spent my twentieth birthday in December 2014 with my parents,...

I'm tired of the imbalance between my sex life with myself vs. sex life with a partner

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2691 days ago

15 September 2016 (F) - When I am by myself, I am able to get myself off in about 5 minutes. Probably less. I can multiple orgasm for hours. My solo sex life is very healthy, but I have never been able to transfer that level to the bedroom of another. I have been dating ...

Feel our sex is flat

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2779 days ago

15 September 2016 (M) - I'm with my girlfriend for 2 months now but i find sex ordinary. I have heard many guys expressing how "the sex is amazing", but i don't get that i just find it pretty ordinary What makes sex "mind blowing" for both males and females generall...

The sex used to be mindblowing and not it is not. What could be possible reasons for this ?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2777 days ago

15 September 2016 (F) - I have been with my man for 13 years. In beginning our sex was mind blowing ! And over the years it has gone up and down ! But the last couple of years he doesnt think he should do anything . Well when it is time to have sex then he is up fo...

Does he now not want to see me any more?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2780 days ago

13 September 2016 (F) - I hooked up with this guy i have been meaning to hook up with months ago So i went to his place and things were going on but midway just before the intercourse i stopped and asked him to stop and just left quickly I haven't heard from him yet. ...

Why go through the trouble of introducing me to friends if it was just a fling?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2779 days ago

13 September 2016 (F) - I dated this guy for about 3 weeks. In that last week, we had sex. This is something I've never, ever done before (ever!) so I can't believe I slept with him so quickly. But I did, and things kind of fizzled out after that. We haven't seen each oth...

Is it really wrong to pay for sex

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2772 days ago

13 September 2016 (M) - I have reading the many posts on dearcupid from men who are contemplating paying for sex. I see that most people are against it, like it is the lowest a guy can go. I am at the lowest point in my life now and it will only get worse. I have Marfan ...

We always end up together and both of us like each other but neither of us want a relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2781 days ago

12 September 2016 (M) - I have been back and forth with a girl now for close to 5 years, we've never exclusively been classed as 'boyfriend/girlfriend" but we did spend around 2 years where we only slept with each other but still didn't put a label on things. Now the d...

Why is my boyfriend taking longer to orgasm during sex these days?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2779 days ago

10 September 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for past 6 months, sex been great till now, we meet every weekend. Past couple of times, I am seeing him taking too long to come during sex, asked him once, said he is enjoying so he is delaying, but previous time I...

What if my body turns him off? Should I wait until I’m more comfortable with my own body?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2785 days ago

8 September 2016 (F) - So I like this guy so much, he's very handsome and has asked me out on a date. I really enjoy being with him and things are advancing and all but i am really self aware of my shape, i have always struggled with my body , i am 5'1' and i weigh ...

Feeling robbed, hoodwinked and conned. my wife clearly doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. what are my options?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2782 days ago

8 September 2016 (M) - Hi, I suspect this might be an old chestnut but its new to me so please bear with me. In a sentence...my wife clearly doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. On the rare occasions we do, it feels like she is being contrived, dutiful and fra...

He has no answer... can someone help me out here with advice? Why can't he last longer?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2784 days ago

7 September 2016 (F) - At the beginning (11 years ago) we lasted quite long... my husband (7 years) now cums so fast... or his urge to let it go happens as soon as I do anything to him, from stroking it, BJ and as soon as he enters me he can't hold out. But with his ex's...

How do we move forward? He never takes me on a normal date.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2787 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - I love my boyfriend, he is the guy that has been hitting on me for the past three yes so I finally accepted him. During those years we became friends so already he knows a bit more about me. We are four months in a relationship now all has been goi...

How do I cope with my troubled and tormented thoughts of her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2787 days ago

6 September 2016 (M) - I am a mid aged guy and 7 years ago, I began seeing a woman from work. I was separated from my wife and 2 teenage girls but used to still see my wife on a friendly basis and help her out and still occasionally had sex with her. The woman is m...

Why doesn't my husband go down on me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2787 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - Hello everyone! Thank you for your time reading this. I have a simple, yet extremely embarrassing question. I'm a "happily" married woman with two girls and 4 months pregnant. We live a moderate life,go to church and spend time with ou...

Am I just the side chick? How can I go forward when he treats me as just a friend, never his GF?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2787 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - It has been a while that I have written on this. So, there is this guy I've known for the last three years of high school and we've kept contact streaming into the life of college. Throughout the years I 've known him since high school we've man...

My boyfriend wants to give me a rim job

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2785 days ago

5 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend insists on giving me a rim job !! He has given me oral before but not a rim job. He says he loves my ass and wants to put his tongue in it. Can anyone else tell me about how this feels ?? ...

We are thinking marriage but I have concerns. Is my boyfriend gay or bi curious?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2787 days ago

5 September 2016 (F) - Hi, A little back story... My BF and I have been together for 3 years and 1/2, living together for 1 year. He's very loving, have great morals and have alwayst treated me amazingly and we have a average sex life. But we are really freaky, ...

Does he care? Or am I crazy? Am I obsessed with him? Or am I just in love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2788 days ago

5 September 2016 (F) - It's taken me a Few moments to figure out how I should ask my question, but the Fact is The question Is just as confusing as the story..... A couple Of months ago I met this guy, I had just gotten out of a relationship Three months prior to the ...

I cant get the nude images of my boyfriend's ex out out of my head.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2787 days ago

5 September 2016 (F) - I have never been with other peole before but my boyfriend has been in a few relationsihps. His last relationship was pretty serious and lasted roughly four years, out of which two years were long distance because ex moved to a different country for ...

Did my boyfriend get horny watching women play golf or was he horny because of ME?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2787 days ago

5 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend watched a women's golf tournament today. He is business friends with an organizer and got a free ticket so he went as his friend's guest. I was supposed to see my boyfriend last night but he had to work. I told him I was horny and ho...

My fiance risked our relationship for one night of fun

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 2786 days ago

4 September 2016 (F) - I am engaged to be married on the 24th. Last weekend my bf had his bachelor party weekend in New York . I couple of his buddies were egging him on to hook up with a random girl. They ended up inviting a group of girls back to their hotel were he ...

Discouraged he won't deal with his premature ejaculation

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2792 days ago

2 September 2016 (F) - I have been with my partner for 9 months and I am in love with him but his issues with premature ejaculations is leaving me frustrated. He refuses to seek help claiming that he has always been like this (he is now 46). He gets hard and he has no ...