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Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?

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Question - (22 January 2009) 13 Answers - (Newest, 25 July 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010):

If there is at least perceived potential for an on-going relationship, no; if there is no potential/interest in an on-going relationship, absolutely yes... esp. if it is a 1st date.

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A male reader, Emerald2000 Canada +, writes (24 June 2009):

If you do it right away, then yes. It's that simple.

If you are in a committed relationship and you wait a while and you never, ever, ever, ever, did I say "ever", tell him about a past experience then he will be very happy. It's a wonderful expression of love.

If you ever tell your bf that you have given a bj before, especially if you swallowed - he'll never get it out of his head and you're probably going to be history.

We all know you've had past experiences, we just do not want to hear about them.

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A male reader, Fingle United Kingdom +, writes (28 January 2009):

A blowjob on a first date may well be seen as slutty and easy, especially if you swallow.

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A male reader, lostlover3 United States +, writes (25 January 2009):

I have never recieved without loving the woman i was just unable to perform. So it's not either for me but I would imagine other men find it slutty but what does that matter all men enjoy that what would you expect from them

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009):

suck suck suck i say, as long and he is gonna return the favour. if he wont then he doesnt respect you and he is an asshole. simple as that. it doesnt make you a slut if you wanna have a one night stand either, thats up to you as long as its something you want to do and you are going to enjoy and not regret... but you have to realise that this can be dangerous incase the person you meet ends up being creepy and also you dont know how clean he (and vice versa) so use condons. people who call others sluts for stupid stuff need to start a hobby, read a book, do puzzles as they have too much time on their hands if they have time to thik bad stuff about other people.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (23 January 2009):

DoubleM agony auntIn my opinion, the context of an ongoing and possibly meaningful relationship certainly makes it okay, especially if the sexual activities include oral pleasure for the woman as well. In that case, it is mutual and consensual and I've never had any condescending thoughts about the girls whatsoever. Whether or not your partner would consider you slutty is something that we cannot know. If mutual pleasure is occurring in an ongoing way, then it is something I've always considered totally healthy. But make sure that you are also being sexually pleased.

You are apparently of legal age in the United States, and may do as you wish. Some young (as swell as older) women seem to relish giving head, and may do so indiscriminately. In our country, that is usually considered rather slutty when applied just to receive cum, but more and more women do it for their enjoyment and benefit.

It is called "semen therapy" in some cultures and can be found in books and online. Sperm is very nourishing and provides a kind of high and energy boost for a woman, but fellatio is much more rewarding if the activity is with someone who really cares and appreciates the love it represents. In my opinion, it should always be with someone very special to you who enjoys but will keep it to themselves. Our culture, due to lingering archaic morals, still considers some activities to be trashy, but who cares? Just don't tell. Do what you enjoy.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009):

look most of boy don't know how i's hard to a girl to do a job such as this one .i just want you to have a great spirit cause nobody likes to do somthing like this

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A female reader, didda123 United Kingdom +, writes (22 January 2009):

didda123 agony auntThere is nothing at all dirty with giving blow jobs to someone you care about and are in a loving relationship with. Its all about give and take.

There is certainly nothing submissive and slutty as someone said earlier unless you are picking people up willy nilly on the street and making their day lol! Say you met someone at a party and dissapeared to give him a blow job i can imagine this is could be construed as slutty behaviour but in the context of a full blown relationship their is absolutely nothing to worry about.

Enjoy x

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A female reader, aunty_rach United Kingdom +, writes (22 January 2009):

if it is with someone who is in a loving relationship then no it is not easy or slutty. as usually each person pleasures eachother. give and recieve.

however if it is a first date or with some random guy. then yes i think the girl is a big fat slut. just my opinion.

but when you are in a relationship, oral sex is part of a healthy sex life. would it be submissive if a guy went down on his gf? would that make him a slut?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009):

unfortunately I do. Don't know why, just the see the act as submissive and slutty. goes to show that some people do

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (22 January 2009):

If it's on a first date, or say, in a pub toilet then yes they will. They'll call you again though. They'll just never see you as girlfriend material.

If it's as part of sex in a loving relationship then they won't.

Of course there are always guys with massive hang ups about this kind of thing who expect their girlfriend / wife to lie there like a virgin.

Most men are normal and love it though.

Good Luck!! xx

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (22 January 2009):

Yos agony auntThat all depends on to whom and under what circumstances.

If you give blow jobs to your boyfriend in the context of a relationship, then certainly not.

But if you're handing out random blow jobs to strangers whilst drunk, then yes.

It's never about the act, it's always about the context.

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A female reader, unique-angel United Kingdom +, writes (22 January 2009):

i think it depends if you were in a relationship when doing it..if together then some would say its a part of the relaitonship if want to have fun etc....but if just doin it when not with that persn.then think how what would u think if u heard sum1 else givin a guy a bj even though not together??

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