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Archived questions from: December, 2013 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3767 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - Please excuse the graphic details!! I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm. Only ever clitoral orgasms. My boyfriend of two years says he really wants me to have one. I think he misses it and feels he can't satisfy me sexually. But I can only really ...

I feel so guilty about how I act, but how to communicate this to my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3769 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - I always feel like i am being used for sex. I know rationally this isn't true, but I can't help feeling that way and it ruins all of my relationships. I was in an extremely manipulative relationship from 15-20 in which I was definitely used ...

I got with this boy, now he is acting like it never happened!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3768 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - on friday i got with this boy and we have been friends for 4 years but lately we drifted apart! when everything was happening i kept saying 'that we dont do this' and h was like this should have happened ages ago. We were both drunk me more than ...

Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3770 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic? I believe this is what puts people off going, the only question they should ask is how long since you last had unprotected sex. I also believe they should only ques...

How to deal with previous sexual partners?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3768 days ago

30 December 2013 (M) - Hey guys, I'm really stuck, I may be young but I am sure of this relationship I am in, there's literally one issue. The girl has had 6 sexual partners before me, and whilst there's worse things and worse numbers, I really really can't get ...

Why do men think that lasting forever is better?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3759 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - This is a question mainly for the men out there. Why do you think that lasting hours while having sex is what women want? I've noticed this with all 5 men I've been with - they seem to think that lasting for ages makes them some sort of love God or ...

I have never climaxed during intercourse and it might ruin this relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3769 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - I haven't used Dear Cupid for a while - I guess I only come here when I need advice the most; when I've thought so hard about relationship issues but can't seem to come to any decision or conclusion. I need help; I just need some truthful answers. ...

Performance anxiety help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3769 days ago

30 December 2013 (M) - I've been with my girlfriend for sometime and I do love her, but now that we've gotten to the point in our relationship where we make love, I've gotten performance anxiety. I wasn't able to get it up 100% and I figured the condom was too tight on ...

I think my marriage is ending and I don't know how to stop it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3769 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - I suppose I'm really asking for people opinions here..... I have been married to my husband for 13 years and married for 3 of them. There is a 13 year age gap between us, I am 30 he is 43. Our sex life has always been ok, but over the past year it...

Is my husband gay or just trying things out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3768 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - My husband and I have been married 20 years. We got married young. He has never seemed to have as high sex drive as me and initially I just accepted it as that. Over the years I discovered that he had interactions with others....not sure how far it ...

My husband's sexual fetish frightens me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3769 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - Recently me and my husband had a romantic night in together, the night went well, it was on the day after Boxing Day. We had a lovely dinner and a romantic day in; the dinner was candlelit and my husband cooked it, not me! We were discussing each ...

Is My Sex Life Ruined? Please I Need Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3770 days ago

30 December 2013 (M) - I'm a 19 year old male, and i like watching porn, im worried that this is affecting me more at picking up girls, i don't just go porn surfing and watch every video i see, i just watch the porn stars who are my favorite, one in particular i have came ...

Was I just used for sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3771 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - Hiya i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now he was in a very unhappy relationship when we met he broke up with her but is still living with her as they have twin boys who are a year old we recently slept together for the first time we had ...

Help with hand jobs

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3770 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year. He has fingered me various times now and I want to give him something back. I know he's okay with me touching him because we have spoken about it recently. I'm quite shy so I'm not ...

My girlfriend's previous lovers made her come but I can't seem to

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3770 days ago

29 December 2013 (M) - Hello Aunts! I am a 20 year old male who has been with my girlfriend for over a year now. She is the only woman I have ever been intimate with. My problem is that I cannot make her orgasm except by rubbing her clit and she is getting very...

Why is it more acceptable for women to use sex toys than it is for men?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3771 days ago

29 December 2013 (M) - just a tought. why is it totally acceptable for girls the use of vibrators / stimulators and when it comes to males, the use of them makes you be seen as a perv, weirdo, looser... etc, etc... im in a ldr and we see each other every 3 months. My gf ...

She already has a boyfriend and I'm the first woman she's been with. Am I making her life too complicated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3771 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - I live in johannesburg now in village eastern cape visit my grandmother only my cousins knows that I am swing girls. I meet other cute aNd smart girl she's cute enough and the type of girls I likes she offer to be my friend and close friend but was ...

I'm feeling insecure because my boyfriend used to date a stripper

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3739 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - I've been seeing my boyfriend for a couple months already. He's great, he's very loving and I really trust him. He's very open about his past, though. That's great, because he's honest and it builds trust, and usually it doesn't bother me. But ...

I haven't heard from him since we had sex.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3771 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - Hi i met this man in April this year we had 4 dates i really liked him and we got on really well but due to problems on his side nothing came of it now boxing day we got back together he is still having the same problems not heath wise but family ...

He has been lying to me for two years, and I don't know what to do.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3755 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - me n my partners relationship is really rocky at the moment as alot of things have gone on n im on the verge of breaking up with him, we have 2 children so im scared. i found out from him something about his past......he was an escort.....people ...

I told him we would only kiss if we were together, then he asked me to be his girlfriend.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - I am 21 female and don't know if I will regret the night I had. I am a virgin that has urges for sex but learn to control myself, wel I was drinking, tired and my heart was secretly hurting and 1 of my guy friends who I havnt seen for awhile wanted ...

Problems from my past are affecting sex and love in the present!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3773 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - my man would like to have sex with lights on and be able to see me naked ,but I don't have any confidance in how I look I am 45 but am a size 10 ,but have issues from a rape yrs ago and in my marrage when I tried to spice things up in bedroom dept ...

We met, then nothing, then we met, had sex, and now again I hear nothing!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3773 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - Hi really hope someone can give me some good advice i met a man in july met up a few times had a few dates then i heard nothing for a month until a text saying he is in a awkward situation which he genuinely was we talked on Christmas eve and ...

I'm still passionate for my wife, but she seems to have lost interest

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3773 days ago

27 December 2013 (M) - This may be an unusual request for advice. My wife and I have been together for the better part of 19 years. I am 62 she is 43. We were first married in 1995 and divorced in 2002. We were reunited in 2008 and remarried in 2010. We have both been ...

He wants sex all the time and I am starting to get really stressed!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3774 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years and I'm starting to get really stressed out by the fact he wants sex all the time. I used to love having sex with him, but now I feel like that's his main focus and it's putting me off doing it ...

I thought I was really into this guy but now I don't know!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3774 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I thought I really was into this guy and now I am confused on my feelings for him. I met someone new that I am also really starting to enjoy. I was not confused about guy 1 until guy 2 came along and now I'm confused about both! We have slept ...

After one awful attempt at sex with my ex, how do I prepare for my current boyfriend?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3772 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I recently entered a new relationship after being in a long term one for the majority of high school. I had sex once with my ex, to be blunt it was awful. I couldn't even feel him inside of me because there was so much pain. We were intimate ...

I know our timing has been off, but he hasn't contacted me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3770 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I need your advice. I met this guy online and we've been gone to 8 dinners date. Our schedule had been very busy so for the last couple of weeks we hadn't been able to meet. I was out of town, then he had family issues, then I got sick.. The list ...

I want this relationship to work!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3773 days ago

25 December 2013 (F) - Hello, I'm needing advice about me in my relationship. To make a long story short. I have been with my fiancé for almost 4 years. We've had our share of trouble, but there is one that happen a two years ago that still haunt me. My fiancé che...

What's the perfect formula for when to have sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3775 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - Does it matter when u have sex with a man will he think less of u if u give it up too early or too late? What's the perfect formula if there is one? I am a quote in quite "pretty girl and highly educated". I've never had a tough time getting dates ...

Should I worry that he has stopped texting?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3775 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - So I have spent a total of 19 days with my current guy I'm seeing we have been together for 3 months and known each other for 4 I know I love him he says he loves me, he was the first to romanicly take me in his arms and tell me in my ear I know ...

He says he cares for me, but doesn't love me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3775 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I are both 17 and we've been dating for two months. We were hook up bbuddies for about a month before that though, with me being used as a rebound, and me using him cause I was horny. After we had sex (he was a virgin, I was not) we ...

Is he just in this for the sex?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3766 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - Hey guys. So I met this guy Mark a while ago via my next door neighbor Andrea (we were hanging out once and she invited him). The night I met him we were really into each other and I ended up going home with him. My neighbor made him promise ...

I'm afraid that when my girlfriend does overcome her abusive ex she'll be attracted to his type again

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3773 days ago

24 December 2013 (M) - We've been together a year now and in our mid-twenties. She was raised very strict and about 8 months before I met her ended a 2 year relationship with your typical "bad boy" who treated her horribly, pretty much abuse from what I know. I ment...

BF of 4 years. Our sex life was phenomenal. So why is he now choosing Porn over me? I need advice please

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3769 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we have been living together for the past year and a half. Up until two months ago our sex life was phenomenal; we would have sex almost every day, and sometimes more than once. However we suddenly...

My husband has told me he is gay!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - Last night my husband admitted to me he was gay. He said he didn't want to have these feelings and won't follow up on them, he wants to stay married to me and have sex with me. He said he does like women, but only certain select women, has never had ...

Do others have weird turn ons like mine?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - This is a strange question but is it weird that I get turned on by guitar solos? Or really anyone who knows how to play guitar very well..And also do you have any weird turn ons that will make me feel a bit more normal about mine? lol....

I'm afraid my lack of sexual experience makes me a less than satisfactory lover

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

22 December 2013 (F) - I lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 4 months ago, he's 2 years older than me and I know he has had sex before so he knew what he was doing. Since then, we've been sexually active and have sex 4-5 times a week. However, I feel like I'm not ...

I recently gave up my virginity and still find sex uncomfortable

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

22 December 2013 (F) - Hi, I’m currently in a new relationship with my boyfriend and I have lost my virginity to him. We have tried having sex twice. Every time we have sex, it feels slightly uncomfortable and very tight. My boyfriend can only manage to enter his cock ...

Should I wait to have sex with my long distance boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

22 December 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid, For the past 3 1/2 months, I've been involved in a LDR with a man I met at a speed dating event. The type of relationship we've had, has been one of intense passion, adoration, respect and honesty. It definitely wasn't something...

I promised my girlfriend to never kiss or do anything sexual with her or masturbate, any comments?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

22 December 2013 (M) - I have no idea what to do or dont do. I made a few promises to my girlfriend and two of them are to never do anything sexual to her (including kissing) and never masterbate. Since my girlfriend thinks sex is gross and painful, I respected her ...

Change of heart or just looking for sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

21 December 2013 (F) - I was involved with someone casually for a few months and he finished it. But recently he got in contact again to ask how I was. I finished the conversation by making it clear I did not want to stay in contact. My question is how can i be sure I ...

Sex doesn't feel good for me, why?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

21 December 2013 (F) - I have recently lost my virginity... We have had sex 3 other times since then. It does not fee; good for me whatsoever, its not really painful unless he goes deep inside but I'm curious if its normal that Im not enjoying it yet. I just feel Im too ...

Boyfriend storms out because I wasnt in the mood for sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

21 December 2013 (F) - My bf basically stormed out of my apartment because i wouldnt have sex with him. We've been together for 6 years. Some nights neither of us feel like it (bith tired from work etc) or even he doesnt. No big deal. He kept going on and on about how ...

How do I know if he wants me for anything more than sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3779 days ago

21 December 2013 (F) - I met this guy at a nightclub when all my friends were busy dancing etc. He approached me as he saw that I was on my own and I liked him so agreed to dance. I try to be subtle and genuine with people. He is currently working in the auto industry...

He would rather masterbate on me than have sex with me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3779 days ago

20 December 2013 (F) - HI There Please help me im going insane. my partner of a 1yr and I are living together, sex has never been often im lucky if I get it twice a week and it lasts about 5 minutes. In the begining I told him I was not happy about this as I have a heal...

I can't help feeling something happened, but she says it didn't!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3762 days ago

20 December 2013 (M) - I have been married for a little over 6 years. We have had our share of problems but nothing major then about 2 years ago we just stopped having sex . My wife claimed that she just wasn't in the mood, this went on for about a year and a half. I was ...

She didn't seem like a virgin when we had sex!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3780 days ago

20 December 2013 (M) - I have not too much experience with girls, Ive been dating this girl for a while. We dated and we had oral but not nothing further. then after a few dates later she finally decided to have sex with me. Not long ago she told me she bought online a ...

If I sleep with him, am I just setting myself up to get hurt in the end?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3768 days ago

20 December 2013 (?) - This guy I like has a girlfriend and two kids and so I thought I'd never have a chance with him. We text a lot, and he started asking me sexual questions. I'm a virgin, never done anything. Well he asked me to send him pictures, naked pictures to be ...

Did she lost her virginity to a dildo?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3780 days ago

19 December 2013 (M) - I have not too much experience with girls, Ive been dating this girl for a while. We dated and we had oral but not nothing further. then after a few dates later she finally decided to have sex with me. Not long ago she told me she bought online a ...