Help me to help my teens
Q. This question is directed to teenagers 13-17. It has to do with romantic relationships and with relationships with your parents. Any help is appreciated. My son aged 15 met a wonderful girl this past summer. I really like her and hope that thi...
A. 15 November 2013: F A, my kids were raised before Facebook and cell phones, so I pretty much can't comment. I do think that hands-on parenting is the way to go. My kids have told me it was a good cop-out in situations that made them uncomfortable. "My parents will ... (read in full...)
His track record of one-night-stands really showed when we finally got intimate
Q. Hi aunts, Some advice would be great! Around 8 months ago I walked away from my 4 year relationship after not being happy for a long time. It was the right decision for myself and the relationship I feel. Around 5 months ago I met anoth...
A. 14 November 2013: Change it slowly. Get to know each other, talk about sex and things you like and don't like, no criticism just casual conversation. He doesn't know any better so be a gentle teacher.... (read in full...)
We are chatting online but I don't know if we are dating and I'm losing patience!
Q. Hey everyone....I started work about four months ago. And I met a guy there, I was instantly drawn to him. I have been single for more than two years and I have not been attracted to any guy since. Therefore my attraction to this guy is kind of a ...
A. 14 November 2013: Well if all you are doing is chatting on Facebook then you definitely aren't dating. Why not arrange for you guys to actually meet up face to face and not Facebook to Facebook?... (read in full...)
We've been tested but my boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms and it worries me!
Q. Hi,I'm a 23yr old female n my boyfriend is 26,we decided to go for an HIV test before we can ingage in sex n the results came back negative,we've been having unprotected sex ever since because even when I suggest we use a condom he tells me he ...
A. 14 November 2013: Are you on birth control?... (read in full...)
Why is divorce a problem for a liar cheater wife?
Q. My wife started cheating on me around the year 2000. I confronted her and she was extremely sorry, so she made me believe. A few years later she was cheating again and after all the wasted effort I put into salvaging our marriage I knew it was over. ...
A. 14 November 2013: YOU are responsible for allowing yourself to be used by her. Get that divorce immediately. Her debts can become your debts if you are legally still married. She WILL be getting half (not the house if you bought her out) but half of everything else. ... (read in full...)
I like her and she likes me, but what about him?
Q. I really like my best friends ex and I know she likes me. They broke up 2 months ago but he is nowhere near being over her and to make things worse I live with him. I don't know what I should do...
A. 13 November 2013: Well then lose the friend and go for the girl, I hope she is worth it, because there will be no going back.... (read in full...)
I like her and she likes me, but what about him?
Q. I really like my best friends ex and I know she likes me. They broke up 2 months ago but he is nowhere near being over her and to make things worse I live with him. I don't know what I should do...
A. 12 November 2013: How much do you value your friendship? ... (read in full...)
Anyone else take this long to get pregnant?
Q. Hi Folks, Thank you for replies in advance. I am a 30 year old woman, I have been with my partner for 8 years and 7 or those 8 we have being trying for a baby. Every month is a disappointment, both of us have got tested and apparently health...
A. 12 November 2013: "but still sufficient to fecundate"...that's going in the DC Manual, thanks Cindy!... (read in full...)
She freaked out a little when I said she was my everything!
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a real pickle with the girl I love. We have been together for about 6months now and slowly but surely she has become the centre of my happiness. When ever I'm with her I feel electric and alive. I have had a couple of long term ...
A. 12 November 2013: Busted, nice job Sherlock.... (read in full...)
My first date and he's 8 years older. How do I handle it?
Q. I'm going on a date with a guy who is 8 years older than me. He's 26 and I'm 18. People keep telling me to be more careful and to watch out because he's a lot smoother at manipulation and it'll be easier for him to persuade me to do things. But I...
A. 11 November 2013: Do you live with your parents?... (read in full...)
Could he really be happy with his wife and act that way with another woman?
Q. I am single and met a married man recently. We spent a lot of time together talking and the chemistry was intense. We both said some extremely suggestive things we probably shouldn't have. We both wanted to go home together but he couldn't do it as ...
A. 9 November 2013: I doubt any of the aunts will be able to convince you that he may very well have a lovely wife and a good working marriage but what I want to know is why you would be wondering about the condition of his marriage. Do you plan to have a relationship ... (read in full...)
My daughter is pregnant by a bum and refuses to let him go why?
Q. Dear Cupid ,my troubled child now a mom to be is very pregnant now she has a job but her boyfriend waits on her check every pay day he doesn't work she supplies him with money to keep him high but she walks around looking thrown away her feet are ...
A. 8 November 2013: Once she has the baby she may realize that her paycheck needs to go towards the baby's needs rather than the deadbeat dad and also maybe, just maybe she will begin to see him for what he really is. You can only hope that happens. But you at least ... (read in full...)
I don't want to come across as a stalker, but my feelings for her are only getting stronger
Q. Sorry for the length, any advice is really appreciated. 6 1/2 years ago I met a women who from the moment we were introduced I felt a connection and we clicked, for 2 years from that initial point I questioned my feelings towards this person, ...
A. 8 November 2013: I think you left the ball in her court when you sent the letter. Her not responding to it was your answer. If you are not able to move forward in your life then perhaps talking all this over with a therapist will help. They may be able to give you ... (read in full...)
Is my friend toxic?
Q. How do you know if a friend is toxic? whenever I spend time with a male friend of mine i come home feeling down and stripped of confidence. He lies a lot so I never really know what is real/not, and he always makes jokes at my expense - he says ...
A. 8 November 2013: Why on earth do you subject yourself to this "friend"? Stop hanging out with this guy and find some friends that actually are fun to be around.... (read in full...)
Why do exes try harder with someone else?
Q. I had an ex who turned up blind drunk on a date, with a friend. Then demanded I take them home. Obviously I stopped seeing him after that. Then months later begged me back, stood me up, gloated about his "new life" and kept sending me various ...
A. 8 November 2013: Would the real psycho please stand up...... (read in full...)
In a new country and not sure how to make friends...
Q. Hi all! I moved in another country and been living here for few yrs now, but I have difficulty to make new friends.. most of the time Im very lonely and getting depressed. I have partner but most of the day he is working and I miss my girl friends ...
A. 8 November 2013: What country are you in?,... (read in full...)
How to avoid being screwed over in the workplace again?
Q. I worked for a small company for many years and was always a hard worker. Yet constantly overlooked because of nepotism. Recently a new boss took over and made other people full time. But not I and others who have worked there for years. When I ...
A. 7 November 2013: Use your time off the job to look for a better one. Take your time and find one you will enjoy and that offers you the hours you want.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is keeping track of our sex life online. What should I do?
Q. I saw on my boyfriends computer history a site to [site url removed per site guidelines]. Curious, I checked further and he has gone to the site several times. [Name removed] is an online site that keeps track of your sex life, the dates you had ...
A. 6 November 2013: Sorry I'm on the Warrior's side, you had no business going through your boyfriend's computer. If you are worried about your safety you shouldn't be dating him in the first place. And if and when you bring this up with the boyfriend don't be ... (read in full...)
Best friend and I like the same man!
Q. I'm having a major love crisis. One of my best friends likes a guy and she has liked him longer than I have. Apparently I like him to and he likes me back. I haven't told her yet and I have talked to other people I trust and I have gotten different ...
A. 4 November 2013: If you like the guy more than you like your friend then go for it.... (read in full...)
Is dripping in sweat normal when you both have sex together??
Q. My boyfriend and I are dripping in sweat when we have sex together. I mean, it is as if somebody sprayed a hose on both of us. Dripping wet in tons and tons of sweat!! Lol Is this NORMAL at all? And... we usually fog up all the windows ...
A. 3 November 2013: How big is your bedroom? If my husband and I had sex in my bedroom closet, and if my bedroom closet had a window which it doesn't, I imagine we would fog up the windows a tad. If you are concerned, then I would suggest you try having sex in wide ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and I crave sex all the time! How do I stop feeling like a slag?
Q. how do i stop craving sex? every time i go to see a boy i feel the need to sleep with him. i always fee horny and kinky i always wanna have sex. im 15 so im not even old enough but i cant help it. i know ya probs think im a slag when you read thi...
A. 3 November 2013: Okay 15 annoymous why did you dig this one up?... (read in full...)
He won't help clean our apartment!
Q. Okay everyone. I need some help! My boyfriend and I fight a lot because he will not help me our apartment clean. Right now it is so gross. Dishes everywhere, clothes and trash in the floor. Food all over the counters in the kitchen. I stopped ...
A. 3 November 2013: My husband since 1975 is a total slob. Was in 1975 and he still is in 2013.
He also is my very best friend and lover, the father of three and the grandfather of 10 and one in the oven. He makes a mess wherever he goes, always has. He trashes my k... (read in full...)
Should I cut my really long hair because my boyfriend likes short hair?
Q. I have really long hair. Myboyfriend an i really love each other. but he likes hair short so he is asking me to cut them. should i do what he says. i cant make up my mind but i do want to make him happy...
A. 2 November 2013: If a hair style can affect your boyfriend's happiness, well that just says it all now doesn't it?!... (read in full...)
Should I cut my really long hair because my boyfriend likes short hair?
Q. I have really long hair. Myboyfriend an i really love each other. but he likes hair short so he is asking me to cut them. should i do what he says. i cant make up my mind but i do want to make him happy...
A. 2 November 2013: Exactly Aunt BB! Yep make him go first on something .... (read in full...)
My friend expects me to do sexual things that I am not ready to do!
Q. Okay so my guy friend talks about having oral sex with me and he wants me to squirt on him and I am nervous because I don't want to have sex with him if we are not married. We went out only one time and with my ex- boyfriends they never put that ...
A. 1 November 2013: Of course you are right to want to wait. Did you click the correct age bracket? Tell the guy to back off. He will if he truly cares about you. And by the way he his knowledge of sex sounds like he learned it from porn not experience. As far as his ... (read in full...)
The last convo we had he said I was acting like a psycho and wants me to leave him alone. How do I fix all this?
Q. I've been dating this guy for aboyt 2 months. He has his own business and works crazy hours and gets stressed about it. In the beginning we spent a lot of time together. We went out and did enjoyable things together. Then he started a really huge ...
A. 31 October 2013: Done bun can't be undone. If you try to win him back you'll only be pushing him further away. Leave him alone, he'll contact you if he changes his mind but I wouldn't put a hold on my life waiting for that to happen if I were you.... (read in full...)
Does this man's mother feel I am competition?
Q. I am with a man 16 yrs my senior. His mother is in her 80s and is so jealous of our relationship. She gets mad at how much time we spend together. She tells him alot of negative things about me and says he ignores her. I have never heard of this ...
A. 30 October 2013: I can't believe at your age you haven't heard of the "mama boy" syndrome. All of this is totally up your boyfriend. Don't try to fix this situation. Talk to him and you will find out where you stand in the scheme of things, if he is around your age ... (read in full...)
My child's father suddenly wants to play a bigger role in her life
Q. I have a child with my ex, she is 3, and I have raised her completely on my own with a little help from my family and her father's sister. I never asked her father to stick around me, but I practical begged him to play a part in his daughter's life, ...
A. 30 October 2013: Do what is in your daughter's best interest. Lay aside your own resentments and only focus on whether your daughter will benefit from increased contact with her father. I was very close to my Dad and that relationship can be very crucial to a young ... (read in full...)
How can something feel so right yet be so wrong? In love with a married man who loves me too, but also loves his wife and wont leave her.....
Q. I don't know what to do... I don't even know how to start. I never been on any of these sites before.. this is also a long story. I met this man at a work place..once I was working there he texted me and would flirt just a little (he had my numbe...
A. 29 October 2013: All this started 3 years ago? That would have made you only 17? He has a son your age so he must have had his son around the age of 16? Interesting but no matter, you do understand that you are riding down a street that has a big, fat dead end, ... (read in full...)
When Will the Rose Colored Glasses Come Off?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I posted a question about my son cutting his friends and family out of his life because of a new gf. The verdict was just to give it time and he would come around. Now, here we are, with something that is even more perplexing ...
A. 28 October 2013: Looks like you are getting the same advice as last time and that's because it's excellent advice. You need to make sure you let the chips fall as they may, your intervening will have a negative outcome, as you stated yourself. Just be loving mother ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the silent treatment?
Q. How should I deal with a known narcissists "silent treatment"? He is my boyfriend. This is the second time he has done this in a six month period. He cursed at me about two weeks ago and I couldn't take the abuse anymore and let him know how I ...
A. 24 October 2013: I would think the silent treatment is preferable to the cursing verbal abuse. But then I also think you must nuts to be in this relationship to begin with, why are you?... (read in full...)
Do I owe a family member because she allowed me to park my car at her place?
Q. I need advice so I bought my very first car by myself. I'm so happy. When I look at my car I just smile and just glow because I did it all working 2 part time jobs. Taking up to 4/6 buses a day. So I worked hard for my car. Now here's what I need ...
A. 24 October 2013: I agree, the polite thing to do is to return a favor when you can. Take her to lunch or give her a couple of rides to the store.... (read in full...)
My heart says give him another chance. My gut says run.
Q. I broke up with my boyf of near two years about a month ago. I wanted to do this for a while, our relationship was far from perfect, i'll explain this quickly just so you have the entire story: he drunkenly cheated on me in our own bed and I walked ...
A. 23 October 2013: If you follow your HEART you'd better bring a broom and dust pan with you cause you'll need them when it gets broken and it will get broken.... (read in full...)
I think that fact that I want to stray is telling me something about my current relationship
Q. I'm in a bit of a dilemma here and not sure what to do? I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now and I thought that everything was great. But, recently my ex girlfriend got in touch with me. Me and my ex dated nearly 6 years ago for ...
A. 18 October 2013: Of course all is not well in your current relationship. You are cheating on her. Break up and get on with whomever you want. Just be a real man and be honest with the ladies.... (read in full...)
Do I struggle to stay and finish my course and graduate with my friends or do I take a year off? Help!
Q. I need some serious honest advice, i'm having to make the biggest decision and I'm stuck. My whole life plan has been ruined by something major and I didn't prepare myself for the outcome of changing plans. I had an accident over summer which mea...
A. 18 October 2013: What's a year? You need to be able to give 100% to your studies so waiting a year to regain your health makes sense to me. Sure you want to graduate with your friends but your health is more important. Trying to finish your final year in college is ... (read in full...)
He treated me badly so why do I feel guilty for letting him go?
Q. I have been seeing a man for 5 months now. The last two months have been especially stressful. He has subjected me to the "silent treatment" for over a month and just recently started cursing towards me. On Thursday I was trying to text h...
A. 16 October 2013: Sorry but the horse just keeps showing up, quit beating it.... (read in full...)
He treated me badly so why do I feel guilty for letting him go?
Q. I have been seeing a man for 5 months now. The last two months have been especially stressful. He has subjected me to the "silent treatment" for over a month and just recently started cursing towards me. On Thursday I was trying to text h...
A. 14 October 2013: Why feel guilty? He wants to be gone. Good riddance. What you need to address now is why you would ever allow a man to treat you this way. Do some deep thinking on it or get some counseling before you start a new relationship.... (read in full...)
Amazing fantasies of how hot our three-way could be!
Q. I am an “out bisexual woman” but men often mistake me as lesbian. I have a gal-friend (who’s just a friend) that I’m emotionally close to, so much so that we often hug and kiss on the cheek. She recently hooked up with a hot great guy that I know ...
A. 14 October 2013: Hummm I drive through Old Kentuck on my way to St. Louis to visit the grand kids about two times a year. Grass looks green to me.... (read in full...)
Am I a stalker for sharing my crush's pictures on facebook?
Q. I used to have a crush whose pics I shared on Facebook and that person got angry with me for that very reason. Am I a stalker for that? ...
A. 11 October 2013: where did YOU get the pictures?... (read in full...)
Am I a stalker for sharing my crush's pictures on facebook?
Q. I used to have a crush whose pics I shared on Facebook and that person got angry with me for that very reason. Am I a stalker for that? ...
A. 11 October 2013: Where did get the pictures?... (read in full...)
I think my friend is flirting with me, but I'm not quite so sure. Opinions?
Q. So, I need your guys' opinions on this. So, I think my friend is flirting with me, but I'm not quite so sure. So, I'll tell you guys some of the stuff he does, and you guys give me your opinion. Please, and thank you. Oh and I do like him, i just ...
A. 10 October 2013: I did not mean home alone (sans parents) I meant home without a bunch of your friends, just you and the guy.... (read in full...)
I think my friend is flirting with me, but I'm not quite so sure. Opinions?
Q. So, I need your guys' opinions on this. So, I think my friend is flirting with me, but I'm not quite so sure. So, I'll tell you guys some of the stuff he does, and you guys give me your opinion. Please, and thank you. Oh and I do like him, i just ...
A. 10 October 2013: Sounds like he likes you quite a bit. Do you guys ever just hangout by your selves? Why not ask him to come over and watch a movie with you?... (read in full...)
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