Big age difference. How should I approach him and ask where I stand in our relationship?
Q. Last year I started a part-time job at USPS as a material handler. I'm very timid, often at times people tend to think I'm a teenager and I just started dating a 51 year old guy who's worked for USPS for many years. He lives down the street from my ...
A. 4 February 2014: Quit having sex with him and you'll find out whether he really cares about you.... (read in full...)
He threatened that tomorrow either she's gone or he's gone. Any advice would help!
Q. Hello and thanks I have been married 22 yrs. I got married young. Its been abit of a roller coaster at times but somehow I stayed. My husband can be very mean when he drinks. He calls me names points his finger in my face I tell him to stop. Whe...
A. 3 February 2014: Beg your friend to stay, at least until after tomorrow.... (read in full...)
I wish I had given him my number, now what do I do?
Q. Hey Aunties and Uncles!!! I have been working in an office for the last two years and have been single for about 8 months. About 10 months ago a new manager started at work. At first i hated him, he was arrogant, rude and loud. He aske...
A. 3 February 2014: Absolutely get in contact with him. What have you got to lose?... (read in full...)
I read my boyfriend's journal didn't like what I read but now I want to read it again!
Q. I'm usually not a snoop, I trusted my boyfriend when we were together, but I did something I'm ashamed of. I read his journal, and I didn't like what I read. It basically said his was unhappy with our relationship among other things, but nothing ...
A. 30 January 2014: I've got to say this relationship sounds pretty much doomed: break ups, jealousy of the unknown, snooping, fear and worry. What's in it for either of you?... (read in full...)
Would you consider this emotionally cheating?
Q. I'm posting on here about my friends behaviour with my other friend who's a guy. I introduced them a while back and she and him had a fling, not so long ago, but it ended cause he got a girlfriend. However, even though he's now with someone new, ...
A. 30 January 2014: You told her how you feel so you've done your part. You can't control what others do or say so just sit back and let the cards fall as they may.... (read in full...)
I want to just spend time with my boyfriend and not do other things. I know this isn't healthy!
Q. So I'm in a relatively new relationship. Met him in May, began dating in August and have officially been in a relationship since November. Here's the thing I completely adore him! I was with my ex for 6 years and during the majority of that ...
A. 30 January 2014: Is your boyfriend still doing his independent things?... (read in full...)
Stuck in a bad marriage. What am I going to do?
Q. Hi there guys, I'm a mother of 3 at the age of 27. I'm tired of my husband anymore, it seems that he don't want us, me and my kids.. he always tells me that I'm useless and also he is not a hardworking type of guy..he can't even feed us 3 times a ...
A. 30 January 2014: Do you work? Is there family around you?... (read in full...)
In love with a woman who's in a relationship and it's driving me crazy. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hello to all, I have a problem and I could need some advice. Can't talk with anyone around me about this problem.... Eight months ago I added an old classmate on Facebook. We started chatting on Facebook. She is in a relationship (7 years). ...
A. 30 January 2014: If you ca't put your foot down and insist that she leaves her boyfriend then you'll just have to get used to dangling on that string she has on her little finger. Tell her to piss or get off the pot or dangle away Buddy.... (read in full...)
I'm happy to be practical but I don't want to insult him
Q. Should I offer to let him use the diamond from my previous marriage? I know my boyfriend plans to propose, probably sometime this year. Neither of us make a lot of money. I still have my wedding/engagement rings from my first marriage (only b...
A. 30 January 2014: Sell the rings and when you and the boyfriend go ring shopping offer to chip in so you and he can get the rings you both like.... (read in full...)
10 days and I haven't heard from him. Will I hear from him again?
Q. So I started talking to this guy on an app called Tinder and he was super cute and sweet and we talked for about 2 weeks and were talking about maybe dating and how much we liked each other already without even meeting. And then we went on two dates ...
A. 30 January 2014: I think you were more into him than he was into you. Sorry. You only went out on two dates after all, and after which he wasn't quite so sweet to you. I guess there's the writing on the wall. Don't waste anymore energy on this guy, he wasn't the one ... (read in full...)
My boss is not as friendly as he used to be!
Q. I'll keep this brief. I started working for this company about 9 months ago. A friend of mine is the executive there so he helped me out. The boss of my department showed me around the first day, normally it's another person that performs the tour...
A. 30 January 2014: Maybe he noticed the beginnings of a crush on your part and decided he'd best back off before it could turn into a full blown crush. Focus on your job and not your boss and you'll be just fine. Don't dwell on this a moment longer.... (read in full...)
My boss is not as friendly as he used to be!
Q. I'll keep this brief. I started working for this company about 9 months ago. A friend of mine is the executive there so he helped me out. The boss of my department showed me around the first day, normally it's another person that performs the tour...
A. 27 January 2014: I'm curious, what's the age difference between you and your boss?... (read in full...)
My wife of 31 years is no longer interested in sex!
Q. I really need to know what to do when my wife of 37 yrs. say she is not interested in sex anymore.I am 57 yrs and she is 51yrs....
A. 23 January 2014: One word...menopause. She needs to make an appointment with her GYN Dr. and tell him her symptoms. There is medication that can help with her libido. Sex during and after menopause can be better than before, trust me, but some women need a little ... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but I am in love with her sister
Q. I think I have fallen for her. Six and a half years ago I found out that my wife had cheated on me, prior to this our relationship had been cold for a while and I found myself having lustful feelings towards her sister who used to stay over fairly f...
A. 23 January 2014: My Dad used to say "fap" and "dang nabit" when he was around we little ones.... (read in full...)
He put food on my plate, does that mean something?
Q. I have liked one of my guy friend for three years already. Whenever we played the game truth or dare at social events he would admit in truth that he liked someone. I decided to ask him one time who he liked..and he went completely silent on me. I ...
A. 22 January 2014: What could have possibly prevented him from asking you out these past three years? I would think he would have made a move by now if there were no obstacles. Why haven't YOU asked him out?... (read in full...)
Tired of my boyfriend's crap!
Q. Not sure where else to post this but hoping for some advice. My boyfriend, who is 34, and I have been living together for 3 years and I have asked him to clean up after himself in the bathroom many times. Specifically, he sits on the toilet in su...
A. 20 January 2014: Bobbyjo? ... (read in full...)
My heart is heavy with the thought that the relationship should be ending
Q. I am in a relationship with a 39 year old man (I am 42). There are a number of things that have not been right since we got together 18 months ago but I am struggling to make a decision as to whether or not to move on as I am not happy. The first is...
A. 20 January 2014: You are being his meal ticket, and you know it. Doesn't seem to be much in this relationship for you so I think it's time to move on. You'll find the guy who can give as well as take. Good luck, you'll be fine.... (read in full...)
Epic failure, please help
Q. I'm 27, still single,never had a g/f, etc... I'm getting fed up lately, every girl I've ever liked is happy with someone else, I feel like I was robbed, feel betrayed, and I'm scared. Plus Dad is just waiting and scheming, slowly has been hinting at ...
A. 20 January 2014: I totally agree with AuntyBim, it's time for you to get your own place. It is also time to broaden your horizons, get involved with new activities, expand you friendship circle, focus on your career, in other words get busy living Buddy. Good things ... (read in full...)
I want to marry a female and have children but I am a gay male.
Q. I want to marry a female and have children but I am a gay male. Please help. ...
A. 19 January 2014: The more information you give the better and more precise advice you'll get. All we have here is your age bracket and the fact that you say you're gay but want a wife and kids. Details please.... (read in full...)
Should my sister be fasting now that she is pregnant?
Q. Hi My sister is pregnant- she is only about 7 weeks and is eating so much. She says she is hungry all the time. Is this a sign of anything? Sign of more than one baby?? Also, she does fasting days when she does not eat anything for 2 out of 5...
A. 17 January 2014: Hey who busted the margin? oh Hi Aunty Em! And OP I totally agree with the Aunts that she needs talk to her Dr. about "proper alimentation", everyone who loves Cindy for her wonderful vocabulary raise your hand!... (read in full...)
I can't deal with the poop streaks he leaves on the bed!
Q. This is a gross question but I really need advice. Sorry to be graphic. Basically Ive been seeing this guy for 3 months and on 3 occasions when he has stayed over at mine he has left poop streaks in my bed. He did it lastnight and I felt sick. He is ...
A. 17 January 2014: You are right, this is a gross question. Make sure you ALWAYS have some TP or tissues to wipe your butts and tell him to use it or he's not sleeping in your bed ever again. Jeeze Louise.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a problem with me tanning
Q. Recently I arranged a tanning session at the pool with a few friends. But my boyfriend doesn't like it when I tan because he says that other guys would be staring at me. While I get where he's coming from and his unhappiness. I can't help but feel ...
A. 16 January 2014: I'm actually going to the dermatologist tomorrow afternoon to have a cancerous spot cut off my face due to all the sunbathing I did at your age. Wear your bikini but wear sun screen so you don't end up like me.... (read in full...)
I want to win my ex fiance back
Q. This is long...been in a relationship with this guy for the past 4 years but we broke up 8 months ago. We also were engaged. We have had alot of ups and downs and hurdles. Now as soon as we were about to work on trying back again I had a ...
A. 16 January 2014: I agree with CMMP, things couldn't have been all that great if all it took was you snapping at him and there goes a 4 year relationship! And he jumps into another one within 2 weeks? You should look real hard at those "ups and downs and hurdles" and ... (read in full...)
First it was just a break,now its an 'open' break, so what does my GF really want?
Q. So my girlfriend and i are taking a break from our relationship because she want to figure out what she wants to do in life and i agreed to it. I understand because im in that position too. Then later on we confirmed if it was ok to just talk to the ...
A. 16 January 2014: She just wants to check the grass color on the other side of the fence before she commits and breaks up with you for real. Are you willing to ride around in her back pocket?... (read in full...)
Is she controlling him or could it be I did something wrong to end our friendship?
Q. Hi wondered if you could help me make sense of this weird situations. I have been friends with a guy for roughly 6 years, used to be very close but drifted apart after a fall out. The fallout was because after he got with his new gf he told me he ...
A. 16 January 2014: I guess you'll just have to put this friendship on the back burner for now. Don't dwell on it, friendships do come and go. Besides, if she is such a horrible person then he most likely won't be with her for long. ... (read in full...)
I was thinking once I find work and I am happy with my life that I could perhaps try again with him.
Q. Hi My boyfriend has just ended our 4 month relationship on the basis that we don’t click. At the beginning of the relationship, things were great. We were close, we enjoyed spending time together, we had fun and we would talk all the time. ...
A. 15 January 2014: Well you haven't found a job yet so don't put the cart before the horse. Once you get yourself settled then you'll be in a better position to decide if you want to give relationship another try, you may change your mind by then.... (read in full...)
Do you say goodnight to each other or do you sometimes forget?
Q. My fiancé got upset that I didn't say goodnight to him. He wanted me to work on my project which I did late into the night. He was still up and in another area of the house when I decided I was really tired and I went to bed. He woke me up and s...
A. 15 January 2014: He WOKE YOU UP because you didn't say goodnight? And he accuses you of being inconsiderate? Pot calling the kettle black in my opinion.... (read in full...)
I've been advised to get a mortgage on my own, and I feel guilty for in essence changing my mind about putting him on the mortgage!
Q. Hi I could do with some advice please. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years but we recently broke up and got back together. The reason for this break was because he has 2 kids from a previous relationship who I love to bits,...
A. 15 January 2014: Never share finances with someone to whom you are not legally married. Period. ... (read in full...)
Ladies -- what terms do you use?
Q. Curious question for the women: how many of you call your vagina a "pussy"? What do you think of the word "cunt"? I like the word pussy...I think it's sexy but the other word seems harsh and derogatory to me. Yet, I've heard that word used by ...
A. 14 January 2014: Aren't you a bit long in the tooth to be having nicknames for body parts?... (read in full...)
Why on earth do women agree to an FWB situation?
Q. After reading so many posts here and seeing what girls and women do around me, I have a question, why on Earth women agree to FWB situation?? I understand if casual sex just happens once, in a heat of a moment, once very rarely and it's not a no...
A. 14 January 2014: Good question.... (read in full...)
How do I reconnect with I girl I haven't spoken to in over a year?
Q. Hello, About 4 years ago I started dating this girl and we were in a relationship until this November, when we broke up. We left in good terms and I still talk to her occasionally. At the beginning of our relationship she introduced me t...
A. 14 January 2014: I don't think you would look weird asking her out. The only thorn is her friendship with your Ex. If your break up was a mutual one with no hard feelings then you have a chance that she and your Ex will still be able to remain friends if she dates ... (read in full...)
Our relationship has an expiration date!
Q. I feel like this relationship is for nothing. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. She goes to the junior community college and I go to the state school. Her major isn't offered at my school so she is going to transfer ...
A. 14 January 2014: I agree with Tish, I don't think you should live with a time bomb ticking away in the corner for the next 7 months. I would just tell her that since she doesn't want to try a long distance relationship, you've decided to cut bait and move on. Why ... (read in full...)
Things to brighten by boyfriend's day? I need lots of ideas!
Q. 1) Besides the regular "I love you", "I miss you".. what are some cute positive things I can text my boyfriend throughout the days to make him smile or possibly make his day a little brighter? 2) What are some cute, cheap but meaningful, thin...
A. 10 January 2014: An occasional text or note is fine but "throughout the days" and all over the house is over the top. Too many and you may just end up irritating him rather than endearing yourself. Anyway actions speak louder than words if you get my drift, wink ... (read in full...)
Is 8 months of dating too soon to ask to be exclusive?
Q. what do you think? Is asking a woman after 8month of dating to become exclusive, being to "intense" or putting too much pressure on it??? I am courious about it....I did it and got dumped......
A. 7 January 2014: She dumped you after you asked her, after 8 months of dating, to become exclusive? My guess is she just wasn't on the same page as you, she wasn't as into the relationship as much you were and didn't want to string you along. Consider it a blessing ... (read in full...)
Doesn't a guy usually try to grab a girl's boob while kissing if he likes her?
Q. this new guy ive been hanging out, is really nice to me, and comes to see me everytime i ask.. and helps me out with anything i need. He also said he likes me, but everytime were together he wont reallly iniciate the first move even tho we kissed ...
A. 7 January 2014: A gentleman can grab a taxi, a sandwich, a nap, a wrench, a fishing pole, a movie, etc...but never a woman unless she is loosing her balance and is about to fall.... (read in full...)
Would she be offended if I asked her to wear a wig during sex?
Q. I'm in a relationship for almost 2 years, we're both divorced and not rushing into marriage. she lives with me weekdays being I'm very close to where she works. We have a good relationship and I don't want to rock the boat asking her to wear a wig. ...
A. 7 January 2014: I have pretty much always had shoulder-length hair. My husband mentioned not too long after we were married that he liked really long hair on women. So I told him I would compromise with him, I would wear my hair the way I wanted and he would get ... (read in full...)
Is he developing feelings for me?
Q. Ive been friends with a guy for just over a week and its a friends with benefits thing, we've seen each other most nights and he has stayed the night a couple of times. He says things like we should go away for the weekend and offers to take me ...
A. 7 January 2014: I just wish I had jumped on the stock option when this "Friends With Benefits" became a legitimate relationship. Dang... (read in full...)
What did he mean, "you don't have to sell your soul"
Q. Hello, I have been having an affair with a separated man. He has been separated for 5 years but remains in close contact with his wife who lives close by. She has never found anybody else and always hopes they will get back together. He has been ...
A. 6 January 2014: Look at all the time (and parties no less) he spent with her over the holidays...sure doesn't seem all that "separated" to me. What it does sound like is that he has the perfect set up: a wife when he wants one and a mistress on the side when he ... (read in full...)
My daughter's boyfriend is 31 years older than her!
Q. I have a 19-year-old daughter, an only child; she's in university studying medicine, and wants to work in the NHS. It's not her university I'm writing in about, but her choice of partner; he's 50, and a bathroom salesman. I'm not criticising his ...
A. 6 January 2014: I think if you put up a fuss you'll just drive her in the old guy's direction. Let this run it's course, I'm betting dimes to doughnuts this relationship won't last long.... (read in full...)
What did he mean, "you don't have to sell your soul"
Q. Hello, I have been having an affair with a separated man. He has been separated for 5 years but remains in close contact with his wife who lives close by. She has never found anybody else and always hopes they will get back together. He has been ...
A. 6 January 2014: He WAS using you but you allowed it. I totally agree with Oldbag, New Year New start.... (read in full...)
My father has become even more controlling since my mum was diagnosed with a brain tumor
Q. My mum was diagnosed with a brain tumour on the day before Christmas Eve. Since then our family has all been together, trying to support my mum. My Dad is very details obsessed kind of guy. There are all these palliative care nurses, district ...
A. 4 January 2014: I think your best bet at this stage would be to show your mother all the kindness and support you can. Your mother knows your father very well and most likely isn't as upset about his behavior as you are. Things will settle down.... (read in full...)
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