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writes: Okay so my guy friend talks about having oral sex with me and he wants me to squirt on him and I am nervous because I don't want to have sex with him if we are not married. We went out only one time and with my ex- boyfriends they never put that kind of pressure on me. They were happy that I got wet or excited. I don't know how to tell him that I can't do that because I have never been able to. When he talks about sex he sounds like he has a lot of experience. He couldn't believe it when I told him I don't know that much about sex. I may have had it but I am still learning even at my age. I have high sex drive, but I choose not to sleep with any guy because of the marriage thing and because of the diseases. Am I right to want to wait? Oh he also says he is STD free.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (1 November 2013):
Okay, this is an unusual question because of the age thing. Anyways, if you want to wait, wait. Don't let a guy who is only wanting sex convince you that "its okay, I'll marry you, but for now squirt all over me."
You are definitely, without a shadow of a doubt, dating the wrong guy for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 November 2013):
 dump this guy... he's a tool without a shed.
as for saying he's STD free... I'm the queen of england. there i SAID it it must be true.
always offer your bloodwork results when they offer theirs.
my now hubby and I had bloodwork when we started dating.. and again after 6 months of monogamy...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 November 2013):
 You don't sound 41-50.
First date? Yeah, don't go on a second one with him. Tell him you're not interested in casual sex, and then if he keeps pressuring, stop seeing him.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 November 2013):
 yuch, yuch, yuch! One date and he is already pressing for the stuff I would regard as kinky!
You are totally within your rights to want to wait until you feel comfortable getting sexy. If he doesn't want to wait at least a few months then you know he isn't wanting a relationship but just a few cheap sexual thrills, and if that is the case then dump him.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 November 2013):
 Of course you are right to want to wait. Did you click the correct age bracket? Tell the guy to back off. He will if he truly cares about you. And by the way he his knowledge of sex sounds like he learned it from porn not experience. As far as his being STD-free, let him show you his test results.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 November 2013):
 WHOA. One date and this guy is already dirty talking to you? This guy has some serious social skills issues. That's just plain creepy and sends up all kinds of red flags. He should not be pressuring you to have sex period, and after one date, this guy just screams bad news. He could just be excited, or he could be dangerous. Either way, I wouldn't give him a second date.
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