My father has become even more controlling since my mum was diagnosed with a brain tumor
Q. My mum was diagnosed with a brain tumour on the day before Christmas Eve. Since then our family has all been together, trying to support my mum. My Dad is very details obsessed kind of guy. There are all these palliative care nurses, district ...
A. 4 January 2014: I think your best bet at this stage would be to show your mother all the kindness and support you can. Your mother knows your father very well and most likely isn't as upset about his behavior as you are. Things will settle down.... (read in full...)
S he using my feelings ? It hurts every time I see him!
Q. When I saw him, I immediately fell for him. It wasn't love at first sight, but it came pretty close to it. We've been best friends for over two years now - which is exactly how long I have been in love with him. He is this rich casanova, wh...
A. 3 January 2014: You can get hurt over and over again by being at his beck and call or you can hurt ONE time and cut him off like a cancerous tumor. Your choice, your heart.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have an affair when your single?
Q. Is it OK to have an affair with someone when I am single? I don't know the girls boyfriend but I know they have been together for over 3 years. She has been really coming on to me recently and I know something could happen if I initiate it. ...
A. 30 December 2013: Why on earth would it be okay? ... (read in full...)
I'd like our relationship to be more focussed on respect
Q. Hey I'm in need of some advice. I'm in a relationship with someone of 22 and I'm 17, the age gap isn't the issue. I feel like a sexual object sometimes and its really concerning me. We haven't been officially together for much over a month and are ...
A. 26 December 2013: I wish You Wish a merry Christmas and a happy new year,
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Is it better for me to forgive my ex or hate him?
Q. I was with my ex for 4 years(including 2 years LDR). We're in different countries. We planned to meet after he graduated from graduate school and while we're dating, he gave me commitment and talked about getting married. He dumped me 6 months ago, ...
A. 26 December 2013: Merry Christmas Owl!... (read in full...)
I feel like a weird stalker, which I never was!
Q. Really need help so low I can't get over this guy because of how he treated me Ok 2 years ago we were working together he helped me through personal problems and we became close friends he was texting up to 100 a day sending poems etc - we never h...
A. 26 December 2013: And a Merry Christmas to you old gay owl! You know we love you.... (read in full...)
I feel like a weird stalker, which I never was!
Q. Really need help so low I can't get over this guy because of how he treated me Ok 2 years ago we were working together he helped me through personal problems and we became close friends he was texting up to 100 a day sending poems etc - we never h...
A. 25 December 2013: Poopsite ha ha Merry Christmas Em!... (read in full...)
My ex asked me if I was willing to have sex with him but he has a girlfriend
Q. So, there's a lot going on. Me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago. We only dated for about a month in a half but we have been friends for about 4 years prior. After we broke up i started having feelings for him and I think I love him. So back ...
A. 20 December 2013: Having sex with him will not accomplish what you think you want, that being to get back together. What it WILL do is make you feel bad about cheating on the girlfriend and USED by your Ex, that is if you have any moral compass. Don't go there ... (read in full...)
I am still in love with my old teacher.
Q. Ok so about a year ago I asked a question on here..it was wht should I do..I love my teacher one of the replies was dont do anything about it its probably a crush..but I've moved onto high school and its almost a year and a half later and I am still ...
A. 20 December 2013: He's only 20 and has been teaching Middle school math for a couple of years? Most teachers haven't even graduated from college before age 22. Are you sure about his age?... (read in full...)
If I sleep with him, am I just setting myself up to get hurt in the end?
Q. This guy I like has a girlfriend and two kids and so I thought I'd never have a chance with him. We text a lot, and he started asking me sexual questions. I'm a virgin, never done anything. Well he asked me to send him pictures, naked pictures to be ...
A. 20 December 2013: At the bottom of your question you'll see links to other posts that are related to your question. Read all the heartache there... (read in full...)
Am I no longer a virgin?
Q. Hi I am in a new relationship. Yesterday my boyfriend and I had sex, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I didn't bleed and neither did my first time hurt. My question is my boyfriend inserted half of his cock inside me, does this mean I am n...
A. 15 December 2013: At leas... (read in full...)
Am I no longer a virgin?
Q. Hi I am in a new relationship. Yesterday my boyfriend and I had sex, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I didn't bleed and neither did my first time hurt. My question is my boyfriend inserted half of his cock inside me, does this mean I am n...
A. 13 December 2013: And as my pal CindyCares would say "a half of cock is still sufficient to fecundate you" so always use protection.... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable not being wanted around his friends and family
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year ive only met his mom once and that was when we first started dating. I've only met 3 of his friends. He won't take me around his mom or his other friends. He always says something like his mom ...
A. 11 December 2013: I agree, time to trade up for someone who can proudly show you off to the world. Your current boyfriend apparently has some serious issues.... (read in full...)
My heart desires my cousin's ex!
Q. I am finally moving on from my ex, and another girl has caught my attention. The problem is that she has a baby with my cousin. They haven't been together for 2 years, and it was the first time they had sex when she got pregnant, they l...
A. 10 December 2013: Have you talked to her face to face? Call her and ask her out for coffee.... (read in full...)
Please help - I found dodgy photos on my boyfriend's computer.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm a bit confused and any insight would be appreciated as I can't talk to anyone else about this. My boyfriend is a sweet guy, I always knew he had a Pervy side but all guys do and that didn't really bother me.... Until I found pic...
A. 10 December 2013: Rapists don't rape because they like the sex, they rape because they like the power. Protect yourself and your loved ones.... (read in full...)
Why do guys ask for underwear?
Q. I slept with this guy like more than 5 times. He asked for my underwear twice and on his third ask, I decided, why not? So I gave them to him. I just want to understand this phenomena... why do guys ask for underwear? I'm curious. I just hope I ...
A. 10 December 2013: I wore my husband's tidy whities during the later part of all my pregnancies. Not sure that has any bearing on the subject but there you are.... (read in full...)
She posts everything we do on facebook!
Q. im with this girl that is say young enough to be my daughter. i love her very much and i even ended a long term marriage for her. but lately i have been thinking about things she put on facebook when we were dating. i told her one night when we were ...
A. 6 December 2013: He probably had to hock his computer.... (read in full...)
I don't want to share! I am very drawn to her, but she's married. What to do?
Q. So I'm a lesbian. Recently a woman on a dating site messaged me. She seems very lovely as she is beautiful, smart, funny and we have a lot in common. The problem is, she's married to a man. It sounds like they have an open relationship deal or ...
A. 6 December 2013: I think you already know that this would be a very bad deal for you. ... (read in full...)
Does he want a relationship or not?
Q. I started seeing this man a few weeks ago, he is not really my type but after getting to know him, I've discovered I really like him. When he texts me, he seems very cool, calm and collected but in person, he's a bit awkward and acts nervous around ...
A. 5 December 2013: You have only seen each other 3 times and you are already "servicing" him? You'd best slow down or you will only be the chick he sees when he needs "servicing". Getting to really know someone takes weeks and weeks with lots of non-sexual ... (read in full...)
I know I'm chilled and laid back, but a man called me "boring"! How can I change giving that impression?
Q. I have been single now for about 2 years. I don't really date much but I went out with a Co worker the other night, we just went to dinner. Physically I know he's attracted to me but he did mention to me that I was "boring". I right away felt a bit ...
A. 5 December 2013: It sounds like he has a limited vocabulary and doesn't express himself very concisely. I wouldn't change a thing about yourself but maybe you might purchase the guy a thesaurus and leave it on his desk.... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend feel less guilty and not worry about me?
Q. Hi y'all! I have poted here numerous times regarding me leaving an abusive relationship! I am dating a really amazing guy now that I met at law school. He is on a trip with his firm in NY, and I will be facing my abuser in court tomorr...
A. 5 December 2013: After today the problem is solved. Relax.... (read in full...)
We broke up when we just had the chance to even start dating. Any reconciliation advice?
Q. Hi all.So Ron(not his real name) and I are now college sophomores.We became really good friends since our day 1 as freshmen.We started spending more time together.At first it was only academic related but later we just started hangingout.He would ...
A. 5 December 2013: That's what we are trying to tell you, there is no "savaging things" here. You need to let this go and get on with your school life. Make him invisible.... (read in full...)
We broke up when we just had the chance to even start dating. Any reconciliation advice?
Q. Hi all.So Ron(not his real name) and I are now college sophomores.We became really good friends since our day 1 as freshmen.We started spending more time together.At first it was only academic related but later we just started hangingout.He would ...
A. 3 December 2013: Listen to the Owl. You've made an attempt and he's not buying, it's time to back way off. He'll look you up when and if he's interested. I know you want things back to the way they were but sometimes there just is no going back.... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong?
Q. I think I am doing something wrong when it comes to dating. Every time I am with a girl I seem to screw it up or the circumstance won't let me advance further. For example, the other day I was in a party and I was hanging with a girl who seemed to ...
A. 3 December 2013: What do you mean exactly by "close the deal"?... (read in full...)
Can't attract guys at all! What am I doing wrong?
Q. Okay! This is going to sound so stupid but i'm facing 17 and I hate to admit it but I am clueless about how to attract boys and to flirt with them. I have had two un-sucessful relationships and the only way they cam...
A. 30 November 2013: You aren't doing anything wrong you are frickin' 17. Relax you have the rest of your life to be an adult, enjoy the last remaining years of your life where drama is expected.... (read in full...)
Problems with neighbour - how would you handle this?
Q. Hello. I would like to know how you would handle this situation. I live above a young male who is intolerant of his neighbours making any sounds. Whenever we do make sounds, he bangs the walls. I get the most of it though, since I live right above...
A. 30 November 2013: Get a dog to replace the rats, maybe he'll move because of the exta pitter patter, and at least the dog will give you some protection, plus they make a better pet than rats.... (read in full...)
Is this possible in this day and age for a guy to concentrate on one woman and be sexually obsessed with her? Because I'd like the idea of someone being sexually obsessed with me...
Q. I'd like the idea of someone being sexually obsessed with me... My ex boyfriend was a porn addict who told me I couldn't be a model as I'm just an ordinary person. These words haunt me, he's made me believe I'm a lesser. It's let to me having...
A. 27 November 2013: definitely not a good thing.... (read in full...)
How do you deal with unrquited love?
Q. Hi just a general question. How do people get over someone they really like, fancy, even love and yet they know there is absolutely nothing they can do about it. Knowing it could end a friendship or even cause a right hullaballoo for people aroun...
A. 27 November 2013: You go on because what's the alternative? Distancing yourself from the object of your affection is a good idea, and keeping yourself occupied as much as you can is helpful. Time will slowly erode those feelings but you need to be patient, it won't ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my professor out - we're the same age
Q. So it’s the end of the semester and there are only a few classes left. I want to ask my professor on a date. She’s my age if not younger. I’m in my 30’s and going back to school full time. We’ve spoken outside class and she seems interested. ...
A. 27 November 2013: Professors at the University that I work at cannot date an enrolled student whether they are in a class of theirs or not. Period. Since I've been here (13 years) I've known of 3 who have been fired but most likely there have been more. Once she ... (read in full...)
Is this possible in this day and age for a guy to concentrate on one woman and be sexually obsessed with her? Because I'd like the idea of someone being sexually obsessed with me...
Q. I'd like the idea of someone being sexually obsessed with me... My ex boyfriend was a porn addict who told me I couldn't be a model as I'm just an ordinary person. These words haunt me, he's made me believe I'm a lesser. It's let to me having...
A. 27 November 2013: Um Cindy, the Jodie Foster guy shot Ronald Reagan.... (read in full...)
Is this possible in this day and age for a guy to concentrate on one woman and be sexually obsessed with her? Because I'd like the idea of someone being sexually obsessed with me...
Q. I'd like the idea of someone being sexually obsessed with me... My ex boyfriend was a porn addict who told me I couldn't be a model as I'm just an ordinary person. These words haunt me, he's made me believe I'm a lesser. It's let to me having...
A. 27 November 2013: obsession [?b's???n]
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Should I stop flirting and let my friend have him since she's been dying for her first bf for ages? Should I tell my friend I like him too?
Q. I'm 17 and I have a crush on a boy 3 months my younger (I don't usually opt for youngers I think its weird). He's in the RAF and he's a very funny, mature and caring guy who makes me smile. The only problem is that one of my friends likes him too. ...
A. 27 November 2013: I don't know, do you really think you can get past that 3 month age gap?... (read in full...)
Problems with neighbour - how would you handle this?
Q. Hello. I would like to know how you would handle this situation. I live above a young male who is intolerant of his neighbours making any sounds. Whenever we do make sounds, he bangs the walls. I get the most of it though, since I live right above...
A. 26 November 2013: Move. Maybe you can find something nearby if you like the location but move as soon as you can. Home should be your sanctuary not a prison.... (read in full...)
Problems with neighbour - how would you handle this?
Q. Hello. I would like to know how you would handle this situation. I live above a young male who is intolerant of his neighbours making any sounds. Whenever we do make sounds, he bangs the walls. I get the most of it though, since I live right above...
A. 26 November 2013: Move. Maybe you can find something nearby if you like the location but move as soon as you can. Home should be your sanctuary not a prison.... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to allow me to close the door to my room when my boyfriend comes visiting? We need our privacy!!
Q. Hi all, I have been with my bf for a few months and recently I invited my bf to meet my parents. What irks me is that I am not allowed to close the door when I am alone with him in my room. We don't always on the airconditioner but sometimes we do. ...
A. 24 November 2013: If I were your mother you could talk to until you were blue in the face and that door would remain open. Actually it would be a waste of your time anyway because you and your boyfriend would be in the living room.
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I'm shy, and he's way friendlier than I'd like
Q. I guess I just want an opinion on my actions. Basically there's a teacher at my college who is extremely friendly. But sometimes it's just too much. Once he learns your name he will try to say "Hi" whenever he sees you. His department is in...
A. 22 November 2013: You are going to have to deal with people like this in the workplace as well so you best learn to deal with it. Just curious, what is your major?... (read in full...)
Three days ago I suffered a miscarriage. Do I tell my ex bf/good friend I miscarried his baby?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I are 11 years a part, Im 18. We dated secretly to avoid the scandel as we knew he was moving away in december. Last week he ended it early and we are still on really good terms. Its tricky when we both are attracted to eac...
A. 22 November 2013: If you didn't know you were pregnant and you always used protection, how do you know you miscarried? Did you see a doctor?... (read in full...)
Its great that he's a good dad, but I want to feel important too!!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has a 2 year old daughter. I have changed myself to accept this situation and moved past it. But now, when he invites me to hang out with them, i usually don't bc i don't like how it makes me feel around them. And i don't ...
A. 22 November 2013: It doesn't seem to me that you have changed and now accept the fact that he has a child. You sound like it bugs the hell out of you. Since he only gets to see his baby daughter ONE day a week, then yes you are being unreasonable in my opinion and ... (read in full...)
What advice would you give to your 20 year old self
Q. What advice would you give to your 20 year old self? Financial, relationship and just general life information you wish you had known. My biggest fear is wasting my life, I think about this daily. I constantly feel like I should be doing/...
A. 18 November 2013: And one more thing, those flashbacks they constantly warn you about never do happen.... (read in full...)
What advice would you give to your 20 year old self
Q. What advice would you give to your 20 year old self? Financial, relationship and just general life information you wish you had known. My biggest fear is wasting my life, I think about this daily. I constantly feel like I should be doing/...
A. 18 November 2013: Stay away from anybody named Steve, don't worry about your major you won't ever end up with a job in that field, NEVER go for the natural childbirth crap, and don't forget to be at "The Point After" in August of 1974.... (read in full...)
Help me to help my teens
Q. This question is directed to teenagers 13-17. It has to do with romantic relationships and with relationships with your parents. Any help is appreciated. My son aged 15 met a wonderful girl this past summer. I really like her and hope that thi...
A. 15 November 2013: F A, my kids were raised before Facebook and cell phones, so I pretty much can't comment. I do think that hands-on parenting is the way to go. My kids have told me it was a good cop-out in situations that made them uncomfortable. "My parents will ... (read in full...)
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