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Hiya, I am a 19 year old mummy-to-be from Wales, UK. I'm in my second trimester and it's all going very smoothly so far.

My partner and I are super excited about the future and all the stuff we now have to look forward to.

I'm very interested in all things fashion and beauty. I am currently employed by a well-known clothing and accessories company and I love it there. However, after a great deal of research, when my baby is born I plan to start my own online cosmetics business so I can work from home. I want to be there for my baby at all times, while still contributing to the family finances.

I absolutely love to read. My house is filled with books, fiction, non fiction, magazines... everything! And when I don't have a book in my hand you can usually find me bargain hunting on Ebay. The site is fantastic and I recommend it to anyone searching for a bagain.

I live a quiet life and I love it this way. I am happy in my own little world with my own little family, including my fish Dave, Pete and Hayley.

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Do I have a problem with cocaine?

Q.   If someone spends £230 on cocaine a week would you say they have a problem? It started off as trying it on a night out and im spending atleast £230 a week on it, and i mainly do by myself. I dont really have a family to turn to, all i have is fr...

A.   23 July 2009: And what exactly is your 'job' I wonder...? Get yourself some help girl before your nose falls off (unless it already has). You know full well you will die if you don't stop.... (read in full...)

She tricked me into thinking she's a freak so I'd go out with her!

Q.   My girlfriend refuses to be intimate with me. Like when we met she was being all freaky with me and stuff sending me nasty text messages about how she was gonna suck me up and stuff. But as soon as we got together for a serious relationship it was ...

A.   16 July 2009: Yeah... How about you DON'T make sex the most important thing in the relationship? I don't think you're going to have a girlfriend for very long.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is an ass, a jerk, inconsiderate and makes me cry

Q.   Okay, same guy if you've read my questions before. Last night me and my boyfriend were doing things sexually, and i couldnt get him off...this has happend a couple times before and hes drunk...its been an hour or more and he still wants me to keep ...

A.   16 July 2009: If you keep allowing him to do this to you what do you want us to say? "Don't worry, he loves you and will change if you persevere" Is that what you want to hear? Well sorry, reality check, it's not going to happen. It's going to get worse. ... (read in full...)

Should I have a baby or just wait a few years?

Q.   : )i really want a babyi mean really want one i concider my self quite mature and think i would be able to handle it i have 3 neices and a nephew all under the age of 5 and i have a great time looking after them even when the are stressing me ...

A.   16 July 2009: I don't see how at 16 you can have a well enough paid job to look after a child. You would have only just left school. You can't have any savings at such a young age so what happens if something about your job falls through? Will you prepared or ... (read in full...)

Strange symptoms....could I be pregnant?

Q.   ok my qustion is about pregnancy and i wanted to know something i have'nt had a period in two months i been throwing up cant keep no kind of food down and i just been sleeping and urinating alot please help me im too young to be a mother right know....

A.   16 July 2009: Instead of asking strangers on the Internet you have should have taken a test the first time you missed a period. Then you'll have your answer in 3 minutes. Why haven't you done that yet? The longer you leave it, the more difficult it will be ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants nothing to do with sex, is this normal?

Q.   My Girfreind [ been freind for 4 years been going out for 3months] doesnt want to see my C*ck.......she says they are ugly....... she doesnt want anything like Oral sex fingering because it is slutty..she is completely turned off by a C*ck and ...

A.   11 July 2009: I can see where she's coming from. C*cks are ugly lol. I think now is too soon to worry about her feelings being a problem. If she's still of the same opinion in a few years then maybe there are some underlying issues going on. But for now, don't ... (read in full...)

I'm forcing myself to throw up because I want to be a model

Q.   My boyfriend is freaking out cause he caught me making myself throw up (been doing this for a week). I mean I'm 18 so I'm legally adult and its not like I'm killing myself. But he nags at me because "hurting" myself and he doesn't want to be like ...

A.   6 July 2009: Well they do say models have no brains. You sound like a child not an 18 year old woman. You know full well the damage you are doing to yourself, you must have been living under a rock if you failed to catch any of the media coverage about mo... (read in full...)

5 months pregnant need to tell my parents and don't know how!

Q.   I'm so frightend, I'm 16 and I found out about 5 months ago I was pregnant. The guy who got helped in this little creation of ours blamed it all on me and moved to a different school.I wouldn't dare tell my parents, they've done so much for me and I ...

A.   5 July 2009: Good girl. And now you can move on to all the exciting stuuf like planning your life for when the baby arrives, whether you'll be getting your own place, buying baby clothes etc... :D... (read in full...)

How do I answer this Facebook Friend request?

Q.   Here's one for you, I am a member of facebook and have a few friends, people I really like and have knwon for many years and some only a couple. Today I e-mailed a couple more I know from way back and later when I log back in I get a "frie...

A.   5 July 2009: Make sure all your profile is set to friends only and click ignore. That doesn't get announced to the other person, and as long as your profile is friends only then they'll never know whether you have been online or not. It's not a big deal to ig... (read in full...)

She lied about where she was, should I dump her?

Q.   me and my gf havent talked to eachother in a coupl of weeks, and she says shes at cheerleading camp. yet a friend saw her yesterday in town.should i still date her, or should i dump her?...

A.   5 July 2009: Well, why don't you ask her why she lied first? Before jumping to any conclusions.... (read in full...)

5 months pregnant need to tell my parents and don't know how!

Q.   I'm so frightend, I'm 16 and I found out about 5 months ago I was pregnant. The guy who got helped in this little creation of ours blamed it all on me and moved to a different school.I wouldn't dare tell my parents, they've done so much for me and I ...

A.   5 July 2009: Are you having any pre natal care from a doctor or a midwife? Or have you just not told anyone yet? Because you need to be looking after your baby and having your blood pressure checked etc... I think you need to face the consequences of ... (read in full...)

What is the emigration procedure? Anyone any idea?

Q.   Hi there, when I am about 19 I have been thinking about emigrating to America and I was just wondering if there is any documentation type of stuff that I would have to fill in? ...

A.   28 June 2009: Of course there are documents to fill in. You don't just show up and expect to be allowed to stay. If you really want to live there, then research it properly and do it all by the book. Good luck... (read in full...)

I told her what she tried on made her look like a fat pig

Q.   My girlfriend dragged me to the mall to go shopping with her (it was really boaring). We were there for probably an hour of her trying stuff on. She tried this dress that made her look fat when she asked me what I thought about it. I said it made ...

A.   28 June 2009: Boy, do YOU have a lot huge amount of grovelling to do to make up for this silly, hurtful, thoughtless comment. Smart move buddy!... (read in full...)

Taking birth control pills, but worried I'll still get pregnant if he doesn't wear a condom

Q.   Okay so, my boyfriend is coming over tomorrow. He and I used to foreplay and sometimes have sex but it all stopped a few months ago when I got on birth control pills. I don't know why but I Just was never in the mood. The thing is, I've been ...

A.   20 June 2009: I got pregnant on the pill. It's about a 1-2% chance. It happens.... (read in full...)

Was on a "break" and slept with a guy and now I don't know who is the Daddy!

Q.   im 14 and im 19 weeks pregnant everything is ok and everyone knows but the problem is that the baby might not be my boyfriends. he doesn't know that she might not be his and i feel awful he is getting all exited he can't wait. i had sex with this ...

A.   20 June 2009: You did the right thing. The secret would have eaten you up inside if you hadn't told. I hope you get the result you are looking for. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, stay healthy. x... (read in full...)

Could I really still be pregnant?

Q.   Okay Im desparate Ive searched all over the net and I can not find the reason to having the dreams that I Have I keep dreaming about breastfeeding a baby girl and the thing is I missed 2 periods and thought I was pregnant until I started to bleed a ...

A.   20 June 2009: Your point about bleeding is correct, I've had several spells of light bleeding so far in my pregnancy and we're both still healthy and growing strong. Usually even a barely visable positive is considered a positive. Keep trying though, I hope y... (read in full...)

Is this a light period? Or could it be pregnancy?

Q.   Hi all, i'm new on here and would be grateful if you could give me advice or anyone who have experienced similar problems. I'm 21 in a relationship and have been ttc for nearly 1 year now! My last period was 15.05.09 with a cycle of 28 days...

A.   19 June 2009: Usually any kind of change to your period suggests something is different down there. I'm 15 weeks pregnant myself, and had two periods very similar to yours during the first few months of my pregnancy. They were late, and when they did arrive, were ... (read in full...)

Could I really still be pregnant?

Q.   Okay Im desparate Ive searched all over the net and I can not find the reason to having the dreams that I Have I keep dreaming about breastfeeding a baby girl and the thing is I missed 2 periods and thought I was pregnant until I started to bleed a ...

A.   19 June 2009: Do another test. You'll get your answer.... (read in full...)

Should I do another test?

Q.   soooo Ive missed my period and is prob about 5 weeks pregnant,and took a pregnacy test but its was a cheap one around about £3. It came out negative,but to make it postivie,there had to be a line in the cirle and a line the the square,but I got a li...

A.   19 June 2009: If any thing appears in the 'pregnant' box then it probably means you're pregnant. That's the box that detects the pregnancy hormone so something will only show up if there is hormones present. I had a blob and half a line before I got my first pr... (read in full...)

We put a "floor show" on at her wedding.. Is she right to be mad at us?

Q.   My sister is mad at me because I put a floor show with my "underdressed" girlfriend (her dress was quite revealing) at her wedding. Me and my girlfriend had way too much to drink and we were all over each other on the dance floor. My sister and her ...

A.   19 June 2009: What you did was vile and disgusting and showed a complete lack of respect for your sister, her special day and her guests. Everyone saw how tacky you and your girlfriend are so I would assume you have a large amount of apologies to dish out, the... (read in full...)

I'm so annoyed at people who play the victim!

Q.   Ok so lately these past three days my "friend"(only calls when she has a problem or isn't stuck up her man's ass) been calling me crying or texting me saying "ohh my bf is so mean he makes me cry he calls me a bitch etc" but the dumb bitch always ...

A.   19 June 2009: This sounds so much like the girl I knew, it's unreal. She'd say thhinks like "no cares if I get mugged/stabbed/raped/hit by cars on the way home, if they did I wouldn't be walking home alone" and it's like 6pm, still light and she lived 10 min... (read in full...)

Is there any way I can make my period come early?

Q.   i still havn't come on my period yet and im due soon but problem is on the 26th imgoing away for my big walk which is over 3 days with school. it would be the worse thing if i came on for it. does anyone know any ways of making it come early? ...

A.   18 June 2009: Sorry there's no way of delaying a period. The contraceptive pill can help you control them but it is too late to effect the period you're about to have. The pill wouldn't help that because it's too close. You need to have been on it for a month ... (read in full...)

She got mad when I tried to touch her breasts during sex...what's going on?

Q.   My girlfriend (who was a virgin before I met her) and me had sex for the time first. Well it was great when I'd to take off her bra she slap my hand away and she got really mad at me because she doesn't like when I touch her breasts. Then I talked ...

A.   18 June 2009: If you pressured her when she wasn't ready then what do you expect? Everyone has hang ups about their body and it takes A LOT on inner strength to finally trust someone enough to show them the bits that you are embarrassed about. It's a proccess... (read in full...)

Rainwater, sperm and pregnancy!

Q.   REVISED: I got a question from my friend here. my friend with his girl was messing around. Using his left hand, he fingers his girlfriend and he while masturbaiting on the right, using his right hand. then my friend came and put his semen and sp...

A.   17 June 2009: *sigh* This is getting annoying now. There IS a chance she could be pregnant. What more do you need to know?! If she misses her period, get her to take a pregnancy test, if not, then she's fine. There is no need for asking all of these ... (read in full...)

I don't want to disappoint my parents. Do I have to abort my baby?

Q.   i am a 2 weeks delayed from now im really afraid that im pregnant since we had sex wd my bf always without protection..my bf said that he will support me whatever happens..the problem is im on my way to my graduation and im on my ojt ryt now,i dnt ...

A.   16 June 2009: Similar to the anonymous person below, I find myself pregnant at 19. It wasn't planned and I've had to say goodbye to a career in management to be able to have this child. But it's worth it because there is tiny life being created by my body. It ... (read in full...)

When should I take a pregnancy test?

Q.   so i had unprotected sex 4 days ago and he said he would pull out before he came and he did he came all over me but im still afraid that somehow some could have gotten inside. if you think i could be pregnant how long do i wait before i can take a ...

A.   16 June 2009: You should take it when you miss a period or around the time when your next period is due... It won't show up on the test for a few weeks yet, four days is far too early for any symptoms so I'm afraid it's just a matter of waiting. You do know tha... (read in full...)

Fatigue a sign of pregnancy?

Q.   okay here it goes. Recently I lost my virginity friday and I had sex today. I'm young so pregnancy really scares me, mainly because I had a friend become pregnant and I see the struggles she endures as she is young also. I take very high precaution ...

A.   16 June 2009: You would not be having pregnancy symptoms this early. They usually start around 2-3 months, not 4 days! Like SY said, you can only wait for your period, if it's late, take a test if not, you're probably fine. And maybe you should hold off ... (read in full...)

Condom allergies!

Q.   well, me and my boyfriend haven't been going out long, but we've both decided that we want to have sex, but there's one slight problem. My boyfrind is allergic to condoms! what can i do to prevent me from getting pregnant ?! HELP A.S.A.P !! [MO...

A.   16 June 2009: Your reply hadn't come through when I wrote my first post, but most of what I said still stands. If he has had unprotected sex with girls in the past then you absolutely need to use a condom. Look after your body, don't let it come into contact ... (read in full...)

Why are my periods suddenly different?

Q.   Hey guys. Just wanting any advice really. I am on Microgynon pill and have been for about 4 years from the age of 17. My periods usually come like clockwork, usually quite heavy and suffer badly from period pains. My last two periods have been ...

A.   16 June 2009: Brown spotting is typical with pregnancy. You don't have to miss a pill to get pregnant because the pill is not 100% effective. That's what I would look into first and foremost. Hopefully, your doctor should do that, if he doesn't, you need to. ... (read in full...)

Condom allergies!

Q.   well, me and my boyfriend haven't been going out long, but we've both decided that we want to have sex, but there's one slight problem. My boyfrind is allergic to condoms! what can i do to prevent me from getting pregnant ?! HELP A.S.A.P !! [MO...

A.   16 June 2009: That is very good question anonymous male! What you need to think about sweetheart is how the hell does your boyfriend know he is allergic to condoms if he has had sex yet? And even if he is then there are lots of latex free condoms out ther... (read in full...)

Afraid I might be pregnant -- where to get help?

Q.   ok, here it goes... i had sex a week a..on june 8...and today is june 15..but anywz it was prtoected but im still scared im might be pregnant..i ve been gettin nasuaes and frequent urination, and cramps..and withdrawl...and i did nt get my period i...

A.   16 June 2009: Slow down. You do not get pregnancy symptoms a week after sex. It's far too soon. I don't know what those symptoms are but they are NOT symptoms of pregnancy. You had protected sex. And your period is late but it's always irregular anyway... (read in full...)

My girlfriend and sister got into a fight...how to fix this?

Q.   I went to my sister's fiancé's birthday with my girlfriend of 4 years. My sister and girlfriend don't get along that well for reason, They fight until me or her fiance break it up. My sister can't have any kids because she had a eating disorder in ...

A.   16 June 2009: You should tell your cruel, undignified fiance to keep her tacky mouth shut. She insulted your sister, what she said was seriously hurtful. There was no need for that. Girlfriends may come and go but your sister will always be your sister. ... (read in full...)

I don't want to disappoint my parents. Do I have to abort my baby?

Q.   i am a 2 weeks delayed from now im really afraid that im pregnant since we had sex wd my bf always without protection..my bf said that he will support me whatever happens..the problem is im on my way to my graduation and im on my ojt ryt now,i dnt ...

A.   16 June 2009: The whole point contraception is available is to prevent poor, unwanted babies being created with parents who don't want them and can't look after them. Situations like this one. You should have thought about what your parents would think of you B... (read in full...)

I'm 13, Should I wait to have a child with my 17 year old boyfriend?

Q.   my boyfriend and i want to have a baby. we are both in our teens (im 13 he is 17) and unsure if we should wait??? please help...

A.   15 June 2009: Ok sweetheart, so what kind of well paying job does he have at 17 with no college education that can support him, you and the child that will go through 14 nappies and bottles of milk a day? Don't forget you will also need to pay rent on your house, ... (read in full...)

Indecent proposal--should I continue the affair?

Q.   Ok, here I go. A bit long, but I want you to get the whole picture. I am a successful business woman married to a wonderful man and have 3 beautiful boys. If you "knew" me you could never tell I have a deep dark secret. I have had an affair wi...

A.   15 June 2009: Aaah, yes. The token older, married rich business women who is having an affair with someone she thinks she's meant to be with yet will not leave leave their wife for her. The women who is so wrapped up in herself and her pathetic affair that she ... (read in full...)

Indecent proposal--should I continue the affair?

Q.   Ok, here I go. A bit long, but I want you to get the whole picture. I am a successful business woman married to a wonderful man and have 3 beautiful boys. If you "knew" me you could never tell I have a deep dark secret. I have had an affair wi...

A.   15 June 2009: Aaah, yes. The token older, married rich business women who is having an affair with someone she thinks she's meant to be with yet will not leave leave their wife for her. The women who is so wrapped up in herself and her pathetic affair that she ... (read in full...)

Difficult flatemate/pets

Q.   I live in a share house with one other person, the situation is we are not on a lease as such, we pay rent to the owner directly. My flatmate has two cats, one of which has recently began to throw up on the carpets in the house. She will not clean ...

A.   15 June 2009: Are you able to talk to the owner of the house about it? I'm not sure how it works in Australia, but in the UK if you are renting a house from a private owner, you have to put down a deposit before you move in. If there is any damage to the ho... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's mother driving me insane!

Q.   My boyfriends mum is driving me insane. I am pregnant and this is her first grandchild so I understand that she is super excited. But she's being so controlling, it's unreal. She treats my boyfriend like he is a child (he's 23), she speaks to...

A.   15 June 2009: Thanks again for all the replies :) I've been with him for two and a half years. Lived together for five months. My boyfriend's brother has just left with the army so that has had a huge effect on how she's feeling, I'm sure. She does feel we are... (read in full...)

Together for 3 years and still no sex, what should I do?

Q.   So I have been dating a girl for almost 3 years. From day one she was against oral sex, which is fine. But I believed that after dating for a while she would be willing to have sex....3 years later an this has not happened yet. Basically, I am ...

A.   14 June 2009: I have to agree with armymedic, if there is no physical intimacy then what separates you from being friends? It's ok to say not everything revolves around sex maybe for 5 or 6 months but after that... It has to come into it. Part of being in... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's mother driving me insane!

Q.   My boyfriends mum is driving me insane. I am pregnant and this is her first grandchild so I understand that she is super excited. But she's being so controlling, it's unreal. She treats my boyfriend like he is a child (he's 23), she speaks to...

A.   14 June 2009: So marriage always mean that two people are seriously committed to each other? There are lots of posts on this site that will beg to differ. Maybe if you knew anything about my track record of responsibility then you would have the right to comment ... (read in full...)

I'm so annoyed at people who play the victim!

Q.   Ok so lately these past three days my "friend"(only calls when she has a problem or isn't stuck up her man's ass) been calling me crying or texting me saying "ohh my bf is so mean he makes me cry he calls me a bitch etc" but the dumb bitch always ...

A.   12 June 2009: I had a friend like this. In the end I had to cut all contact with her. She would come to me, cry about him and then go back to him and be fine without even confronting him about what he did wrong. It drove me insane and eventually I ended up... (read in full...)

Was on a "break" and slept with a guy and now I don't know who is the Daddy!

Q.   im 14 and im 19 weeks pregnant everything is ok and everyone knows but the problem is that the baby might not be my boyfriends. he doesn't know that she might not be his and i feel awful he is getting all exited he can't wait. i had sex with this ...

A.   8 June 2009: It is unfair to your daughter and your boyfriend to lie about being certain who the father is. And it will come out eventually because this other guy wants to be part of your babies life, he isn't going to just go away. There are also a few situ... (read in full...)

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