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I'm a 33 year old Business Analyst, in Hertfordshire.

I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!

Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.

I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!

If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!

I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!

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Would it hurt if I told him he has a small one?

Q.   would it hurt a mans pride to tell them they have a small penis? especially if they are already an insecure person....

A.   18 February 2008: Of course it would offend him!!! Why do you need to tell him ? Is it that bad that you have to tell him ? If you care about someone the last thing you would do is say something like that to them.. Im guessing this is a new liason ? In which ... (read in full...)

My partner has been having an affair with another woman... she's cut off contact but is mourning the loss!

Q.   I have posted messages on this subject before but things developed. My civil partner has a long friendship with a girl she met in Sweden 6 years ago (We have been together 6 years also, something was developing before we met but never transpired as ...

A.   25 June 2007: The same as with any relationship, if she truly loved you like she said she does, she wouldnt have strayed away. if she is that upset about "the other woman" I would take that as a direct hit at me and an insult... i would leave personally. You ... (read in full...)

Can the DearCupid men elaborate on their views on porn?

Q.   Hi, I just read some answers to a question that was posted about porn and some answers from you guys were that men look at porn stars who are completely different for what they go for in real life and it's not a threat at all to their partner. ...

A.   25 June 2007: Alot of men will tell you the same As Daniel, She might look nice on the outside and have curves in all the right places... but you try having an intelligent conversation with one!! Okay not quite way out there porn but Katie Price, Sorry Jordon.. ... (read in full...)

Any tips to make O extra special for her?

Q.   Ok here's the deal i'm 23 and i've always done pretty getting ladies. I've had a couple serious relationships and tried but was never too big on pleasuring my girlfriend orally. Now I absolutly love pleasuring my current girlfriend. It turns me on ...

A.   22 June 2007: Well this varies to some peoples tastes, but what I like is the getting me almost there and stopping, almost there and stopping and so fourth, and then allowing her to have an orgasm when she thinks perhaps you will stop again. Try with her sat ... (read in full...)

When I ejaculate, I feel there's not enough

Q.   Wen i cum, i feel embarrassed because it seems to just dribble out, also it has no volume to it ( it is in short supply.) help!...

A.   22 June 2007: I advise to see your GP also. As flower girl said it could be any number of things and most of them are simple to sort out, so dont worry unduly. But you do need to get this checked out as something doesnt sound quite right. Dont be embarras... (read in full...)

I want to watch my girlfriend have sex with my male friend

Q.   Should I let my best mate sleep with my girlfriend while I watch? Hello everybody, My name is Jonathan. My girlfriend and I have been 8 years together and we're both 28 years old. For the past year or so I've been having this vivid fant...

A.   22 June 2007: I think you have more to lose than to gain here. You run the risk of the nagging afterwards of was he better than me, did she prefer sex to him than me, does she want more sex with him, and every time you have sex, you will be thinking, wonder i... (read in full...)

Her moodiness and controlling is wearing me down

Q.   Me and my girlfriend are both 18 and we have been together for nearly 2 years. We have a good sex life, and I am so happy when im with her and enjoy the 'closeness' (if you know what i mean by that? -cuddling n stuff) u can only have with someone ...

A.   22 June 2007: You have to do whats right for you, Ultimately that is the only way to be happy. Someone else's happiness will not make you happy and can turn to resentment. You shouldnt judge your relationship on what others appear to be, as this is often no... (read in full...)

What turns a man on other than sex?

Q.   what turns a guy on the most without having like sex??...

A.   21 June 2007: Lol Pete! Roast Dinner! Well this is such a random question hey! Dear kissmepink, every guy is very very very different, what works for one doesnt work for another, they all have different tastes, something you do for one guy that he likes yo... (read in full...)

My boyfriend found out he had Chlamydia and I also had to get treated for it.

Q.   Hello, ive been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. There is quite a big age gap between us and last year sometime he found out he had clymidiea and i also had to get treated for it. I myself havent cheated on him but that got me thinking has ...

A.   21 June 2007: Warts (HPV virus) and Chlamydia are Sexually transmitted diseases/infections and can both live in the body for several months sometimes years without presenting any symptoms, or the symptoms can become apparant straight away. For that reason I... (read in full...)

Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?

Q.   I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....

A.   21 June 2007: Hmm... Am I ready to meet you lot!? Not sure.... But yeah I guess London would get my vote.. But My mum did always tell me to be weary of strangers and you lot are strange LOL in a nice way of course! tee hee And It would have to be in a ope... (read in full...)

Sex issues... is this natural?

Q.   Earlier this evening my boyfriend and I had sex he stopped and asked me what that was and i looked down and there was white clumpy cum like leaking out of me... now he didn't orgasm and i think i did,is this normal or is something wrong with me?...

A.   21 June 2007: I would say that this is a Thrush, although I can only go on own experience. Often you will notice this more after sex as all the stuff thats going on down there! Its very common and so longs as its white and theres no smell then its very easily ... (read in full...)

I have "diencephalic syndrome" and the large penis that goes with it... how can I ever find a partner?

Q.   This may come across as a myth, however, I assure you it is not. I have a condition called Diencephalic syndrome, meaning I have an extremely large penis. Last time I went to the doctor's it was measured at approximately 18 inches in length. My ...

A.   21 June 2007: I must say im a little perplexed at this condition. I have heard of several things that can make the Penis unusually large, and they normally consist of Pituitary Tumours, or things that control the hormone growth in an excessive way and the thing ... (read in full...)

We occassionally have unprotected sex. Is counting days safe?

Q.   my boyfriend and I tend to have unprotected sex... ehm, last month we did, he didnt come, we stilled vowed not to do it again. but over the weekend we got carried away and the same thing happend... again he didnt come but ive been following the ...

A.   22 May 2007: Sorry but hes not being very responsible either is he! You say hes 6 years older and hes got more experience and he is your first sexual partner, what care is he taking of you to ensure you dont get pregnant!? Honey you can fall pregnant... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: Video introduction to the site from Andrew, site founder!

Q.   Message from Andrew, site founder: (let me know your comments!)...

A.   19 May 2007: Well what can I say! Pleasantly surprised at how youthful you are!! Never thought we would ever see what our Andrew looked like!! Excellent! Anyway you know how much I love this site... So keep up the good work! x x... (read in full...)

Save yourself the pain - don't text!

Q.   In all communication there is translation. Even if the communication is in your mother tongue. We interpret our partners' sentences, trying to get to the emotional core of the message, under all the words. This is of course the source of the endl...

A.   11 May 2007: I often find that texts messages can be read in up to 3 different ways... If they are taken out of context and not read as intended you get a war started! I tend to re read them to try and see what angle it did come from LOL... My sister h... (read in full...)

Am I stupid for staying with him when he doesn't see a future for us?

Q.   My boyfriends has just told me that he doesn't see me in his future and that our relationship is going to end one day. When i told him that we should end it now he said that he didn't want to as he still loves me and wants to be with me. He says he ...

A.   8 May 2007: When you truly love someone, you cant ever imagine being without them! Him saying you dont figure in his future just shows how immature is and hes never going to commit or give you what you want... As Eyeswideopen said, hes going to carry on until ... (read in full...)

I feel very depressed. Can I get back to how it used to be?

Q.   One day I just woke up and I wasn't feeling the same, and before i knew it i was caught in a intense depression, it was by far the most confusing months of my life and now im afraid that i have completly forgotten how i used to feel. My emotions ...

A.   3 May 2007: I think you are still feeling depressed and cant see the sunshine around the corner, this is often the case when we feel this way and sometimes we need the aid of someone else to help us through. Its never has bad as it seems, and there are things ... (read in full...)

How can I tell her my cheating was a biggggg mistake?

Q.   i got caught cheating on my fiance i guess i was running away from the commitment of it all. i cheated and i felt horrible after words but i never told her a couple of months later i got caught, now we're still intimate 2 months later i realized i ...

A.   3 May 2007: The damage was done the second you cheated. You know there is no going back,and in your girls head she's reading that you did it once, you will do it again. She maybe wasnt right for you or you wouldnt have cheated. You have learnt the hard... (read in full...)

His last proper girlfriend slept with him after three weeks which makes me feel like I'm a prude or a tease by comparison.

Q.   i have recently started dating a boy i love very much. he's also one of my best friends and two years ago he used to date a friend of mine. their relationship ended peaceably and she's quite happy for us to date. we've been going out for a month no...

A.   3 May 2007: You cant compare yourself to anybody else. You are unique and will act how you feel most comfortable, Not by how someone else has. You say hes not pressuring you so great, he sounds as though hes just trying his luck, most guys do... hes prob... (read in full...)

I'm cheating on my husband, but with a really nasty guy, I crave him and I dont feel guilty for it!!

Q.   I am 29 years old and have been married to my husband for 7 years. My husband is very good to me, is a hard worker, very physically fit, attractive... About 6 months ago I started seeing a man at work who is 39, divorced, has four children, and has ...

A.   3 May 2007: You need to ask yourself why you crave this man so much ? What on earth could he possibly be giving you for you to risk your marriage ? Do you love your husband ? You say you would miss him but you dont mention love. Im thinking you husband ... (read in full...)

Im 13 hes 17, he wants to have sex this weekend, how do I tell him im not ready!!?

Q.   well i have this 17 year old boyfriend and im only 13. and he wants to have sex this weekend but i don't know how to say im not ready. i tried to tell him through a text message when we were texting but he thinks we should and i scared if i say no ...

A.   3 May 2007: Hi there! It is illegal for him to be having sex with you. You are too young to be involved in such a relationship. He would get arrested and sentenced for sexual liasons of any sort with a girl under the age of legal consent. The legal age of c... (read in full...)

We want a 3some with my best friend, But I dont want to lose either of them, what do I do ?

Q.   My fiance wants to have a threesome with me and my best friend. My best friend and I have had sex together twice, but he doesn't know about it. I quite like the idea and I am pretty sure she would be up for it, but I don't want to lose her or my ...

A.   1 May 2007: I think that the only way that 3 somes can ever work, is if all parties are not in a realtionship. Someone otherwise always gets hurt.. yes its a great fantasy, yes it sounds like it will be good fun, but in reality... it only sounds good... You ... (read in full...)

I've been depressed for so long.. How do I get rid of it without going to the doctors!?

Q.   What is the best way to get rid of depression? I have had it for years and daren't go to the doctors. i don't want it on my records. What if this comes back to haunt me in the future. But - honestly i just cannot go on. i am so down all the time. I ...

A.   1 May 2007: Hi there, Not all depression needs to have a drug to cure it! Your doctor can put you in touch with many medical resources for counselling... For some counselling is the way to go and makes all the difference. I think you can probably join so... (read in full...)

I've got this white discharge, I dont want to see a doctor, anyone know what it is ?

Q.   Hi There. Im 23 years old and im married. I have got a problem regarding discharges. I have a lot of discharges every month after my period and on my first two days of my dischrages i get light pink blood (little bit). I dont know why i get blood ...

A.   1 May 2007: Is the discharge accompanied by anything else ? Ie itching, soreness, redness ? Dryness even ? It sounds to be as though its Thrush. But Im not a doctor so dont take me as a gospel... But its quite common for a women to have thrush follo... (read in full...)

What are these small bumps on my penis and are they normal ?

Q.   Is this normal? I have small bumps all over my penis, I know it's not an STD or anything, but I'm still concerned as to whether or not its natural, most of all I'm wondering if that would weird girls out. thanks...

A.   1 May 2007: Where abouts are these bumps ? On the top ? Underneath ? around the head ? How raised are they ? are they a different colour ? What size are they ? ... (read in full...)

Since the birth of my 2nd child we rarely have sex, is there anything we can do ?

Q.   i am happly married with 2 children. i am in my mid 30s. i love my husband very much and he too loves me very much. so far we ve never faced any problems. but, after my 2nd delivery, my husband and i hardly had sex. infact, we have sex once or ...

A.   1 May 2007: Hi, I can understand your concerns, but to be able to answer I think I might need a bit more information. What actually seems to be the problem ? Is it that he doenst want to ? You dont want to ? Your busy or tired ? What is the main reason y... (read in full...)

Any other birth control methods aside from condoms?

Q.   I've been seeing my fella for a wee while now and I'm considering different types of birth control to go on. Just now we always use condoms, but he really doesn't like them and I think they do interupt our sex life but alway have to use them as I'm ...

A.   1 May 2007: If you do a google search for methods of contraception the list is endless! You can find what to know about each method and then search that individually too... Heres a link to start you off... Pretty info... (read in full...)

How reliable are home pregnancy tests while taking the birth control pill?

Q.   How reliable are home pregnancy tests while taking the birth control pill? I get my period while taking the pill every month but sometimes I feel that taking a test would ease my fear a little bit, just to be sure. My friend told me that if you ...

A.   26 April 2007: Whilst on the pill we have what is called a bleed. Its not a typical menstrual cycle as we are fooling the body into thinking it is pregnant already. That is how the pill works and guards the uterus so to speak. Basically if your body already ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend hasnt had a period for 7 weeks, we always use a condom and shes on the pill!!

Q.   me and my girlfriend were best mates for 2 years before we got together so we know everything about each other, trust each other, have thought alot about it and liked each other for a long time before we got together, We both have ha dsex with ...

A.   25 April 2007: Hey there... Im sure you are being pretty safe, and it sounds to me as though your girllfriend is on the Mini Pill.. Prostegen only.. I'm on this pill because I suffer with migraine and the doctors wont allow me to take the combined pill. Now with ... (read in full...)

Sometimes, I have stinging discharge.

Q.   I have discharge coming out of my vagina. It sort of stings, and sometimes not. The discharge is slightly yellow. Is this normal? This has been happening for awhile ever since I started putting lubricant on my vagina for my first time. When I put on ...

A.   21 April 2007: Hi there I think you have vaginitis. Basically this is an infection that can be brought on by being allergic to perfumed soap, condoms and most probably lubrication gels. You can get this as a consequence to sexaully transmitted diseases too, but ... (read in full...)

Im male... How can I remove hair from my Scrotum area!?

Q.   What is the best way for a male to remove all pubic hair? I have a hard time imagining a razor going over my scrotum......

A.   19 April 2007: Well my guy uses Immac/Veet whatever they call themselves these days. He says sometimes it can start to burn a little... so test an area first as its way sensitive down there. And dont over do it. Do Not leave on for a long period of time at ... (read in full...)

Im very new at online dating thing. How do I know if they are lying online??

Q.   I need advice on online dating, long distance style. I "met" this guy online about 2 weeks ago n we hit it off. We live a great distance apart. There's a time difference but it's not too bad. We've exchanged several pictures and he has my number. ...

A.   19 April 2007: You really cant tell for sure someone is lying to you. You say you can read body language, well the thing is that doesnt always give away what you think it does. Body language could just be an uneasiness of a situation. Anyway, anyone can tell... (read in full...)

My guy is in the navy and his contact is slacking off! Am I losing him ?

Q.   hay guys i have a problem my fella is in the navy and is on tour of the gulf at the moment, he used to call me 3 times a week email everyday long emails telling me he cares about me. we had so many plans for when he comes back in november! but now i ...

A.   19 April 2007: Hun, I think hes just busy. Just because hes not contacting you doesnt mean he doesnt want to. Hes got a job to do and its hard for you to see it when sat at home missing him I know. As you have said he steps it up when you mention it, of cours... (read in full...)

He denied that the violent porn was his, now that hes admitted it I feel decieved! I feel hurt and stupid and dont know what to do!!

Q.   Cheating? About a year ago I found violent porn on my boyfriends computer. for months on end questioning him he told me his friend downloaded it but he was grossed out by that sorta stuff. I believed him for a while. Then after some more question...

A.   18 April 2007: Dear Anon poster.... I said MOST not ALL... There is a world of difference you know... And also that said, Most women dont even know that thier man does it, let alone get one to admit it! ... (read in full...)

He denied that the violent porn was his, now that hes admitted it I feel decieved! I feel hurt and stupid and dont know what to do!!

Q.   Cheating? About a year ago I found violent porn on my boyfriends computer. for months on end questioning him he told me his friend downloaded it but he was grossed out by that sorta stuff. I believed him for a while. Then after some more question...

A.   17 April 2007: Most men look at porn. They would be lying when then say otherwise, some do it more than others and some get addicted. But I think the issue you have here is the trust issue and the type of porn. Im guessing its rape type porn.. forceful... (read in full...)

How long do you think you should be in a relationship for before proposing?

Q.   How long do you think you should be in a relationship for before proposing? I've been with my girlfriend for five years and it's been fantastic apart from the occasional row over nothing and her having a one night stand near the beginning of the ...

A.   17 April 2007: I think this is a bit of an odd one. I dont think you can put a time limit on it, its up to the individual couple and how they feel and how things are going and what each person wants. I think if you really love someone, then it doesnt matter how ... (read in full...)

My mother in law told me my husband wants a divorce!! We are both miserable and she wont stay out of it!! Help what do I do ?

Q.   ok this is a biggie my mother in law told me my husband wants a divorce , so i went home to visit family and now my husband hardly talks to me im not gonna get a divorce to please his mother and his whole family is against me now, my husband is ...

A.   16 April 2007: How awful that the family are like this and how dare she tell you what your husband wants! Talk about interferring! What you didnt say is does your husband love you ? Does he want to stay with you... Just because shes said this doesnt mean its... (read in full...)

I feel like our relationship has gone downhill and he doesnt care, should I leave or give him another chance ?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and i do love him we moved in together after only being together for 8 months we bought a car together and we have a cat and a guinea pig since we moved in together i feel as though our relationship has ...

A.   16 April 2007: I think you need to talk to him first. Tell him how your feeling. he cant even attempt to make it better if he doesnt know whats up! If he doesnt really know what things matter to you, and hes just casaully binning them off, it might be that he ... (read in full...)

I've lined up two dates, Fri and Sat, I'm not a dishonest person, so what should I do if I like both of them!!!

Q.   Hi I've met two lovely ladies on a dating site at the same time and have a date with both one friday the other saturday, the problem is i'm very honest and don't like cheating as that is what my wife did to me. What do I do if I like both and they ...

A.   13 April 2007: I think your worrying about this too much! Hun, sit back relax and go with the flow. If you worry about this too much it could make both your dates go wrong as your worrying! Chill out see what happens and then worry about it later if you need... (read in full...)

Im 14, still no period and Ive got pregnancy symptoms, do you think I am pregnant ?

Q.   As I said before I'm 14 years old and I think that I may be pregnant! I knew that I would be getting my period soon but, not sure exactly what day. I lost my virginity on February 16th without a condom for the first time, that same night I ...

A.   13 April 2007: Nobody on here hun can tell you if you are pregnant or not. Whilst its harder to fall pregnant at that time, its not impossible, so yes you could be pregnant, or no you might not be. The only way you will know for sure is to get a pregancy test. ... (read in full...)

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