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I'm in love with my mom's ex boyfriend from 23 years ago!

Q.   I really need advice,I recently found my moms x from 23yrs ago when I was little he took such good care of me,then a few yrs ltr they went seperate ways,we tried to stay in contact,but failed,now after 20 yrs we are re-united,I have been really ...

A.   3 February 2012: Dont even go that far.he was your mom 'sex partner for haven' sake!... (read in full...)

No emotional bond in my marriage and my in laws hate me. Any advice?

Q.   i have been married for 3 yrs with 12 month old baby girl, my inlaws hates me and my husband is not standing for me,he's always on the side of his family whenever we traveled to the family house,the last time we traveled i was humiliated, rejected ...

A.   25 November 2011: You deserve love and happiness. move on and goodluck!... (read in full...)

Finding a unique name for a baby boy

Q.   Dear all...hope you all are fit and fine. I needed you guys help. My sis has just given birth to a baby boy and we are looking for a sweet unique name starting with either A or S. Can you all please suggest some unique names....Thank you...

A.   30 August 2011: Aldrean, soan, ... (read in full...)

What do I say in regards to two awkward situations that happened with my friend?

Q.   me and kirsten(my girlfreind)were walking down the street on saturday and she had her period there in the middle of town wearing white shorts and ran home crying and i feel so bad about it what do i do? i have a second thing to say. i was at h...

A.   23 August 2011: Brush it off and continue with your friendship, so long as you are happy at each other's company... (read in full...)

Will I ALWAYS be single?

Q.   I am 28 and I only had sex with one man (we had a short relationship when I was 23 - he was 50). He broke my heart very bad. I haven't been able to be in a relationship ever since, just online flirting which turned out it lead to nothing serious. ...

A.   14 August 2011: Forgive yoself for the 'ugly past'...put up the smile and move on.there ar stil good men out there,waiting for you! goodluck... (read in full...)

Broken hearted after break up with married ex boyfriend..

Q.   I met a wonderful man online and we became friends on an online game. I know some people are going to judge and thats ok. We all make mistakes, I never in my life had any interest in a married man and he never cheated on his wife until he met me and ...

A.   13 August 2011: You are far better of without him.leave him alone with his wife and kids.hope you find hapiness some where.goodluck... (read in full...)

Mama's boy won't commit. What should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend and I started off casual 3 1/2 years ago. 6 months after he dropped a bomb and told me he had a gf overseas in his home country. Initially I was shocked but we continued to see one another. Another 6 months went by we were both hooked, ...

A.   10 August 2011: Momma's boy??, im sorry but it seems as if he'll never commit.if he does, you'l always come second.move on!... (read in full...)

Very much in Love but cannot leave the family

Q.   Hi I am married with an 8 years old. I ma very much in love with another woman, she is my sweetheart from 25 years ago. She lives in ITaly and has a doughter of 8 years old. We met again and fell in love again... I left 25 years ago to come to E...

A.   9 August 2011: The solution is you stay away from her.she is someone's wife for haven's sake! She made it clear that she doesnt want to leave her husband and a father of her daughter for you.25 years is the far away past, it matters no more... (read in full...)

I am now pregnant but haven't had a chance to grieve for my mother. I don't know how to handle this

Q.   Hi, I'm in a bit of a dilemma. Although I am very happily married to my husband, We have just found out we are expecting our first baby. The dilemma is because although we are married almost 4 years, and pregnancy is more than acceptable at this ...

A.   5 August 2011: The saying goes 'when one door closes, the other one opens. Fate took your mom to stop her the pain of cancer and blessed you with pregnancy.dont be selfish, dont resent dat litle life inside you, its a blessing! Goodluck ... (read in full...)

My lover and me are both trapped in loveless marriages and are hopelessly in love with each other...and now I think I'm pregnant with his baby

Q.   Hi, I was wondering if I could get advice any would be appreciated. Where to start... I have been with my current Partner since I was 18 years old we met in college. We became best friends and fell in love we know we are soul mates... this i...

A.   29 July 2011: Secrets always have their way of coming out, sooner or later.stay prepared, anithing can happen anitime... (read in full...)

Is it ok for 17 y/o to date a 15 /yo??

Q.   Is it ok for a 17 year old (like me ) to date a guy whos almost 15?......

A.   27 July 2011: No, unless no sex is involved... (read in full...)

How can I tell him he's too rough during sex?

Q.   I'm very sore after having sex with my boyfriend and I don't know how to tell him. Not just in my private parts, but all over my body. My upper and lower back hurts so much! I'm 26 years old and he's 48 years old. He's a heavy and muscularly type of ...

A.   27 July 2011: Better said to free yoself from pain.otherwise self would turn out a nightmare other than pleasure filled fun.goodluck... (read in full...)

How much does your first time hurt?

Q.   On a scale of 1 to 10, how much does your first time having sex hurt? just out of curiosity...

A.   26 July 2011: 8 out of ten!... (read in full...)

Because of my past my girlfriend thinks I'm a "monster waiting to happen"

Q.   The other day, me and my soon to be wife were talking, she thought I've been acting weird since we was dating when it came to sex and just now decided to ask me about it, of course I didn't want to tell her the reason why, It's something I haven't ...

A.   24 July 2011: She the 'happening monster' herself.forget about her.find peace in yourself and move on.goodluck... (read in full...)

H'es cheated before.. do you think he'll do it again?

Q.   My boyfriend lives a couple hours away and i only get to see him in the summer and at some basketball games. He has cheated on a girl before but that was his first time cheatin on someone. Its been awhile since he has cheated but im afraid he might ...

A.   18 July 2011: A leopard never changes its spot... (read in full...)

Is weekly sex causing all of this itching and scratching?

Q.   This may sound silly but is just the truth. I have being having sex with my guy every week. And recently my vagina{i.e private part} has be scratching me seriously,but yesterday i use mirror to look at it and i found out that there were tiny things ...

A.   14 July 2011: It maybe STI.visit your clinic or doctor, do the tests and get medication if necesary.goodluck... (read in full...)

Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating?

Q.   Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating. This is past dirty messages and includes videos of them selves being passed back and forth. I have seen for myself. He says I'm overacting since he's not physically cheating. i ...

A.   14 July 2011: Cheating, yes it is!... (read in full...)

Ex wants me to help her with repairs around her house, and is furious because I said I would charge her for it! Does that make me a jerk?

Q.   I dated a girl for a while. In that time, I did a lot of things for her. One thing I did was help around her house. I am very handy and once worked for a plumber. I mowed the lawn and did repairs. We broke up two month ago. It was a bad breakup....

A.   11 July 2011: Dont get used.she either pays you or she gets another plumber... (read in full...)

My GF wants me to remove a tattoo from my chest which spells my late sister's name, because my ex had the same name, and my GF doesn't want to be reminded of my ex!

Q.   My twin sister died a few years ago in a car accident. I was really affected by her death. She wasn't just my sister but my best friend. I got a tattoo of her name on my chest so that she'll always be next to my heart. I have been seeing a...

A.   11 July 2011: Shes being insensitive and she needs to grow not remove your tattoo!... (read in full...)

Do all girlfriends steal from their boyfriends?

Q.   My favorite soft drink is Mountain Dew and I have a Mountain Dew T-shirt. After my girlfriend came up in my room and when I wasn't in my room with her, I think she took my T-shirt. I'm not 100% sure she took it, but my T-shirt has been missing for a ...

A.   8 July 2011: We dont steal, we 'borrow'...but you may stil ask her so as to make sure she took it.goodluck... (read in full...)

Why is my husband getting into new things in the bedroom? Is he getting bored with our sex life?

Q.   I am a 31 year old woman. I am the one who wrote about a week ago about her husband wanting a striptease (from me) for his birthday. This has not happened yet as his birthday is next weekend. We were having sex on Saturday about which I still ge...

A.   5 July 2011: You are luck he tries to spice things up.some just shut down or look for 'pleasure' somewhere.explore with him, have fun.goodluck... (read in full...)

Korean girlfriend ends things just when I'm ready to tell her I'll go to Korea with her!

Q.   I met this Korean girl a little over a month ago. We started dating, everything was going great. After a couple of weeks she mentioned that she will have to return to Korea in October because her Visa will expire. I thought it over quite a bit...

A.   4 July 2011: You are far better off without her. Imagine the pain you'd feel after you've just moved to korea and she dumps'll get better with time.goodluck... (read in full...)

What is more pleasurable?

Q.   Just out of curiosity what is more pleasurable vaginal or anal sex for both the guy and the girl?...

A.   1 July 2011: Vaginal sex is the best!... (read in full...)

Should she give the engagement ring back?

Q.   After 2 years with a wonderful girl I proposed... She said yes! We were planning on moving in together and then got into an argument about money. She says I had a look in my eye like I was going to hit her.... I wouldn't touch a hair on her head! ...

A.   11 June 2011: Get the ring back!... (read in full...)

I feel I had an unnecessary abortion, how do I stop crying over this??

Q.   Im an emotional wreck after having a termination 3 months ago. My boyfriend and i planned the pregnancy and he promised me he would step upto the mark, move into my place and that we would get married as soon as i got pregnant. I had no reason to...

A.   23 May 2011: Leave him. Hes the cause of your pain.he doesnt deserve you... (read in full...)

Is my husband's relationship with his co-worker appropriate? Or am I over reacting?

Q.   I am 61 and my husband is 68. For the past year he has had a close relationship friends he says with a co worker. He lies when she calls because he knows I think it is inappropriate. He hides her number in his cell phone and on one occasion ...

A.   30 April 2011: Emotional affair.sit him down,explain to him that you dislike his friendship with 'his' co worker.if he stil continue, Period!... (read in full...)

Cheated on husband, now want him back?

Q.   Hullo there, I am a married woman with a 2 year old son who doesn't know what to do next. The thing is I cheated on my husband two times and I was caught out by my husband. I truly love him and badly need him in my life. He was angry at first, but ...

A.   29 April 2011: What you did is terrible to him. you erred. expect the worst as you did the worst. it's your turn to reflect on the pain you caused. just keep apologising maybe 1day he'll see u as his wife, again.goodluck... (read in full...)

He stares at other women, but he has not let me seen him naked in over a year!

Q.   Help!!! I have been dating this man for almost 2 yrs now. It started great (as they usually do), but feels as though it is going down hill fast! I am a very sexually active and at the beginning of our relationship he informed me that flirting is ...

A.   22 April 2011: Dont go, run. This man loves you less... (read in full...)

She's never happy with me.....

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 4 months, but have known each other for years before that. I love her and she says she loves me, and everything was sooo perfect at first. But now it seems like all I do is piss her off. Over stupid ...

A.   18 April 2011: Leave her if shes unhappy with you.... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend lying to me? Can you use Facebook chat on your phone?

Q.   Can you use the chatting part of facebook on your phone? My boyfriend has his wall hidden from me, i guess. i cant see it, just his photos. i asked him about it and he said it has something to do with the facebook app he has on his iphone. However,...

A.   18 April 2011: Absolutely.yes one can facebook through a wap/gprs enabled phone.... (read in full...)

Is my wife done with me? Or is having sex just once every 5-6 months normal?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for 6 years and we have a 2 year old. We use to have sex quite often, but not anymore. I know that things change when you have a kid, but we used to have sex 5 times a week, now it's once every 5-6 months if we are ...

A.   15 April 2011: Cheating? Post natal depresion? Seek councelling... (read in full...)

I put up a fake profile to monitor my son, but now I've fallen in love and don't know how to get out of it.

Q.   I set up a social networkng acct only to keep an eye on my son. Since I was only there for that purpose I put in all wrong info and a pic that was not me. Age 20 years younger. Different state etc. The problem is that I accepted a friend request ...

A.   14 April 2011: Delete the profile or you wil have to come ready for an emotional wreck... (read in full...)

I feel disgusted at the male penis. Is it just me or anyone else feel this way?

Q.   Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do ...

A.   14 March 2011: Are you sexual active? ... (read in full...)

Can someone contract STDs or mouth infection through oral sex?

Q.   Hi I have never tried any form of oral sex. I have a fantasy about it but i'm scared i might get any form of STD or infection of the mouth. Is it possible to contract the above mentioned diseases through oral sex? Also should i ignore the natur...

A.   7 March 2011: Yes, possibly.make sure you and your partner are healthy before you engage in oral or penetrative form of sexuality. Personal hygine is very important!... (read in full...)

My husband's child and the mother from a past relationship are back in our lives...the child stays with us every weekend, and my life is pretty much over!

Q.   Two years ago I got married for the second time. My husband has a child from a previous relationship and all the time we have been married and for all the time the child has been born the mother and the child have lived in the US. The child who is ...

A.   5 February 2011: Tell him you are not fine with him having his child in 'your' house.every weekend...gee, its like a nightmare.especialy when there ar no other litle kids.may be he needs to go to 'his mom's when the child is him you need his atention too.... (read in full...)

He hit me across the face, causing me to spill a hot drink over myself and my laptop!!

Q.   Dear cupids, am I in the wrong here? I have a big presentation tomorrow and I had asked my boyfriend to be my practice audience when I'd done. Well he knows Iv been feeling pretty crappy at the moment due to the fact Iv been paying off his loan ...

A.   3 February 2011: Il be running away from this idiot,yes hes an idiot.hes not even thankful of you paying his debts, how can he discus hot & gorgeos girls with you!. A bruised neck,?red flag! Your lappy half working coz of him? Leave time he slaps you, ... (read in full...)

What am I doing wrong here? Everything is telling me to be the opposite of everything I was taught!

Q.   I'm hoping someone can make some sense of the world I'm experiencing at the moment. The world that I've been experiencing for quite a while now... I am 22 years old (in two weeks) and have always strived to be a good person. I've always put other...

A.   3 February 2011: Surely nothing seem wrong here.just build a little confidence and self esteem.things wil work out for you. As long as you are happy with your fiance.goodluck... (read in full...)

So many lies.....Can I ever trust my wife again?

Q.   I have been married for 3 years and just found out that my wife has done nothng but lie to me about almost everything including 2 1/2 of the years the marriage she has been texting and running in to one of her old boyfriend and about 6 months ago ...

A.   14 January 2011: Am afraid shes been and still using you.she deserve a divorce!... (read in full...)

I'm getting married but feel like I need more time! Is this normal?

Q.   I'm getting married in 3 months my fiancee and i have been together for about 2 year i know that he loves me and he respects me and tries to mAke me a better person. we almost Have everything ready for our wedding I'm having some doubts I get scared ...

A.   14 January 2011: Cold feet,very normal... but listen to your heart,trust your inticts.congrats on your engagement and goodluck to the 'coming' marriage... (read in full...)

Do I just completely remove myself from her life?

Q.   Hey this is a follow up to this question: I suggest reading that to get the full story. I felt it was alright to make a new Question as it i...

A.   14 January 2011: The best you can do is to leave her alone.Focus on yourself. Find your hapiness elsewhere. Goodluck... (read in full...)

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