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I base myself on past experience to give advice and I guess I fallow my head not my feelings.I'm down to earth and verry friendly. I'm honest and direct, I speak my mind and hold on to what I realy believe in. Truth hurst but sh*t a lie is way wors.

Learn to love your self and the world you live in. Is probly my best advice. And also karma is a b**ch.

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What to do about my Bf? When we argue he completely shuts down and never has enything to say when we have issues to discuss.

Q.   How do I fix our comunication problemes? My boyfriend and I are kind of stuck in a rut when we get into an argument he completly shuts down and never has enything to say. I try not to pressure him but he always seems to take serious discussions...

A.   18 September 2012: We have always been in a ldr and have been together for not even a year.. I know it isnt a long relationship. I dont feel as though he wants to break up. The email thing is verry helpfull and i will try it. Thank you for your help.... (read in full...)

How can I earn his respect again, even though we have already slept together?

Q.   I just recently passed a week end with a groupe of friends on holiday and in my groupe of friend there is one guy that I have dated in the past and now we are kind of friends with benefits when the ocasions gives. We have slep together in this week ...

A.   16 June 2011: Thanks, wow I feel realy badly because I think you right. The thing that bothers me is that we were childhood friends and now its all gone because of a stupid thing like this..... (read in full...)

Ex treats me like I'm someone he doesn't like, so how can we get together again?

Q.   Dear Cupid, My "ex"-boyfriend and I are trying to work things out to get back together. We have been together for two years and a half but throughout our relationship we have had problems that have affected our relationship now... Ever...

A.   16 June 2011: Only time will tell but I think that the second it goes back to where you were you should stop this and move on because off and on relationships will never change.... (read in full...)

I did not get pregnant after my partner ejaculated within me. Does this mean I won't be able to have kids?

Q.   Helpppppppp!!!!!... I had unprotected sex with my partner and he ejaculated inside of me in June 5th, i got my period i believe on june 11th. may i not be able to have kids?...

A.   15 June 2011: No it doesn't mean you wont be able to have kids. Getting pregnant doesn't always happen when a guy ejaculates in a girl. The sperm didn't get to the egg or you didn't do it at the time where you ovulate, or other factors. You should be carefull and ... (read in full...)

Understanding Teenagers.

Q.   We often see a lot of questions on Dear Cupid from parents trying to communicate or to make sense of their teenage children. I answered a question for a mother the other day, and was told that I should adapt it into an article (original thread ...

A.   14 June 2011: Ah I was out of controle emotional in my teen years, and me and my mother would get in to huge fights. She use to tell me that she was doing this because she loved me and that I would thank her later and I thank her every day now for not giving up ... (read in full...)

Teenagers and sex--the stress is almost unbearable!

Q.   I have some thoughts I’d like to share with you guys about the sexual pressure young people are under. I appreciate that I’m only speaking for myself, and most of my points will be drawn from my personal experience, but any opinions and feedback ...

A.   14 June 2011: You have strong values and opinions witch are yours and you must repect them. However you can't juge the people around you for having sex. Sex is natural and everyone is diffrent. You don't want to have sex a sixteen, good. Don't do it. But the ... (read in full...)

Something has changed with him and he wont answer my questions, how do I get answers?

Q.   hi, I know you get this a lot but I really need help please, I have been with this guy for a long time about five years and this last periode I felt that he is not the same I tried calling him asking what's wrong I don't get an answer from him he ...

A.   14 June 2011: I think maybe its time to let go. He might be scared to face you because he is not feeling the same about you but he doesn't want to hurt you. He doesn't realize that he already has hurt you. If you keep pushing him to get answers it will only push ... (read in full...)

He dumped me 2 months ago, but I love him more now than I did before! How do I get him back?

Q.   2 month ago I got dumped. This guy is the love of my life, my soul mate and my best friend and now its gone. Over time you're suppost to heal right and gradually forget well I love this guy more right now than I did 2 month ago and losing him h...

A.   14 June 2011: You don't love him more now then you did before. Your just thinking of all the good memories you have made together instead of the bad ones. Your depression brought him down aswell, you need to understand how hard it is to be with someone who is d... (read in full...)

Does she like me or is she ignoring me?

Q.   So there is this girl whom i love very much but i dont know if she feels the same. I know that the girl knows i like her ( That's a long story that how she came to know this though i have never talked to her about this ) Let me tell about the g...

A.   14 June 2011: I don't think she's ignoring you. I think she is just realy shy and the fact that she knows you like her makes her even more shy becaus she wouldn't know what to say or talk about. You will have to make the first move and talk to her.... (read in full...)

I need some advice about love vs life....

Q.   i am writing this looking for some advice on a life and relationship issue. i have been with my current girlfriend for about 2 1/2 years. we lived together for about six months. but in december of this past year, i decided to move out of the country ...

A.   14 June 2011: Well, would she be able to go there with you?... (read in full...)

How can I rebuild my trust with her after I know she's cheated on me?

Q.   Ok so I confronted my girlfriend about everything she's been doing and all her lies. She told me everything. She spilled her guts and now I know everything. I have a new issue that I would like help with..How can I rebuild my trust with her after I ...

A.   14 June 2011: Well if you truly want to work things out you must accept what she did and put it in the past. You must start over and trust that it will never happen again. Do you think she is ready to commit to you in the same way you have been commited to her? ... (read in full...)

He said he thinks of me as a little sister? Does he fancy me?

Q.   what does it mean he thinks of you as a little sister or does it mean he likes you? btw we are both 16 going on 17. ive known him for about a 3 years he is always flirting and sometimes he acts friendly but idk if hes just a playing or what. an...

A.   14 June 2011: When someone says your like his sister or brother that usualy means they like you alote but as a friend. Like a sister/brother term is used because you normaly wouldn't go out with a sister or brother.... (read in full...)

How can I earn his respect again, even though we have already slept together?

Q.   I just recently passed a week end with a groupe of friends on holiday and in my groupe of friend there is one guy that I have dated in the past and now we are kind of friends with benefits when the ocasions gives. We have slep together in this week ...

A.   14 June 2011: Yeah I understand that now. I have been feeling guilty ever since and I realy don't want to do this again. It just felt normal at the time because that what would happen every time we would hang out. But I regret doing this and will not do it again.... (read in full...)

Have I hooked up with too many guys?

Q.   I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...

A.   14 June 2011: the number of partners you've had doesn't change the persone you are. All you need is to be carefull and use protection. ... (read in full...)

Why is it so difficult to meet the right person?

Q.   After my ex royally screwed me over and I went through a bad breakup. I've tried datinf other people wihtout success. Guy #1 I was crazy about. But he was immature and didn't know what he wanted. He was off and on with me. I got pissed off and didn...

A.   14 June 2011: You know, you'r are not the only persone to ask yourself that question. And some ppl are the luckey ones who find a long lasting love at a young age. Not me, not you and the rest of the planet. Finding a persone with whom you will live the rest of ... (read in full...)

Ex treats me like I'm someone he doesn't like, so how can we get together again?

Q.   Dear Cupid, My "ex"-boyfriend and I are trying to work things out to get back together. We have been together for two years and a half but throughout our relationship we have had problems that have affected our relationship now... Ever...

A.   14 June 2011: #1- I think he probably likes the other girl but he may just like her companie since they seem to be good friends. #2- No hes not taking the relationship seriously because I don't think he realy wants to get back together. #3- His friends ARE ... (read in full...)

My worry is that love isn't real, or doesn't last... Am I right? Does anyone have a loving relationship that has lasted???

Q.   Hey, I'm wondering if it is unrealistic to think that love can last? I've been with my bf 8 months, things are great, and he's talked about us moving in together in the next year and said that he'd like us to marry and have children some day, which ...

A.   14 June 2011: Love is a real emotion created in humain brain. Love can last if the two ppl want it to last and are ready to work hard for it and make sacrifices.... (read in full...)

He moved on to other girls after he kissed me

Q.   My friend's a flirt. I like him and I hooked up with him. Sort of, anyway. We were just kissing and grinding; no making out. I pulled away when he tried and walked away. He was completely sober by the way and after I left the party, he kept hitti...

A.   13 June 2011: I think that is a question you should ask him. I don't think he hates you. I think hes a tease and maybe too much of a flirt. Be carefull.... (read in full...)

Was I wrong to break off our engagement?

Q.   I broke off my engagement around 2 and a half months ago as I thought I was too young, being only 19 and him being the only long term relationship I've had for 3 years. I'm now seeing another guy n can't stop comparing him to my ex part of me likes ...

A.   13 June 2011: I think you did the right thing because if you would of married right now, you probably would of ended up regreting it after. And comparing to your ex and missing him is normal. You need to try and not think of how it was with him and compare your ... (read in full...)

How can I earn his respect again, even though we have already slept together?

Q.   I just recently passed a week end with a groupe of friends on holiday and in my groupe of friend there is one guy that I have dated in the past and now we are kind of friends with benefits when the ocasions gives. We have slep together in this week ...

A.   13 June 2011: Oh, since that time yes I have slep with a few others but I was in a relationship with these men. And I mean I know that one night stands exist and its not the end of the world. But I just dont know how to get back on a good friendship term with ... (read in full...)

He went to a concert with a girl he used to have a crush on, and then lied about it! If she is just a friend, why would he lie?

Q.   First of all thank you for your advise. I've dated my bf for 2 years and he proposed. Due to work I ended up traveling abroad for work for 6 months. Meanwhile there were 3 huge concerts on our hometown, he went to all of them and told me he was g...

A.   10 June 2011: RED FLAG !! You deff should talk you him! I'm not a jalous persone eather but the way he lies to you, he is hiding something and you should find out what. What worries me the most is your business you have together. If hes telling her confiden... (read in full...)

Holiday together or separately, your thoughts please?

Q.   OK. So my bf and I have taken two weeks off annual leave in the summer, August. He is fiercely independent and I always go for these types so I must like it. I couldn’t bear a guy who was needy. Anyway, we recently spent two whole weekends ...

A.   10 June 2011: I think you should do what you said in this question. Sounds like a good idea and I think bothe will enjoy it.... (read in full...)

Help, am I gay?

Q.   im 14 and i have a boyfriend but im sure that im a lesbian. what should i do im sure a lesbian and i think i like a girl at my school do u think im gay and what should i do??...

A.   9 June 2011: Talk to someone bout it. At school there should be a consoler? Would be confortable to talk to your parents about it? If so they could realy help you.... (read in full...)

Is it unreasonable to ask your boyfriend to get tested for STDs?

Q.   Is it unreasonable to ask your boyfriend to get tested for STD's? I get tested every year at my check up because you never know what someone else is doing and my job has some exposure risks. He has never been tested. We have a sexual relationship, ...

A.   9 June 2011: No, I do it all the time and if they don't want to then I'm gone.... (read in full...)

I gave her my all, but we broke up and now she wants nothing to do with me! How do I cope?

Q.   After 2 years of giving my all to this woman. Asking her to marry me and putting up with all her faults and shortcomings we broke up and now she wants nothing to do with me. She has told me to never text, call, just to forget her number. How ...

A.   9 June 2011: #1 Shes a teenager not a woman. #2 A 17 year old will not want to get married. Its too young if you ask me. #3 That's what teenagers do, they break and move on. How old are you? And well moving on will be hard but its something you need t... (read in full...)

Did my wife have sex with her lover during her affair?

Q.   Me and my wife are married for 3 years we have a son together. Recently we've been having alot of arguments and i could't take it so i moved out. during that month my wife met a guy from her new work place and they started talking a lot. my wife and ...

A.   9 June 2011: If you guys are going to work this out, it will be impossible if she still sees him and comunicates like this with him. She is having an emotional afaire with this man. Would you realy trust her againe?... (read in full...)

How do you know what a guys actually feeling when they say one thing, then do another?

Q.   Hi guys! I've been dating this guy for about a year now and I feel like I'm always the one to initate doing things, not that I'm crazy for it, I just feel sex brings us closer and fixes any problems in our relationship and I love him. We'll talk ...

A.   9 June 2011: When someone says one thing but does the contrary that means there lying. Someones we choose to make excusses for the one we care for because we don't want to beleive that he/she doesn't care or love us. I don't know how your relationship is BUT ... (read in full...)

Should I continue being happy and smiling with him or should I be quiet and reserved?

Q.   Hi, I have a crush on my doctor. In fact, he knows and treats my whole family. He is married and I also don't expect any thing that way. I am younger than him (at least 8-10 years gap.) But I want him to like me as a good patient/person. ...

A.   9 June 2011: Well having a good relationship with your doctor isn't bad however it should stay professional. Smiling and talking is part of being friendly. Just remember he doesn't feel the same way about you.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend gags when she give me a handjob!

Q.   hi their this is my problem. My girlfriend has a really bad gag reflex so blow jobs are out of the question witch is cool with me cause i respect and love her. But over the past couple of months she gags when giving me a hand job. And well its ...

A.   9 June 2011: I don't think its your fault. Maybe something is bothering her other then the actual action of masturbating. Maybe sit her down and ask if she is feeling ok?... (read in full...)

He breaks up with me every summer, and this year is no different! How do I get him back?

Q.   my partner have been together 3 years on and off. we seem to have a routine of us getting together September/ October time and him finishing with me in June (this is now the third summmer- he always finishes it). at first we fall in love all over ...

A.   9 June 2011: You don't. You leave him alone and move on. Hes no good for you enywais.... (read in full...)

When would be my most fertile time of the month?

Q.   can anyone help me with my most fertile times of the month? as im trying to concive, im on my period now and started it yesterday so i should be finished by saturday as my period lasts for 4days when am i most likely to get pregnant next month? ...

A.   9 June 2011: No one is the same. You need to get an ovulating test..... (read in full...)

How can I ask my girlfriend to remove the unattractive hair on her forearm?

Q.   How can I tell my girlfriend that I don't like the hair on her forearm. Is it too much to ask or inappropriate to request removing it?...

A.   8 June 2011: I agree with what Eyes wide open says. Would you do the same? You probably would but I don't know, you might offend her. Or maybe not, I don't know her. :P... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to break up with a friend because you find their way of life offensive?

Q.   It seems like to be a good friend means to be supportive. And we are all told we should not be judgemental. But what happens if a friend has habits you find offensive and which go against your value system? Are you a terrible person if you want to ...

A.   8 June 2011: No that doesn't make you a bad persone. Fallowing your values and what you truly believe in is what makes you who you are. I often did this with friends that I no longer wanted to be around for what ever reasons. I just drifted away slowly by ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to search the Internet for sexual content in my spare time?

Q.   Is it normal if i have the tendency to search for sexual contents in the internet whenever I have spare time? I want to stop, as what I read or see keep popping out in my mind during my daily activities, but I just can't stop my "addiction". What to ...

A.   8 June 2011: Its not an addiction, your just curiouse, I do that sometimes to. More often when I was younger because I didn't realy understand all of it.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend does not always say 'I love you too.' Should I be worried?

Q.   Hi there. I tell my bf I love him a lot and he does not always say it back. He's like, well, I've said it, I dont need to keep saying it. He does tell me he loves me, just not that often. Sometimes I text him 'love you' and he does not text back. S...

A.   8 June 2011: Maybe your using a powerfull word too often. Maybe he wants for it to be special when he tells you he loves you, that its for real and not just a word he will say all the time. I know you love him and when you say it you mean it, but try to hold ... (read in full...)

How can I tell if my FWB is ever going to turn into something more?

Q.   I have known this wonderful guy for four years. He always was so nice and made me laugh, both were in relationships at the time. But for the last four n half months we have been making hot passionate sex with kissing and cuddling and spending the ...

A.   8 June 2011: I didn't understand, when you tolled him your feelings for him, what did he say? ... (read in full...)

Should I add him on Facebook? I feel if I don't do it now I'll always wonder what could have been....

Q.   "He stares at me and at times avoids me. He told me before that he used to have a huge crush on me but i found out he had a girlfriend and stopped talking to him. He dumped his gf but didn't approach me because i kindof avoided him, not really ...

A.   8 June 2011: What do you have to lose? Its a facebook request not a proposal to get married. ;)... (read in full...)

I am driving myself crazy being paranoid!

Q.   Hey everyone. This has been troubling me a lot these past couple of days and I am seeking advice on how to deal with it. I am stressing myself out about my boyfriend cheating. I have no reason to believe he is, he is never defensive of his phone (I ...

A.   8 June 2011: Maybe you should just tell him how you feel, he should be understanding, but don't acuse him of doing something when he didn't because that might get him angry. Just tell him that you worrie sometimes.... (read in full...)

How do you walk away from someone you are madly in love with?

Q.   Hey How can i walk away from a relationship thats broke down and is unfixable or isnt getting any better even though it kills me to think i wont be with him anymore coz i am absolutley madly inlove with him? Any help will be very appretiated Tha...

A.   8 June 2011: Stay busy you will see it will pass. We have ALL been there and will againe. xox... (read in full...)

My lying and flirtatious girlfriend wants me back. What shall I do?

Q.   hi everyone. i was with a very beautiful girl. shes i guess one of the most beautiful girl in the city. but shes no good other than looks. im not the most good looking guy around, but i have a fantastic personality. id loved her selflessly, i co...

A.   7 June 2011: Don't take her back.. You can do MUCH better. Like you said, all she is is a pretty face.... (read in full...)

How do you walk away from someone you are madly in love with?

Q.   Hey How can i walk away from a relationship thats broke down and is unfixable or isnt getting any better even though it kills me to think i wont be with him anymore coz i am absolutley madly inlove with him? Any help will be very appretiated Tha...

A.   7 June 2011: You need to cut all contact with him and focus on other things like hobbies, friends, family.. Try to keep yourself busy because letting go will be hard but its the best thing to do.... (read in full...)

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