What's the deal with slapping during sex?
Q. Hi I am curious to know why some men like to slap women around the face when having sex,do they have some sort of problem or are they violent types and like to dominate women do they care about the person they are hitting or is it just some sex...
A. 7 June 2011: Slapping the rear end is a turn on for some. Slapping the face? I'm not so sure about that. But there may be some women & men who enjoy it. To each his own, as long as serious physical harm is not caused. ... (read in full...)
Should I help pay for my new stepdaughter's college?
Q. I am a male in the USA in my 40's. I plan on getting married again in a few months. I have 2 young sons age 9 and 6. I pay support for them and see them 3 times a week. One child likes my GF the other one does not. She also does not get along with ...
A. 25 August 2010: No.
You shouldn't have to pay for HER daughter's education. If her father is in the picture, let him do it. You have 2 young kids who BOTH need whatever it is you may be planning or have already planned on saving for them. Keep your son's finances... (read in full...)
I think my sister saw me!
Q. Hey, well here's the deal. When I was in my room with the door closed, I was watching some porn.. with my penis showing and in erection. I wasn't masturbating but my sis pushed the door, she didn't look directly and walked off. I'm traumatized that ...
A. 14 July 2010: I don't think you have much to worry about here. She may not have even seen anything. And even if she did...it's still okay. Calm down :) SillyB, no disrespect to you, but just because she's 22 doesn't mean that she experienced those things. Ev... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom I had a miscarriage with my ex-boyfriend?
Q. Since I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, it was my mom who has been there for me 24/7 to listen to me and comfort me. She has been my rock. I thank her everyday for untiring love for me. There is one more thing that I haven't told her about ...
A. 4 July 2010: Of course it hurt her to know that, she's hurt because you were hurt, this was loss for the both of you. If your mother was there for you in everything else then trust that she's still there for you now. Just give her a little moment to swallow ... (read in full...)
Does cheating count when your a kid still?
Q. So, I'm 16 and I've had a boyfriend for quite a while now. Things are good we care about each other and everything but here's the thing, I recently got a job about 3 months ago and since then I've made good friends with a boy who works there. We ...
A. 27 June 2010: Cheating is cheating no matter what the age Sweetheart. If you know that you're not able to commit and you don't want to be tied down, then the best thing to do is be honest and say that. Honesty is the best policy, don't do something to som... (read in full...)
It's so difficult to forget and comprehend why this married man lied to me and then left me?
Q. I was going out with a guy and everything seemed so perfect. He looked happy with me. One day he told me that he was divorced. I didn't freak out because I understand it happens but what really happened was that he was married. His wife called me. ...
A. 22 June 2010: The best thing is to move on with your life...
One of the most common things for a married man to do while he's cheating is to lie. It doesn't make it right & I'm very sorry that you were wronged in this, but that's how they operate. We will nev... (read in full...)
Is it wrong not to tell someone you plan to sleep with?
Q. how wrong is it to not tell someone you're going to sleep with that you have genital warts? i mean is it that big of a deal?...
A. 22 June 2010: Is is that big of a deal?
How immature to even think that way. No one wants to be given any type of STD or Virus of any kind. And it's completely unfair to even consider putting someone in the position of not being able to protect themselv... (read in full...)
Why did my ex-boyfriend do this to me?
Q. I need to get this off my chest and apologise for the write up. My boyfriend broke up with me almost 4 months ago and disconnected his number 2 days later. He has never contacted me since. The story is way too long but here is some. He has be...
A. 22 June 2010: I think you just don't anyone to tell you that "he used you", and if that's true...have it your way. But I see that as being part of the case here.
It doesn't matter if this went on for 2 to 50 years, the fact is that an up, down, in & out rela... (read in full...)
Difference between "love" and "in love"?
Q. I was always wondering wat is the differnece between "loving someonne" and "being in love wif someone". My best friend says that she loves her boyfriend but she isn't in love. I don't know what it means to be in love at least i don't think so. So ...
A. 22 June 2010: Personally I feel that you can love someone but not be in love with them. I think relationships have to progress to the "being in love" point. A person knows when they don't care, love or appreciate someone else. So they also know if they're in love ... (read in full...)
Is he still a virgin?
Q. So the other nite I had sex with a virgin...When we were doing it I felt kind of bad bcuz I wasnt a virgin. Knowing that I was taking his virginity was bad enough so I punkt out and stopped after while...So is he still a virgin?(if he didn't cum)...
A. 21 June 2010: If he penetrated you (The "P" into the "V")...then he is no longer a virgin. ... (read in full...)
We seem to be opposite and argue all the time -- should I leave?
Q. I am 21. My husband is 23 we been married for 3 yrs... But it seems like we have had more fights and arguments then laughs together... We are constantly arguing... It is literally evry other day if not daily... I luv him w all my heart. We have 2 ...
A. 20 June 2010: Glad we could help! :)
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Is he dumping me and looking for someone else?
Q. I don't know what to think? I met this guy online a few months ago and thought we hit it off. For the first month, we just texted and got to know each other and then met up and had a few dates. We then slept together and then things started t...
A. 20 June 2010: It's a little difficult to answer this because at no point did you indicate that you were "in a relationship" with this guy. A few dates, texting, being intimate, etc. doesn't equal a relationship. Especially if you both haven't committed to it. ... (read in full...)
Why might a virgin not bleed?
Q. I am a girl of 19yrs,i meet a boy of 29yrs whom i hv being dating for 2years.recently he has being making life unbearable 4 me because there was no spill of blood or pains as he was the first man i ever had sexual intercourse with.so,what causes a ...
A. 20 June 2010: Well firstly in order to understand why a woman won't bleed, you need to understand the reason she does bleed.
Every woman has a hymen (which is a thin tissue) that surrounds the opening to a woman's vagina. Every hymen is DIFFERENT for every wo... (read in full...)
He's falling in love with me, but it's complicated
Q. I recently starting a serious relationship with a guy that I never thought was going to work out. We are doing well and he tells me everyday he is falling deeper and deeper in love with me. The problem is that I am in love with someone else. When he ...
A. 20 June 2010: How about being honest?
Tell the guy you're "currently in a relationship" with the STATUS of where you are. You really can't have it both ways. Pick one. If you're happier being in the "complicated" thing, then stay there. But make anyone e... (read in full...)
Our relationship is great, except for her past
Q. I know other people have had similar issues so I'm hoping maybe someone can help and suggest ways to deal with it. My fiancee and I have been together almost a year, she means everything to me and I truly do love her. Anyway, she is the first person ...
A. 20 June 2010: I have to say that you really need to get over this. And I mean that with no disrespect to you at all.
I think the main issue is that she's your first. And it's a wonderful thing that you trust & love her enough to have shared yourself with her... (read in full...)
Farewell from an aunt
Q. After being an aunt on this wonderful site for well over 5 years, I've decided to finally see the writing on the wall and call it quits. I truly gave it my best shot and spoke the truth as I know it to be. I will always treasure my time here and the ...
A. 20 June 2010: You're leaving? No. I won't allow it lol
Seriously, thanks for being a fellow aunt! :) Hope you prosper in whatever good things your future brings you!... (read in full...)
We seem to be opposite and argue all the time -- should I leave?
Q. I am 21. My husband is 23 we been married for 3 yrs... But it seems like we have had more fights and arguments then laughs together... We are constantly arguing... It is literally evry other day if not daily... I luv him w all my heart. We have 2 ...
A. 20 June 2010: If you know that your real happiness & focus can come from being away from him. Then you already know what you need to do...leave. Don't be confused about your safety, don't be confused about your peace of mind & having the opportunity to better ... (read in full...)
He's 30 years older than me. Should I make a move on him???
Q. Hello! So, I have a situation here... I am doing an internship and it ends in July, so I have ten more days. The thing is, I've fallen for a man there. But he is 30 years older than me, has been with his partner for 13 years, and has a son - who is ...
A. 20 June 2010: He has a partner & a son, so he's already with someone. That knowledge alone, is a deal breaker, don't become a helper of a cheater at this young age (not even when you're older). You could be getting along well now, but exactly what in common do ... (read in full...)
Problems with oral sex
Q. Help! I love my boyfriend very much and I love being intimate with him. There is, however, a hitch in the get-along. It really turns him on when I swallow, but honestly, I very much so don't like the taste. I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I'd ...
A. 20 June 2010: Hi :)
A lot of times, the mans diet can have a huge affect in how he tastes. So maybe you should try to get your boyfriend to "sweeten" up a little before sex (especially when you know you're going do it). Or use some things (food wise) while yo... (read in full...)
Is a good idea to give someone I met online my number?
Q. After breaking up with my bf, I signed up for an online dating site which is not something I would do in my right mind. But I did it, no regrets. However, several people have messaged me..all of which I did not reply to because they seem to be after ...
A. 19 June 2010: I would say hold off on the number thing. Give him your email and chat that way for a while & since he gave you his number, when you call it, block it. That will give you a bit more ease :)
Be honest with him, tell him that you're not very com... (read in full...)
What are these embarrassing sounds during sex..?
Q. Why does my vagina make farting sounds during sex? It usually happens after penetration and he withdraws his penis, when I resume standing position I hear these embarrassing sounds.How can I lessen it or stop it completely from happening?...
A. 18 June 2010: That's completely normal.
It's called queefing (you can googgle to find out more). Air from the vagina during or after sex. Or even during other sexual acts, stretching and sometimes exercise. It's very popular, so you aren't alone :)
Just ex... (read in full...)
So what does his girlfriend have that I don't????
Q. I met this guy in a nightclub in 2007. I was 23 at the time, and he was 21. We texted each other a lot at the beginning, and we had a lot in common, as we liked the same music and films. We only went on one date, I thought it went well, even though ...
A. 16 June 2010: It obvious that he doesn't have feelings for you in anyway but an friendly/associate way. So you need to respect that & not even think about what could have been. He has a family now. I think you need to let the "infatuation" go & move on to live ... (read in full...)
The married man I am having an affair with is cheating on me!
Q. im having an affair to a married man and we are now six years, the problem is he's having a fling relationship to another woman, how can i stop him on this kind of habit i feel so hurt and jealous..what will i do for him should i leave him but i ...
A. 16 June 2010: He's a cheater. You can't stop that. You can't change a cheater. He's cheating on his wife...not on you or any other woman. The affair you have with him is just an affair, not a relationship. And if you can feel that way about him "cheating" on you, ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel more horny when in your period?
Q. Kind of awkward to ask this but I don't know who else to really go to. I'm 19 and I just wondering if it is normal to get more horny than NORMALLY during your period? Honestly, I can;t stop thinking about sex, and pretty much any other activity. If ...
A. 16 June 2010: Having sex at the time of month isn't impossible or unheard of. And it's not always messy, it's up to the couple if they really want to try it :) ... (read in full...)
Fiance can only stay for two days of the vacation with friends, is it ok if I stay for the full term without her?
Q. My fiance and I are going on a mini beach vacation about an hour and a half away from our home for a 3-day weekend with a group of our friends. My fiance has to work the following Monday and I do not. Should I have to go home a day early with m...
A. 15 June 2010: SHE has to work, you don't...seems pretty clear to me that you should be able to stay. Seems a little unfair for her to want you to return with her. That's quite unreasonable.
However, if you staying would cause a serious rift of problems... (read in full...)
Obsessed with the idea that he might leave me
Q. Hello, Ok, so I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now. Everything is going great so far. He is a lovely man, and I absolutely adore him. We get along really well and have lots of fun together. He tells me he loves me everyday and has said...
A. 15 June 2010: Okay let's breathe together...ready? Go! *inhale, exhale*
Sweetheart you've gotta relax! I do understand how you feel to a certain point. But also, you've got to understand that you need to ENJOY the relationship, not run through with being wo... (read in full...)
Should I take this pregnant ex serious? or just move on?
Q. Hi all ok so i could use some advice,, Basically this girl i was really close to we where knda sorta togather n a long distance relation ship,, well things where going good for awhile but she started goin with this guy she fell in love with him got ...
A. 15 June 2010: One girl is not the ONLY girl. There are others & it is very possible for you to be with someone else.
I believe that you need to move on, and open your eyes to the other fish in the sea. She is young and evidently despite what she's told you, she... (read in full...)
Does 'hard times,' influence people to cheat and say "I love you" to other girls...?
Q. my fiance cheated on by talking to another girl and telling her he loves her and i found out.he said he changed he was just passing through hard times.but im finding it difficult to trust him.i always disturb him and argue...
A. 15 June 2010: If everyone, absolutely EVERYONE went through this life & blamed their infidelities & wrongful doing to others on "hard time", what a sad world to live in. And a horrible lie to tell.
Your fiance is using "hard times" as a cheap, lowdown scapegoa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's STD test came back all clear...does that mean I'm in the clear too?
Q. I split up with my ex boyfriend the end of 2008. After we split i took it really hard and slept with quite a few guys over the next few months but only used protection with some of them. Now please don't lecture me on protection, i know what i have ...
A. 15 June 2010: If you haven't been to the doctor for YOURSELF, then you don't know if you have anything at all. Honestly at your age, that's something that you should know...not trying to be rude.
If you can write to us and ask this question, then you can go t... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date someone who you have no intention of marrying? Yet they do..?
Q. My girlfriend and i am dating for 8 months but we haven't had sex yet. The reason why we didn't have sex is she wants to lose her virginity ONLY to someone she wants to marry. She is a virgin, I am not. And the fact is that she wanna marry me in the ...
A. 15 June 2010: You know what you need to do...
You're not wrong for not wanting to get married at this point or to her in general, you are still young & you still have time, that's understandable. But you are wrong in the fact that you are leading this young wo... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel more horny when in your period?
Q. Kind of awkward to ask this but I don't know who else to really go to. I'm 19 and I just wondering if it is normal to get more horny than NORMALLY during your period? Honestly, I can;t stop thinking about sex, and pretty much any other activity. If ...
A. 14 June 2010: That's normal...
Girrrlll I completely understand how you feel lol
The main reason is because of our hormones at that particular time. And every woman experiences different things also :) ... (read in full...)
I just found out my bf was married but separated, yet JUST signed divorce papers!
Q. Before anyone makes any assumptions, here's the background story: I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years. The first few months he lived at home with his parents to catch up on debts. I would stay over all the time, and no one in his famil...
A. 12 June 2010: Female Anonymous answer below,
You have a right to disagree, but while you do so, do your research.
It does not matter that you are "separated", if you have not completely terminated, finalized the divorce by law, you are STILL LEGALLY married.... (read in full...)
He won't stand up to his mom for me!
Q. My partners mum will not allow me to go to any family functions for birthdays etc. It was his birthday last month so he went to his mums house which is across the road for a birthday dinner. He asked if I could attend and she said no. Last night ...
A. 12 June 2010: If he has to ask permission to bring the person he's with along, then obviously he himself has some growing up to do.
This is not a matter to sweep under the rug or for you to "be hurt enough" to begin dealing with it. You need to speak to his m... (read in full...)
Is our custody arrangement damaging my baby?
Q. hi i really need advice for my question. Basically, I have a 2 month old son with a man, my ex, who I am not in a relationship with. However, he is a very good dad to my son. Unfortunately, me and him do not get on and argue when we are together ...
A. 9 June 2010: You're the mother & the father is the father...point blank.
As long as you both are comfortable with the choices that you make for your son, then that's what matters. Don't let anyone dictate to you what should be done between you, your child & your... (read in full...)
He put it in me, am I still a virgin?
Q. Okay well tonight me and my boyfriend were fooling around and we decided to try do IT for the first time, i was a virgin he wasnt, well anyways he only put it in a bit but it really hurt soo i told him to stop, my question is am i still a virgin?, ...
A. 4 June 2010: No problem Hun :)... (read in full...)
He put it in me, am I still a virgin?
Q. Okay well tonight me and my boyfriend were fooling around and we decided to try do IT for the first time, i was a virgin he wasnt, well anyways he only put it in a bit but it really hurt soo i told him to stop, my question is am i still a virgin?, ...
A. 4 June 2010: Doc-virus,
The young lady is NOT a virgin any longer. She obviously has some clue that his penis DID enter her & she had bleeding afterwards. Your point is valid in the fact that once the Hymen breaks, you're no longer a virgin & all of the fact... (read in full...)
Relationship/long distance advice needed!
Q. Hi, I met a guy online on a chat site, we have been chatting for ages on both msn and skype. I really like him and he's told me he likes me too. He calls me baby, has nicknames for me, is sympaethic when i've had a bad day, pops on just to say hi a...
A. 4 June 2010: You say you've been talking to him for "ages", but exactly how long is that? That's a piece of information that we would need to know.
Long distance is a hard thing to do. I know that because I've been in one for the past 6 years (now engaged:... (read in full...)
He put it in me, am I still a virgin?
Q. Okay well tonight me and my boyfriend were fooling around and we decided to try do IT for the first time, i was a virgin he wasnt, well anyways he only put it in a bit but it really hurt soo i told him to stop, my question is am i still a virgin?, ...
A. 3 June 2010: If a penis is inserted in your vagina either fully or partially, you are NO LONGER A VIRGIN. ... (read in full...)
He's not sure if there is an "us"
Q. I really, really need some input here. I have been with my current BF for almost 8 yrs.He's 31, I'm 40. He has a job that takes him away from home most weeknights, and when he is home he's too tired to go out and do anything together, which I can ...
A. 2 June 2010: Hi :)
As hard as it may be for you too accept or come to terms with, he's literally putting it out there that this is the end for him. He obviously doesn't want to work it out, doesn't want the counseling, you say that he has no interest, etc. Tho... (read in full...)
How can I win over his mother?
Q. Hi, I am 26 and my boyfriend is 31. He's Muslim and I'm Christian. I am learning Arabic and plan to convert to Islam. We have been together for over a year. We have been seriously discussing marriage recently. He plans to introduce me to ...
A. 1 June 2010: There's really not much that you can do, except be yourself,be respectful & be honest w/ her. Just be the person that you are, you can change SOME things for your boyfriend/future husband to be- but not his mother, that should be the limit. ... (read in full...)
I just found out my bf was married but separated, yet JUST signed divorce papers!
Q. Before anyone makes any assumptions, here's the background story: I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years. The first few months he lived at home with his parents to catch up on debts. I would stay over all the time, and no one in his famil...
A. 1 June 2010: Hi Hun :)
Let me be very honest. You say that "Never had I asked him if he used to be married, so it's not as if he lied to me."
Sweetheart, an UNSPOKEN lie, is STILL A LIE nonetheless. No excuse for that! He KNEW that he was STILL MARRIED. Y... (read in full...)
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