What's wrong with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 14 and my boyfriends 16 soon, he wants to have sex but I'm not sure I do, he's not a virgin but I am! He always gets drunk and high, it dosent bother me usually but recently he feels me up and sticks his hands down my pants and top in front of ...
A. 29 August 2011: Don't stay in a relationship with someone who is threatening and forceful. There are lots of guys out there who will be willing to let you discover yourself in your own time and many who would certainly not go to hit another women. Time to think ... (read in full...)
My fiance says he doesn't trust me!
Q. I have been with my partner for 6 1/2 yrs, we are coming up to our 1yr anniversary for when we got engaged. And yesterday, he tells me that he doesnt trust me. He didnt give me specifics...but he says he has problems trusting people...is that a good ...
A. 29 August 2011: Trust is central to long lasting relationships, without trust the relationship lacks a vital ingredient. You need to sit down with him and find out exactly what his trust issues are and how you can work through them together. The best way to do this ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a partner sending nude photos to others?
Q. I am wondering what someone say about this situation. If you are in a relationship with someone, a long term relationship, is it ok for one of those people to send nude pictures of themself to other random people online, in hopes of getting some ...
A. 29 August 2011: You need to discus this behaviour with your partner. They are unlikely to be happy if you were the one sending the photo's. You need to find new ways to excite your sex life and relationship so that no one feels the need to tail off. ... (read in full...)
She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 29 August 2011: Is it the fact that she has lied which is the issue or the fact that she has slept with other men? If you truly love this girl then her past should not present issues at this stage. She may have lied purely because the truth would of stopped you two ... (read in full...)
Why does cheating thrill me?
Q. Why does the thought and act of cheating thrill me? I have cheated on my gf twice now both times on purpose. I still love her but I like to cheat I don't want to hurt her....
A. 29 August 2011: Most likely to be the adrenaline rush you will get from the sneaking around and the thought that you may get caught can give people an additional turn on. You need to find ways to excite and thrill you in your own relationship that stops you from ... (read in full...)
Husband verbally and emotionally abusive. What do I do?
Q. im 21 years old and met my husband half way through last year.. he was the most charming, handsome man id ever met and id prior had several really bad relationships.. when i met my husband, ive literally never been so happy in my life.. we were so ...
A. 19 June 2011: You need to seriously consider if you wish to stay in the relationship with him being emotionally abusive in this way. Are you willing to put up with this behaviour?
I suggest taking some time out to consider your own feelings and what you want in l... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend refuses to talk about my miscarriage!
Q. Hey guys, I posted a while back about wheather to tell my long distance boyfriend that I'd had a miscariage. I didn't know I was pregnant and there was complications with the miscariage I was very ill. Of course I told him and ever since thing...
A. 19 June 2011: Guys often find this very difficult to deal with as well as of course the women involved. These situations are very stressful and upsetting for anyone but particularly challenging at your age and with the fact that a friend of yours has just had a ... (read in full...)
Is kissing the girl you love is everything in a relationship?
Q. I love her so much.. But we have not kissed each other yet.. Now she is in abroad for study.. Before i couldn't ask her for kiss because i didn't want to hurt her feelings.. Just last night of the day she was leaving the place, i asked for k kiss, ...
A. 18 June 2011: don't worry about anything, everything will happen when the time is rite. Relax yourself in the relationship and things will fall in place!! Have fun :)... (read in full...)
Why, after all this time, do I still feel this way about her?
Q. I hurt this girl I honestly do love and care about almost a year ago. It resulted in the end of our friendship and possible romantic relationship. I was an idiot and apologized and I get she has a right to be mad at me. It happended in an ...
A. 18 June 2011: It would be helpful to know exactly what it was that you did if you are willing to share that with us? Sounds like you still having feelings for this girl, if this is potentially your first possible romance then it can be quite normal to become o... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to bleed?
Q. Hi I would like to seek some advice. My bf and I had intercourse for the first time. We're both virgins. But I did not bleed. I thought virgins are supposed to bleed on their first time. Is it normal?...
A. 17 June 2011: Not everyone does don't worry, It may have stretched or may have broken years ago when if you did certain sports such as gymnastics or horse riding. Nothing to worry about at all!!... (read in full...)
My crush asked me out but the date was boring!
Q. So this guy i liked finally asked me out, i went and had an okay time, the thing is i was bored through most of it and i dont like him as much any more. i dont want to hurt the guy's feelings but i dont want to lead him on either. ...
A. 17 June 2011: Truth is not always the easy option but is always the best! If you have had this crush on someone for a long time that you can build up very high expectations of them, give the relationship time, I would suggest a second date and you try to spice ... (read in full...)
First time, split condom, could I be pregnant?
Q. i'm freaking out, i had sex for the first time this weekend and the condom split. how much chance is there that i'm pregnant? i'm on the pill, he hadn't ejaulated yet, and there was no pre-cum because he had ejaculated before we had sex. do i...
A. 16 June 2011: Providing you were taking the pill correctly and had not missed any doses then you should be OK. I would suggest get yourself a pregnancy test to be sure, but the chances are very slim. Keep taking your contraceptive pills as per normal and use ... (read in full...)
He gets horny over my baby bump. Is this normal?
Q. hey. i am 4 months pregnant. i have been with my boyfriend for 12 months, however it is not his baby. he knows, he's accepted it (i think) and he forgave me for cheating on him. anyway, now i am starting to get a bump. this seems to send my boyfr...
A. 16 June 2011: Not a normal reaction at all, especially as the baby is not his. He may be trying to convince himself that the baby is his, I would like to suggest counselling but I am not convinced that would be the answer, nor that he would attend. Explain to ... (read in full...)
Question about feminie hygiene
Q. well i have a situation. i wash my vagina area everyday more than once and it still smells i am a virgin and everything i just dont know why it doesnt smell good?...
A. 16 June 2011: wash once a day with clean water and natural soap and dry immediately. I would also just pay your doctor a visit to ensure there is nothing more serious going on. Remember: lots of women have the same issue so it is nothing to be embarrassed about ... (read in full...)
Did it too early?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We had sex after only 2 months... but we're still together. Months and months ago we would always fight- but it's gotten better. We still have a few issues between us though. And I'm thinking that if ...
A. 16 June 2011: Sounds like you have both discovered each other better now ... you will now when the time is right to start a sexual relationship with your partner and it seems to me that this was the rite time. :)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of two years direspected my family member-he apologized but should I still dump him?
Q. My question is what should I do? Should I stay with him or should I dump the guy? So long story short one of my family members is a police officer and I was talking about him, to my boyfriend whom I have been dating for almost two year. My boyfriend ...
A. 24 May 2011: Firstly it is not uncommon for people to have a negative attitude towards police officers or actually just authority. It sounds as if your boyfriend now realises his error and is trying to redeem himself. I think you need to accept his apology and ... (read in full...)
I am really sexually confused.and need advice.
Q. I will be 18 this year and I am still a virgin and the reason why is because I'm so confused and scared. So I spend time watching porn gay and straight and I am so sexually confused. I find a gay interesting first and ive been looking since about ...
A. 24 May 2011: This confusion is a very natural part of development and most people will not admit it but will have had the same confusions. The think you have to think about is do you have sexual thoughts of other men or is just that you don't for women? I would ... (read in full...)
I am really sexually confused.and need advice.
Q. I will be 18 this year and I am still a virgin and the reason why is because I'm so confused and scared. So I spend time watching porn gay and straight and I am so sexually confused. I find a gay interesting first and ive been looking since about ...
A. 24 May 2011: This confusion is a very natural part of development and most people will not admit it but will have had the same confusions. The think you have to think about is do you have sexual thoughts of other men or is just that you don't for women? I would ... (read in full...)
My bf thought I was asleep and started masturbating to porn. How should I deal with this?
Q. Hi new to this! But just wondering. Iv been with my boyfreind for 6months now and we live in our own flat. Everythings great etc and Yesterday we had sex during The day, and I fell asleep in bed cuddled up to my boyfriend about 1am this morning...
A. 24 May 2011: Completely agree with Aunty Honest on this, most men do prefer the real thing 100%, I would talk to him calmly and explain that you appreciate that he does it, however you do not wish to witness it. Alternatively try watching porn together, you may ... (read in full...)
I told him he could sleep with other girls while he was away, but it's killing me. Should I try to make it work when he gets back?
Q. I am writing this because I feel like I need an outside perspective on my situation. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now, I am 16, he is 19. In January, he left for China to teach for his gap year. Obviously this was going to be hard...
A. 24 May 2011: It sounds to me like the relationship has some basic trust issues, you need to fully trust each other in order for a relationship to last over time. If he is in a relationship with you then he should not be dishonest even if he is away. I think the ... (read in full...)
Both virgins, on birth control pills.... do I REALLY need a condom?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins but we are planning on having sex in a couple of weeks. She's started taking birth control pills so there is no chance of her getting pregnant. We havent had sex so STI's are also out of the equation so do i ...
A. 31 January 2011: Get into the habit from the word go otherwise you may be tempted to not use them in the future if you have a different sexual partner. ... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay, bi or just curious?
Q. I have been with my husband for 5 years, had 3 children the youngest of which is 2 weeks old. During our early days I found my husband had cheated on me so since then have never trusted him. I know it is wrong but I check his phone a lot and ...
A. 22 December 2010: Firstly looking through your husbands phone is not really a good move to make - as this opens you up to very difficult situations and may tell you things that you really do not want to know. It is not unusual for men to be curious and look up ... (read in full...)
Why do these guys hit on me?
Q. First off.. I'm not a whore..but I feel like many people "including friends" think I am!! All the guys with girlfriends ask me to get with them but I always say no! And I know I don't lead these guys on I mean I'm nice to them but they are all my ...
A. 22 December 2010: Don't look too hard, just try and be yourself and the rite guy will come along eventually. You may be unknowingly appearing flirtatious with other males who could be getting the wrong end of the stick and think that you are coming on to them. ... (read in full...)
My Cousin's seduction strategies are working, now I want it
Q. I met my cousin for the first time a year and a half ago during the summer. She moved down to my state to attend college in the city. Long story short i realized that she has been trying to make attempts to seduce me. Trying to undress in the same ...
A. 22 December 2010: This is a very risky game, my immediate advice would be to stay clear from any sexual activity with family members. If it is going to happen I suggest you do not bring it up, be sure that she definitely wants it first as you may have got the wrong ... (read in full...)
I say I love him, but does he really love me?
Q. So, I'm 15 and I've been with this boy (he's 16) for about 4 months now. And I know that I really care for him and I love him but I know i'm not IN LOVE with him. he tells me he loves me and I say it back. but I always wonder if he really does love ...
A. 22 December 2010: You say that you are not in love with him??? I suggest you think about exactly what you are hoping to get out of the relationship. If you are unsure about things between the two of you, talk about your feelings with him.... (read in full...)
Should I date him and not tell anyone?
Q. okay so i have 3 classes with one of my closest guy friends..we talk about literaly everything.. even about sex for ex. when he went and got his physical.. he says he got "raped"..it was funny but we literaly do talk about anything and he doesnt ...
A. 22 December 2010: Very dangerous game - The question is: are you willing to sacrifice your friendship for this guy? My advice, at your age friends last, relationships don't tend to. I would stay well away from this guy.... (read in full...)
Should I think there is still something going on between them, or are they really just 'best friends'?
Q. Well..Ive been dating this guy for about 4 months now and am so in love, but like every other relationship we have our share of problems. In the beginning I wasnt the only girl that he was seeing at the time. He lied about the other girl even when I ...
A. 21 December 2010: If I was you, I would question him about why he continues to lie about this other girl with you. Also as he has a history of cheating you need to watch that it doesn't happen again. I also think that he is going a little OTT on gifts at Xmas if this ... (read in full...)
Baby is on the way, how do I tell him when we have broken up??
Q. Hiya girls and guys. I recently found out that I'm pregnant. I'm only 17 and the father is 19. We broke up about a month ago but we're still friends. He is unemployed at the moment and still lives with his parents. I'm a student and I was hoping to ...
A. 20 December 2010: Firstly have you spoke to your family about this situation, there support both financially and emotionally. I would suggest telling the guy face to face if you can do, that way he is less likely to be funny about the whole situation. Also he may be ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be in a relationship and not use tongues?
Q. This isn't anything serious - I saw a question yesterday and it got me thinking. I hate snogging (as in kissing with tongues.)I've been with my boyfriend for a while now (just over a year) and when we first started dating that's how we used to kiss ...
A. 20 December 2010: I wouldn't worry about it if I was you. Everyone has preferences when it comes to kissing. Just do whatever you and your boyfriend are comfortable with.... (read in full...)
I kissed a girl on my course, both in relationships, do I approach the subject?
Q. It was our christmas party at University last night and we all out for drinks afterwards. I ended up spending most of the night hanging out with a girl I get on with on the course. We where both drunk and things where a bit flirtatious between us ...
A. 20 December 2010: Just a one off drunken night out. They happen. I wouldn't worry about it. Leave the subject alone unless she wishes to bring it up.... (read in full...)
Should I try to keep the relationship going regardless??
Q. People in the story : Me (year 9) His ex-gf (year 11) And my boyfriend (year 10) The other girl in this story dated my boyfriend a little while ago. He dumped her because he really didnt like her anymore and then he asked me out a few o...
A. 20 December 2010: My advice: Don't worry about what everyone else thinks and get on with enjoying your relationship with your Boyfriend. She is just jealous that you and this guy have something and she doesn't. Ignore all these people - things like this will blow ... (read in full...)
How can I make him aware of my feelings for him?
Q. Ok theres this guy ive liked since march when a mate told me to add 2 facebook The only problam is i cant tell him i like him, i once again i can getting another gf, he had one then split up, still single at the moment tho :) Anyway this guy i...
A. 19 December 2010: Firstly you need to stop trying to act like a friend to him as he needs to see you as Girlfriend material for things to work. As for the casual sex this needs to stop as you have too deeper feelings for him by the sounds of things. Don't put ... (read in full...)
I've slept with 3 different guys in 3 weeks!
Q. I'm 30 year old female and have slept with 3 different guys in 3 weeks. I'm wondering if I have problem or if is this something I should just feel content about? ...
A. 19 December 2010: As long as you are having safe sex and you both are only wanting sex then there is nothing wrong with it. Casual sex will eventually become unfulfilling and you will want something more at some point. Think about long term plans.... (read in full...)
He dumped me because I'm not his mother's choice!!!
Q. Hello there, I posted a previous question earlier, it was about my boyfriend, who i dated for quite a long time, our relationship was beautiful, we were deeply in love with each other and then he just ditched me in the minute out of nowhere saying t...
A. 19 December 2010: It sounds to me like you are fighting a loosing battle. It is likely that he is being honest with you that he loves you, but obviously wants to keep his mother happy.
This is a very complex situation and I think it is going to come down to a choi... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend abusive???
Q. My boyfriend and have been dating for amost a month, we talked for 4 months before dating. My boyfriend and I are both sixteen... I would say my boyfriend and I are a lot more mature than most our age, being that we have both been through a lot. So ...
A. 19 December 2010: Firstly things are going to be very uncomfortable sexually if you don't feel ready.
Also you say that he is sarcastic etc. before you have sex - this is a sign that he is insecure with his own ability and by making jokes etc. at your expense he w... (read in full...)
The long and the short of it!
Q. I consider myself short at 5'8". I have always had a strong attraction to taller women. The taller the better. Is this normal... do most guys around my height feel this way and do very tall women feel that attraction to shorter men?...
A. 19 December 2010: 5ft 8 is not that short to be honest. As for tall women that is an unusual attraction, however in my experience most very tall women like taller men as they feel more secure in these relationships but everyone is different. If you find the rite ... (read in full...)
I just want a guy to respect me!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 18 years old i just got out of a 2 year relationship 4 months ago with a guy, im gunna call bob in this story haha but im redeemed and would like to start dating again. I just dont know where to look for a guy who repects me, trea...
A. 19 December 2010: My advice would be to look for a guy who is interested in you and your personality, not someone who wants to just get you in bed!
If everyone in your school knows about your past then have you thought about dating someone from outside of school who ... (read in full...)
Unwanted attention from a 6th grader, but how to discourage her professionally and gently?
Q. Hi, I'm a freshman and I do a lot of volunteer work at the BGCA. If I have 120 registered hours at the club, I get a full credit toward my highschool transcript. I have this girlfriend, "Dana" and we're very happy. However, there's this girl who goes...
A. 19 December 2010: I presume that you are older than a girl in the 6th grade (12/13yrs) so therefore you need to explain that it is inappropriate for her to act that way around you. Put a bit of distance between the two of you and try and avoid close contact wher... (read in full...)
Trying to date a real life celebrity... Advice desperatly needed. I think she is playing me!
Q. Hi guys, I'm in desperate need of advice, so please can everyone write a response... i'll be forever greatfull! My question is... am i being played?! And is it desperate to take the earliest date she is free? How should I play it? Back Stor...
A. 19 December 2010: It seems that you are both very busy people at the moment working hard at your careers. Do you think that you have enough time to give to a relationship? It sounds to me like she probably see's you as more of a mate than Boyfriend material as more ... (read in full...)
He sent me a freaky message and now I don't know what to do!
Q. i was friends with this boy last year but we dont really talk anymore. well, when i say friends, we had to sit together in a lesson but ive never really liked him, although he's always had a bit of a 'thing' for me - flirting, trying to hold hands, ...
A. 19 December 2010: It is clear that this guy is interested in you and obviously thinks that things may possibly work out. If you are not interested at all then you do need to make this clear to him as it is unfair to string him along. Tell him that you know it is fr... (read in full...)
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