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He barely texts me after 5th time sex!

Q.   I was dating with this guy from work almost 6 months and slept with him after a month. He was taking me on a date and everything was perfect until I receive an answer from him to the question how was his night was after 3 months. Saying he was in ...

A.   22 November 2015: he's just using you you clearly want more... (read in full...)

Bi-Curious But Not Sure How To Explore This...

Q.   I'm a girl, in my early 20s. People say I'm ok looking (get asked out a lot by guys) but I'm kind of introverted and focused on my studies etc haha so never had a boyfriend before. However I realised recently that I might be into girls too. Not s...

A.   22 November 2015: just wait and see how you feel. don't be ashamed and don't shame others :) enjoy it because there are some really big differences and you only get to learn about them once really i guess xx... (read in full...)

She's a silly 19 year old with a baby and an overbearing mother! How do I withdraw my offer to talk to her?

Q.   I have a lodger who is in his early 20's. He has a 19 year old girlfriend who stays over 3 nights a week. This is fine with me. I find her silly, stupid and totally lacking in the brains department but it's none of my business. Recently my lo...

A.   4 October 2014: Wow it sounds like she might really need help. I know from friends that being denied the right right to look after your child can have a serious effect on you. And could be what's turning her towards drugs. Maybe you can offer him out of his ... (read in full...)

Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?

Q.   my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyo...

A.   4 October 2014: You know he is lying. So just tell him. If you need help you can always post another question explaining the situstion... (read in full...)

I can't be with both girls! I have a lovely girl here but what about the one who I met in Florida?

Q.   Thank you for reading - it's quite funny as I'm normally the one my friends ask for advice, yet here I am asking you all... It's been hard and I haven't been able to sleep much so I really need an outside perspective- thank you. I met a girl about...

A.   2 October 2014: Like I said to another similar question... your gf deserves respect and dedication. Not to be with someone deeply infatuated with others. So maybe it's time to move on for her sake too. So she can find real happiness... (read in full...)

Do I end a 3 year relationship and take a gamble on someone I think I have stronger feelings for or do I stick with what I have?

Q.   I have a bit problem, and subsequent decision to make... two girls fighting for me and my affections. On one side i have my patner who i've been with for 3 years, i'm happy / content with her but id say not madly in love. the other side ...

A.   2 October 2014: Well if you have respect for.your gf at the moment maybe tou should leave her as she deserves to be with someone that loves her and respects her... (read in full...)

Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?

Q.   my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyo...

A.   2 October 2014: It sounds like he is initiating an affair. Now its your choice . You can stay with a man who treats you second best or you can work through it after confronting him.... (read in full...)

What makes a person interesting and why are some people ignored?

Q.   what makes a person interesting? Im an accepting and kind/caring person, Im quieter, single,a few friends who I see occasionally but are often very busy, but I enjoy conversation one to one and in small groups and I can be quiet assert...

A.   2 October 2014: You sound defeated! I was having a similar problem. I moved abroad a long way from home and everyone in the community I live already had a clique. But after a while of being smiley and making an effort to ask them about themselves I found that ... (read in full...)

Should I trust my boyfriend or not?

Q.   my bf and I have been dating for a week and 3 days. we have hugged a few times but thats all. plus I think hes flirting with other girls. he has also drawled me pictures but I dont know if I should trust him. should i?...

A.   2 October 2014: Why do you think that? If you are in school he will have other friends who are female. There is nothing wrong with that... (read in full...)

The 40 Year Old (Almost) Virgin

Q.   Hey Aunties! I turned 41 years old this year and while I am not a virgin I am close! Back in college (1992-1993) I did have a gf that I had sex with for about 6 months but that has been the extent of my lifetime sexual activity. Women just aren'...

A.   30 September 2014: So have you tried joining groups of stuff your interested in? If there is someone you like why not ask them out! Just go for it or you'll regret it. Have Have you ever joined any dating websites, or possibly it's just not your thing. You aren'... (read in full...)

I am dating a guy 5 years younger than me and am afraid his friends are laughing behind our backs

Q.   Recently I have started seeing a guy who is five years younger then me, he is 19, and I have just turned 24. I have known him a while, as my friend is in a relationship with his older brother, and things started up in the last few months. He i...

A.   30 September 2014: Have you tried explaining to your friend explaining to your friend that you are hurt by these comments? Maybe you can just say you are. Or Or if you feel less strongly about it at some point maybe you can just make a joke back about them being old ... (read in full...)

Do I ask my boyfriend if he wants more time to himself? Or wants out?

Q.   Im been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Lately he has started staying at his house more and more. Im hardly seeing him. Do i ask him out right - "do you want time on your own" or "if you would like to finish ower relationship?" ...

A.   30 September 2014: Why not just ask him why your spending so little time together. Explain this hurts you and you would like to change it. Hopefully he will... (read in full...)

Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?

Q.   my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyo...

A.   30 September 2014: Ok. It doesn't make it better at all. Maybe it even makes it worse. But it's so easy to type things on the internet and feel like it's another world. I really think the ease of sending an out of order message is a serious problem so many people have ... (read in full...)

Could the abuse I suffered as a child explain my same-sex attraction?

Q.   I'm 24 years old. As a child and teen, I experienced sexual abuse growing up in Saudi Arabia. My mother is full Saudi and my father is an American military man. I was born in the U.S. and am an american citizen, but moved to Saudi when I was one and ...

A.   30 September 2014: I guess it depends what you see sexuality as. I personally don't think it's fixed I think it can change depending on the people we meet. For me sexuality is more fluid, I would say a lot of bisexual people I know know feel the same... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend of 7 years but have fallen for another man!

Q.   Dear cupid,my heart is torn in two and I sincerely don't know what to do.I'm 28 years old and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7years now(I've been totally faithful to him) along the line he cheated twice but I forgave him, and ...

A.   30 September 2014: Try things with the new guy. Your boyfriend sounds like a nasty guy who can not be trusted! ... (read in full...)

Hardened intuition- trust or not??

Q.   My long distance boyfriend (we are in our late 40s) insists that he is fully committed to me, is exclusive and has plans for us to retire together In 10 years... He was married for a year when he was 19 then played the field as a partying bachelor. ...

A.   29 September 2014: You can totally do better than that. Trust your instinct! He sounds like he's stringing you along. Unless he can settle down your wasting your time. ... (read in full...)

I told her I had a crush and now I don't know if she hates me

Q.    so, I have had this crush on one of my female friends,who i will refer 2 as SN, for months now, and i had only told 1 person im a bi female, my best friend. SN is one of my best friends 2 other best friends.So anyway, i got sick of keeping it from ...

A.   27 September 2014: It sounds like you deserve better. Maybe you need to try and change in with some new friends and try get over the crush. ... (read in full...)

After cheating, does he really want our relationship to work?

Q.   Hi everyone, just a quick question. I want your views on cheating. Not a one night stand, a full on affair over a period of weeks. The affair was called off before I found out, apparently they mutually agreed that this was not fair and could n...

A.   27 September 2014: It sounds like he's sorry. But I guess if his dedication and action disappears then it will feel different. I think it's totally possible for him to be genuinely sorry but it's really up to you if you feel your relationship can ever be the same ... (read in full...)

Do I ask him about the condoms in his trash?

Q.   I feel like a complete idiot for even asking this, but would you ask your boyfriend why he had a couple of used condoms in his rubbish bin when you have been away for a few days and you don't even use condoms?! I went away for a five day mini br...

A.   27 September 2014: You need to ask him. But it sounds like even if he says nothing happened you'll find that hard to believe. If he's a cheater that's a pretty big red flag... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my cousin and want to get rid of these feelings

Q.   Dear Cupid, i think i maybe be in love or infatuated with my cousin. Him and i met at a funeral a couple of months ago, the attraction from my side was instant, we didn't know we were related.We exchanged numbers and have been in constant contact ...

A.   27 September 2014: You just need to cut contact and both cool off. Agree not to talk for a couple of months. It's either that or the look on your parents face when they find out your banging your cousin... (read in full...)

Please help me! Is my fiancé abusing me?

Q.   So my fiancé thinks that its okay to look at girls who are way skinnier than me and then gets mad when a guy looks at me in a good way. He consistantly will do this right in front of me then tells me that im an attention whore and wants me to wear...

A.   27 September 2014: Woah. Abuse isn't always physical. He sounds like a total control freak and like he has the potential to be a lot worse. Dump him before its even harder... (read in full...)

I lied with a fake ID and fake photo. Now he knows the truth he's blocked me. What can I do?

Q.   I love a guy bt I sent him fake photos and used to speak to him using a fake id. we are in a long distance relationshp for 6 months. He is the son of my friend and her neighbour.. He knows my sister because my sister lives same place as my friend...

A.   27 September 2014: Take this a lesson on what not to do. You will never get his trust now and just don't do it again as you could could be missing out on something great... (read in full...)

It feels like the passion is gone

Q.   Recently in my relationship with my long term boyfriend I've felt the passion leave our relationship. We've been together 2 years and moved in with 2 others for financial university reasons. Recently I've been feeling neglected and he doesn't show ...

A.   27 September 2014: Yeah your right he probably will do the same again. Pre has its time for you you to both move on. If you can't imagine yourself staying with him like that forever then it's probably best to sort your own life out and move on... (read in full...)

How do I handle my best friend who is convinced that I had sex with her husband when this is not true?

Q.   My best friend of 35 yrs has accused me and her husband of having affair. We never had a misunderstanding not once .her husband texted me about 3:45 am one morning asking me to listen to him. He and my bestfriend had been arguing so he wanted me...

A.   26 September 2014: Talk about getting dragged into someone else's mess. Its not cool for a friend to accuse you and her husband of that. I'd back off until she can sincerely say sorry and sadly it sounds like it would be hard to return to normal for you any time soon. ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to express interest in other people as a married couple?

Q.   Is it normal to express interest in other people as a married couple? My husband, who has always been faithful to me recently confessed that he 'liked' another woman he and I both knew several years ago. He had always denied it, but recently he ...

A.   26 September 2014: I think it's normal to be attracted. But to really like another person is a bit dangerous. I think older than dirt's advice sounded pretty good... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is never horny anymore!

Q.   so ive been dating this girl for 2 years things are going okay besides the fact that we argue so much and she is very immature at times .. But anyways i really been stressing because we've always had sex every single day almost multiple times aday ...

A.   26 September 2014: Hm I have to agree about the immature comment. Maybe Maybe she senses you have little respect for her as a person and only want sex. That may not be the case but it's basically what it sounds like... (read in full...)

Should I Tell My Friend About her Friend Quizzing Me?

Q.   I recently went to an event to support a friend. While I was there I spoke with two of her friends there who were a couple. The wife started asking me multiple questions about my friend including her work schedule. I simply said I didn't know her ...

A.   26 September 2014: Maybe you can mention it in a casual way "Oh yeah, x and x were asking me about you" At least then if it doesn't mean anything you haven't made made a big deal of it... (read in full...)

It feels like the passion is gone

Q.   Recently in my relationship with my long term boyfriend I've felt the passion leave our relationship. We've been together 2 years and moved in with 2 others for financial university reasons. Recently I've been feeling neglected and he doesn't show ...

A.   26 September 2014: Have you explicity said these things too him? Although perhaps not in the same way. Unless he is psychic he might not realise... (read in full...)

I want to date its been 13 years but I don't want to be hurt!

Q.   Dear cupid, I am a single mature woman my children are grown I want a relationship but I been through so much with men that did not deserve me til I don't know whether I'm going or coming .My son thinks I should leave life alone because he have ...

A.   26 September 2014: Maybe your not in the right place to start dating at the moment if your feeling vulnerable or like you say, can't take the pain. You need to be happy with yourself first and foremost :)... (read in full...)

Why am I less affectionate towards him? Is this the end of the honeymoon phase, or worse?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We are doing very well and are happy together. I used to be really physically affectionate toward him but less recently. He is however the same as before toward me. There is totally nothing ...

A.   9 November 2012: i'm afraid i can not offer advice but just say i know exactly how you feel. all of a sudden i do not car so much about affection and i wonder if we are supposed to just be friends?... (read in full...)

A few questions on Birth Control pills

Q.   Okay, so this will be a few questions concerning birth control pills and its effectiveness. This is for my own purpose only, not for any scientific purposes. The subjects will be those of you who had or taking birth control pills, and have one part...

A.   9 November 2012: 1 -pretty much same time, when my alarm goes off 2-no 3- no 4- yes ... (read in full...)

I can't stop thinking about my cousin. How can I take things to the next level?

Q.   im 24 and my cousin is 37, i cant stop thinking about her. i sent her a dirty text meassage and i said i made a mistake. but she said at first she thought i was drunk lol but then i was sure you sent it to me by mistake. is she interested in me? how ...

A.   9 November 2012: maybe its just really obvious to her that you like her. i would suggest thinking about how your family will feel about this?... (read in full...)

No emotional bond in my marriage and my in laws hate me. Any advice?

Q.   i have been married for 3 yrs with 12 month old baby girl, my inlaws hates me and my husband is not standing for me,he's always on the side of his family whenever we traveled to the family house,the last time we traveled i was humiliated, rejected ...

A.   25 November 2011: you must know exactly what you need to do but something is holding you back from admitting it from yourself, you need to move on you deserve true love... (read in full...)

Involved with a married man and need unbiased thoughts, please help!

Q.   Hello all, Please take the time to read: I met my boyfriend of almost two years (in December) online by chance. I actually caught his attention and made the first move, but we took a lot of time to get to know each other as friends first be...

A.   25 November 2011: looking at what other people do wrong does not make what you are doing right! in fact it almost makes it worse that you slander her for doing it when you are no better... (read in full...)

Involved with a married man and need unbiased thoughts, please help!

Q.   Hello all, Please take the time to read: I met my boyfriend of almost two years (in December) online by chance. I actually caught his attention and made the first move, but we took a lot of time to get to know each other as friends first be...

A.   24 November 2011: Have fun Playing the therapist for this guy who is using you to substitue his wife, for a while. If what he says is even true. You probably won't find unbiased advice, what you are doing is deadly really wrong and immoral. Give him an ultimatum... (read in full...)

Should I give up and become a charity worker in rural Africa?

Q.   I'm a virgin. 30 years old and no prospects. I'm slim good looking etc etc but its just not happened. Should I give up and become a charity worker in rural Africa? I've been given the opportunity to teach Aids awareness in East Africa for about a ...

A.   24 November 2011: Go to Africa, you might just find love... (read in full...)

Does the contraceptive jab protect from STI's, does it hurt and should I tell my mum I'm having sex?

Q.   i have asked my mum to book me an appointment and she has...the appointment was for me to get the contraception impact done. I am having in up in my arm on thursday, but my mum asked why i wanted it :\ i said to her that i cant handle having periods ...

A.   23 November 2011: no it does not protect you from STIs, yes getting jabs hurts... (read in full...)

I feel ugly, insecure and depressed because all my friends have boyfriends and I don't

Q.   Nowadays I feel as though I'm a jinx when it comes to finding love. Ever since my friends and I began college/uni, nearly all of my friends have managed to find boyfriends and move on with their lives, whereas I have not. I have had a male frien...

A.   23 November 2011: okay i was in exactly this situation, well still am. and i have gone to uni! so that is pretty embarrassing that i still dont attract guys!... (read in full...)

Is it ok to date my 5th cousin?

Q.   ok is it wrong for me to be dating my 5th cousin.i told my mom and she says that is my choice of who i date but is it wrong?...

A.   23 November 2011: its fine! enjoy :) aha... (read in full...)

I just found out he has a Gf. So why am I all of a sudden feeling so jealous and annoyed when other girls are around him?

Q.   There is this guy who I sit with at lunch everyday, just me and him. he's almost 19 and I'm 17. And when school started in August he was being really flirty and I knew he liked me (although he never actually said it, I could easily tell) but I just f...

A.   23 November 2011: its natural to sometimes feel a bit possessive of someone, its just part of being a little jealous, which none of us can help ... (read in full...)

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