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Wife doesn't let me cum on her face. Isn't that something almost all girls do?

Q.   My wife won't let me cum on her face, ever! As far as I know, almost all girls let their guys cum on their faces, and enjoy it too! but not mine. This really sucks, I feel really unwanted, how do I make her do it?...

A.   7 April 2011: Gotta admit, I love my guy, but hes not cumming on my face! Just about anywhere else is ok! ... (read in full...)

He has not had a job in the 9 years we have been together! Will he ever change?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together 9 years, he never had a job in 9 years, only 2 times he had a job for like a month each job.. I m a dancer so more money is not necesary to live well, but it is necesary because all he cares about is to play ...

A.   5 April 2011: I find it hard to believe that this man "wants" to marry you. He knows you will continue to take care of him regardless, you already have shown that you will. I think its time YOU grow and up and tell him to get a life! he doesnt understand what it ... (read in full...)

Weird dreams?

Q.   i keep having weird dreams.. i constantly dream of a goat with brown eyes,a womans upper body and a mans lower body and its always asking me about my relationship and when ever i try to look into its eyes it feels like my heart is stopping it hurt...

A.   5 April 2011: Wow this does seem strange. I hope you can come to a conclusion, wish you the best of luck!... (read in full...)

Advice on helping my boyfriend maintain his erection?

Q.   My bf has trouble maintaining an erection when we're having sex, and I'd like some advice on how to help him. He says the problem is that he starts worrying that he's not pleasing me, and that makes him loose his erection. We've been together 7 ...

A.   5 April 2011: just an idea, try and blindfold him, if he is ok with it!! I think you are right, make it all about him, Blind fold him while you perform on him talk about him and play up his good attributes that you really like about him. Maybe he just needs a ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wont talk to me about his feelings or worries any more.....

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for Four years and we live together, but he no longer talks to me about his feelings, worries etc anymore. When we first got together we would talk about anything and everything (We've both had quite turbulent up bri...

A.   5 April 2011: I would gently ask about it. Let him know its ok to be stressed and down, but it makes it a lot easier when he could talk about it with you, maybe you could find ways to unwind together? Let him know, his stresses are your stresses too. Its been ... (read in full...)

Would a guy who is not interested in a girl behave this way?

Q.   Hi, I just wanna get some opinions on this. Will a guy who's not interested in a girl romantically bother pouring sauce in her dish, opening doors etc? i mean opening doors is fine but are pouring sauce and taking food also considered gent...

A.   5 April 2011: Pouring you sauce? Is he by any chance eating this sauce from the same dish as well? Maybe he was looking after his own sauce needs. If not then well it sounds like he may want to try and take care of you, even if it is in little ways!... (read in full...)

I found pictures and sexual texts of his before he knew me, should I worry?

Q.   pls help..im confused, i met a guy 3 months ago,and i really fell for him,.iprior to the relationship i asked if he was seeing some one else, he said no.he dint wanna talk about his past relationships coz he said he want our relationship to be based ...

A.   22 March 2011: You may be reading into his past too much, he even told you how things are different now. Unless he gives you a TRUE reason not to trust him than you should. Give this guy a chance, just because he used to do something doesnt mean he still does....... (read in full...)

Virgin at 20, should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?

Q.   Hi i am a 20 yr old male and still a virgin. this fact depresses the hell out of me. everywhere i go theres people all having so much fun and i feel that im missing the best parts of my life and falling behind on much needed experience. most people ...

A.   22 March 2011: I must be honest, I think its extreamly sexy! Sexy to know that not any woman is good enough to fool around with. It shows you have morals and boundaries. I also must admit that its sexy enough to make me want to take your v-card! But I wouldnt. I ... (read in full...)

How do I stop getting wet so easily?

Q.   I am a married woman and every time my husband touches me, i get wet easily. What do i do?...

A.   15 March 2011: thank the heavens! Some women actually have a very difficult time getting and staying "wet" If its really bothersome, maybe you should try wearing a thin panty liner?... (read in full...)

My wife feels more like a sister to me than a wife, and it doesn't feel right to make love to her!!

Q.   Hi I have a big problem. Over the years my wife and I have had many issues. I left her 9 months ago because I lost my feelings for her. I now find myself wanting to be with her and my children. I realise I do have feelings for her, but they are up ...

A.   15 March 2011: Im sorry things have gotten this way for you. I hope more than anything you are still being honest with your wife. This is a problem that will not just go away. You may want to seek out some additional help from a counsellor or a therapist. It ... (read in full...)

Should I follow my head and chose the nice guy whom I "like"? Or go for my ex whom I love(d) but who hurt me?

Q.   I'm really confused. I don't know what to do or who to pick. I'll tell you the story... I'm 17, and I was with my ex for 7 months. We were really happy at first. My family loved him and we got on very well. He then turned very controlling, he'...

A.   14 March 2011: He is an EX for a reason, did that reason suddenly change? It's hard to leave a first love, but when that first love ends, its because something was done to someone, something hurtful enough to say goodbye to that first real love. If you ask me, ... (read in full...)

Is squirting fake?

Q.   Hi guys!! Do women really squirt?? i read many articles stating that it is fake?...

A.   11 March 2011: yes, its possible! And its great!... (read in full...)

Boyfriend buying me suggestive clothing. Is it ok?

Q.   My boyfriend has some different requests for me lately. He says I have a sexy little body and he would like me to show it off more. He has recently purchased some very skimpy clothes, like micro-mini skirts, tiny little shirts that show my stomach. ...

A.   6 March 2011: Its best to be honest, have you told him you dont mind showing off for him, but really not everyone wants to see what he wants to see. Gotta be honest I probably wouldnt want to go to the beach with my family and watch you walk around in a thong. ... (read in full...)

2nd date--showing some skin ok?

Q.   Is showing a bit of flesh during a date (number 2) acceptable...m just talking about a bit of my back . . .i dun wanna come across as too desperate or something...

A.   6 March 2011: A little bit of back sounds ok, as long as its not your whole backside you should be fine! ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my best friend how far my boy friend went? He's told his best friend.

Q.   my boy friend and I have been dating for over a year, and we are in love. Yes, our relationship has gone all the way, as in sex. I understand he told his best friend, and I trust him too. I want to tell my best friend too, but I am afraid it will ...

A.   3 March 2011: It is untimatly your decision, you must trust her though. Even with all the trust in the world, you know that someone else (his friend) already knows too. You have to think about what would happen IF it did get spread around. Who would have done it, ... (read in full...)

He calls me mean names, says I do not love him. What should I do about my married lover?

Q.   I'm in love with a married guy. He has been married for six years and we have been having an affair for five years. He has two children with his wife. but he says that he loves me a lot. i also love him a lot.. i need him. i really need him and ...

A.   3 March 2011: You are hurting this much now when its a secret from everyone else. Do you really want to marry that man someday? I have to be honest, i dont think he will ever marry you, by the sounds of it " he adores his wife so much, he wants you to be just ... (read in full...)

My parents are concerned but he's a great boyfriend. But I am worried I will get to resent him for being away so long. What should I do?

Q.   I'm dating a Marine who is 21 and I'm 22. We've been dating "officially" for about 9 months now but we liked each other throughout high school. He deployed last October for 7 months and will go on his next deployment later this year . It'll be anoth...

A.   3 March 2011: I agree with Aunt Honesty, talk to your man about your feelings. LDR are hard, but they are possible. I think if you do love him and he loves you that much, you can make it thru his deployment. As far as missing out on things, he will be gone for 7 ... (read in full...)

My bf says I'm the "one" but acts uninterested in me. What do I do?

Q.   Hello, I've been with my boyfriend now for 4 months and I love him more then ever but I'm confused. He tells me that I am the "one" always and that I'm different from all his ex's because there something special about me. Both his parents also tell ...

A.   3 March 2011: You got his attention once, thats why your dating. Just let him know that you are feeling like hes not giving you much attention and hes being very snippy when you ask for some. Sometimes all it takes is for someone to fix their behaviour is to ... (read in full...)

Is he flirting with me and actually interested?

Q.   so there's a guy that i've liked for a while. when i first met him a little over a year ago, he gave off some pretty strong signals that he liked me too. i sort of messed things up, though, because i was going through some things in my life at the ...

A.   2 March 2011: Well he certainly gives you a lot of attention, if you ask me i think he is interested! If a guy is not interested he wouldn't take the time to acknowledge you alone or with his friends. I hope this time around works out for you two, casually ask ... (read in full...)

I know he'll eventually get the message but I feel cruel!

Q.   ok I have ceased contact with the man i was having an affair with, just stopped, he keeps txting me worried if im ok and asking to meet ive been ignoring these txts, am I doing the right thing, I know he will eventually get the message but I feel ...

A.   2 March 2011: Unfortinatly, a mess has been made and no one likes to clean up messes. I do think you are doing the right thing by calling things off with this man, im proud that you have realised your mistake and are taking steps forward to fix your current ... (read in full...)

I still love my girlfriend, but she has cheated on me twice and doesn't seem to regret it!

Q.   My girlfirend has cheated on me twice now and she doesn't seem to regret her actions. The last time she cheated, I found them together. When I spoke with her about the issue, she took the other guy's side. What should I do because I still love her?...

A.   16 February 2011: You deserve Respect, just like everyone else. She is not showing you respect in any sense of the word.... (read in full...)

Bringing sex toys into a relationship, good or bad?

Q.   My fiance and I have been together about four years now. We don't have the most exciting sex life, but that is mostly due to her lack of libido and stressful work at the moment. Still, we manage 1-2 times per week and I always make sure she is taken ...

A.   16 February 2011: My man brought one home to me one day. It was s very small one, nothing intimidating and nothing that could replace his own member! It was something we had never talked about before. When he brought it home it was great because he explained it was ... (read in full...)

Unhealthy relationship? I don't know what to do.

Q.   I am completely in love with my boyfriend, and he loves me too. I have been dating him for about a year, and things have generally been great.. But I've been thinking about things lately, and I've realized that they haven't been so great, especially ...

A.   15 February 2011: What is more important to you? To be happy with the life you live, or to be miserable but have your man happy? Who is that going to help? Your here on this page because you have doubts/ frustrations, and you are asking for help because your not ... (read in full...)

Does my ex want me back???

Q.   Hi everyone. Please, can you give me your views on this. My ex who I love every much, came over to see me last week. He was very loving and attentive. He works nights, and said that he cannot see me in the evenings, but can see me during ...

A.   9 February 2011: You have already made the first move with the phone call. At this point the ball is in his court. He sounds like he truly appreciated the phone call, but then again who doesnt like a little reminiscing of a happier time? Im sure the call was an ego ... (read in full...)

Try to get back together or let her go?

Q.   So here is the deal; Me and my girlfriend were together for almost two years and everything went fine. Sure we had our little arguments but we never had a real fight. It always felt like we completed each other in many ways. Then a few months a...

A.   9 February 2011: It takes two to tango, at this point I think you are standing on the dance floor all by yourself during a slow dance. Im sorry, it sounds like this girl has put you through a lot. Its obviouse you have strong feelings for her, she doesn't feel the ... (read in full...)

Are we over?

Q.   Have been with my bf for 8 years, engaged for 2 of them. Last month he said that we were having problems and had been for some time. Wanted to work it out but really shows no interest in doing this. I loved him but now I am thinking it's time to ...

A.   2 January 2011: "I loved him..." you said it yourself, you did, as in you no longer feel that way. 8 years, engaged for two...and just now he mentions that you are having problems? Do you agree, you mention that he said it, not you. You also say you wanted to work ... (read in full...)

I kissed another guy while I was drunk!

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and sometime lately i'v had a crush on one of my guy friends. on night we were at a party and right from the start i felt like kissing him ..after a few drinks my guy friend told me he wanted t...

A.   2 January 2011: You can never make sure anyone does anything! In all honesty, grow up and tell your boyfriend the truth. It's been three years you said; doesn't he deserve better than to be lied to and cheated on? Im sure you would expect better manners from him. ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend still in touch with her ex!

Q.   I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 months now. I found out that she is still friend with her ex. We were going through pictures on her phone and she pointed out her ex in one of the group picture with her friends. She told me that they were ...

A.   2 January 2011: Jealousy is a hard thing to overcome. Yes, it is possible for two people to remain friends after a breakup. Until you are given a reason not to trust, you should completly trust her intentions and that they really are just friends.... (read in full...)

Is this a reaction to my birth control?

Q.   ok, not a sex question, cause i am a virgin...but, i started to take birth control a few days ago, and my vagina has been...well...itchy? then this morning i took a look (which is very awkward for me) and noticed that the entrance is white...like ...

A.   17 November 2010: Sounds like a yeast infection to me! Don't worry they are very common in women. They can happen for a variety of reasons, for your first yeast infection you should go to the doctor just to be sure. He will probably give you a pill and maybe a cream ... (read in full...)

After 4 years of dating he avoids me! I need help to get over him!

Q.   I had a boy friend with whom i had steady relationship for 4yrs.After that when our college was over(after 4yrs) he stopped talking 2 me and started avoiding me..whatever i ask him he is just taking it too easy which i couldn't tolerate finally ...

A.   15 November 2010: Closure is needed. If after four years he doesnt know how to explain something to, then i think you should have dumped him a long time ago. Unfortinatly it sounds like hes no longer interested and after all that time you deserve way better! If hasnt ... (read in full...)

Little bumps in the road.

Q.   Things between my Fiance and myself have not been as good as they used to be, lately. It's been five years together, we have a house and a 3 year old daughter. Im having a hard time trusting him. Im not positive of infidelity, however there have ...

A.   15 November 2010: To my Agony Aunts, thank you for letting me vent, and thank you for helping me relize my feelings on this matter were not selfish. To provide an update, yes I told him flat out, I knew he was on formspring, and how much it hurt. It didnt hurt he ... (read in full...)

How do I fix this drunken mistake?

Q.   So here's what happened. I'm a 25 year old male. I have a long distance girlfriend who I love dearly. I've never met anyone quite like her, she's amazing, everything I want in a girl and I'm going to marry her when we can be together (we're away fro...

A.   13 November 2010: Unfortinatly, mistakes do happen, but you cannot pretend they never existed. Mistakes are a learning opportunity for all involved. I suggest you DO tell your gf before she finds out from someone else, it may not go the exact way you want, but she ... (read in full...)

Help! I don't know how to share what I feel!

Q.   Hello! I have a dilemma and I would appreciate if you guys could give me some advice or opinions. So I have been in a relationship for a little over 8 months with my boyfriend. We are very close, trust each other, and I'm completely happy...

A.   13 November 2010: Sometimes it helps to write things down. Focus on one specific thing you really want him to know. Write it down, carry it in your pocket. Pull it out a few times a day, think of a couple different ways to say it. When the time is right you will know ... (read in full...)

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