He stares at my lips while speaking. Does this mean anything?
Q. So there is an older man.. about 10 years older, I am 21... He is my superior at work. He's really smart and I find myself really attracted to him. Every time he is explaining something to me he looks at my lips while he speaks. And when he is t...
A. 12 August 2013: Is he married?... (read in full...)
The people I work with are so horrible they won't even talk to me!
Q. Why are the people I work with so horrible? I got a new job a few months ago and the people there are just horrible. I've tried to get to know them but none of them have taken interest in getting to know me. I've given up starting small one...
A. 12 August 2013: Yep this a repost-repost maybe even a repostx3. She received many good ideas and lot of good advice I can't imagine what exactly she is looking for other than a hit man. Give up dear colleagues.... (read in full...)
Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 9 August 2013: Troll alert
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Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 8 August 2013: I personally just love my bras, they keep my boobs from getting bruised by my knees when I walk.... (read in full...)
Am I getting subconsciously turned on by his jealousy and total devotion?
Q. As I wrote on a separate page on here, a few days ago I was unfaithful to my boyfriend. I cheated on him with colleague after spending the whole night having superamazing sex at his. Now, something incredible happened. I've been with my boyfrien...
A. 8 August 2013: You do know that jealousy has nothing to do with love, right?... (read in full...)
Why did he let me go if I was so good for him?
Q. I posted a few days ago in regards to my boyfriend not sure if he saw me in his future. I'm 23, and he is as well. He told me he wasn't sure he saw me completely and he was completely confused. The day before yesterday, he came over to talk. ...
A. 8 August 2013: Sometimes a relationship is sooo close to being a perfect fit for two people. Close but no cigar. It's hard to give it up but you just know settling for it will eventually be a huge mistake. This break up will be good for both of you in the long run ... (read in full...)
I think my interfering soon to be mother in law needs to mind her own business!
Q. Hi guys, I have another semi-unfortunate family-in-law issue. It basically revolves around my soon to be mother in law. My fiance and I became engaged after 10 years of great friendship and a year of dating. We now live together and share everyt...
A. 8 August 2013: It's all up to your fiancé I'm afraid. If he doesn't feel his mother is meddling in things she shouldn't then you pretty much have no other choice but to ignore her as best you can. ... (read in full...)
I really want to help women gain some body confidence but I'm not sure how I can make a difference
Q. I'm really interested in helping women with body issues, but I don't know where to start. We've all heard of the negative messages that are out there telling women that small breasted women are automatically less attractive than large breasted ...
A. 8 August 2013: Is there a major university by you? They can hook you up. There are outreach organistions on all levels, from grade school to college. As long as you are a volunteer, they will be interested. Check with your local chamber of congress as well. ... (read in full...)
Whose not telling the truth about the mysterious life insurance policy?
Q. Dear Cupid ,okay I went to the source of finding out about if my mom has insurance on herself come to find out yes she does but the company claim that the policy premium was never paid for to start coverage back in 1999.So the woman said she ...
A. 7 August 2013: DOES your mom have paperwork that proves she has been paying the premiums regularly? Bank statements? If not then you have no choice but to believe the insurance company.... (read in full...)
Should I contact this girl or continue no contact?
Q. I need advice on whether or not I should contact this girl who I really like but who I closed off all contact after admitting she doesn't want to go further with me after our first date. I met her over a month ago on a dating site and I quickly es...
A. 7 August 2013: Sorry but I think it's a lost cause. I know that's not what you want to hear but I really think it's a done deal.
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My brother's wife cheated and doesn't know who the father of her baby is!
Q. So my sister in law cheated on my brother for two years and now she's pregnant but doesn't know who the baby's dad is. Great! I'm so mad at her I could hit her and mind you i'm not a violent person at all. I've never hit anyone out of anger in my ...
A. 7 August 2013: Well if you want to stay a part of your brother's family life you will need to back off and let them settle this matter between themselves. Give your brother all the support he needs but if he decides to stay with his wife you'll have to get along ... (read in full...)
A female in denial of her feelings. Anyone dealt with that?
Q. Im curious. Has anyone ever dealt with a female who was in denial of her feelings? And if so, what did it take for her to get over it and come around?...
A. 7 August 2013: More details please.... (read in full...)
What is the meaning behind her calling me sweetie?
Q. Recently, I met an American lady on a dating site. She is 50, im 30. We exchanged few messages and she started her last message by calling me "Sweetie". I know Sweetie can be used for someone that you love as lover or consider someone as your son ...
A. 6 August 2013: Heck fire if she is from one of the southern states women call perfect strangers "sweetie". I wouldn't read too much into it. I also doubt she would be willing to travel to a third world country just for sex.... (read in full...)
Am I being taken for granted by my family or I'm just overreacting?
Q. ok so I'm a 22 year old college student and I am also a very family oriented person but lately I haven't been feeling happy around them because: Although i have 3 other siblings, my parents always depend on me to help them out with things but I ...
A. 5 August 2013: How long do you have until graduation? Have you made any plans for after graduation? ... (read in full...)
One white lie and my boyfriend ended the relationship. How can I fix this mistake?
Q. So recently I told my boyfriend a white lie, take in mind we've been together over a year and this is honestly the first lie I've ever told him, we've usually been open books with each other. It was something so stupid on my part and I take ful...
A. 3 August 2013: You've left out some very crucial information. You will net more accurate advice if you can explain why a drink would be a deal breaker.... (read in full...)
How much does fat matter during sex?
Q. So! I'm going to fool around with a really good guy friend this Friday, problem is he is super skinny and I've got about 30lbs on this guy. We are of the same height. I always wear baggy clothes (I have an eating disorder and I've always been ...
A. 1 August 2013: "Fooling Around"??? That won't make a fool out of YOU will it? I would wait to fool around with him if I were you. ... (read in full...)
I've tried to move on with other girls but I still love my ex!
Q. To make a long story short, I cant seem to clear my head about my ex when we broke up 2 years ago, Shes gorgeous and so attractive but its been my biggest mistake of my life, My problem is that i keep trying to make her my girlfriend again, She ...
A. 1 August 2013: Whatever your age is, you are still just beating a dead horse. Unless you don't mind wasting your time my advice would be to try to avoid her as much as you can, keep busy, date other girls, study hard and get on with your life.... (read in full...)
I would take my ex back if he'd give me an apology!
Q. I broke up with him about 5 weeks ago. After about 2 weeks of no contact he started talking to me last week. It was so nice, like when we first met. We spoke twice and sent a few txts. A few times he suggested we should catch up and asked when I'd ...
A. 1 August 2013: This temper of his, did it ever involve abuse of any kind?... (read in full...)
I have amazing chemistry with this girl but she won't break up with her new boyfriend. Is she just leading me on?
Q. I met a girl on odd string of events. I went out on the porch of my friends house that i now have taken up residence to chill with him while he smoked. Well i looked across the street to the house directly across and saw this cute girl i had noticed ...
A. 1 August 2013: Are things rather confined in that back pocket Buddy? Cause that's exactly where she has you.... (read in full...)
My face is attractive but I'm quite flabby and I'm worried girls would be put off
Q. My question is the type usually asked by females, who are generally more unsecure about their bodies. Looking on the internet, it seems from the blogs discussing the male body part that females find attractive, it seems that the great majority o...
A. 1 August 2013: Absolutely just start taking care of your body and the rest will take care of your future. Women like men who treat them with respect. Period. A woman who only considers men with washboard stomachs isn't worth your precious time on this earth. ... (read in full...)
He's tried to do the right thing but doesn't want her to be hurt more than necessary
Q. 4 years ago when I was 18 I met this guy when we started working together, he was 26 at the time. Our job requires us to work away from home; so we spent quite a lot of time together and became close straight away even though he was in a ...
A. 31 July 2013: Tell him to look you up when he's single, until then it's no contact. And mean it. I'll bet the stays with his girlfriend.... (read in full...)
He said I should pay our bills because I don't have kids
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles. My boyfriend is always short of money, I have to pay for our all our travel, the whole rent and he pays 1/2 our food. He says he can't afford any more because of maintenance for his daughter who is 8. I do not know what he ...
A. 31 July 2013: Just what's in all this for you? Why are you tolerating this arrangement?... (read in full...)
The menace of bullying: Why are kids turning increasingly mean nowadays?
Q. Hi all. I just finished reading http://www.dearcupid.org/question/traumatic-past-haunting-your-present-and-threatening-your.html and I was wondering why kids can be so mean nowadays? I understand that bullying went on lots when we were younger but ...
A. 31 July 2013: My take is just that it's easier to bully nowadays. You can bully in person, over the phone, Facebook, texting, Twitter, etc. In my day we had the playground, period.... (read in full...)
Bible-thumping dad's bully antics are driving my family apart! Help!
Q. Aunts and Uncles, I have a “Bible thumping” father. While I love him and recognize his strengths (type A, making money, engineering things, taking challenges head on, networking), I have been chased down and pestered to believe in God on his terms, ...
A. 29 July 2013: Well if you are going to hit him up for money then I guess you will have to just suck up all that thumping. Maybe you need to take on a couple of jobs so you don't need to worry about asking for money and then you could distance yourself a bit. No ... (read in full...)
Should I let my sister and her family stay at my family home? I don't trust her.
Q. My sister wants to stay with my husband and I starting next week. Her, her boyfriend and their three children all under the age of 12 want to crash at our place, she says for 4 nights. I said, we could discuss staying if she had secured arrangements ...
A. 29 July 2013: CMMP,you are so whacked think before you post . ... (read in full...)
Should I let my sister and her family stay at my family home? I don't trust her.
Q. My sister wants to stay with my husband and I starting next week. Her, her boyfriend and their three children all under the age of 12 want to crash at our place, she says for 4 nights. I said, we could discuss staying if she had secured arrangements ...
A. 28 July 2013: I understand family obligations but you already have seen your sister's track record and it sure does't bode well for you. Aunt Bim is exactly right about getting rid of them once they move in. Sometimes you just have to say NO. But if they do ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend didn't like quote I put on facebook and it is causing problems between us
Q. Four days back, I posted my quote on my facebook wall which reads like this "Honesty is a luxury that we can't afford all the time.". Many friends of mine liked it and commented on it.When my girlfriend saw that message and she met me later, she ...
A. 25 July 2013: Well butter my biscuit, whatever will they think of next...... (read in full...)
Girlfriend didn't like quote I put on facebook and it is causing problems between us
Q. Four days back, I posted my quote on my facebook wall which reads like this "Honesty is a luxury that we can't afford all the time.". Many friends of mine liked it and commented on it.When my girlfriend saw that message and she met me later, she ...
A. 25 July 2013: Dang Tish, no one can touch you when it comes to doing research...but I DID know I had heard it before, but I'm so old I most likely have heard EVERYTHING before...... (read in full...)
How should I handle events when my future step daughter has her first child
Q. I am engaged and not married yet. My fiance has two adult children from a previous marriage. They aren't in contact with him too much, forgetting him on Father's Day, Christmas and his birthday. No cards(sometimes there is a card), phone calls or ...
A. 25 July 2013: Have you posted on here before? That "tires" story rang a bell.... (read in full...)
He sends texts that he'd like to cheat but then doesn't follow through. I'm confused!
Q. Hi, wonder if anyone has any thoughts on this. A guy started texting me in May after having done some work at my home. The texts became intimate quite quickly. A few evenings of sexy texts during May then he saiid he couldn't come to house t...
A. 25 July 2013: So how's the hubby these days? Are the kids enjoying the summer? Are you and the family going to do anything interesting before school starts up for the fall semester?... (read in full...)
Girlfriend didn't like quote I put on facebook and it is causing problems between us
Q. Four days back, I posted my quote on my facebook wall which reads like this "Honesty is a luxury that we can't afford all the time.". Many friends of mine liked it and commented on it.When my girlfriend saw that message and she met me later, she ...
A. 25 July 2013: Give us some more of your own quotes.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me for not having sex with him
Q. I am 21 years old and in college studying to be a registered nurse,recently I met a guy, he's very attractive and he asked me for my number, he texted me the same day asking me to come to his house.i told him no because it seems like he wanted sex ...
A. 24 July 2013: Exactly, he would have broken up with you after you put out for him because that was all he wanted from you, period. Guys like him are a dime a dozen, be patient, there's good guys out there, you just have to weed them out.... (read in full...)
My landlord wants to date me and is buying and fixing things in the apartment. It's scaring me, what do I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I've recently moved to a new city. I was pretty upset the first time I met my landlord, as my flatmates decided that me being the new girl, they could play a cruel trick. So he helped me out and sorted the situation. Compl...
A. 24 July 2013: Dating your landlord is a lot like dating someone you work with, it can be devastating if the relationship turns sour. Be careful.... (read in full...)
How to deal with this in front of the kids?
Q. I've been with my husband for 20 years (we were both VERY young), and married for 14 years. He is a police officer and I recently found out that he is cheating on me with a female paramedic. The divorce is in process - but how do I remain civil ...
A. 23 July 2013: If they ever ask you about the situation then tell them the truth, don't lie for the lying sack of shit. They deserve to know what their father did to destroy their home. Just don't embellish or volunteer the info, wait until they ask. Try to stay ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he already sees the end and when he's ready he will leave me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been officially dating since mid may, but have been talking as friends for about 10 months prior to that. He's a great guy that i enjoy talking and spending time with. I've Always had a 'thing' for him, and when we were just ...
A. 23 July 2013: Are you sexually involved? ... (read in full...)
My husband never listens to me!
Q. I don't think my husband really listens to me. Ever since we've been married, all my mother in law can do is talk about my husband's brother's wife. They are just two brothers but all she does is talk about the other daughter in law. CONSTANTLY. ...
A. 23 July 2013: I totally agree with Cindy. You need to make her comments like water off a duck's back. Anyone who constantly talks about one subject is ALWAYS irritating. Go to that happy place in your mind whenever she starts yapping.... (read in full...)
My husband says he's totally against cheating but I've found out that he made a pass at my mum. During our marriage he has also slept with a 17-y.o.
Q. hi, my husband and I have been together for 19yrs now, we have two children 3yr and 6yr. my husband has always talked about his strong morals especially over affairs he has said that even a kiss is a passionate moment and in his views is as good ...
A. 22 July 2013: I'm sorry you are confused about who he is, now me, I have a very clear picture of who, or more like WHAT he is. Which also explains WHY this all happened. I think when you have a nice long think about it all, you'll have no confusion over what you ... (read in full...)
67 year old father dating a girl almost 50 years younger than him. I don't know whether to laugh or cry
Q. My 67 year old father has been dating a 19 year old girl for a month now, and she is already living with him. She does not work or go to school, she just stays home and lives off him. I, along with my three siblings, are upset and disgusted. What ...
A. 19 July 2013: Get back to us..
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67 year old father dating a girl almost 50 years younger than him. I don't know whether to laugh or cry
Q. My 67 year old father has been dating a 19 year old girl for a month now, and she is already living with him. She does not work or go to school, she just stays home and lives off him. I, along with my three siblings, are upset and disgusted. What ...
A. 18 July 2013: Is your father wealthy? Other than poor judgement, is he demonstrating any signs of dementia? Is his general health good?... (read in full...)
A new potential step parent vs a teenager
Q. I need constructive advise about a situation that is bothering me. Im widowed 5 years now and have 3 kids (14, 11 and 10), I finally met the most amazing man and he proposed to me recently. A background on the guy, he is the type of guy that is a go ...
A. 17 July 2013: I've experienced two teenage daughters and one teenage son. And I do understand how difficult they can be at times. I would tolerate the mouthy back talk just so far and would never allow anything remotely disrespectful. So I think you are doing a ... (read in full...)
Why would my lover ask his wife to pick me up?
Q. I have a really strange question to ask. Iv'e been involved with a married man for over 8yrs.and please i'm not here asking for comments regarding the long term affair.but today when i texted him and said i will not be home till later this afternoo...
A. 17 July 2013: "I WOULD HAVE asked my wife..." but he didn't. Like Trish said, either he is dumb as a post OR like the other one said, it was an empty gesture OR maybe it's both. What does it matter anyway, I think you have bigger issues to deal with than this ... (read in full...)
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