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I love my friend but her husband is dying so it would be the most inadequate moment to confess my lesbian feelings now. How can I control myself?

Q.   I'm not really sure if this is a question, i just need some advice on what i should do. I'd appreciate your input. I'm a lesbian it's something I've never hidden about my self, i'm feminine and a flirt and some times it gets misconstrued. I'...

A.   10 March 2008: Keep your feelings inside, all she needs right now is a freind. I can understand how hard this is for you, but the only thing I can say that WILL help is to break away from her. You haven't even had a serious relationship because you focused on this ... (read in full...)

I have become the class joke but I am NOT gay as they tease! How can I cope??

Q.   people at school keep calling me gay. relating me to everything gay. they don't stop. they are getting nasty now . i have become the class joke HOWEVER I AM NOT GAY. i feel almost suicidal and if other people didn't need help i would have done the ...

A.   10 March 2008: Tell the head of year, this is bullying. They know your not gay and it winds you up so that's why their doing it. Seriously tell the head of year... (read in full...)

He's not yet dumped his other girlfriend!!!

Q.   My boyfriend has a secret and it's about him not dumping his girlfriend from his old school, should I finish with him or not see him? I thought about it and I don't want to finish with him because I love him ...

A.   10 March 2008: Yeah dump him girl! ... (read in full...)

Why is it that we are having more sex than ever and we are supposed to have split up?

Q.   Why is it that we are having more sex than ever and we are supposed to have split up?...

A.   10 March 2008: I read it's something to do with the fact it may be the last time you have sex so you give it all you got! Thats what I think anyway... (read in full...)

My GF has rare qualities, biblical I would say. But is this worth a lifetime of sexual frustration?

Q.   Hello, My gf and I have been together for more than 8 yrs. There have been ups and downs but never any really really serious arguments. As a person, she is far far better than me. Patient, kind, loving, forgiving, quiet, loyal - she is very much...

A.   10 March 2008: Have you even told her any of this? Why don't you just suggest things to spice up the sex? maybe you should try harder, things aren't going to change if you don't tell her what your feeling. But If your going to cheat without even fighting... (read in full...)

I would like a man's opinion about whether or not you would dump someone because of braces? Do you think I should have backed down and said I wouldn't get them?

Q.   I'm 20 years old and in university right now... I had been seeing this guy for 2.5 years and it was very serious, talking about the possibility of engagement at some point in the next 3-4 years... very serious. I loved him with all my heart and we ...

A.   10 March 2008: This guy is a jerk, just be thankful you seen his true colours now before it was too late. So go and get those braces... (read in full...)

Does anyone else agree with me talking about another man's wife's boobs should be off limits?

Q.   I'm 25 and just started seeing a new guy. He is 30 and all of his friends are married. We went to a social gathering at a married friend's house. They were nice people and had great kids. I thought it was going great until the wife of the host ...

A.   10 March 2008: Yes! Comments like that shouldn't be said who ever it is. Breast feeding isn't a sexual thing and something to mock. But maybe as their freinds, thats what they find funny? did the woman find it offensive? If not then that what obviously works for ... (read in full...)

I'm 12 and PREGANANT!!!

Q.   it all happened 1 week ago i was round my bfs freinds house and there were no adults so everyone started having sex and so me and my bf did to but he forgot to use a condom and now im pregnant should i get an abortion or not???...

A.   9 March 2008: Wow, I hope this is a joke if not then...chav tastic! Love the council flats you live in... (read in full...)

Is it normal to think of naked pre-teen boys and girls when masturbating?

Q.   Hi, I am 18, but I am NOT sick. Sometimes, when I masturbate, I think of naked pre-teen boys and girls. Is this normal?...

A.   9 March 2008: Wow came back and looked at this question, seems all the sickos have come on! all I can say is, I hope you all die a slow and painful death. ... (read in full...)

He slept with a girl I met in the pub...should I forgive him or move on alone??

Q.   I met the most wonderful guy on holiday 10 months ago and i fell head over heels for him. He is amazing, and although i am only 18 i want to spend the rest of my life with him. However, last night he hurt me in the worst possible way. He phoned me ...

A.   9 March 2008: Your 18, your both young. You don't have to stay with a cheater, your not married and have children. Don't lower you standards. You haven't even been dating for that long, I mean he can't have been bored of you. ... (read in full...)

Could I be pregnant although we were both clothed?...

Q.   Three days ago...i went to a dance party..and i had been drinking...and i think i got pretty tipsy...and i flirted and dirty danced with a guy...we were pretty much humping and grinding....and i was wearing a dress and very thin underwear..and i did ...

A.   9 March 2008: You should really listen in sex education lessons! ... (read in full...)

My BF is not allowed to stay over but my brother's GF is! What do you think?

Q.   can anyone help me, am i being stupid or am i right? last night my mum allowed my sisters boyfriend to stay over and SHARE A BED with her!! she is 13 and he is 17! but not a month ago, she wouldnt let my boyfriend stay over because im 15 an...

A.   9 March 2008: Wait, your mum lets your 13yr old sister have a 17yr old boyfreind and allows her to sleep with him? Also the fact your older than your sister by two years and your b/f is only one year older than your younger sister b/f?? Your mum is out of o... (read in full...)

Shy or a player?

Q.   Hoping someone can help me out here. Sometimes it is hard to understand guys. There is a guy I have noticed around on campus and he has noticed me too. He will come and stand close to me and when I look at him...he takes off. He keeps doing this and ...

A.   9 March 2008: Shy! Next time try and say something to him, try and start up a conversation. ... (read in full...)

I like my best friend too (I'm bisexual), although I have a BF, what now?

Q.   so first off i am bisexual but i would never sleep with any girl but i do like them.My best friend is also bisexual and i just found out she likes me but i have a boyfriend and i like him to but i also like her..so what do i do??.....

A.   9 March 2008: Um your not bisexual if you wouldn't sleep with a girl. Best to keep your best freind, as a freind. ... (read in full...)

I've tried everything I can think of and he still won't go down on me

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I really love him and I do see myself staying with him. However, we've had one problem that I'm at my wits end about how to deal with. When we first started dating, he said he loved to go down...

A.   9 March 2008: Don't go down him, seriously let's see how he likes it. It's a proven fact women get the most pleasure out of the oral side of sex. Is he really the guy for you if he's selfish in bed? he properly always going to be like this. You seemed to have ... (read in full...)

I have been cheated on so many times that I now have trust issues!

Q.   Ive recently split up with an ex, then found out he cheated on me with a best mate. I've started seeing another boy, (3 mnths later) and really like him:) i love the way he looks at me. But i'm so scared that he will treat me like the rest have, i ...

A.   8 March 2008: Your very young, why can't you be alone for a while? It really does sort your head out and makes you realise what you want, I never understood people who jump from person to person. ... (read in full...)

In love with my sisters ex, what should I do?

Q.   Hi, about 4 months ago my sister split up with her boyfriend of 4 years. He is a lovely person, and my whole family love him and are still in contact with him, however, I have fallen in love with him, and he feels the same way about me. Since they ...

A.   8 March 2008: Okay so your backing off, that's the right thing to do. female reader, anonymous your a total cow for what your doing to your sister, how would you feel if she slept with your ex bf who you still had feelings for? Blood is thicker than water and it ... (read in full...)

My workmate and I were sleeping with the same man, only I have found out, should I tell her?

Q.   Last year after ending a 20 year marriage i started seeing a guy from work who had been flirting with me for several months, although it had nothing to do with my marriage breakup. He's 20 yrs older and has a partner who he isn't that happy with,...

A.   8 March 2008: Okay so your not going to tell her?. Why are you still talking to this man? He isn't worth your time. God i can't understand some people... (read in full...)

She hates the ejaculating inside of her, but only after 4 years she tells me this!! I feel hurt and disoriented.

Q.   I have been seeing a woman for over four years and have had what I thought was a great relationship. We have recently been talking about marriage. However, last week after sex she told me that she absolutely hates the fact that I ejaculate inside ...

A.   7 March 2008: I find it very strange its taken her four years for her to tell you. Something must have happened to make her get turned off by it. Talk too her, I think there's something deeper here and this is NO reason to end a relationship over. If you really ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend or her sister?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years now, we have had our good times and our bad, like most couples, recently we argue all day. this has been happening for 6 months. I love her family to bits and I consider them my own, she has a brother ag...

A.   7 March 2008: Okay they sound like a close knit family. If you had any respect for your g/f or her family, you will never even think about going there. This family will shut you out. The sister may be playing with you, waiting till you make a move then go and ... (read in full...)

If I have anal sex do I keep my virginity in tact?

Q.   My man and I want to make love but I don't want to lose my virginity yet. He has convinced me that if we have anal sex then this will be possible. Is this true?...

A.   6 March 2008: I class anal sex, as sex. If your age right, then you should know this. If your boyfreind can't wait then maybe it's time to end the relationship? and you won't enjoy the anal sex either... (read in full...)

My wife is beautiful and we have kids but I can't stop thinking about the women at work.

Q.   I'm a married man with a beautiful wife, a gorgeous 3 year old son and a baby on the way, I've got a great job and a lovely house, but I'm desperately in love with a woman at work. We've always been very friendly and flirty, and after 5 years I ...

A.   6 March 2008: Do you realise how much of a bastard that makes you if you cheated on your wife while she was pregnant? Your not young anymore and you got your life sorted, why go and ruin that all for an affair? It's not just this woman, what if it happens again ... (read in full...)

He lied to be about matsturbation to porn and visiting strip clubs...now I can't get close to him!

Q.   I have been seein my boyfriend for 6 months and have had a very healthy sex life until recently when i found out he was lying about going to strip clubs and masturbating to porn regularly. Now i feel disgusted and sick to my stomach when he tries to ...

A.   6 March 2008: It's not your issue it his, I can understand you being turned off. I believe going to strip clubs when your a couple is a big no. If I was you I tell him to stop going to the strip clubs and if he didn't, that properly be the end of the ... (read in full...)

We are totally in love but only 14...is it ok to have sex??

Q.   Is it ok to have sex when you are 14 and totally in love with your girlfriend and she is totally in love with you? I will definatley use a condom becasue we really do not want her to get pregnant. I know this probably sounds stupid and an obvious ...

A.   5 March 2008: No, your both too young. She'll regret it when she's older anyway, she properly love you more if you say wait. Wait till your 15 at least... (read in full...)

My workmate and I were sleeping with the same man, only I have found out, should I tell her?

Q.   Last year after ending a 20 year marriage i started seeing a guy from work who had been flirting with me for several months, although it had nothing to do with my marriage breakup. He's 20 yrs older and has a partner who he isn't that happy with,...

A.   5 March 2008: Yes tell her! and then come back and tell us what happened!... (read in full...)

I'm 17 with a 27 year old...

Q.   I have a really good friend that is a guy and he invited me to a party at his place where he rooms with his two cousins. This guy has liked me for a long time and he would give anything to be with me. When I went to this party he had every ...

A.   5 March 2008: Wow, I really think you should stay out of that family. Also isn't this illegal over there? ... (read in full...)

She is highly attracted to muscular guys with six packs!

Q.   My new girlfriend used to be VERY flirty when we liked each other years ago, and after each of us going through relationships we decided to try dating. She said that she has changed, but I'm afraid that when I'm not around she flirts like craz...

A.   5 March 2008: It's all in you. She wouldn't date you if she didn't find you attractive! Yes she may pefer fit guys physcially but that dosen't mean she loves you any less or cheat on you. Maybe you could try going to the gym? that properly give her a hint about ... (read in full...)

Am I Nuts?

Q.   My wife and I have a male friend (Mark) who's been very close to us for about 4 years. The 3 of us spend a lot of time together, going to the movies, dinner, weekend trips, etc and my wife and I enjoy his company, respect him and appreciate his ...

A.   5 March 2008: Yes! yes you are crazy. Where's the jealousy in you? the spark? I don't believe this sounds like a normal situation to be in, your wife may be falling for this Mark, you don't know that do you? it could happen, they spend all that time alone, ... (read in full...)

Betrayal - from my boyfriend and my sister!

Q.   Okay SO! I dated this guy 2 years ago and we had a rocky relationship but we both seemed to care about each other a lot so we worked through it. At one point during our relationship he was really close with my sister, but I trusted him. Finally, I ...

A.   5 March 2008: You should be mad at both of them! why are you still sleeping with this creep? He cheated on you with the worse person possible, if your going to cheat at least not with family as that's cut twice as deep. You need to stop seeing this loser, some ... (read in full...)

Can you give a 15 years old advice on safe foreplay?

Q.   OK im 15 and i know i'm not ready for sex. I am not stupid and am so scared about pregnancy. So i am going to wait a year but i want to do 'everything else' if you know what i mean. I have done some things but i just hate the fact that once you have ...

A.   4 March 2008: How would they know? unless you or that other person blurted it out to someone?... (read in full...)

Leaving marriage for affair partner is that a good thing??

Q.   I'm pretty much down to my last option. I'm a 37 year old married man, with two children. Have been married for 8 years, have been together for 15. I am in the middle of an affair. Not real proud of it, it is with a co-worker and it just happened...

A.   4 March 2008: Well if your worried about your kids, why dont you introduce them too her? To see how they interact with each other. Your kids will be more hurt if you two are still together and they find out your still having a affair with the co worker. Your ... (read in full...)

Did my guitar teacher use me?

Q.   Ok,im 16 and ive always had this thing for older men...like a lil fantasy and i always end up infatuated with any older man between the ages of like 25/38 ish who is reasonably attractive, they usually are my teachers which is worse. Sooo i had ...

A.   4 March 2008: Dosen't sound like a decent guy too me... (read in full...)

My periods are wierd and I'm bloated. Could I be pregnant?!?

Q.   My partner and I are trying to conceive. My periods aren't regular, going from 21 days up until 30 days. They usually last 5 - 7 days, with at least 3 of those days heavy bleeding. Last month, (period starting 15th feb); 15th - light spott...

A.   4 March 2008: I'm going to be really honest with you, why are you wasting our time? you asked for advice before, you got advice and people told you to get a pregnancy test, only sure way you know. So just get a pregnancy test ... (read in full...)

My mother thinks I'm a lesbian after reading my diary. What now?

Q.   Help!!!!!!! I think that my mom read my diary. I'm 13 years old and I wrote about an 8th grade girl who just graduated. I think she was in love with me and so by that I felt in love with her too. The only problem is is that I'm also a girl. I ...

A.   3 March 2008: Lol, well at least your mum supports you! So if you do turn out to be bisexual or a lesbian, you wouldn't have too worry about her. Now you seem confused and rightly so, your very young and your emotions are everywhere at that age. Sit your mum down ... (read in full...)

How do you get your wife to forget the past when it comes to strip clubs / porn?

Q.   How do you get your wife to forget the past when it comes to strip clubs / porn? Even if you cut way back she still keeps bringing it up and using that for a excuse to not have sex. ...

A.   3 March 2008: Stop going to the strip clubs, if your addicted then get help. If not then just stop, it's hurting her and most women would find this a turn off. Start being romantic towards her, just talk too her, tell her how beautiful she is and how much she ... (read in full...)

2 Is company, 3 Is a crowd? Did we go too far inviting my friend for threesomes?

Q.   Well i am engaged and my fiance asked if we could do a 3 some before we got married, since he never had one, and i agreed. The person we did it with is a mutual friend. i have done 3 somes before and they are fun so it doesn't just usually happen ...

A.   3 March 2008: Most couples don't have threesomes to keep a relationship together, the fact is it does the opposite in most cases. You made this the whole situation worse by inviting a freind into this mix, why not chose a stranger? someone you wouldn't see again ... (read in full...)

Obesity: an issue to overlook or batchelor - beware?

Q.   I am interested in pursuing a relationship with a woman (a real-life woman, not a hypothetical person)who has the following qualities: beautiful, honest, trustworthy, smart, funny, creative, would be a great mother and caring wife, shares my values, ...

A.   1 March 2008: The best thing you can do if you really like her, is to date her then tell her. If you told her like now then she would find it really insulting. Slowly approach weight into conversation... (read in full...)

Approaching a girl.

Q.   Here's the scenario. I'm 15, I'm at a party, I see a girl that is like an angel. How would I approach her? What would I say? Because I don't want to sound/look like an idiot. Please, pleeeeease help me on this....

A.   1 March 2008: Go up to her and say "are you a angel? cause I think you just fallen from the sky" It's a good opening. ... (read in full...)

Obesity: an issue to overlook or batchelor - beware?

Q.   I am interested in pursuing a relationship with a woman (a real-life woman, not a hypothetical person)who has the following qualities: beautiful, honest, trustworthy, smart, funny, creative, would be a great mother and caring wife, shares my values, ...

A.   1 March 2008: Okay, you seem to be setting your standards too high. And please don't follow Koga advice, this woman will go right off you if you suggest she loses weight. You should accept her for who she is. Maybe after you been dating for a while, you could ... (read in full...)

What does his text mean?

Q.   i got this text from this boy that i think likes me i donno what it means. "i love you can it be our little secret u dont have a bf right can u come to our beach party fri night i wanna prove it to u love u xxxxx" what does this mean does it mea...

A.   1 March 2008: Ooo he sat next to you on the bus!! yay!! ... (read in full...)

What does his text mean?

Q.   i got this text from this boy that i think likes me i donno what it means. "i love you can it be our little secret u dont have a bf right can u come to our beach party fri night i wanna prove it to u love u xxxxx" what does this mean does it mea...

A.   28 February 2008: It means he wants to get down and get wild with you! Don't believe he loves you, he dosen't ... (read in full...)

In love with my sisters ex, what should I do?

Q.   Hi, about 4 months ago my sister split up with her boyfriend of 4 years. He is a lovely person, and my whole family love him and are still in contact with him, however, I have fallen in love with him, and he feels the same way about me. Since they ...

A.   22 February 2008: What a horrible sister you are. Exs are off limits! that's the way it is, it causes too much trouble and hurt. Your sister hasn't even been apart from her ex for long and now you come barging in. If your sister against this relationship then you ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to think of naked pre-teen boys and girls when masturbating?

Q.   Hi, I am 18, but I am NOT sick. Sometimes, when I masturbate, I think of naked pre-teen boys and girls. Is this normal?...

A.   12 January 2008: As you keep the two things seperate then that's okay. I don't agree with with you think, but I know no one choses to be a pedophile. Just don't act on your thoughts. Also I don't think you should have children when your older, the temptation may get ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to think of naked pre-teen boys and girls when masturbating?

Q.   Hi, I am 18, but I am NOT sick. Sometimes, when I masturbate, I think of naked pre-teen boys and girls. Is this normal?...

A.   11 January 2008: No it's not. It's very wrong, why would you want to think of kids? Go see someone and get help... (read in full...)

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