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I am 33 years old Guy who has done a lot of wrongs. I have done my penants and willing to do more if need be to right the wrongs that I have done in my past.

I have no real answers that we all cannot figure out ourselves.

What I do have is my opinions and that's all I give the freely ( but funny I cant use any of the good advise I give )

I am going to warn you I have a rocky past but making things right slowly i come here to see what i can help others with and if i have a question i will post it and hope for the same i never look for answers just help in seeing the light that's all I hope for.

Thanks for taking the time to read this and i hope if I post to your question I hope that My advise helps you if so drop me an e mail let me know that. Thanks

I feel like a sinner and I don't know what to do!

Q.   I feel so so dirty! A man on here helped me with one of my problems and we got chatting and he said he'd help me with any other problems. Anyway he started talking sexually and I did too cos I was so unbelievably horny but now I feel so dirty and ...

A.   13 April 2009: we all make mistakes.I have made my share, I can tell you that. The thing is not to beat yourself up over it. You did it and its over, and you did it for a reason. ( Looking back on it now it was not a good reason for you ) but like I said its... (read in full...)

X is just making me crazy!

Q.   Wondering what the deal with X's that make it super hard for you to date ? Ok let me clear it up her for you. Me and my X have not been together for about 6 months now and still to this day she is posting stuff about me an how I hurt her and how...

A.   8 April 2009: need more help with this can anyone help me or know of anyone that has gone thru this ? ... (read in full...)

I was dumped by text for asking too many questions!

Q.   i was dumped from a text (bad thing) just for asking too many questions. i only wanted to know how she was doing and how she was feeling. and now my heart has shattered... she's moving soon but i wanted to be with her till the end. i loved her she ...

A.   8 April 2009: She was hiding her phone from someone and well you kept texting her and she was getting busted . . . Pick your head up and move on she was no good to be so petty plus wht would you want to me the Fall back guy ... (read in full...)

We're broken up but I still can't stop thinking of her..wondering what she's doing!

Q.   My ex and I dated for a year and four months and during that time (and a few years before that even), she's been obsessed with British guys. She talked about one day marrying one but I didn't think she would actually leave me for one! We'll just ...

A.   31 March 2009: i know the feeling man i have been in the same situation ( not with a brit but ) it will take time man I would love to be able to give you some quick fix and tell you just drink this and she will go away but if you have her in your heart then ... (read in full...)

He's never done oral on me..he doesn't want to?

Q.   i give my boyfriend oral and he always comes but he hasn't done it for me - we haven't had many chances to do it since i started giving him oral so maybe that's why. but assuming he never does it back, would this be unfair? because i've never ...

A.   30 March 2009: Forget time hun he is taking what you give and making excuses when its time for him to eat. Stop giving him head and wait till he asked why then tell him and tell him. its your time and your waiting. he will get the hint trust me he is getting ... (read in full...)

Why can't I get hard?

Q.   i cant get a boner i watch porn i do all this stuff and nothing happens and i cant cum and my girlfriend hates so can u help me? please...

A.   29 March 2009: Stop Trying so hard buddy. Stress is not good for a hard on or getting hard for that matter. Next that Girlfriends your with needs to be a lil more sensitive. or why keep her ? ... (read in full...)

His past relationship is hurting our future

Q.   he thinks im hanging out with another guy, im not he is the only man in my life. how can i assure him of that?...

A.   29 March 2009: men are jealous creatures but we are also simple creatures at the same time. you need to assure him he is the only one maybe even invite him to hang out with you and see what you are really doing ? Just my take on it i know when i feel that way i ra... (read in full...)

Irritated swollen skin after sex

Q.   Hi, i have been with my wife for 5 years now and every time we have long oral sex (3-4 hours) followed by Intercourse, my Skin that covers the head of my penis get really big (swollen) but the next day its goes back to normal, My Wifes Vagina is ...

A.   29 March 2009: Long time for skin on skin yes and to tell you the truth your uncircumsized by what i am reading so am i . i know the irritation your speaking of. Well the reason your getting so irritated is that while she is giving you oral sex your natural lube ( ... (read in full...)

How do I approach the topic of going out with him?

Q.   I am confused! Basically me and this guy have been good friends for ages, but theres always been... like something more could happen. Anyway about xmas I started to have more than just 'wow hes gorgous' feelings, and more like I actually liked him. ...

A.   29 March 2009: Well If your interested in him do your self a favor and get on the ball and be with him. Next i will make this short and as painless as possible stop sending friends to ask things you know stand up and be a woman and get the answers yourself. your ... (read in full...)

He still hasn't given me an orgasm

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month and he still hasn't given me an orgasm. After a couple of weeks I brought it up and he got kind of offended. He then talked about how he didn't want our relationship to be about sex. I told him 'no ...

A.   14 March 2009: Him getting a little bit mad is better than you going without an orgasm for years right ? You do need to address it but in a non threatening sort of way. ( not saying you are doing it in a threatening way ). Say things like You know what i real... (read in full...)

Can I get pregnant from sperm in the mouth?

Q.   Well im a little nervous. I usually have a 29 day cycle, ive had it for 4 months now. my last period was Febuary 8 2009. I had oral sex with my boyfriend last feb 26, 3 days after my calculated ovulation time of feb 23. Now im around 3 days la...

A.   11 March 2009: No you can not get pregnant from sperm in the mouth. That is Physically impossible. Now on the other hand Pre cumm also has Spem in it and if you and your man have just had sex and waited and a while and had sex again yes the chance of the pr... (read in full...)

Husband says he never masturbates! Lying?

Q.   Hi i have been with my husband for 25 years a while ago he was having a bath i went into the bathroom he did nt hear me enter and he jumped up and i saw that he had a hard on he tried to cover it but i know what i saw. Aked him if he was masturba...

A.   9 March 2009: Well think on this about masterbation. Guys think of sex every 35 sec. whether he knows it or not ! you tell me if you have sex on the brain that much every day could you not masterbate? 99.9999999 percent of the male population masterba... (read in full...)

Should I just wait until he texts me and if he doesn't don't bother?

Q.   I have a problem. Please bear with me as this is really long. Sorry in advance. :-( There is this guy that keeps calling me and asking me to date him. He seemed nice at first and was really interested in what I was doing and reaching for in ...

A.   7 March 2009: If he makes you feel like this now and he demands Things from you and your not even ( his ) woman its not gonna get better at all . I also have to say that he has to have some STD or something. Use your Head Sweetheart your smart and you knwo ... (read in full...)

Jealous all the time and need help!!!

Q.   I am going out with this girl who I like a lot. However I seem to get jealous a lot when she talks about guys she goes to school with or when it seems like she is flriting. Like the other day my friend was texting her and I got mad cuz i thought ...

A.   7 March 2009: that's a sign of a controlling person Squash that before you get out of hand. Trust her and what she is doing till she gives you a reason not to and then ask questions do not accuse or demand answers just ask. You need to just relax and go for t... (read in full...)

Should I let them be or push through with how I feel?

Q.   Hi guys please I need help... My partner and I are doing well with our relationship, including sex. But lately, he has gone cold and rarely makes love with me any more... no more sweet messages or he rarely checks on how I am doing (unlike before). ...

A.   7 March 2009: Thats a horrible thing to do to you and not caring about your feelings is a tell tail sign of a man not in love anymore. So if he has this friend why cant you go to the gyme with them make it a time for you to meet her and work out with them ? why ... (read in full...)

Husband wants me to use very abusive language on him during our romantic weekend!

Q.   I'm a 34-year-old businesswoman, my husband's 36, and our son's 11 years old and in High school. Last night me and my husband were talking about ideas for making our sex life hotter and having a romantic week together as we haven't had one ...

A.   7 March 2009: Why not do what turns your husband on ? I mean I know its feels weird and a lil out of the ordinary. Think of it like this if you wanted something so bad that turned you on so bad would your husband do it for you ? If the answer is yes then try it ... (read in full...)

How do I keep both women in my life?

Q.   I've been in a committed relationship for the past 6+ years with my girlfriend, "Rachel". I love her with all of my heart and I had planned on proposing but something recently has caused me not to. One of my close friends, "Tammy", and I h...

A.   6 March 2009: Are you F*n Kidding Me ? Seems like to me you don't know what a committed relationship is ! You're the type that gives us good men a bad name cause of your BS plays for attension and MACHO-ISM. You are looking for attension and i am sure your not ... (read in full...)

I discovered my b/f cheated and has had a child, how can I be sure he doesn't see his child?

Q.   me and my boyfriend have two children together and going back last year i found out he has another child in between the age gap of my children he says he wants nothing to do with the other child. i found out he was seeing the child behind my back, ...

A.   5 March 2009: Are you kidding Me your trying to stop a good guy from being a daddy And a father. There are more men out there that would love to not see there kids and make up any excuse not to and here you have a man that wants to be a father and your looking ... (read in full...)

Never had orgasm during sex

Q.   I have been with my lovley boyfriend for around a year and half and we've moved in and everything is almost perfect- however I have never "came" when we have sex. I am really worried this isn't normal. I can come when I am masterbating with a ...

A.   5 March 2009: Ok well First and foremost Its NOT UNCOMMON that you have this dilemma ( not a problem ). I just got out of a 4 year relationship with my x that could rarely cum without dual stimulation or total Clitoral stimulation. Its not a bad thing. 1) I... (read in full...)

I think I'm ready, but how can I make sure that I will not regret it?

Q.   I was completely ready for sex just a little while ago. My boyfriend of 6 months is 17. I'm turning 15, but I was completely ready to have sex with him a little while ago. We had a good talk and decided it was time, I love him, but I feel like ...

A.   5 March 2009: IA m Not here to be your father nor here to sugar coat things for you I would say don't do what your not comfortable with in any way shape or form if you have to sit and talk about things and draw things out before you do them then " YOUR NOT READY ... (read in full...)

He tells me not to leave him even thought he is staying with another woman!

Q.   hey hows the going? have been dating a man for one year and unfortunately ,now is staying with another lady, and still he claims now and then he loves me and he dont want me to leave him,because he suggests that he is not married yet to this lady, ...

A.   5 March 2009: Are you Insane? Look in the mirror and tell me what you see ? A smart woman ? Probably not ! i would say Dump this guy there are plenty of fish in the sea. You need to get out of that type of relationship before all you do is want men that have ... (read in full...)

Would like opinions on shaving the "area"?

Q.   is it more sanitary for a women to shave "down there"?...

A.   4 March 2009: I agree The shaved Vs. Not shaved Game is all about personal preference. I like trimmed And the way i see it is this If men like it nice trimmed and shaved ? Why cant they do that for the woman ? Do guys not think that hair in your mouth might be a ... (read in full...)

I love my g/f but have a crush on another girl, can this happen in long term relationships?

Q.   Hi I am in love with a woman, but lately I have had feelings that can only be described for lack of a better term as a crush for another woman. I love my girlfriend of 3 years, but I cannot deny the feelings I get from this woman whom I have just ...

A.   4 March 2009: I think you need to re evaluate what you have in your long term relationship I agree with K c100 The feelings are normal to look and even dream of doing and talking ect. to another woman but the difference between a real man and a man that Other ... (read in full...)

They are TWINS and they both like me!!! Help!

Q.   Okay,I Need some advice please... one of my good guy friends likes me more than I thought and wants to start a relationship... but the problem occurs when him and his twin brother both like me. I have been into his brother since I first met him. I ...

A.   3 March 2009: Ok Ashley As A twin Myself we as twins have diffrent types that we like Its rare that we like the same person for the same reasons. So what I suggest if you have not been into one brother and into the other for a while now tell the brother that... (read in full...)

Relationship breaking down

Q.   I might start by saying I am not the perfect guy, which is the major cause of our relationship break down. I am 20 and my gf is 18. I have known my gf (as a good/best friend) for a year become we got into relationship. Before we got into relatio...

A.   3 March 2009: well First and foremost you were wrong in telling her everything . This may sound really bad but there are somethings that should stay private and your sexual ( or non sexual "kissing" ) past is definatly one of them. That only serves to do what ... (read in full...)

We want to be together but can't make it work

Q.   My ex says she loves me, is desperate to have me back but cant yet, and her greatest fear is that I will not be in her life at all. She just couldn’t bare for me not to be in her life. But I cant just be friends with her, it has to be all or not...

A.   3 March 2009: Well giving someone an ultimatum at that point in a break up is not the smartest thing to do. Since you have done this already and she has picked that latter option is that what you wanted ? I mean really did you really want her back or were you ... (read in full...)

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