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Hey guys,

My name is Louise and I am 13 years old. Many people think just because I am 13 doesn't mean I can give good advice but I know how confusing life can be so I will help any1.

My life has been a bit manic at times and felt like a roller coaster but you can live through anything. I have had a few hard times and have had conselling since i was 10. I am very happy to help anyone, any age and pass down some advice i have been told before or just be a set of ears to lissen to what you have to say. I will always tell the truth and will never lie to any1.I am in a realationship, and very happy with the person i am with. If it wasn't for help from the world i wouldn't be wiv her. she is amazing. Give us a shout if you need some advice, Hope every1 is okay,

Luv you guys

Louise

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I don't want to have sex just now but I have some questions about it for when I do decide to have it...

Q.   Hey, I'm underage and I'm not planning to have sex till I'm at least 16 with the right guy at the right time. So that's not a problem. But when I do, I'm worried. First, I'm worried about getting undressed. What do boys think about pubic hair? ...

A.   6 September 2007: Hello my name is Lou, Right first of all, no offense, but you need to boost your confidence. Sure every1 gets scared being nake din front of some1, but once you find the right guy, who cares a lot about you, he won't mind, heck, he may be as scare... (read in full...)

No matter what - I try I can't seem to ejaculate in his arse.

Q.   I'm a 22 year old male who's in my first gay relationship. We've been together about a year now and are having a fantastic time together. However, I have one problem. Normally I take when it comes to sex, but recently my boyfriend has asked me to ...

A.   4 September 2007: Calm down and relax...... (read in full...)

I lost a bet and now have to dress as a girl for a week! What should I wear?

Q.   I lost a bet to some girls and have to dress as a girl for 1 week. skirts make up dress and dat. help what will i wear?...

A.   4 September 2007: Don't mean to be rude, but i am a girl and i don't wear any of that stuff, i just wear footie shirts and jeans all the time lol. maybe you could ask them if you could wear that, as you are still dressing like a girl hehe Wish you luck Louise X... (read in full...)

I lost my virginity with a lad and I haven't bled. Does that mean there is a problem?

Q.   Well ive just recently had sex with a lad i met and ive had sex with him 3 times but i did'nt bleed.Is this normal or have i got a problem ? ...

A.   4 September 2007: Yes don't worry, it is absoulutely normal, some people bleed but you were lucky and you didn't. Don't worry about it and be glad that you didn't bleed ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and never had a boyfriend. I feel there is nothing appealing about my personality. Could anyone advise me?

Q.   Hey! I'm 15 years old and I have never had a proper boyfriend. I'm not bad looking but I don't feel I have much personality. I know guys would rather girls with a big personality and I feel insecure and that I'll never have a boyfriend becaus...

A.   4 September 2007: Heya, the same was with me. Just be yourself, and wait till your fully devolped. Manly it is because your too young and boys haven't quite noticed the beauty of your body, everyone is beautiful in their own way and there is someone for every person. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriends daughter thinks I am just using her for sex

Q.   im a male and have just started dating a woman 7 years older than me but her eldest daughter is worried that im just using her for sex which is not the case how can i prove to the daughter that this is not so ...

A.   4 September 2007: Don't listen to her. You are a mature adult and if you know why your with her, then don't worry about her daughter. She's the daughter, she doesn't need to get involved !... (read in full...)

Does masturbation cause mood change?

Q.   Does masturbation cause mood change? I haven't had Sex, or in fact any physical contact with a woman for about 4 months now. I feel tempted to masturbate reguarly, but I am hesitant to do so, because I have a lot of feelings for the last girl I ...

A.   4 September 2007: Yes it is fine, but maybe you need to find a new girl or try to forget about this other girl.... (read in full...)

Why does he say such mean things to me?

Q.   Hi, there evryone, i was wounding if anybody could tell me why my boyfriend thinks it ok to call me stupid and tell me to shut up all i have to do is say something like why dont you cuddle me anymore and he will tell me to shut up. i get very upset. ...

A.   4 September 2007: I would leave him, he doesn't sound very nice. The other agony aunts hit the nail on the head. He isn't worth it.It doesn't sound like true love ! ... (read in full...)

I get swollen and bleed when I have sex

Q.   I am 15 and I have had sex 3 times. My first time wasn't painful as the penis wasn't big. My second time was so painful (he was very big) he had to stop and my vagina and clitorus swelled up and i bled a bit. My third time was a tiny bit less ...

A.   4 September 2007: No offense but it is illegal. Wait a bit longer, your body will be ready, and you will enjoy it a lot more. xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)

I was going to tell my teacher how much I liked him, but now he is going to have a baby!

Q.   Please please help! I have avoided posting to this site for a while now about my problem because people were gettin a little sick of the situation! But now, things have got a alot worse. I like this teacher, so much! I've had troubles in the ...

A.   4 September 2007: Don't worry your crush will soon fade, even if it takes a while. Get a new gang of friends or just meet up with your current mates, just do something to keep your mind of it okay sweetie. Mail me if you need more advice Happy to help XXXXXXXX... (read in full...)

Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex.

Q.   Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex. My girlfriend said no. I don't want to pressure her but i want it sooo bad. I really love her but i don't know if i should break up with her. please help me i don't know what to do....

A.   4 September 2007: I wouldn't rush her or pressure her. I mean it isn't nice to keep being nagged 24-7 and if you love her you can wait... (read in full...)

Am I being messed about or does he like me?

Q.   theres a boy who i really like, and i think i love him. well, we've been friends for a few years now, and i know him from school. i still see him quite a bit, but whenever i do see him, we end up doing sexual things. he knows i really like him,...

A.   17 August 2007: He doesn't want a realtionship with you but only the sex so yes he is messing you around, try and find some1 else to be with hun all my love Louise XXXXX ... (read in full...)

What does it mean when you have suddenly started having dreams about a teacher that taught you back in junior school...?

Q.   What does it mean when you have suddenly started having dreams about a teacher that taught you back in junior school because I have, although we mever got on, she was my favourite teacher out of them all. The dreams aren't sexual just general life. ...

A.   16 August 2007: It is just because she was such an important role in your life and now she's gone you miss her and try to include her in your life even if it means in your dreams. This is perfectly normal so you have nothing to worry about All my love Louis... (read in full...)

I dont want my relationship ruined over alcohal, and I am not sure she would be willing to stop dirnking for me...

Q.   hi there. i have a girlfriend, whom i've been dating for 7 months. just recently we had both, quit drinking for two months and it was wonderful. last night she had decided to drink seven beers, and now im afraid that all the raging alcoholism is ...

A.   16 August 2007: If she likes alchohol over you then she isn't worth your time, you tried very hard for her to stop and yet she didn't stop for you. i think you are in love with a person who loves alchohol more than humans to be honest... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to have a baby with me but I'm only 15!

Q.   Hi, I am 15 and my boyfriend is 19 and he wants to have a baby with me, I also want one but I feel that I am too young. please help me. ...

A.   16 August 2007: hey, it will be best for you and the baby if you wait till your older. And if you deceide to have one now remember you'll be breaking the law, Take care Louise XXXXXXX... (read in full...)

How do I find out where I stand??

Q.   I have a best friend that I have been friends with for a very long time. He once made a move on me... long ago, but I reacted wrongly out of fear, and the fact of the matter is that I taught myself not to like him that way, because back then I felt ...

A.   15 August 2007: If he is your friend and you trust him say what you want to say to him, he'll understand !... (read in full...)

I always seem to get attached so quickly in a relationship, why does this happen?

Q.   I feel like I get attached so easily either in relationships or even meeting a guy for the first night and developing feelings. I don't understand how it happens but is there anyway that I can become not so attached. I'm really starting to think ...

A.   15 August 2007: This only happens because you need some1 to love and too love you back, when you find the right person and get the love you need, then your problems will be solved =D... (read in full...)

He is texting another girl saying i do his head in!!!

Q.   I've been with my husband 6years now and married 2years and got a 1yr old daughter. Recently things haven't been good between us and I found messages on his phone from and to a girl who he works with saying how they missed and loved each other and ...

A.   15 August 2007: Maybe you need to sit him down and have a conversation with him, it doesn't sound right and you need to straighten things out !... (read in full...)

We went back to the hotel and I asked her if she still wanted sex and she said yes - I am a woman also.

Q.   Hi there. I met a woman on the internet last year and she said there was no chemistry. We went out for a drink and a meal and got on really well, we went back to the hotel and I asked her if she still wanted sex and she said yes - I am a woman also. ...

A.   15 August 2007: Hey, i think you too had some different ideas, maybe you should let it go and find someone else maye ? All my love Louise XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX... (read in full...)

I'm the only girl in my class who's single, and everyone else has a boyfriend so I feel a bit left out.

Q.   I may be wrong about this, but I think you may be able to help me. You see, I'm the only girl in my class who's single, and everyone else has a boyfriend so I feel a bit left out. Funny thing is, the guy I like is also single too and shows signs of ...

A.   15 August 2007: Maybe you are rushing things to quickly here. So what if you are single. Being single is still great. I mean why woul you want to rush and be with someone just so you have your heart broken ? I bet most of your peers in class will get there hearts ... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: We had over quarter of a million people visit the site over the past month!

Q.   Just checking the site stats. We had another milestone... for the first time, in the past 30 days, we had over quarter of a million people visit the site... not 250,000 "hits" or "visits" but actual unique visitors! As counted by Google Anal...

A.   6 August 2007: That is amazing ! =)... (read in full...)

Is he right for treating me that way and all the other stuff even though is causing me to resent him for it?

Q.   Hi every one, can u give me some advise please. I am on the verge of losing my friends and my sis to. Every thing is just a mess right now and i've been very depressed so much it hurts. I went out with a mate of mine about 3 months ago and my drink...

A.   16 June 2007: Heya, I think he is onli trying to protect you. But if you don't like it then you have to sit down and tell him. Obviously his idea of protecting and your idea of protecting are different. Maybe you could tell him maybe to just let you have a little ... (read in full...)

She called me to say she couldn't meet me, she was 50 miles away to be with her dad but I saw her an hour later in town!

Q.   what do u think is going on? i've been dating my girlfriend a little over 3 1/2 months i planned for today friday 15th June to spend it hanging out together but this morning at 11.40am she text me 2 say she couldn't meet me friday or satur...

A.   16 June 2007: Heya, blimey, you have a lot on your plate. It sounds a bit like your rushing things a little bit here. If you can't trust her then how are you meant to move in or have a baby with out trust ? Trust is a must ! I think her dad is sick and she's ... (read in full...)

Confused. Don't know if I can be just a friend.

Q.   Confused. Don't know if I can be just a friend. Hello. My thanks to all of you that have helped me before, and I hope you can help me again. I still have strong feelings for a woman that just sees me as a friend now. We were involved in a lon...

A.   15 June 2007: Heya hun, To be honest with you i think you should try and get ova her. It will be hard but i believe you can do it. Perhaps you could find another women to love. You could still be friends with her but i wouldn't recommend getting bk together with... (read in full...)

I have many times mistakely seen my sister changing clothes and I can't control my feelings, I want to have sex with my sister what shall I do?

Q.   hi i am a 17 year old guy. I have many times mistakely seen my sister changing clothes and I can't control my feelings, I want to have sex with my sister what shall I do?...

A.   15 June 2007: Heya, there was a time when i fancied my sister. I got over it. Maybe you just need to find someone else out in the world or just meet up with some male friends. I am not calling you abnormal but it is not very healthy to be in this situation. I ... (read in full...)

What would happen if people found out that i was a gay and i agreed and accepted it as well?

Q.   What would happen if people found out that i was a gay and i agreed and accepted it as well?...

A.   15 June 2007: Hellllooo there, It took me a while to indentify who i was inside. Many people will just accept it but some nutters may take the mick outta you. This happened to me so don't worri, just ignore them. If you are happy wiv yourself there is no prob... (read in full...)

I want to see him more. Should I be patient or should I just get my keys and try to move on?

Q.   I've been seeing someone for a few years now. When I first met him he was in a relationship so we decided to break it off, we knew nothing good would come of it if we didn't. About a year later we bumped into each other and he told me he was no ...

A.   15 June 2007: Heya hun, Hang in there kk ?Keep being patient and trust me the time will come when you will get the relationship you wanted with him. You could arrange to meet him at work or ring him up a bit just for a chat. if you ignore him he may go off you,... (read in full...)

How can I make myself feel good?

Q.   I needed some advice, I try to make myself feel good by buying new clothes, makeup etc. but I just feel that nothing ever looks good on me, I become fussy over the clothes and often just return them. I'm a size 10, but I just don't think I look good ...

A.   15 June 2007: Heya hun, Maybe it is because you have low self esteem. I know many people who have this but it is easy to over come this. Remember that every1 is beautiful in their own way and even if clothes don't suit you it doesn't make you not look good... (read in full...)

I'm unattractive--is there anything I can do to get noticed?

Q.   i don't feel attractive! ive never had a gf or anything, i think it is because im not attractive. im 5ft and 14 stone. is there anything i can do 2 get noticed ?...

A.   15 June 2007: Heya, you don't have to be attractive to be noticed. But you could try all kinds of things. Try wearing bright colours or even having a different hair do. But as some 1 sed just be yourself. I bet you some1 somewhere realli loves you but is too ... (read in full...)

She's an online gf..is it possible to be in love with her as we have never even met??

Q.   Heya guys, I love this gal but have neva met her. i chat to her on the fone and stuff but i have no idea of what she is like in real life so i guess my question is can i be in love with some1 i have never met ? Is it possible ? I'll be very grat...

A.   11 June 2007: Heya everybody, Man you guys are such great help. Things are looking up big time. She is coming down on my birthday, how awesum, and staying round mine. I kinda need help on telling my parents though. They don't know anything about her. They think ... (read in full...)

She's an online gf..is it possible to be in love with her as we have never even met??

Q.   Heya guys, I love this gal but have neva met her. i chat to her on the fone and stuff but i have no idea of what she is like in real life so i guess my question is can i be in love with some1 i have never met ? Is it possible ? I'll be very grat...

A.   11 June 2007: Heya agen guys, I have been chatting to her and we have dicieded to meet up and see eachother soon. I told her about me worrying if our "relationship" would work out and she seemed fine about it. Thank you for your reply cuttieicy, You showed m... (read in full...)

Should I walk up to him, kiss him, then walk away. I am crazy on him!!!

Q.   I am so crazy about this boy and i have been getting so stressed out about it, i am thinking about just walking straight up to him, kiss him,and walking away. Is this a good idea. ...

A.   10 June 2007: Heya hun, Well firstly does he know how you feel about him ? If not i reckon you should tell him how you feel. Just kissing him might give him a bit of a shock if he isn't expecting it. Sit him down calmly and speak with words. Don't rush thin... (read in full...)

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