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I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!

I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)

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Are there any other signs of pregnancy apart from morning sickness? Like feelings, emotions and moods?

Q.   Okay, me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 and half months. I'm 15 turning 16 in January and he's a year younger than me. We really love each other and would do anything for each other. So about a month ago we decided to have sex, well try...

A.   3 December 2007: Moods and emotions definetly come in to it due to hormone levels increasing. As well as morning sickness there is a hunger issue. I had bad morning sickness early on in my pregnancy and was feeling really sick yet hungry at the same time. Try t... (read in full...)

Is it not my time for a child???

Q.   well i think i need some advice, me and my husband of almost 2 years are really trying for a baby. im guessing im hard to get pregnate. the doctor says that i can have kids and hes sprem is fine, but in my family it takes at least 2 years to ...

A.   3 December 2007: try to relax about having a baby. I know that sounds easier said then done, but the more stressed and worked up you get the longer it will take. Is there a possible chance of having IVF over there? Both yours and your husbands bodies may be perfe... (read in full...)

Did I break my own hymen with my self pleasuring?

Q.   Hi I'm 24 years old. I'm doing self pleasuring since high school, and I clearly remember a time when right after I bled a little. Now I've almost had complete sex with my boyfriend, but all the three or four times we've tried I had to stop him ...

A.   28 November 2007: Good luck hun :) xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)

Did I break my own hymen with my self pleasuring?

Q.   Hi I'm 24 years old. I'm doing self pleasuring since high school, and I clearly remember a time when right after I bled a little. Now I've almost had complete sex with my boyfriend, but all the three or four times we've tried I had to stop him ...

A.   15 November 2007: Yes it will hurt. You may not realise that you are nervous because it is your first time, where as when you masterbate you are totally relaxed. The pain normally fades once things "get going" so keep trying and you will get there. My first ti... (read in full...)

How soon could I be tested by blood/urine to see if I'm pregnant?

Q.   i would like to know how soon could i be tested by either blood or urine? to see if im pregnant? ...

A.   7 November 2007: Some tests can tell within three days of your period. I'm not 100% sure but if it has been a week or more try testing yourself, or do what I did and go to the doctor and have them test you for free :) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)

Difference between love and friendship?

Q.   i was recently going out with a young lady, and a couple of dates later she said she started to feel like we were friends, even though we were kissing and eventually had sexual intercourse a couple of dates later. did she just want sex? how can u ...

A.   7 November 2007: How you feel about the girl should tell you whether you look at her as just a mate or as more. When you are cuddled in her arms to you think about a future with her. I don't mean planning marriage and children, but just being together. Or do you ... (read in full...)

Do I make the effort to see him when he doesn't seem to want to see me???

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We meet in college where we were together every day. I have been out of school since April and he is still there. We live about 80 miles from each other but still we don't see much of each other. At ...

A.   7 November 2007: Ask him outright if he wants to be with you or not. If he says yes then you both have to try and make it work. If he says no then as much as it'll hurt at least you'll know and can try and get on with your life :) xxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my daughter

Q.   Hey. We just moved to the US from Germany. Im worried about my daughter. She just went to a halloween get'to'gether. Does anyone know what they do their? She's 16. Also, what do girls her age do at New Years? Stay at home with family? Or t...

A.   4 November 2007: Why don't you sit down with your daughter and talk to her about what she gets up to. Ok she might not be 100% truthful with you but talking to her may make her realise that she can talk to you about anything. It varies per 16 year old what the... (read in full...)

My boyfriend as an Adult Friendfinder account.

Q.   i find an account of my boyfriend from Adultfriendfinder. i feel really hurt..but he told me he doesnt remember he ever creat this account. he told me he is sure he didnt sign in there. its because he sign in a site called myfreepaysite and that ...

A.   4 November 2007: Do you trust your guy? It doesn't sound like it. He's told you that he didn't create and doesn't use the account. All you can do is take his word for it or let it mess your head up and destroy your relationship by you checking up on him all the ... (read in full...)

How do I get him to dump his girlfriend and come after me?

Q.   Right I Like This Guy, Alot. I Have Liked Him For A While, With Some Uncertain Feelings About Him. But Hes Got A Girlfriend That He Likes Alot Who Is Not As Pretty As Me, But Lives Closer To Him. We Havent Met Properly, Yet, But He Said Hed Com...

A.   4 November 2007: You can't make this guy dump his girlfriend for you, and its kinda a bit selfish of you to think you can make him. If he wants to be with you he'll end things with the girlfriend. If he doesn't then he either wants to play you both or be with her. ... (read in full...)

I've been single for a long time. What should I do?

Q.   i have been single for 2 years. My last relationship messed me up a bit when my ex (who ppl said was not good enough for me) cheated on me. I've never really gotten over it. I have been looking for the perfect bf and always find something wrong ...

A.   3 November 2007: I would take your time with this situation. So neither of you ends up getting hurt. You need to work out if you really like this guy or not, and he needs to work through his divorce. Why not go out for a drink or dinner and chat with each other. No ... (read in full...)

Small pain in back, does anyone know what it is?

Q.   dear cupid, i have a serious pain at the small of my back everytime especially when i get up from my seat. please tell me what the problem is and its solution?...

A.   3 November 2007: I could make a few guesses at what this could be but because I am not a doctor I would suggest you take yourself along to see one. You may have just pulled something, but it could be a lot worse. :) xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)

What can I do to stop these arguments?

Q.   I have been going out with this guy for 7 months now and we always argue what can i do to stop these arguments?...

A.   3 November 2007: You should only need to apologise once for not hearing your phone. I'm forever apologising to people cause I don't hear my mobile ringing. I don't hear it and can't feel it vibrate when I walk and I make everyone panic because of that fact. You'r... (read in full...)

My husband wants a threesome but says will respect my decision. Is he going to be satifsfied with just me?

Q.   My husband of 9 months has suggested the idea of wanting to watch me have sex with another man, or having a mfm threesome. My husband and his x-wife had this kind of sexual relationship and he said it brought them closer together sexually. Fant...

A.   3 November 2007: I'm glad you are sticking to your guns hun :) xxxxxxxx... (read in full...)

Pregnant and I found out he's cheating! He wants us to be a family..what should I do?

Q.   i found out my boyfriend had been seeing another women,although it was her who told me and not him. we've been together for nearly 4 years and i was 7 months pregnant when i found out. it had been going on for almost a year and i had no idea. he has ...

A.   1 November 2007: I would let things settle. Let him be apart of your pregnancy still and be a dad, but don't make any life changing choices whilst your hormones are on the go. I am currently 9 months pregnant and I check every choice I make with my partner, even ... (read in full...)

Are my parents justified in critcising my drinking?

Q.   Alright so I'm not sure if this is the right place to be asking for advice here seeing as to how it has nothing to do with a relationship, but I need help with it anyways so any advice you've got is appreciated. I'm 17 and my parents keep nag...

A.   1 November 2007: Sit down and chat with them about how you feel and why they nag you so much. Yes 17 year old drinks a lot and i'm sure you aren't an alcoholic, but after having a member in the family suffer and with all the press about binge drinking and alcohol ... (read in full...)

What can I do to stop these arguments?

Q.   I have been going out with this guy for 7 months now and we always argue what can i do to stop these arguments?...

A.   1 November 2007: The easiest thing for me to say if you feel a row brewing is to walk away from each other. Different circunstances but me and my partner have been rowing a lot lately. I'm 9 months pregnant and this is mainly the blame as I'm a moody cow right now. ... (read in full...)

I love her but she wants to end it!

Q.   My girlfriend of 7 months wants to end it as she says her feelings for me are fading, we have just been to Amsterdam and had a great time and she was fine and happy all the time we where there. im just looking for a way to get her to see the good...

A.   1 November 2007: Sit down and talk with her about this. Ask her why she thinks her feelings are changing and ask her why she seemed so happy with you in Amsterdam. Unfortunetly feelings between people can change and you cant make her see things that may not be t... (read in full...)

Am I worrying over nothing?

Q.   Hello, I'm 18 and just lost my virginity about a week ago. We used a condom and it didn't break or anything. My period is a little late now (although my cycle tends to run from 4-6 weeks and I'm only about 4 days past the 4 week mark) I've been ...

A.   1 November 2007: The best thing you can do to stop yourself stressing over this is to do a test. I suppose for some people having sex for the first time near their period can mess it up. Get yourself a test, or nip and see your doctor who'll test you for free. ... (read in full...)

Why is a man being a virgin in the west a shame?

Q.   Why people in the west think that an adult man to be virgin is a shame? I think being a virgin, because you don't want to put yourself with someone who doesn't deserve to make love with and to be with a lady who shares the same beleif, is something ...

A.   1 November 2007: If that is what you believe hun then stick to your beliefs! Not enough people have the belief these days about waiting for someone worthy of making love. It's just sex and it's cool or whatever. If YOU want to wait for the right person the... (read in full...)

My husband wants a threesome but says will respect my decision. Is he going to be satifsfied with just me?

Q.   My husband of 9 months has suggested the idea of wanting to watch me have sex with another man, or having a mfm threesome. My husband and his x-wife had this kind of sexual relationship and he said it brought them closer together sexually. Fant...

A.   1 November 2007: It's not down to whether he will just be satisfied with just you hun. If it is then he shouldn't be with you. If you really feel that you couldn't handle this then don't do it. Too many couples hop in to bed with a third party and think it's goi... (read in full...)

How can I shave and not bleed?

Q.   Pubic Hair.!! i have only recently started shaving. and wen i shave up wards it really hurts and it bleeds. its there any cure on stopping this? because if i shave downwards it doesnt get rid of any pubic hairs..?...

A.   1 November 2007: Hey hun :) I had this issue when I started shaving and I almost gave up on the whole thing myself. What kind of razor are you using? Cheap razors are awful for shaving down there. I've cut myself and its been sore when I use cheaper razors. ... (read in full...)

Do I make the effort to see him when he doesn't seem to want to see me???

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We meet in college where we were together every day. I have been out of school since April and he is still there. We live about 80 miles from each other but still we don't see much of each other. At ...

A.   1 November 2007: I used to be in a long distance relationship of about 80 miles and they are hard. I live in Northampton, and up until recently my partner lived in south London. It is really hard at times, especially when it seems the other person isn't putting in ... (read in full...)

Any ideas of how to finish with someone who won't take no for answer?

Q.   I want to finsh with my boyfriend who I have been with for 17 months. The thing is I have tried so many times in the past but he manipulates me into staying with him. I'm fed up of the way he treats me. He tries to dictate my life and thinks he's ...

A.   1 November 2007: Just tell him its over and to leave you alone. I know you are probably thinking 'yeah i've tried that' or 'he won't listen'. But by law if you ask somebody to leave you alone then they should. Although I know not everyone does. Tell him it's ove... (read in full...)

How do you know if a guy likes you or is just after sex

Q.   how do you know if a guy likes you or is just after sex ...

A.   1 November 2007: Does this guy you are talking about about only try to have sex with you everytime you see each other? Do you do other things like talk or just watch tv without having sex? Next time he tries to initiate something say no, you aren't in the mood and... (read in full...)

How can I save our relationship?

Q.   my boyfriend said last night that he has gave up on are relationship, due to me being jealous and always saying he's cheating.i suffer from depression how can i save my relationship....

A.   1 November 2007: First off I must ask can you forgive this guy is all he does is cheat on you. And secondly do you think he will stop if you get the help you need? Depression is a hard thing to deal with- not only from the person with its point of view, but ever... (read in full...)

Should I ask her out over the Internet?

Q.   hey, i want to ask this girl out but i cant think of the best way to do it i can never get her on her own to ask her out but i was thinking of asking her on MSN but wld she think i was a coward....

A.   15 September 2007: Why not ask her when you are out in a crowd if you could have a quiet word with her. I don't think she would think you are a coward if you asked her over msn. Or if you have her mobile number why not text her asking her she fancies going to the m... (read in full...)

I aborted the child of a married man I had an affair with... What would you do?

Q.   i had an affair with a married man for one year. i fell pregnant and he said it wasn't the right time for us to be having children but we would when i no longer worked with him and i had my own flat. i had the abortion, reluctantly but then he ...

A.   15 September 2007: Ouch hunni. I can't say what I would of done definetly in your position as I haven't been in your place and I'm not you. What the guy did was a little harsh, but then what did you expect from a married man? I'm not going to lecture about sleeping ... (read in full...)

My partner doesn't help with our 2 month old baby. I don't want him to grow up without a dad like I did, but my guy doesn't pull his weight! What should I do?

Q.   umm dis october wil b a year i'm living with dis guy but i had my baby 2 months ago. before i had my baby he went away like running from dah responsibility and wen i had dah baby he came back. his family aren't friends with me but dats not dah ...

A.   13 September 2007: I would talk to him about what is going on with him as it could be any number of things. As Tommy7 said he could be scared of hurting the baby. When my niece was born my sister's partner wouldn't even hold her at first but my sister showed him how ... (read in full...)

I lost my virginity and now have bloating. Anyone got any advice please?

Q.   Hey, I lost my virginity nearly 2 weeks ago... it was protected sex, but i am now suffering from severe bloating. I also suffer from irrital bowel syndrome so do you think this is the problem? The condom did not break or slip off so should i be w...

A.   13 September 2007: Bloatiness is common with IBS. My sister has had it since she had her baby last year, but if you are unsure whether you could be pregnant or not I would get a test just to be sure. If the condom didn't break etc then I doubt it is pregnanc... (read in full...)

My belly-button peircing is painful and red. Any advice?

Q.   In June (2007) I got my belly-button pierced. It is now September and it's still red around the piercing and is still sore if I bump it accidentally (which I do all too often). It's not bleeding, or oozing, but every couple of days there's a little ...

A.   13 September 2007: If you are really worried see the person that did the piercing for you. It sounds ok to me. I tried 3 times to have my belly button pierced in my teens. It went black within the first month each time and I took the piercing straight out. It sounds ... (read in full...)

I am 6 weeks pregnant my partner of 5 years has left me.

Q.   I am 6 weeks pregnant my partner of 5 years has left me. I have a daughter from a previous guy although she believes my partner who has just left is her daddy. I am engaged to be married although my partner has cancelled the wedding 3 times, saying ...

A.   10 September 2007: I would let him be and sort you and your life out with your children. What a horrible thing to do to you. Maybe he is scared of commitment but he shouldn't keep dropping you at the first sign of something that is going to "tie him down". Surely ... (read in full...)

Why aren't I pregnant?

Q.   ok so my boyfriend and i have been having sex unprotected since atleast march of this year and almost all the time he cums in me.... i'm not on birth control of any form... should it be taking this long? i mean shouldn't i be pregnant already? Is ...

A.   10 September 2007: Sometimes it can happen quickly, sometimes it can take a long time. Are you eating a healthy, balanced diet? Do you smoke? Do you drink alcohol? These can play a factor in falling pregnant. Are you taking Folic Acid? Why not book an appointm... (read in full...)

I'm terrified we will drift apart. What should I do to keep us together?

Q.   I have a boyfriend and have for the past 5months or something about 4 hours away. He's starting a new school now.. a really really hard working one. and hel be in year 9.he said he can hardly come on msn or phone me at all because he has really high ...

A.   4 September 2007: Awwww that's nice of them :) xxxxxxxx... (read in full...)

I eat healthily, but i can't seem to gain any weight! Advice, please?

Q.   hello. i am a girl in the 16-19 yrs group, and i need advice on weight gaining. i am 5'5 and weigh around 103 lbs. my boyfriend says he likes me thin, but i get comments all the time from people saying that i look anorexic/bulemic, sickly, boney, ...

A.   3 September 2007: I was trying so hard to put weight on before I fell pregnant. I had an eating disorder in my teens and became very skinny. I have never found much help for people looking to put weight on, where there is lots if you have an eating disorder or want ... (read in full...)

I hate food and barely eat, what should I do?

Q.   Ok i dont really no if there's anything any one can do to help me here but i'm going to ask anyway. since i've been very young, (well as long as i can remember to be fair) i've been a very fussy eater. i mean i barely eat anything. i live on p...

A.   3 September 2007: This is so unhealthy hunni. You are doing your young body SO much damage. I had an eating disorder when I was in my teens and I was still struggling the after effects when I fell pregnant. Can you talk to your mum or another adult like your doc... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and i tried making out with my guy but i thought it was gross! Is this normal for the first time?

Q.   I'm 13 and my boyfriend and i tried making-out for the first time. It was my first time making-out with anyone ever. when we started i thought it was gross then i just got up and walked away. I know that was stupid of me and i shouldnt have done...

A.   3 September 2007: It is normal to think it's completely gross the first time. Doesn't make you a bad kisser or anything. It's just a new experience that your body is unsure of how to take. I'm sure your second time wont be so gross. Try and talk to the guy and apol... (read in full...)

I stay up all night when he says he is going to ring me. But he never does! Any advice?

Q.   i have a boyfriend and we have been with him for a year but when he says he is going to ring me he never does and its is really annoying. espeacially as i stay up a long time at night to wait for the call. please help x...

A.   3 September 2007: Don't stay up and make yourself ill anymore hunni. My boyfriend has done this on occassion and I too have sat up and waited. My partner normally has fallen asleep as soon as he gets in from work which is why he doesn't call. Take your phone to... (read in full...)

I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...

Q.   hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...

A.   3 September 2007: I would be very careful performing oral when she's on her period. Period blood isn't exactly the cleanest thing in the world. For me this turns my stomach, and I have to kinda go along with a few others on here- is this a real post. But i'll tak... (read in full...)

The pill helps helps with physical pain but it makes my mood swings worse! Any advice?

Q.   I usually have mood swings, but I've been put on the pill to stop my period pain, and they're making my mood swings worse. They usually make me feel really paranoid, and I already have trust issues, so for my mood swings to increase is not exactly ...

A.   3 September 2007: I agree with flowergirl- got back to your gp and have a chat with them. They may try you on something else. I used to get terrible moodswings with my period (I'm pregnant at the moment and have forgotten what they were like due to pregnanc... (read in full...)

I'm terrified we will drift apart. What should I do to keep us together?

Q.   I have a boyfriend and have for the past 5months or something about 4 hours away. He's starting a new school now.. a really really hard working one. and hel be in year 9.he said he can hardly come on msn or phone me at all because he has really high ...

A.   3 September 2007: Can he get on MSN for an hour a night? Talk on the phone 2 or 3 times a week? Can you swap emails rather then chat in IM? I have been in a long distance relationship for a few years and it is hard when both parties cant be in contact much. Wh... (read in full...)

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