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My bf has anger issues, he has cheated and he's hit me 3 times! Stay or go?

Q.   hey guys. well i will start with the basics. i'm going out with a boy who is fifteen (the same age as me) and we've been basically going out since year eight (seventh grade) so over the years we have obviously become very close, but we have been ...

A.   14 January 2010: Ive suffered from depression and also been hit by a boy and cheated on many times, i can relate to how you are feeling... it sucks! i know you obvously dont want to leave him but this guy is doing you nooo good! you should get out with the girlies... (read in full...)

He forced himself on me after I said no, then 4 days later he broke up with me! I just feel so down all the time and don't know what to do next

Q.   Hello, i was recently in a relationship with a boy 1 year older, im 13 and hes 14. We were having regular meetings and having foreplay almost everytime, we were both virgins, until the other day he asked if i wanted to go all the way and i straight ...

A.   14 January 2010: You might not think it right now but he is NOT worth getting upset over. He has completly disrespected your decision to wait! If you dont want to talk to the police then at least talk to your mum! Dont feel embarrased, your mum wont think any diff... (read in full...)

I'm thinking of going further with him but have no idea how to tell him!

Q.   Hi, I am a little confused at the moment. I'm 14, nearly 15 in a couple of months, and I've been with my boyfriend who has just turned 15 for about 1 month and a half now, and we get on really well. We've never argued and he's always telling me he ...

A.   14 January 2010: Hi, i know you probably wont want to hear what im gonna say because when people have said it too me in the past i never listened but... if i was you i would wait! i regret not waiting until i was a bit older. At 14 your young and theres plenty of ... (read in full...)

I realise I was wrong and I just want her back...

Q.   It's been three weeks since my ex and I broke up. In the time apart, I've learnt to appreciate my freedom and I've realised how wrong I was to put so much pressure on her. I should've understood her wanting to settle into uni. I made things work for ...

A.   26 November 2007: Well maybe you should talk to her about this? tell her how you feel? Say thatt you are sorry for what went on and that your ready to start fresh? ... (read in full...)

My bf thought I was joking when I refused intimate contact as we had been talking about it, and he raped me. Please help me.

Q.   hi im 13 and i was raped by my 13 year okld boyfriend and think i might be pregnant i know he was only joking around and he thought i was joking when i said no because i had been talking about it please help me....

A.   26 November 2007: Hiyyaa :) Oh dearr... Youu need to tell a parent or guardian about thiss. They will give you the best advice and the next step from hear beacuse it is quite serious. You may not want to becausee you like this boy, but you have to. Then as the o... (read in full...)

He lied to me. How do I get over it?

Q.   My husband had an 18-month secret relationship with a recently bereaved woman in another country: emails, texts, calls, lunches and an expensive birthday present. I don't think it got as far as sex, but was heading that way. Whilst I was u...

A.   20 November 2007: It is a hard thing to try and forget. I know people who have been in relationships when their gf/bf has cheated on them.. They couldnt earn back their trust. Are you still together? If you are then well its up to you... You can try and work thi... (read in full...)

Confused about my ex and all the boys in my life!

Q.   This is kinda long.. My bf split up with me just after new years, we're still good friends... but i'm having trouble getting over him because i loved him so much. my friend's think that i should just let him go but i don't know what to do, he s...

A.   14 January 2007: Heya.... Well it could be an idea to take a brake from boys for a while. that way you can still be mates with your ex and the boy you walk home with. Then see how it goes .x Good Luck xx... (read in full...)

We had sex and now...he doesn't care! Help me please?

Q.   okay well here i go, this is my story... i have been meeting this cute boy for about 3wks now nd i have been getting strong feelings for him since we had sex..i have done evrything with this boy thn i eva have dun with any other..i told hi...

A.   13 January 2007: Heya.... I noe this girl and him and her were togther for a while and they had sex at 14. i dont think there is anything wrong with it... if you are ready to do it then your ready, there is always goin ot be someone who says it wernt the right time! ... (read in full...)

second base scenario

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 7 months now and we are getting closer than ever. She recently told me that if i wanted we could go to second base. i don't know what to do, i'm only 14 but i love her more than anything. i'm ...

A.   2 January 2007: Only do things you feel comfortable doing and if you are ready... (read in full...)

Just the sight of him touching another girl is enough to put me on the brink of tears? Am I over sensitive?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm what most people would probably call overly-sensitive. It doesn't take all that much to bring me to tears. Take last night for example. I was at a party at a friend's house, and the word around the house was that my crush was ...

A.   2 January 2007: heyaaa.... i am a bit like you i am extremly sensitive i will see him do one little thing and i am off on one upset and that... its a thing that you cannot controll and you just need to show that he does not affect you! good luck hun ... (read in full...)

I am 13 and got drunk at a party..did this older boy take advantage of me? Any advice?

Q.   By the way, I'm a girl, and I'm 13. Yesterday I went to a friend's brother's birthday party, and had a little too much to drink. I can remember that a guy who was 15/16 kissed me, before pulling away and saying that he thought the host would kill ...

A.   30 December 2006: Contact him. If he meets you and talks to you then he obously is interested. You cannot tell if he was taking advantage if you do not ask him. Being drunk dont help becuase you was probably to drunk to notice lol! Plus it was only kissing and it was ... (read in full...)

My daughter is dating a man I disapprove of and it driving a wedge between us! Help?

Q.   Hi, please help. My daughter is 18 almost 19 years old and dating a really old guy, he's 27 and I disapprove very much. My daughter lives on her own and pays her own bills so she assumes this means that i have no control over her. she's been seein...

A.   30 December 2006: You cannot help who you like or love really... If your daughter likes him then you cant really change that. Considering that you have not met this man then how do you know that he is not right for her? Most people at that age date people older or ... (read in full...)

The wedding is looming and I think we have issues to resolve first...or do we?

Q.   I am engaged to a wondefully caring man. There is no doubt he loves me and would go to the end of the earth to make me happy. I know I should be so lucky. However now that the wedding is looming - big decisions to make - I have cold feet. All the ...

A.   30 December 2006: These feeling could be nerves or just stressed out from the wedding so it could be natural. If you feel that you really cannot go through with the wedding and you and him may not be at the right stage to then say something to him because the day ... (read in full...)

Is winking really a way of flirting? How do you respond to a wink?

Q.   is winking flirting? is it a way of man saying he wants you? How should you respond to someone winking at you?...

A.   30 December 2006: Winking is a sign of flirting & wink back, smile, raise ur eyebrows or something resoponding it. Yes it probably is a way of showing he likes you. Go chat with him Thats if u like him back :P ... (read in full...)

I think we get on better as friends...but don't want to dump him because of what my friends will say...advice?

Q.   hi im going out with this boy he is fat and i like him but i dont no whether to go out without him or not anymore because i think w get on beter as freinds but i dont want to dump him in case of what my friends mite say please help luv miracle ...

A.   30 December 2006: Heyyaaa your mates are not in this relationship with you and him it has nothing to do with them. It dont matter what they think. You cant be with somebody and only stay with him because of what your friends will say if you dumped him. As the othe... (read in full...)

How do I say no?

Q.   I have a problem with saying no to boys. Last week this boy said he liked me and he was a great friend and i said i liked him to, even though I didn't cos I felt sorry for him.I'm scared in the future I might do something i don't feel happy with cos ...

A.   30 December 2006: Saying no is not a horrible thing to do! Lets think of it 4rom the other point of view... Pretend that you like somebody and you compliment them and they tell you that they like you back, but they are just saying it because they do not want to ... (read in full...)

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