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how to get the guy to notice you!!

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8 May 2007: hey girls and guys ever wanted to know if there is some secret to getting guys to notice you well ta da there is and im gonna tell you it: step1. make yourself noticed, don't be too obvious make him wanna come over to you. step2. if and when h...

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Do I ignore him and give him space?

Q.   I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off since December 2007, it began as a long distance relationship but he moved nearer, to manchester which is about 25 miles from where I live to see me more often. However, this year the realtionship has hit ...

A.   2 August 2009: dear reader, first its weird to give advicxe to someone so close to me lol im not far from manchester haha, anyway i think that the whole argueing alot maybe because of how fast you say things started it is possible that you did what most people do ... (read in full...)

1st time intercourse advice

Q.   I'd like some advice from gay guys about the best position to receive 1st time intercourse with a man. I've seen dvds and think I'd be best lying on my back with a pillow under my bum and legs well up . My mate promises to be gentle and use...

A.   27 July 2009: dear reader, i think the best position is reverse cowgirl, get him to lie down and u sit on his penis, this gives u control over everything, i have been having gay sex for many years and this is still my favourite position, i suggest u try it f... (read in full...)

4 Problems! What my sexuality?

Q.   I'm so confused and emotional. I have a lot of compliacted situations and I really need help and someone to turn to. I've known I was different since I was 13. I was friends with a boy lets call him Tom I was kinda attracted to him, and sa...

A.   1 July 2009: dear reader, ok first, the whole masturbation under the desk thing was a little stupid, if u were caught you could have got yourselves in some serious trouble, ok second, i think the guy probably moved away or started to not want to be close to you ... (read in full...)

How can I apologize to someone I haven't spoken to in a while?

Q.   To give a bit of back story, I'm a gay guy. I'm 21 and the person I need to apologize to is 15 (please don't turn this into a moral issue, my intentions are only amicable, and I would never force him into any sort of situation that would be ...

A.   3 May 2009: dear reader, first i would say that if u do end up making friends again to be careful what happens between the two of you as you are 21 and he is only 15, but anyway on to the advice, i think that this may all just be an understanding maybe hi... (read in full...)

I'm gay and don't want to be!

Q.   So I'm 19 years old. I have had a tough, tough life. My Mother had me at 14, she was a drug addict and and alcoholic. So therefore I was adopted by a single woman I lived with her for pretty much all of my childhood during that childhood I was ...

A.   22 March 2009: dear reader, i think you are so brave to put up with everything you have had to face in life, i admire you for it actually. But like loving arms said, all that is behind you, that was the start of your life, you've got a long way to go until... (read in full...)

How to ask a guy you like out on a friend date?

Q.   Hey well I'm a gay male, and I have a little dilemma.... Well I have a crush on one of my friends and I kinda wanna ask him out, as a FRIEND! My problem is, that I get kind of shy, loose, and bubbly and he ends up assuming I'm drunk.... sorry ...

A.   3 March 2009: dear reader, i think if your that nervous about asking this guy out you might want to take things in steps, the first few times ask him out with a few more friends that way you shouldn't be as nervous about asking him, i think most of the nerv... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my parents' reaction when I tell them of my gay relationship!

Q.   im a 16 year old gay guy and my boyfriend is 17 and we really hit it off straight away wev been together for 9 months i really love him and he told me he loves me weve talked about coming out of the closet but im nervous about it not sure if my ...

A.   28 August 2008: dear reader, i see why your scared about telling your parents, i was afraid to tell mine but when i did they accepted me, i'm there son, they love me no matter what, as for what other people will say, all that doesn't matter, if you love this guy... (read in full...)

How can I stop being horrible to him when I just want to tell him that I love him?

Q.   I split up with my boyfriend about 12 months ago. We lived together for a while after and was okay but then we moved out. We've been good friends since and been very close. We've both had our problems and been there and supported each other. I th...

A.   16 July 2008: dear reader, all i can say is, we always hurt the ones we love, we don't mean to, maybe you know deep down inside that your first break up hurt the two of you and your afraid of being hurt like that again so your pushing him away without meaning ... (read in full...)

My guy is losing interest in me!

Q.   I am 20 and I'm dating a 48 year old man. when we first met we had sex all the time like on command but now that were approaching our year anniversary he's all of a sudden uninterested in sex and getting out the house meeting new friends, or getting ...

A.   6 July 2008: dear reader, i think that if you are alreday thinking about leaving this guy because he has lost interest in sex i think that you obviously don't love him as much as you think you do. his reasons for saying no to sex may just be because he wants... (read in full...)

I think I might be gay - or psychologically disturbed

Q.   Okay, so I think i may be gay. Gay porn really turns me on but I feel so gross. Its not because I'm gay, its because I fantasize about my highschool mates raping me. Is that wrong or are there others like me. And another question: how do I know if a ...

A.   29 June 2008: dear reader, watching gayu porn doesn't make you gay, and as for the fantasies, your not the only one and trust me ive heard worse ones, if this guy was tryin to pay you to give him head then there is a chance he is gay or was just horny or very ... (read in full...)

Are there exercises I can do to make my penis larger?

Q.   Why Is My Penis So Small At Age 13 is this normal . if any suggestions please tell how to get or make it bigger by just exercises...

A.   25 June 2008: dear reader, umm well there arne't any exercises that i know of but maybe your exaggerating on the small lol, trust me if its bigger that 3 inch then ur ok it only takes 3 to pleasure a woman as long as u know how to use it and trust me by the t... (read in full...)

Why do straight people develop romantic feelings for a friend of the same gender?

Q.   Does anyone have a psychological insight into why one can easily develop sexual/romantic feelings for a friend of your own gender even if you are usually straight? ...

A.   25 June 2008: dear reader, i don't really know what to tell you, puberty can be a bit of a mess lol, some people will become attracted to those they spend alot of time with, it may be because u have a connection with this person that you don't have with others... (read in full...)

I love my mate but he's not gay. How do I cope?

Q.   What if you like someone (a str8 friend) but you know he will never like you back? (he knows you're gay) Will you continue your feelings for him? How can you possibly move on? What are the steps to take him out of your everyday system!...

A.   4 June 2008: dear reader, i would advice that you try and take your problems to another close friend first as it has already been said you've passed the most difficult step but i believe cutting him out of your life will make things worse because then you... (read in full...)

How do we move to the next level? Need your help!

Q.   hi guys! i really like this guy and he likes me too we have fun together but i wish we could move to the next level,like a relationship,buti dont know what to do to get him to ask me. so i need your help....

A.   2 June 2008: dear reader, your asking us what we think you should do to get him to ask you, but first you need to know for sure that he wants the same as you then if he does whats stopping you from asking him??? there is nothing wrong with it, you can say ... (read in full...)

The magic has gone in my relationship, it seems. Recently I keep thinking about another guy, what should I do?

Q.   omg please will someone help me, i really need some advise, so please please please ! read this for me, thank you. ok so ive been going out with this guy for nearly two years (he is 21, i'm 19) and although we had a rough start in the relationship...

A.   28 May 2008: dear reader, don't listen to most of the replies you have recieved so far they don't seem to realize that you are saying you don't know what to do, they seem to see this as you've already finished him, they think your saying the sex has stopped ... (read in full...)

How do I come out to my mother without it being awkward?

Q.   I recently came out to a female friend and she told me I should just be open about it and not be scared of what people think of me because of that. She suggested that the only people I should care about if I told them would be my family. Now part ...

A.   23 April 2008: dear reader, i know what your going through, i went through the same thing when i told my mother but trust me when i say this, it will always feel awkward for you not matter how you do it because you will always know what your about to do. all y... (read in full...)

Could you help me find a good way to tell my parents of my homosexuality?

Q.   i am gay, but my parents do not know this. i want to tell them the truth.. but i do not know how! can you help me to find a good way to talk with my parents?...

A.   10 April 2008: dear reader, if your close to your parents then chances are they already know ur gay and are waitin for you to come out, my parents i thought they would hate me but they turned out top have known i wud be from a young age lol so just try and sit ... (read in full...)

Where can I meet girls? I'm 20yrs old and need some ideas!

Q.   Where or how would be the best place for a 20yr old to meet a girl? I dont go to college, and i probably could get into a few bars around here but thats not my style, i work with my family at a family run store, so no luck with other girls. ...

A.   5 April 2008: dear reader, flynn is right your options are pretty much limitless, i think the reason you haven't found someone already is because u dont want it make the effort you want a girl but you dont want to have to put in the effort of looking for one,... (read in full...)

My "virgin" girlfriend says some pretty shocking things! Is she for real?!!

Q.   My Brand new GF has told me that she is a virgin and says she wants to wait to see if she finds that special person to give herself to. she told me she has done genital to genital(no penetration just rubbing), and has given Blowjobs. I believe her ...

A.   5 April 2008: dear reader, did u talk about sex b4 you had it???? did u fantasize???? if the answer is yes then leave the girl too it lol there is no harm in having an active imagination thats all it is she has most likely imagined the perfect guy and the perf... (read in full...)

The biggest issue facing me right now is whether or not I am gay.

Q.   I'm a 19 year old guy and I am so confused with my life. I need some serious help. The biggest issue facing me right now is whether or not I am gay. I'm going to lay everything out here and hopefully I'll find some help. So here goes. ...

A.   5 April 2008: dear reader, my best bet would be to say you are still bi-curious or are indeed bi-sexual, you say u have been experimenting and have liked it but some girls still catch your eye but you never say in what way is it sexually or just oh she looks ni... (read in full...)

Forbidden love is hell! What can I do?

Q.   Im 16. And, i met somebody on holiday to egypt. I am a male, and i fell in love with him. I know he feels the same way. As he told me before i left. But. the only time i get to see him is on msn. Will my feelings ever change? because it kill...

A.   5 April 2008: dear reader, i'll be honest your first true love will never leave you, he'l always be in your thoughts, but, it will get easier over time and you never know one day when your older you could go see him again if you stay in touch. well thats al... (read in full...)

I'm looking at my best mate in a different way, what's wrong with me?

Q.   Hi I'm 14 and think I might be gay. Recently I've started looking at my best mate in a different way. I keep looking at him from behind and his crotch althogh this makes me feel dirty. Whats wrong with me? ...

A.   2 April 2008: dear reader, your still young you may just be looking at your best friend in this way because your curious, you feel dirty because you think it's a bad thing but experimenting sexually at your age is not wrong its natural, the amount of str8 hap... (read in full...)

What would my sexuality be considered as?

Q.   I am male and married. However when I was 15 years old I had a "relationship" with another 15 year old boy for about 6 months. We did mutual masturbation, oral and some anal sex. As far as I know, no one knows about our "relationship". I enjoyed it, ...

A.   2 April 2008: dear reader, if u enjoyed it, and still think about it often and get turned on or start to miss @the old day' then i think you can safely call yourself bi-sexual but if your in no way turned on by the thought i'd say you were just bi-curio... (read in full...)

How can you tell if a person is gay ? How do you know it's just not a crush?

Q.   So I'm about close to 17, but I feel so young, like on 14 or so. 17 seems like you're supposed to act all mature, but I'm still in high school! Anyways, I think I'm gay either b/c I've been looking at porn and then mostly gay porn for a long time ...

A.   1 April 2008: dear reader, i think that if u already class yourself as gay then you most likely are, or your at least bisexual, the best way to find out if this person is gay is to try and become closer firends with him to get to know him and then afetr a ... (read in full...)

I had to kick my boyfriend out, he's still seeing the guy he'd been cheating on with me!

Q.   How do you get over a bad breakup? Tonight I had to kick my boyfriend out after I found out he is still seeing the guy he'd been cheating on with me, see http://www.dearc...

A.   31 March 2008: dear reader, i don't really know what to say apart from this guy aint worth it, if he made you feel like nothing then he really is not worth your time in a relationship that goes on for 4 years you should feel loved and like your bein raised abov... (read in full...)

I keep having gay thoughts about a close friend. I'm confused! Help.

Q.   Here's the story ... I'm 18 yrs old, I'm not sure if I'm bi-sex u Str8, definetaly not gay. Lately I've been having gay taughts about a friend of mine. I don't like any other guys, I just like him. I continously think about him all day long and...

A.   31 March 2008: dear reader, to be honest i would not do any of the above choices you mentioned, don't kill him lol, don't tell him how you feel YET and dont avoid him that willl just make it worse cos he will send txt's wantin to know where u r u'll feel flatte... (read in full...)

How do I "come out of the closet" and have a chance with this guy?

Q.   hi, my name is dan, i'm 16, i'm gay, i haven't come out of the closet yet and i keep my feelings bottled up inside and it hurts. i have two questions, first one i'm in love with this guy who lives about 70 miles away and i've bin in love wid hi...

A.   28 March 2008: dear reader, your thinkin too hard about this lol im 15 and i came out at school 2 years ago and yeh at first you get a bit f bullying but thats expected but just think your about to leave anyway and your true friend will stand by you, i would ad... (read in full...)

Am I wrong to resent the fact that he can afford to go out but not come to see me??

Q.   I've been with my partner for about year and a half, we're now living apart in different countries due to my work commitments. The thing is he's just lost his job and has a mortgage and bills to pay. So he can't afford to come and see me as much ...

A.   24 January 2008: dear reader, i see what u mean about him going out alot and not coming to see you, but i must admit he does need to spend sometime with his friends maybe u should ask him to go out less often and save some money to come see you, or maybe you cou... (read in full...)

I'm gay..he's straight and he seems to pay a lot of attention to me! Advice?

Q.   My question is regarding a problem i have and has me crazy. The problem is that a coworker looks at me in a wierd way he gets mad when other people are around me and pays too much attencion to me. The thing is im a gay guy and hes straight. What ...

A.   15 January 2008: dear reader, maybe the guy is bi-curious or bi but not out about it, chances are he has a crush on you too and that is why he gets defensive. if your friends with the guy then maybe you should ask him if he wants to go out for a drink after work... (read in full...)

I'm not gay, I have a girlfriend, but I'm turned on by gay men, why is that?

Q.   I am a 14 year old boy and I am "turned on by gay things". I dont want to be gay I have had a girl we have been going out for over a month and she wants to have sex so do I but im scared i want be preparied for....

A.   8 January 2008: dear reader, i think that ll of this might just be because your worrying too much about having sex (not that you shud be havin it at 14) but anyway i think that u are just tryin to find a reason subconsciously to not do this and this is the solu... (read in full...)

I think I may be gay or bi... but how do I find another man to find out?

Q.   Hey, Been thinking a lot lately, and can't stop thinking about doing somehting with another guy. Don't know if I really want to have sex yet or anything, but I've really fantasized a lot about giving a blowjobto another guy, and also curious abo...

A.   29 December 2007: dear reader, i do not advise using a male escort as it is soooooo not worth the money lol. i think that the best way for you to find someone that u like would be to join a free gay chat site for gay men in your area this is how i met my current... (read in full...)

I did all the embarrassing/annoying ex things and now I'm a mess. How do you move on from someone that doesn't love you anymore?

Q.   The first person that I've ever had real feelings for finished with me just over a month ago and I'm still having a hard time trying to stop thinking about him. We were only together for 5 months and I can understand why it didn't work out. We hit a ...

A.   28 December 2007: dear reader, i recently dumped a bf that i had been with for around the same amount of time as you and this guy, he did alot of the things you say you've done and i can say for one that him leaving me alone has made me think about him that little ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but my family are pressuring me to meet him, and I'm worried about some issues they might have

Q.   Ok so here's my problem...would like everyone to keep an open mind. I'm a 17 year old gay guy...comfortable with my sexuality and all that. So about a year ago i started seeing an older guy. I've always known i liked older guys (hey, it's just ...

A.   28 December 2007: dear reader, i really dont see much of a problem here i know what your on about though i have a bit of a fetish for olger men hehe, but fi your family want to meet him then just let them know that you lovfe him and if they do anything to get ... (read in full...)

I'm experimenting with my sexuality and my bf was first ok with me dating other men as well, but now he has changed his mind! Is it wrong of him to change the rules halfway through, or am I just being unreasonable?

Q.   I'm bisexual and recently entered into a long distance relationship with a guy on the proviso that i be allowed to experiment with other guys because i have no sexual experience and am still in the middle of discovering who i am. At first he ag...

A.   28 December 2007: dear reader, i think you might be getting a little unreasonable this guy might have agreed to those terms at first before he really knew you but now that he does he may like you alot and has realized that he doesn't want to have to go every minu... (read in full...)

I'm 15, and a 20 year old on MSN keeps asking to see me. What do you think?

Q.   theres this guy i know. hes 20 i am only 15 and i dont like him in that way. he is too old, not my type and copletely the wrong guy for me but he seems to of took a liking to me. everytime i see him or talk to him he smiles at me and winks at me and ...

A.   26 December 2007: dear reader, i agree with fairy lu u shud stay away from this guy save all the convos and if u dint its ok they save automatically in the chat log that gets put in your documents when u donwload msn lol, tell an adult or the police and he shud ... (read in full...)

What advice should I give her?

Q.   ok so i have a crush on a really cool girl. we are both 14. but the only problem is she has a gf. her parents are trying to hook us up. although she has a gf me and her have kissed whilst she was going out with her gf. she doesnt like being gay but ...

A.   26 December 2007: dear reader, this girl may have it all wrong i am 15 and i was scared about telling my parents i was gay for the same reason i thought i would be kicked out, but a few days ago i told my mum and apparently her and everyone else in the family h... (read in full...)

I've just realized I'm bisexual, and there's a long distance guy who wants me to be his boyfriend. But will that be too hard?

Q.   i just recently realised that i'm bi and me (16) and this guy in another state(14) REALLY like each other and he wants me to be his boyfriend. I really don't know what to do because i've never done the whole long distance thing or the whole boyfrien...

A.   10 December 2007: dear reader, this answer may get me alot of grief from other aunts but i think u shud say yes to the long distance but ask for it to be an open relationship. i find that is the best way to deal with a long distance relationship, that way if u do ... (read in full...)

I'm a curious male that wants to have sex with a man but I'm worried a condom won't protect against all std's!

Q.   I'm a curious male that wants to have sex with a man but I'm scared even if a condom is used I will still get an std or HIV. Is this a normal feeling to have? I met this guy and I'm really turned on by him, but I'm sure scared of taking the next ...

A.   21 November 2007: dear reader, i think your thinking this over just a little too much the answer is very simple, first get tested you and any partner you may have in the future b4 going into sex, then still wear the condom and if you are that unsure then u can alwa... (read in full...)

I have feelings for a friend that is doubtful of his own sexuality. Would it be harder for him if I told him?

Q.   I have feelings for a friend that is going throgh trouble with his own sexuality. i dont know wether i should tell him about them or if i should just stay "the best friend" and help him through his own troubles. i really want to be selfish an...

A.   21 November 2007: dear reader, i think that you should stay the best friend but over time let him know bit by bit how you feel about him, dont rush him into anything that will only make him no confused if u feel the need to do anything sexual i suggest that you... (read in full...)

How can you tell if you're really gay or if you're just in a phase?

Q.   How do you know if your gay? How do you tell if it's just a phase or for real?...

A.   2 November 2007: dear reader, trust me this aint the kinda question that you need our help for, all you have to do is believe in yourself you'll know what you are deep down. but if i had to suggest something then depending on your age i would say experime... (read in full...)

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