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Hello everyone,

my name is Skye, Im 33 years old, I live in the UK and Im recently married. I love animals and have an nine year old english springer spaniel called Millie.

I dont have any counselling qualifications that entitle me to help people. I tend to rely upon good old common sense. I did study psychology at college, but my husband tells me we're all slightly mad anyway and he is probably right...ha ha ha!

Seriously though, I just hope that I can help sometimes. I will certainly try my best.

best wishes,


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Can a Doctor perform a smear test on a woman, even if there is a nurse present?

Q.   can any one help me answar a question ,regarding a male doctor ?can he perform a smear test on a girl/lady even when there is a nurse present?...

A.   7 September 2007: Yes, a male doctor is allowed to carry out this procedure. Just as the other replies have stated, the doctor usually does have a female in the room. You are perfectally within your rights to request a female doctor to do this test if you feel at all ... (read in full...)

How can I alter this shirt to fit me better?

Q.   My mom brought me a shirt for school and it is a bit baggie on me (I cannot return because I have already worn it) can someone give me any ideas on making tighter please?!!!!!...

A.   6 September 2007: You could show it to your mum. Perhaps she will be able to help you when she sees the problem. She may be able to alter the shirt herself or perhaps agree to take it to a seamstress to make it fit you better. I bet your mum bought this shirt a litt... (read in full...)

I'm due to start college and feel nervous I won't find anyone like me, I'm the tranquil type and rather get on well with adults!

Q.   I'm due to start college in 8 days and i'm really nervous. Not really because i'll be in a new place or anything but there only 2 people who i hang round wiv that are going and they are in a different course even thought we are all in the same part ...

A.   2 September 2007: "love-him" is right. Just be yourself and everything will be fine. HONESTLY!! There are loads of people just like you. I was one of them at your age and I still prefer to have a smaller social group. My friends accept me for who I am. These are ... (read in full...)

I'm still worried I could be pregant!

Q.   Hi everyone, Well about 3 days ago i lost my virginity and he was protected , we had sex for about 30 mins , but we had to discontinue because my mom came home . so he came over the next day and we had sex once again but unprotected this time ,ye...

A.   31 August 2007: I dont wish to frighten you, but there is still good reason for you to be concerned. The pull out method is not a reliable method of birth control as im sure many women can tell you. Everytime you have unprotected sex, you are at risk of pregnancy. ... (read in full...)

The engagement ring is beautiful, but not the one I envisioned wearing for the rest of life; worried he'd be hurt if I want to change it...

Q.   My boyfriend of 6 months recently proposed. After discussing, we decided to wait on the engagement because it seemed too early. I'm very much in love with him, but I wanted more time before that kind of commitment. Our relationship is ...

A.   30 August 2007: Are you sure you really want to change it? Afterall, your soon-to-be fiancee went to a lot of trouble to find a ring he believed you would like. So what if it is not exactly what you envisioned? The best things rarely are. It is yours and he ... (read in full...)

I'm not keen on my mother-in-law. My spouse would love us to get along. Any ideas?

Q.   How do i deal with a hypocrite mother-in-law and still have a great relationship with my spouse? he loves me and his mom and would want me and her to have a good relationship....

A.   30 August 2007: I understand that this is a difficult situation for you, especially as you find her hypocritical. I also understand your desire to try to get along with your husbands mother. At least you are willing to give it a go, for many people wouldnt bother ... (read in full...)

I lost my virginity 2 days ago. We used protection but I feel bloated and ill. Should I be worried?

Q.   Hi, im 17 and lost my virginity 2 days ago, it was protected sex as he wore a condom. It hurt when while having sex and i bled a little but afterwards i felt fine. But the day after i felt a little sick and bloated and i still feel like that today. ...

A.   30 August 2007: You are most likely nervous because it was your first time. So long as you had safe sex you will be fine. I would say your bout of tonsilitis is the reason you feel ill. Visit your doctor if your symptoms do not leave after a few days, but so long... (read in full...)

I want to make our anniversary really special

Q.   Hey ladies I was wondering...I what is the best thing a guy has ever done 4 u...I've done a lot 4 my girlfriend and our 1 year is coming up next weekend...and I want 2 do the best thing ever...I was thinking about making all her favorite foods and ...

A.   30 August 2007: Thats a really nice thought. Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. My husband has done many nice things for me, but when I read your question one in particular sprang to mind. He asked me to go for a drive with him one day. We drove quite de... (read in full...)

My friend is really bugging me about our size differance

Q.   im 15 and lately my friend has been bugging me, she is kinda overweight and says its weird that im two sizes smaller in clothes than her because we look the same, and the other day i did a test to find my BMI (body mass index) which shows you if you ...

A.   30 August 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen. There really is no need to worry, so long as you are both healthy you are fine. At your ages your bodies are growing and changing all the time. Genetics also dictate our end result somewhat. We are all different indeed. P... (read in full...)

Having a mild depression, what can I expect after a break-up, and how can I get over this?

Q.   This is my first break-up ever and neither does my mother, sister or best friend had ever had this experience. What can I expect after a break-up?. I just took an online depression quiz and it seems I might have a mild depression. I'm constantly ...

A.   30 August 2007: Im really very sorry. I understand that you are feeling down at the moment and it is quite normal to do so for a while after a relationship break down. Your mum, sister and best friend have all been exceptionally lucky in their lives never to have... (read in full...)

Met a girl at a club and swapped numbers but unsure if I should text her?

Q.   I met a girl in a club at the weekend, and i'm not sure whether i should text her. I saw her earlier on in the evening, and was attracted to her, however i don't think that she saw me, and she was with a large group of friends so i didn't approac...

A.   29 August 2007: I dont see any reason for you not to get intouch with her. Afterall, she might have just lost your number or perhaps she is a bit embarrassed about meeting you while drunk. I agree about ringing her rather than texting, but if you insist on the ... (read in full...)

She's w/ someone, but likes me back - what should I do?

Q.   There is a girl i like who has started seeing someone recently. Turns out she actually likes me back. What can i do seeing she has started seeing someone else? I dont want to chase her away from this other guy as i wouldnt like that happenin...

A.   28 August 2007: I agree with samohir. If you arent truely certain that this girl likes you, why dont you simply ask her? The best way to do that is to just tell her of your feelings. Dont put any pressure on her, simply make her aware that you would be interested ... (read in full...)

Can any of you relate to me?

Q.   Some female advice please I'm a mid 30's guy and happily single. It's really great to have my own life and I'm really happy except for the lack of intimacy and female interaction. Right now its just not an option to be looking for a wife and I don...

A.   28 August 2007: Hhmm, Im not really all that sure what you are looking for here and I suspect that is why you are encountering such difficulties. If you are looking simply for female friendships then Im sure you will have no problems finding them. Many women have... (read in full...)

How do I get rid of this massive spot below my nose?

Q.   Right, i got this massive spot below my nose! Now, its not like a little zit, that some girls totally freak out about! It's really noticeable, even with foundation on! And i need to get rid of it, i'm self-conscious about my face, as it is with all ...

A.   27 August 2007: Hello sweetheart, Dont ever try to squeeze a spot(easier said than done, I admit) for you will only succeed in pushing the infection deeper into your skin making it more inflamed and sore. Its much better to use some tea tree oil dabbed onto the ... (read in full...)

Rang on this stranger who told me was playing a gig this week, my bf didn't take it easy! Advice, pls?

Q.   Hi all (again) I wrote just a few days ago ,regarding my 3 year relatonship with a widower. I did somethinig really stupid in a time of uncertainty, and was chatted up by another man, who gave me his number. I rang him as he said he was in a band, ...

A.   27 August 2007: Well, you are perfectly aware that you have made a mistake here. All you can do now is tell your boyfriend how terribly sorry you are. Explain to him that you dont know why you did it, but that you allowed yourself to be chatted up, took this othe... (read in full...)

My fiancee becomes mad at me, screams, offends. I didn't deserve it, what should I have done?

Q.   My fiancee and I flew out to a diff city for a weekend. We were out walking out in public, while sitting on a bus stop he rips out the map that I was looking at since we were lost. So, I told him he can wait till Im done looking at, but he ...

A.   27 August 2007: You do not deserve this treatment for you did nothing wrong. This man needs to learn how to behave in an adult relationship. Im sorry, but he doesnt sound like a person you should choose to spend your life with. You where very brave when he bega... (read in full...)

Is a £95 necklace enough or too much for my girlfriends birthday?

Q.   Hey .. i was just wondreing.. its my gf birthday a few days after our 6 month...and i got her a £95 white gold heart you think thats too much or too little (or just right lol).. thank you :):)...

A.   27 August 2007: I agree with the other girls. I bet your girlfriend will adore her gift. She is certainly a very lucky young lady. Dont worry about the expense. You obviously believe she is worth it. A few years ago my boyfriend bought me a beautiful white go... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to dream about another guy???

Q.   I feel guilty... i dream about another guy but I have a boyfriend. Is it wrong os cheating to dream about another guy? I know i cant control my dreams but i still feel bad....

A.   27 August 2007: No, to dream about someone is not wrong nor could it be considered cheating for you have not acted upon it. You have no control over your dreams. Are you finding yourself day dreaming about this other man? If you are then you might need to reas... (read in full...)

Will the size of my manhood affect having children?

Q.   My manhood size is 3 cm , when i be hot becomes 10 cm , i am 26 old , i want to know if i can get kids or not....

A.   27 August 2007: Size will not affect your ability to father children. Do not worry over this. Best wishes, Skye... (read in full...)

What is the difference between a girlfriend and a fiancée?

Q.   today my partner introduced me as his girlfriend,yet we are engaged and have a 4 year history behind us,what would you say was the diffrence between a girlfriend and a fiance?...

A.   27 August 2007: I totally agree with "happytochat" and "penta". Simply ask him, for he probably just got muddled. My husband did this on our wedding day! I asked him was he not at the same ceremony as I was that morning? The poor soul turned bright red and said... (read in full...)

Is this normal?

Q.   One of my outer lips is bigger than the other. By that, I mean, it sort of hangs loose, and I can stretch it (sorry if it's too graphic.) Is that normal or should I be worried?...

A.   27 August 2007: Its perfectly normal sweetheart, so dont concern yourself over it. Take care, Skye... (read in full...)

My mother in law told me she's having an affair, I told my husband. Now she is angry with me!

Q.   My mother-in-law confided in me that she was having an affair. I kept the terrible secret for a long time but finally broke down and told my husband about it. He told his mother that he thought she was betraying his father and he was disappointed ...

A.   27 August 2007: Im very sorry you have found yourself in this this terrible and unfair position. Im sure you felt very alone in keeping her secret from your husband. Your mother-in-law obviously trusted you very much for her to have told you such a secret. She ... (read in full...)

I cant get over my ex, i'm giving up on love!

Q.   Sorry to be such a pain but nothing is cheering me up I have no enthusiasm for any activities anymore I had been enjoying before Kim dumped me and she hasn't called me , sorry to keep going on but everything is reminding me of her , I have TMF on ...

A.   26 August 2007: Im really sorry that you are feeling this way. I know it doesnt help you right now, but honestly most people have been in your shoes at some point in their lives and it it really does get easier with time. Im not going to tell you to forget abou... (read in full...)

My period is late but the pregnancy tests are negative, what do i do next??

Q.   hi everyone!...... i need some advice. My periods are very regular and i know each month that my period is due on the same date and has been like that since i started my periods. My period is late but the pregnancy tests keep coming back negative. i ...

A.   26 August 2007: Ok, firstly take a deep breath and calm down! All this worry you are having is not helping. Your monthly cycle is a very sensitive thing and if you keep on like this you'll end up a nervous reck. Honestly, worry can delay things. Secondly, the symp... (read in full...)

Is she out on a date with her ex?

Q.   Is she on a date with her ex? Alright so yesterday I was with the girl I'm seeing and we were having a good time, but then later in the night her sister tells her that one of her ex-bf's wants her to go out tomorrow(today), she didnt give a straight...

A.   24 August 2007: I think your girlfriend doesnt know what she wants. She has told you that she would like to go out with both of you. You do not deserve someone who would contemplate going on a date with her ex behind your back. I cant say whether she did go out ... (read in full...)

I am way too attracted to my wifes sister!

Q.   I have been a happily married man for several years now and I very much love my wife. Her sister has also been living with us for years and I have known her for as long as I've known my wife. The problem is, her sister has gotten hotter and hotter ...

A.   24 August 2007: You must ask your sister-in-law to move out. Imagine how upset your wife would be if she found out? Or if her sister found out? Believe me, she would be horrified that the man she trusted and cared for as her brother would harbour these feelings for ... (read in full...)

I found out my wife gave oral to her male friend, what should I do?

Q.   Hi, not sure what to do about this. My wife (and now me over the years) has a friend Brian that she was friends with before me. I don't think I've actually specifically asked, but it was always assumed that they were just friends. My wife was a ...

A.   24 August 2007: I think you should speak calmly with your wife. Bring up whay you overheard her say on the telephone. Ask her when this happened. I know that it will be very difficult for you to do and you might find yourself getting upset by her answers. However, ... (read in full...)

I just can't find the courage to tell her that I really love her, more than anyone or anything and I don't want us being good friends to be ruined by us possibly dating.

Q.   Hey, I have this friend, who is a girl, who I am very close with. We have been good friends for a while, and even dated at one point. Only problem is, she is going out with one of my friends. I am really close with her and we talk a lot, but I just ...

A.   23 August 2007: Im so sorry that you have found yourself in this difficult situation. There really is nothing you can do Im afraid. She is part of a couple and unless that changes, she is off limits. Her current boyfriend is also your friend, so if you where to let ... (read in full...)

I'm married but i have a crush, and he knows my husband.

Q.   Hi. I am married to a guy, who I have been going out with for 8 years. He did cheat on me and got a child out of wedlock. I was bitter but managed to work on my emotions especially for the children's sake. However at the moment I have developed a ...

A.   23 August 2007: There is an old saying that goes "if you play with fire, you are going to get burnt". You could get very badly hurt if you persue your crush. Remember how you felt when you discovered your husbands infedility? Im sure you would not wish that feeling ... (read in full...)

This guy at work is giving me looks! What should I do?

Q.   This is abit long im not sure if there is anything in this but here goes-there's this guy who i sometimes see at work,he is almost 10 years older than me,anyway we have never really spoken to each other -once as he was leaving and i was returning ...

A.   23 August 2007: I agree with Sweet-thing. Unless his looks are overtly sexual or letcherous I dont think you have anything to worry about. If they are, then you could speak with your immediate manager and make any untoward behaviour known. However, going from you... (read in full...)

My house is getting too crowded and now my bf wants his son to move in!

Q.   well, its like this. I moved to a smaller unit with 2 b/r on my own after a divorce. I was moving on in my life and started a new job etc. A few months later I met bf, he moved in, his dog moved in. A while later my 16 year old moved in from his ...

A.   23 August 2007: Im sorry that you are feeling so overwhelmed by your home situation. You are obviously a very caring person. Personally I can see why you are feeling this way and I agree that your current home is far too small for your extended family. Health and ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my neighbour! How do I know if she's interested in me more than a friend?

Q.   I am in love with My neighbor. I've known my neighbor lady for about 2 years..she had a boyfriend who lived with her...he didnt treat her very well,drank alot,and for a few months now he is gone every week for work, last week-end she kicked him out ...

A.   23 August 2007: Its a bit early for you to attempt to find out her feelings towards you just yet. She is in a vulnerable position right now and you could get the wrong answer for the wrong reasons. I wouldnt want you to get hurt. For now, simply be her friend for ... (read in full...)

Is big best, if so why?

Q.   hi i am a male and not well endowed is big best if so why ...

A.   22 August 2007: No, big isnt always best. Sex is psychological as well as physical. I believe that most people would prefer their partner to be loving, caring, thoughtfull, trustworthy and sensitive to their needs. This is when we feel most secure and comfortable ... (read in full...)

Why am I feeling like I'm losing interest already?

Q.   Okay so I have this friend and we've been friends for over a year now. Well the whole time I've known him, he's had a girlfriend. A few weeks ago, he dumped her and asked me to go out with him. I accepted and we have been together since the 7th. ...

A.   22 August 2007: I wouldnt say that you are losing interest as such. I think you are having difficulty making the transfer from friend to boyfriend. You love him as your pal and find this situation a bid weird. No one can make you romantically interested in ... (read in full...)

What do I do to make my husband pursue me more?

Q.   Well... my husband and I have been together for 5 years and we have been married for 1 year. We just recently had a baby boy (May 22, 2007). OK now for the question.... it seems as though I am ALWAYS the one that wants to be intimate. I am ALWAYS ...

A.   21 August 2007: Sometimes after a woman has given birth her husband starts to view her as a "mother figure". It doesnt mean that he loves you any less, its simply that you are his sons mum. Or perhaps he now views himself in a different light; as the provider for ... (read in full...)

How can I convince my mom to let me cut my hair?

Q.   hi i am 14 years old and i really want to cut my hair in a long bob i asked my mom she said no and she said i am not having you cry for the next month my sister said to my mom let her have it how she wants if she doesnt like it its her own fault. ...

A.   20 August 2007: Your mum is probably just worried that you will get upset when your hair is gone. Afterall you cant stick it all back on again. Remind her that hair grows. Speak to her and calmly ask her to reconsider her decision. Tell her that while you like... (read in full...)

Is being pregnant a possibility here?

Q.   Okay my boyfriend came and he out his hand down his pants, and than he fingered me.. Is being pregnant a possibility?...

A.   20 August 2007: Im afraid so. I dont want to frighten you but anytime sperm is introduced into you vagina you are at risk of pregnancy. If you where mid cycle (10-14 days after the first day of your last period) it is more likely. Sperm has a limited life outs... (read in full...)

Can he tell if I am good or bad in bed if I am on the bottom?

Q.   i have only just started to have sex...and my Bfs always on top because i want him to be at the moment..can he still tell if im shit in bed if im on bottom!? as he does most of the work...

A.   20 August 2007: Sex is just as much psychological as it is physical. So long as you and your boyfriend are comfortable and enjoying it then there is nothing to worry about. It is very important that you are at ease and are comfortable with eachother in both your... (read in full...)

I know i should not because i'm only 11, but i want sex.

Q.   I am 11 and i have a boyfriend and once he asked me what it would be like to have sex and he said how come adults get to do it and we can't so i went to see porn because i wanted to understand it more and when i sore it it made me have a tingly ...

A.   19 August 2007: Sweetheart you could become pregnant by doing this. Surely that is enough of a reason for you to stop. It is also against the law. Im sure you would not want your boyfriend to get into trouble from the police should you become pregnant. Take care... (read in full...)

Is it over or does she really just want space?

Q.   I need to know the truth I have made an honest mistake and me and my girlfriend are very understanding about it, but at the same time she has come up with other ideas in her head. She says that she needs a little space and time to think I am trying ...

A.   19 August 2007: Well going from the little information that you have provided, I think you should give your girlfriend the time and space she has requested. You say that she was very understanding about your mistake but has asked for some time to herself. All you ... (read in full...)

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