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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

I feel as if he's now using our son as an excuse...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I really need some advice please someone! I caught my husband texting an old flame a couple of weeks ago and questioned him about it a couple of days ago he said he was really sorry, usual stuff but I feel so betrayed and worthless to him now, the...

He only wants me when he can't have me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 23 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - i met a guy about a year ago and he sent me lots of txt messages, tellin me he was in love with me etc, after a couple of months i really got to like him so we went out a few times and then had a month long intense relationship seeing each other ...

Why do I feel a sense of rejection with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Hi here's my problem -- I feel sick and upset even thinking about the fact that other men have slept with my girlfriend. She is 18 and I am 20. I fell deeply in love with her the day that I met her two years ago, but it took her 5 months to feel t...

Is this relationship one-sided?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend since June and even from the begining she told me she still had feelings for her ex. But she and I pushed foward and wanted to give our relationship a try so we did. What happened was she accidently got pregenant and ...

Should I accept my boyfriend's continued friendship with his ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi, My boyfriend is currently friends with his ex. However, they were NOT friends when we started dating. They dated for 2 or so years, and that was a couple years ago. But when our relationship really started to advance, a few months in, she ...

Should I take revenge... or should I forgive and forget?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Back near the end of May I was in P.E and I didn't do it that day. I was sitting with a few of my closest friends and I suddenly got upset because I had a secret and knew it was going to blurt out. So I ran to the toilets in tears and my best ...

My obsession of my b/f's ex has turned into depression, please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

31 October 2009 (?) - I am glad I have found this site.I have been obsessed with my bf's ex ever since we first started going out. We have been together 10 months now and he moved in with me quickly.I love him very much.This week I have deleted my facebook to stop myself ...

Victim of love...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 23 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - hi. I never had problems with women, but I've always trusted too much and let myself vulnerable at every step of all my relationships. I've been cheated on, hurt, used, robbed, insulted, and pretty much abused. now I feel as tho I have been hurt so ...

Help! I left a 31-year relationship with a woman I could 100% trust, for a relationship that I don't think I can ever trust!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - hi all this is a long one so here we go,i meet this girl about 16 months ago by the way im 48 shes 45 around the same time i left my wife now ex-my girlfriend isn't exactly the honest type found out she was seeing here old boyfriend behind my back ...

Can I trust him at this party without me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - The guy im going to marry is going to a halloween party tonight and will be drinking. he loves me i know that but then drinking is involved im not so sure he could say no cause i had a baby and its been 6 weeks since we had sex and he has a very ...

Regaining trust in yourself...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - hmm ok like over a year ago i had a relapse with my ex bf, he came over to my house nobody was home... we didnt have sex he just fingered me a little.. and we made out... my uncle came home he didnt catch us in the act but i knew he was disappointed ...

My girlfriend is accusing me of being unfaithful when I've done nothing wrong...How many accusations should I put up with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, I've been dating a girl for a little over a month now. She has never been in anything you could call a "serious relationship" before, so the whole thing is new to her. She has been with some nasty guys in the past, so she has some tru...

How can I learn to trust again...?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I find it really hard getting back into relationships with men and i find that i cannot trust anyone. You see i was going out with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years and he cheated on me, i was completely devastated however that was 4 years ago. ...

Where do you draw the line between cheating and not cheating when it comes to dancing?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I'm going to ask some... um, shall we say, hypothetical questions here about dancing and whether or not it is "cheating". Hypothetically if you've been with a guy for 4 years or so, and you do these things: 1. Slow dance alone in a room with anot...

I don't feel I cheated, but I was awkwardly busted. Do I explain the situation to him?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Thanks so much in advance for your insight(s). After years of quick flings, NSAs and not-quite-rights, (I'm 47) I all but shut down my sexual activity and adpoted a "been there done that" mentality, I'm recently re-inspired. I believe that ...

Can I trust my long distance boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 25 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hi everybody. I just little confuse about my long distance boyfriend. He never lie to me before. But yesterday I found out he has new email address and he found some female friend.He invited some female friend and give them his phone number.It's ...

Is Oxycotin to blame for his behavior?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hi well my question is abit difficult to ask but I will give it a shot.I will start by saying I was in a relationship which I fell in love with a guy and I thought he was in love with me.He had told me he was..but shortly after living together I ...

Can we fix this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 24 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I have been with this man for a long time. He cheated on me and i cheated on him in the pass. How can we rebuild what we have and moved on with our lives with kids and marriage soon. After the hurt we put each other through with the question. I ...

Worried about the aspect of my genitals!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - is it normal for one side of the inside of the vagina to "hang" lower than the other?! its made me well paranoid lol.. dont know if this is normal or not! also, do boys care about girls having a fat vagina?! coz i mean im a bigger girl and yer i was ...

Should I end it if he doesn't trust me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - please help me, i'm 16 and have been going with my boyfriend for 1year and 9months, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i really regret this and would never be unfaithful to him, however, my boyfriend has trouble ...

Should I let her past bug me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I found out that the women that i am dating for 6 mths has had 22 men in her past,some where relationships of 1 to 2 yrs in length but most where only a few mths in length and then she tells me that she has had 4 one nite stands.She is 35 yrs old ...

I don't think I can be happy with him anymore!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Am I being unreasonable to want my husband to stop phoning and taking out a "friend" as he calls her? This 'friend' has been in my husband's life for a long time now abuot 4 years, we used to go to a certain pub each week and he would always be ...

Who should I believe, my boyfriend or his ex wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriends ex wife told me that she and my bf had sex since weve been together. When I confronted him about it he said he almost had sex with her one time when she tried to seduce him. He said he stopped himself. However, months later she said ...

My husband lies all the time. How do I tell him it's over?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Hi you all! maybe some one can help me.I have talked to family and friends about my husband and no one can help me.I just realy need to talk to some one.Well here it is my husband lies to me realy bad.In a mouth I have to tell him good bye.This ...

I'm having trust issues over the porn and text messages to a dominatrix!

This question has 29 answers - newest was posted 18 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - HELP!! I am Having TRUST ISSUES due to Porn Sites I found my BF visiting!!!!!!!!! Its been almost a month since I have confronted him with what I found...including text mesages to an AD he answered about wanting to b dressed and dominated! I bel...

He said he can't trust me... what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I recently just broke up with my boyfriend. We were dating for a year and a half and were very serious we even moved to another state together FL. We had a lot of trust issues in our relationship. In the beginning of our relationship we were madly ...

Overhead my boyfriend say he would have sex with some girl!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I am 23 years old and am almost 6 months pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We love eachother very much. The pregnancy was planned, we both wanted and talked about it before it happened. I have a hard time tusting ...

Will there ever be a proposal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 26 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I started dating when I was a freshman in high school and he was a sophmore in high school. We broke up shortly after I started my senior year because he cheated on me. We were broke up for about a year and a half then got back ...

She says she can't stand me asking if she's seeing someone else, but she never wants to have sex! So she must be cheating, right?

This question has 31 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I are having a problem seeing things from the same point of view. We've been together for almost two years and I have told her from the start that as long as we have sex and I am sexually satisfied, that we'll be happy and I w...

Am I a whore, or am I just confused?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - i have a bf, and ive cheated on him 2wice. he doesnt know about it. but both times, it wasnt just sex. with the first guy we had had feelings for each other for years and when i was visiting home him and i ended up sleeping together and having this ...

Does he just want me for sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 27 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - how often does man need sex with his gf? i live far away from him, so he come to see me very often now. anytime he come to see me, he starts to lust me and want me to have sex with him, eventhough i refuse he still give me a sence of sex. after he...

Should I persue this girl and our internet "relationship"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - me and this girl I know have been in a sort of internet relationship for about 2 or 3 years. Well actually we were in one for about 5 months and then we lost contact. So I guess you can say it was over. This was in 2006-2007. Forward to may 2008 and ...

How to fix my trust issues?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - hey I have a problem and I don't know how to fix it. I don't trust anyone, not my friends, not my reatives... like, I wouldn't put it past anyone to sell me out or anything. Any time I like a guy and it's going well I tend to sabotage it beor...

What should I say to get him to really understand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - my fiance is sneaking and talking to his ex behind my back. i've confronted him about it but he still does it anyways. what should i do to get him to understand how much this bothers me?...

How can I get rid of these lack of trust and anxiety issues?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hi guys :) I've been going out with this great guy for over two months and I really really like him. I've been in horrible relationships prior to this and unfortunately these have left me with bad trust issues and anxiety. I can't seem to enjoy th...

He backed off after I told him the truth about my past!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I met somebody about 8 months ago, he seemed to be a really genuine guy with good morals and lots of ambition like me and I really thought it could go somewhere. We had several dates and was all going well only I made the mistake of admitting I had ...

His cheating has left me feeling so insecure...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Ok this is a little confusing but here goes... I am 6 months pregnant and really don't enjoy having sex. My partner cheated on me before, and I'm worried he will do it again if we stop having sex. I've spoken to him about it and he said that...

What to do?? I am I being too possesive?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hello, Am i being too posessive? i was with my boyfriend and he got a text of this random number, that hadn't been saved on his phone. when i asked who it was, he replied, " i don't know it's been texting me all week".so i started to text the number ...

Why am I avoiding romantic relationships?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm wondering if it's weird to be basically an adult but just dated one guy for 2 months. I'm scared of the whole dating thing and feel uncomfortable with the fact that someone wants to be with me? I feel that because I am so against the...

Does she think she is not worthy of me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - my ex gf cheated on me and then broke up with me the next day. She didnt tell me til about a month later and said that was the reason she broke up with me. She said she felt guilty. I forgave her and we remained friends. We even discussed hangin out ...

Do you think I should trust him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - my partner of 6yrs went on a night out for a big game so lot's of drink consumed and when the team won partying didnt stop.... he went to a female work colleagues house who lives in the opposite direction to our house with two others after a night ...

He never mentioned he was going away to Europe for months on end, should I cut him out of my life completely?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I split up with my ex around 2 months ago after living with him a year and seeing him on and off for 5. When we split up my ex banged on about us not working now but didnt mean we couldnt work in time, so on so forth. However I discovered via a...

I'm insecure about my girlfriends past

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Insecure Of Girlfriend's sexual past I believe I have retroactive jealousy. I am in a 2 year relationship. I work with my girlfriend and we had unprotected sex on the first official date. I said no to the first time we almost had sex due to the c...

He initiates "eye romances" with other women

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 years, and I have been putting up with his ROVING EYES the entire time. ANY time that we go anywhere, he ALWAYS finds another female that he is attracted to... and makes no secret of it. He first ...

Could I be falling for another sex addict or is this just a strong attraction to each other?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hello, I am divorced and in a newer relationship with a nice man. I really like him a lot because he is very attentive. He makes me feel like I am #1 in his life. unlike my ex husband who wouldn't even carry a cell phone, this man will answer his ...

Why do I feel guilty about ending her emotional affair?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My wife had what I figure was an emotional affair a few years ago. There was a lot of texting. I don't think there was any physical contact and she came totally clean about it in the finish. It devastated me at the time and had a pretty bad affect ...

Did he cheat with his child's mother?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - sorry to write such a long story. i believe my bf cheated on me with the baby momma on saturday, i phoned him late that nyt the lady picks up and said my bf was asleep and cant speak to him, i hang up.. he called me the following day to say that ...

What is behind his accusations?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has accused me of looking at other men in a sexual way and of cheating on him, for a little more than one year. I have officially gone insane and the other day I freaked out on him and shouted that I finally understand why h...

Please suggest a solution to this! He knows I care about him, he must care about me too, if he keeps in touch, right?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Here I go again. My x bf has been texting me he says we will be "forever friends" but he is living with a woman he met and started seeing when my mother was dying and I couldnt/wouldnt devote 100% of my time to him. He wants to meet up with me ...

She's still friends with her ex. Do I have a right to feel uncomfortable given the circumstances?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 28 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - I would like to get some perspective/other people's views on the following situation: My girlfriend has an ex who she is still friends with. They broke up four years ago and didn't see each other for a while, but for the last two years she had se...