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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

We've been 'dating' for 2 years and he still doesn't want to make it official

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24 November 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for almost two years now. keyword dating. We have never been official boyfriend and girlfriend, though we act like it and call each other it. we both have made many mistakes in this relationship and have gone our seperate ...

How do I deal with his infidelity that resulted in a baby? I can't stand the pain.

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24 November 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for 3 years. I recently moved in a year ago with my 2 daughters. During one of our break ups he had sex with a so called friend, results a one year old son. Even though i tried to hang in their it was very hard. I ...

Getting past the hurt and loving again... help!

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24 November 2009 (M) - I met a wonder fun woman back in the spring. She had just come out of a very personal illness (breast cancer) as well as having been cheated on by her boyfriend during this illness. The boy friend also had a young daughter that this woman felt ...

I use guys for sex only!

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24 November 2009 (F) - hi guys, well the the problem i have is i hate relationships now so i never want to go into a relationship, i have seen so many people get hurt in relationships including myself. my father cheated on my mother, my sisters husband raped her and...

I get all paranoid when he doesn't message me..why am I so insecure?

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23 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. Before that I'd never had a relationship last more than 2 months. I've gone after the wrong guys and been hurt bad. My current bf is amazing. He treats me well, respects me and the other day said h...

Is he flirting with me just to get me in bed?

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23 November 2009 (F) - i have been flirting with this guy now for about 3 months however i don't know if i should take things further or not. Ok he works in the bar im a local at and i see him every weekend. The first time i seen him he just kept staring at me th...

Boyfriend has a 20 year history of being a serial cheater. Will marriage change him?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Boyfriend has 20 year history of serial cheater. Will marriage change him? Will he change his cheating ways if we get married? Hi, I am 32 and with a man who is turning 40 soon. We have been together for a year and a couple of months. On ave...

I can't trust my current bf, because of past bad experiences. Please help!

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23 November 2009 (F) - i was hurt by my ex it took me more than a year to get over him, he made me ill and i was heartbroken, then i went on a wild thing when me and my ex ended where i would meet up with alot of boys everyweek, i started seeing a few but it never worked ...

He is doing everything possible to show me how much he loves me but his betrayal is all I can focus on.

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23 November 2009 (F) - Hi Aunts, Don't really know why I'm writing this. It's cos I need your help and reassurance again I suppose. If you know me you will remember my text cheating husband and the rest of the saga. Although I am managing to avoid bringing it up as ...

Am I an idiot for going?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Am I an idiot? I met a guy a couple of days ago and right away he wanted to meet up with me, then I went to see another guy and he went a little mental, saying stuff like he knew I'd do this to him etc and today he said sorry and said he just had...

I can't trust women and it's ruining my life!

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23 November 2009 (F) - I can't trust women (it's almost like a fear, I guess and yes, I am a girl). I know why, though: I was bullied when I was younger because I couldn't speak English very well, all my female "friends" have stabbed me in the back, and most of all my ...

I'm a girl but I don't trust women at all... please help!

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23 November 2009 (F) - I don't trust women at all (yes, I am a girl). I know why: I was bullied because I couldn't speak much English when I was younger, most of my girl "friends" have stabbed me in the back, and my grandmother abused me mentally. It's gotten so bad th...

Does my boyfriend love me or not? And why does he look at other girls like he's never had sex in his life?

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23 November 2009 (F) - [Moderator note: Two questions from the same writer combined into one here, as the information in one seems relevant to the other.] my boyfriend doesnt trust me, if i look at a boy he gets jelous and very angry and sometimes he even wants to leave...

Is he a "Phony"? Am I being taken down the Primrose Path? HELP!

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23 November 2009 (F) - What do you think of the situation where you IM and text daily and where a man and woman have exchanged telephone numbers as well, but every time I try to call him, it goes to voicemail (both cell and house phone), and when I ask (via text) if I can ...

Bf's ex started calling, should I be worried?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Hello everyone, I am in need of some advice on if I should say something to my bf or not. Ok so we have been having problems lately. Mostly trust issues that I have, for good reason. Anyhow it was just this past month or so that things go...

He asked for a naked pic of this girl he used to talk to!

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23 November 2009 (F) - [Moderator note: This post was edited out of textspeak which is discouraged here; please try to use standard English spelling and grammar for the benefit of all our readers. Generally I would reject this question but I had a little extra time today. ...

She's avoiding my calls and canceling our dates - is she cheating?

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23 November 2009 (M) - i have been seeing this beautiful female from my college. our first date went well and i ended up with us having sex in her place, two days later the same thing happened again. she texted me a couple days later and said that we were moving too fast. ...

Why is my wife not as tight as she was?

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23 November 2009 (M) - I went away for couple of weeks to work, and when i came back, my wife was sort of lose, and before i went out, she was nice and tight. When i asked her why she got loose, she jumped and and chaged the topic and she did not want to talk about it...

I'm losing trust in this woman...

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23 November 2009 (M) - Please help me. In reference to my earlier question, I've been seeing this girl, who I liked, she didnt tell me about her past, in spite of me asking her, she told me she had a boyfriend, but nothing happened. Later on she tells me she kissed him ...

I told her I seen a woman naked from porn and now she doesn't trust me!

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23 November 2009 (M) - Okay, well, recently my girlfriend of only one month has become extremely upset with me. Why? Personally, I think it is because she is very over emotional, but many girls are. I care very much about this girl, much, muchhh more than any other girl ...

I found out my boyfriend has been cheating. Should I take him back?

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23 November 2009 (F) - I been with my bf for 4 months. I love him more than anything, supported him through everything, helped him a little through his financial problems. Anyway, I kinda always been a jealous gf but never checked through his personal things.(I see him ...

Boyfriend gave his phone number to suspected interest.

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23 November 2009 (F) - Heya everyone. Ok so this may seem like a silly problem and i prob shouldnt be bothered by it, but id like peoples opinions and to just rest my mind a bit. Ok well i live about 100 miles away from my boyfriend. He is moving down here tomorrow...

I am accusing her of the same things that happened to me in past relationships!

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23 November 2009 (M) - hi ihave a problem that is new to me. i have been in some really bad bad relationships. well i met my g/f 6 months ago an we were doing great. n then all of a sudden my problem from my past relationships poped up in my head. is she cheating can i ...

My boyfriend is depressed and I'm afraid he'll dump me again

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22 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year, and he broke up with me for about a month, 6 months ago, claiming he didn't love me any more. He then wanted me back, claiming he's severely depressed, which I've seen evidence of, and which he's ...

How do I gain more confidence with my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend 3 months and i have not got any confidence around him what so ever, I really want 2 make the effort. How could i turn him on so he want to come onto me? Also have you any ideas that will help gain my confidence? Please...

Bf has had a lot of girlfriends and one night stands... how do I get over his past... or should I not even get involved?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - Hello. I need some advice. I just started seeing this guy, I mean, we've been on a few dates and seem to get along very well. However he's self confessed to having had a lot of girlfriends, and a lot of one night stands. He's 28. My question is ...

My bf is abusive but I love him... what do I do?

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22 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and we even live together. He treats me great, takes care of me and tells me everyday that he loves me. Problem is that when he gets upset he calls me names,gets very loud with me and has even ...

Partner is keeping secret friendship. Am I just paranoid or is he playing me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 10 years. We have never had any real relationship issues until recently when I discovered he had gone out with a small group and kissed a girl. They exchanged numbers and for 3 weeks where flirting with each other by ...

How do I trust him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - Me and my bf been together for four months now. And he has a baby boy at the age of 15. And he sees his son when he wants to or when his baby mama wants him over there. He tells me hes not with her and she already told me i could have him. But ...

How can I get over my ex and learn to trust again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - Why do I miss my ex now? He was not a very nice guy at all, he was untrustworthy, a cheater, and manipulative. I thought he genuinely cared about me, because he would make it a point to tell me so. But when I caught him in lies it was just hea...

How do I find out if he's marriage material?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - I have been dating a guy for about 4 months now. We are "exclusive" (whatever that means today, everbody seems to have a different definition) I guess he is pretty much my boyfriend we don't date other people. I'm 32 and he is 31 years old. He ...

How can I convince her I'm not the same as her boyfriend?

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21 November 2009 (M) - OK I am feeling really sad lately. I am seriously in love with this girl. She says, she don't trust me because we haven't talked in person yet but we had known each other for almost 2 years. She has a possessive bf of about 3 year plus. She said...

My friend sabotaged my relationship, but my boyfriend still doesn't want me back!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - About a week ago, me and my ex broke up because we barely talked and hanged out. My best friend, I found out, actually planned this by deleting his calls and texts from me and saying bad shit about me to my ex and vice versa. But I found out a day ...

Can I ever learn to trust my boyfriend?

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21 November 2009 (F) - hey there i have a problem i would really like advice on. i love my bf, but i dont have trust, i really want to trust him but i keep thinking he is going to hurt me, by cheating on me or keeping secrets from me, i always have this thought in my he...

Lately I've been paranoid about my long distance relationship

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21 November 2009 (F) - Lately, I've been really worried about my boyfriend. I feel like I have an unfounded fear... a couple of weeks ago I tried to break up with him and after I started talking to him I realized that he really does love me when previously I had been ...

She seems genuine but guarded. Should I wait?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (M) - I met this woman recently, we had a couple of dates. We clicked very well, both were very intrigued by each other. But when it came to being intimate on a number of occasions she had a hard time to open up. Sometimes I think she unknowingly had ...

I've met his family but he hides his friends

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21 November 2009 (F) - I’m 21 years of age, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months. I love him, and honestly have never been in such a great relationship. There is one minor problem which gets to me. While he has introduced me to his family, I have not met any of ...

Could my drink have been spiked?!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I'm sorry i know this isn't the right site for this sort of question but i always get good advice so i thought id give it ago. Last night i went out with a friend... both got quite drunk...(but its not the first time, were 21 and very used to dri...

Why would my boyfriend suddenly exclude me from his birthday plans?

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20 November 2009 (F) - i was wondering, last night was my boyfriend's birthday. We've been together almost 3 years on and off. Every year weve spent it together, last night he excluded me from hanging out at his local bar where ive been with him before and met his ...

I need advice on my cheating girlfriend!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (M) - Hey guys im rather upset about this but just wanted some constructive feedback and others opinions on it. last night my girlfriend of 4 years went to her male friends house and just them two were drinking until they were completely wasted and he...

Has anyone dealt with a passive aggressive man?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Has anyone dealt with and know what a Passive Aggressive man is? I am in the midst of a two year battle of divorce because he continues to lie and drag his feet to produce things needed for court etc. He says he is " praying for me". He lies ...

Have I lost him for good?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - First I'm new to this site. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Well would be two years in twelve days. Everything was perfect. he has a child with another women before we met. His daughter is two. In the first two months of our relationship ...

My husband claims he will change if I go back to him but I don't trust his word!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I left my husband, we were working together on cruises, saved money to build a future together for 5 years, I am from latin america he is eastern european, first of all he choose living in his country, despite i suggested a neutral country, after I ...

I'm paranoid he's cheating

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Hello I have been with my boyfriend for seven months now, we love eachother alot, well atleast i hope he does, he tells me alot that he loves me. i have been hurt in the past by a boy and i now find it so hard to trust my boyfriend, but do i have a...

He's a great guy, but I'm still afraid of being used for sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - me and my bf are together since 8months, though i went away to university and haven't seen him for these last two months. when i was there, we used to kiss and he gave me oral too. i tried to give it to him but couldn't. he is the most amazing ...

Does our relationship have potential, or are we just friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - I am completely confused. Completely! I've been getting close with this guy for the past month and a half. It's been one thing after another. First, I was hesitant because I thought he was still with this girl. Actually I still don't know whats go...

Out of the blue he tells me "I don't deserve you". Why would he say this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - i love my boyfriend very much, we been together for almost 7 months but i have always known him, he loves me too im his first love and first serious girlfriend, we have fun together, can be ourselfs around eachother and he always makes sure i come ...

How can I know he truly loves me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend a lot but he doesn't feels it ever. What should I do and how can I trust him and know that he truly loves me??? help...

To trust or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - I have had some hard relationships in my life and all but one man has committed some form of cheating or lying to me and it has caused me to have some issues with men. The man I am seeing now is wonderful but I have pissed him off a time or two by ...

Its my own fault he cant trust me, how do I make this relationship work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do, i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i realised how big a mistake i'd made and left him straight away. i talked to my boyfriend and he ...